Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread

[cori]

As some of you already know I am currently 5 weeks pregnant after having had a missed miscarriage at 17 weeks in April of this year.
I am very pleased and excited to be pregnant again but at the same time full of fear and anxiety.
Their seems to be a lot of women on mumsnet at the moment who have experienced a recent miscarriage and are pregnant again. We all have the same worries.
Hopefully we can use this thread to offer each other mutual support and help keep each other positive.

I callled, Consultant not in today,I spoke to the secretary she spoke to a midwife who said that wouldnt bring me in unless I had heavy bleeding especially as I have a scan booked already. Pretty much what I thought they would say.

The heavy pressure feeling gets worse when I lay down actually. I just dont know.
Midwife will be calling me later today with blood test results, that might give me some indication.

cori - could just be baby and your bladder movng alongside one another, and baby will be growing lots from now on, so don't worry too much, all could be fine.

slink - can't believe you're DP is lying about smoking, silly man, as if you need that right now. he needs to think of baby and you not himself. if he's stressed then he should do something else not smoke.

Cori, I agree with diddle. I always get the heavy feeling when I lay down. Nowadays for me this is accompanied by movement as little one complains at lack of room (both dds did this as well). What time is your scan tomorrow? Why the blood results?

Slink - Grrr to your dp.

Hows it going Diddle, spud, petunia?

I dont think I am feeling that little movement now though.

The blood results are the normal ones you have at 15 weeks for DS screening and all that. However last time it was the blood test results that alerted the hospital to something being wrong. I was given a high risk for downs, spina bifida, pre eclampsia and premature birth. I was sent for a scan and found out there that the baby had died. The consultant said afterwards that she thought the pregnancy had been failing at the time of the blood test and thats why the results were skewif.

The scan tomorrow is at 2.45pm

cori - stay positive you're baby will be fine, i totally understand why you're a little dubious about it though, I'm sure all will be fine. we're here ifd you need us

Cori - Like Diddle says we understand why you are worried and we're around for you. Hope all will be well tomorrow.
Wills, doing ok, thanks. Very tired and having moments of real queasiness. Scan is on Monday so fingers crossed.
How are you?
How's everyone else?

Blood results were clear. Downs risks 1 in 700 so one less thing to worry about.

Cori,
That's brilliant. Feeling any better?

excellent cori, thats great news!

fab news cori. Again on the movement front little one managed to actually wake me up the other day. yet the following day I came to the conclusion I was imagining the whole thing and that in actual fact it was all going wrong. I don't know about you but I'm so nervous about the whole thing that I'm questioning absolutely everything and there are serious points where I feel I'm going slightly mad. I find that little one moves when I lie down for bed at night on my back. Its as though he/she is complaining at the sudden lack of room - why don't you have a go at doing that when you're not likely to be disturbed and can really focus on what is happening in your tummy. I'm really hoping this is all that's happened and that you'll once again feel those flutters. Thinking of you.

Afternoon all,
Wills- I'm still here, but just doing a lot of lurking at the moment. If you look at my post on Sunday about our endowment policy, I've been up to my eyeballs with paperwork for that so haven't really had time to post much! I'm having the doubts about baby movements too and it's really getting to me. I keep thinking I should be feeling definite kicks but then have to remind myself that I'm only 16+4, and little butterfly-type movements are OK. Then I get stressed when I don't feel any movements when I've been lying down! I also find that if I've got a full bladder, I still get the feeling that my period is about to start. Has anyone else had that?

Cori- great news about your blood test results. I had mine done last Thursday and have to go for the results a week on Thursday. The midwife said that normally they don't do anything else e.g listen to the heartbeat or take blood pressure at that appointment, but I think I might ask her to listen to the h/b just for reassurance.

Hope everyone else is well.

hello everyone,

congrats cori for your blood results, thats a good sign everything is going to be ok. good luck with your scan today

hi slink, how you doing today?

cori - good luck we'll be thinking of you this afternoon!!

Cori- hope your scan goes well today.

cori - thinking of you right now!!! you'll be lying there on that hard bed, with your belly out. hope baby is waving at you

awww, thanks everyone. As usual was completly paranoid. Baby lookinh well, saw heartbeat, baby wiggling about. It has had a growth spurt and is measuring 16 weeks 4 days, even though I am only 15+6. All is well, I have passed my second major hurdle and can breathe a sigh of relief for another weeks.

Thanks really fab fab fab news. Congrats honey

That's excellent, Cori.

awww, thanks everyone. As usual was completly paranoid. Baby lookinh well, saw heartbeat, baby wiggling about. It has had a growth spurt and is measuring 16 weeks 4 days, even though I am only 15+6. All is well, I have passed my second major hurdle and can breathe a sigh of relief for another week.

yeahhhh cori thats great news, so glad all is well sounds like baby will be a big un!

i am feeling a bit poorly today, last night i almost threw up and i have a huge headache and sore throat so i am taking it easy. it must be the weather change its all of a sudden got so cold the last week in london. i bled my last pregnancies at around 9/10 weeks so now i am 8.5 i am getting paranoid everytime i go to the loo.

Cori - fantastic news, so pleased for you that baby is doing well and growing even better.

Slink - Glad you're feeling rough, must be a good sign. I know just how you feel, i was so pleased to pass the dreaded milestones where i lost my babies. but you will get through it, baby will be fine, you're body has had its practice run, now its time for the real thing

Diddle, you are a spectacular pillar of saying the right thing. Could you say a bit for me??? I've been offered a new job at work. I want to take it but feel that in all good faith I must tell him about little one. I don't want work to know yet. If something goes wrong work would be a place to run away to, somewhere where people weren't giving me sad looks or avoiding me etc. I'm going to lunch with him tomorrow but have spent the last two days adament that its going wrong. I'm still taking cyclogest pessaries (have to until I'm 14 weeks) and I decided on Wednesday that everything down there felt a little loose and that my cervix must be widening and I'm about to loose little one. Then this morning I woke at 5.00 am for the first time without having had to go to the loo during the night AND my boobs didn't hurt (they hurt like hell now). I'm being stupid but can't get a grip on reality here. Adament that all the moves I've been feeling are wind. Roll on MAY!!!!

wills - don't tell anyone at work yet, accept the new job first, they might change their minds about your job offer if they know your pg as even though thats against the law it happens.

i am finally made an appointment with the dr for monday. by then i will be 9.3 weeks, i hope they can refer me quickly as i really dont want to miss out on having a scan

Hi Slink. Yes they could withdraw the offer. Have really thought this through. I've had a tough couple of years with this company as they don't believe in women bosses. A new top manager has joined and finally seems to believe in me and is offering to let me join his team. Its a fabulous opportunity and one that will allow me to discover whether or not I wish to remain a working mum as I've been having serious doubts for the last year or so. I would however want to have his confidence and feel that he believes in me. Therefore....

wills - so much is happening inside right now, and every pregnancy is different, so we'll never know if its going right or not, all we can do is enjoy our pregnancies and make the most of being able to walk normally without waddling or clutching our backs. I am constantly worried of every little unknown feeling I have, but baby is growing welll,, proving to me that I am worrying without need to.

We are all truly blessed to be able to carry a baby at all, there are so many less fortunate than ourselves, and after all the waiting we have gone through I think its about time we all enjoyed it, and felt happy, and proud (and sick) to be pregnant at all.

I wouldn't tell work until you're happy to, if you feel you must then i'd swear your boss to secrecy, no point unless something happens and you need time off for scans etc. Stay happy x x x