Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread

[cori]

As some of you already know I am currently 5 weeks pregnant after having had a missed miscarriage at 17 weeks in April of this year.
I am very pleased and excited to be pregnant again but at the same time full of fear and anxiety.
Their seems to be a lot of women on mumsnet at the moment who have experienced a recent miscarriage and are pregnant again. We all have the same worries.
Hopefully we can use this thread to offer each other mutual support and help keep each other positive.

Morning all,
Just popping in to see how everyone is.
I'm now 17+2. Think I'm feeling more movements now but as I told someone this week, I sometimes wish they were more definite (more something like a kick in the ribs!) but I guess there'll be more movement like that soon enough!
Hope everyone else is well.

Keep up the good work ladies...............
Am still stalking

Peepee, How are you getting on? Any more news from the consultant.?

I have been feeling quit icky for the past couple of days and thought that maybe I was pregnant. Did a test and had a strange reading did another today and definate -. Am fine with it though.

Am taking the progesterone twice a day and hopefully this will slow down my egg release. This should make it harder for me to conceive which would be a good sign that the progesterone is working.
I have to go back to the hospital in January and consultant reckons I should be pregnant by then. He's optimistic. DH has been away for 2 weeks on a course and has another to go. He was home this weekend but I have felt so shite that bd'ing was out of the question.

How are things with you?

I am doing well just now. I have just past the stage where I had my last miscarriage 16 weeks. I am still having weekly scans, baby is growing well. I am starting to feel more positive.

Have the doctors given a name to your condition.?

I am glad you are getting a lot of attention, which hospital do you go to?

I am so please things are going to plan. Any idea what you're going to have? You must be so excited.
I am glad to hear your getting the weekly scans, it must help being reassured like that.

Fingerscrossed that I will be in your position one day.
There is no name to my condition other than VERY FERTILE which he wrote in my notes. I think it is just a hunch at the moment. I am at Queen Charlottes in london. The profs are really nice and truthful which helps alot. They do not pretend to be miracle workers just practicing ones.

i am going to the drs today and i am really nervous, what kind of care should i ask for? should i ask for the dr to refer me for a scan and shall i ask him to book me in urgently? shall i just go with the flow and see what he says- knowing he might not even read my notes to see what happened last time.
what if he won't beleive im pg, i have nothing to pee in here! and what if he just signs me up for shared care, should i request hospital care/midwife care?

sorry for all these questions i am not looking forward to this

slink - what sort of care would you prefer?? I would try as hard as you can to demand a scan, you're far enough gone now for them to see something, so don't let them fob you off, tell them you've done your homework and you know you can have a scan.!!!
Of course he'll believe you're pregnant, could you take a urine sample with you, have you got a little pot, or a water bottle or anything you can wee in? something clean and sterile. or would he ask you to go wee in a pot when you get there.
Stay calm, and remember this s your pregnancy and your baby, and you CAN have the care you want!

Slinkstah,
You have got to be assertive but not rude. The doctor will probably do a p/g test if he doesn't look as though he is going to then ask to do one for your peace of mind and to confirm your test. Tell him you did a cheapo one or something.
Make sure you find out what kind of care is available and get him to arrange some for you. Insist on a scan as soon as practicable and cry (lots) if necessary just to get what you want.
Make sure you always have good eye contact with the doctor that will make him uneasy and you are likely to get what you want thru intimidating him.
Take it from me i am an expert in this

Good luck girly, I am sure yu will breeze thru this. Keep us updated

I dont what I am having yet, will find at 20 week scan, in three weeks time.
I had DS at Queen Charlottes.

Slinkstah, The Gp will definetly believe your pregnant, dont worry about that. Make sure you tell him what happened, dont expect him to know or have your notes before hand ( unless you know him well of course). Definetly ask for an early scan, you are perfectly entitled to ask for that. I would be surprised, if you dont have full hospital care at least up til you are past the point you lost the last baby. Did you ever get any answers as to what went wrong last time? Did you meet with a consultant to get feedback. See what the GP has to say, if you are not happy with his response I would call the hospital and ask to speak to the consultant who cared for you during your last pregnancy. I have done this in the past when I havent had an appropriate response from my GP.

Slink,

Forgot........ Take a note pad and make notes. Write down your questions too if you need to just so's you remember what to ask when you are there.

Good points Peepee. Doctors hate it when you cry and are more likely to see your point of view. ( I have had a lot of practice at that this pregnancy). Also eye contact, ( when not crying) makes you look like you mean buisness.
What time is your appointment

thanks guys, i will ask for a scan. my appointment is at 12.50. i am hoping for hospital care, the care you are getting cori sounds excellent, what hospital are you at, as i see you had ds at queens charlottes so you must be in london like me.
the only answers i got that went wrong last time was that i had an infection of the membranes which is called choroioamniotis (sp) caused by infection rising from vagina through cervix etc, but all tests showed no infection in vagina, and infection in membranes could have been caused by so many people peeking up there whilst i was already in labour. or it could have caused the labour to begin with.

I am at Hillingdon Hospital for this one. We moved to Harrow after DS was born. Where are you? What hospital do you think you will be going too.

Do you have children already slinkstah.?

Slink,
Best of British! Fingers crossed you'll be well treated and looked after.
I have my viability scan this evening at 6pm (7+3). Am bricking it! Best £75 I will ever have spent, though. Just hope that this baby is ok and that there are no nasty surprises.
Hope you're all having a good day!

spub - hope all goes well with your scan, which of course it will!!! baby will be there, tiny little bean of a thing.

slink - tell the doc that you want hospital care and if he tries to say otherwise then stay firm, remember, you are in control of this.

i think i will go to st marys in paddington, although if the baby is born on time i will have the baby at home if all goes well. i have heard bad things about st marys but also have heard the midwifes are nice, and thats one of the most important things in my opinion.
i have ds who is 8 and dd who is 6 how old is your ds?

£75 for viability scan- i might get one if the dr makes me wait a million years.

Cheers, Diddle!
Don't need a full bladder which is good but makes the likliehood that it's an internal scan a bit greater!! Have brought all of my moist wipes to work so that I can freshen up my bits before I go!![grin}

spub - i had a scan at 7 wks and didn't need a vaginal one, so you might be ok.

Does anyone know why we are meant to have full bladders for the later scans?
I was meant to have one for my last one at 11wks and i didn't bother, i drank a glass about an hour before and didn't go to the toilet and i was fine, she just told me that i needed a full bladder again for the next time. surely it just squishes baby.

i think you need a full bladder for the 12 weeks scans to push the uterus up a little so it can be seen better, i think you get a much better view with a full bladder. i think before 12 weeks its clearer to have an internal scan.

thansk slink, just wondered x x x

Sorry - just crashing your thread, but wanted to say that in the letter we received for our routine 12 weeks scans, it specifically said - you do not need to have a full bladder for this scan!

I hate the sensation of needing to pee so badly you could explode!

thanks handbag addiction, can;t undertsand it myself, will ask the midwife in a couple of weeks and find out if there is any real reason

well i just came back from the drs- looks like its the same old crappy care for me!
no chance of a scan, he said if the hospital see the need to bring you in before 15 weeks for a scan then they will, but its the same for all hospitals because the baby is too small before then so it won't make any difference!
i told him what happened before and asked him whether i would not get a cervical measurement, he said the hospital would see about all that when they booked me in.

so looks like i just have to wait until i get a letter from the hospital asking me for a booking in appointment.

theres me thinking that if i have got an incompetent cervix that it had to be measured at 12 weeks! as they have to have some measurement to see whats normal. i mean by 15 weeks my cervix could well be opening already!

and until 15 weeks no care at all!
why is everyone seeing a midwife already and my baby is not good enough or big enough to warrant getting any care until then. i blumin hate kensington and chelsea.