Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread

[cori]

As some of you already know I am currently 5 weeks pregnant after having had a missed miscarriage at 17 weeks in April of this year.
I am very pleased and excited to be pregnant again but at the same time full of fear and anxiety.
Their seems to be a lot of women on mumsnet at the moment who have experienced a recent miscarriage and are pregnant again. We all have the same worries.
Hopefully we can use this thread to offer each other mutual support and help keep each other positive.

Well, I wnet for my scan this morning. I had been a twin pregnancy (as I suspected) - but neither sac appears to have progressed since two weeks ago.

However, I still have to go back next week for another scan just for confirmation Yet more limbo. The songographer - who had been terribly upbeat two weeks ago - this week didn't hold out much hope: as she said, she would have expected to see some change since two weeks ago and neither sac has grown. (although thinking logically: one of them must be more obvioulsy a "sac" as last time she had just thought it was a blood clot along side the other sac).

No heart beat, not fetal pole, nothing. And even going by her dates, I should now be 7+ weeks.

I just hate the limbo. Even though I know there is no hope, a little voice in the back of your head keeps on trying to imaigne hopeful scenarios (and a vanishing twin had been one of them): yet logically I know there is no hope, as I've had no pregnancy symptoms now for over two weeks, decreasing (albeit slowly) HCG lelevs and now a scan where the sac(s) is the same size it was two weeks ago.

I've not gone back in to the office: I signed in remotely and did a wee bit (like set my out-of-office) but I think I'll now just go and swith oin the TV, watch drossy day time TV and feel sorry for myself.

Oh Prettybird I'm sooo sorry. Hope can be such a dreadful thing. Keeps you in awful limbo when all you want to do is move on. Why yet another scan when they took one 2 weeks ago and have concluded no change?

NOt sure - think it is still just within their protocals, so they need to be absolutely sure that there has been no progress. It could be the fact that it had been a twin pregnancy is muddying the water.

I'l talk to my best friend tonight - she is a GP and she might be able to explain a bit better. But I can just about guarantee that she won't try to give me hope - she puts great sotre by what you "fel" and the fact that I haven't "felt" pregnant for over two weeks is pretty damning.

Prettybird, so sorry things are working out for you this way, how the dreadful the wait and see approach is.

Xena, am glad to hear all is OK with you. I will see you at the meet up.

Wills, I have been sick with an ear infection, ongoing sinus problems which as resulted in partial deafness, blocked ears and general feeling of pressure in my head. I am still not fully recovered but have to try and go back to work anyway as they are getting shirty about it.

Prettybird - I have to agree with your friend the gp BUT I'm fantastic at overanalysing everything. I was soooo sick this morning - absolutely green but was still bashing my boobs to check they were sore. I agree that the results don't sound good but wish like mad I could say the opposite. The limbo period is almost the worst bit and I'm so sorry.

The limbo is the worst. Can't concentrate, can't do anything, even though I "know". JUst want some closure.

Prettybird- so sorry about your news and that you've got more waiting to do. It's horrible not knowing one way or the other.

Wills and Xena- That's great news about hearing the heart beat. I've got the midwife Thursday next week, and I'm really hoping she'll want to listen to it. I should be 15+6 then.

Cori- are you still suffering from your sinus infection?

This is my first post here since I found out I was pg last week. Had a m/c in June so like the rest of you pretty anxious though happy!

Prettybird - I feel desperately sorry for you. I was monitored for 3 weeks as my HCG levels were too low for my pg to be viable but too high and not dropping as the EPU would have liked. I was also in that horrible limbo that you describe and can't sympathise enough. I just wanted to draw a line under events and try to move on but when you can't it makes things even harder.
Big hugs.

Welcome spub,
How far along were you when you had your last M/C.?

My sinus problem is not completly cleared up, my ears a still a bit blocked as well. I went to see work DR last week, they suggested a sinus spray with a steroid. It is meant to be safe, but want to hold off for a bit and see if it clears up, if not I will go to my GP next week.

Hi Cori -
I was early: 7 weeks. Had bleeding and initially assumed it was like my pregnancy with dd where I had what transpired to be an implantation bleed so didn't panic too much but it carried on for a few days and then the scan couldn't pick anything up.....

Cori, just to give you reassurance. I had a massive asthma attack at 4 months pregnant with dd2 and was on tonnes and tonnes of steriods until at least 7 months. She's gorgeous and fine and wonderful. I didn't have a choice with the steriods. Once a day I take a preventer that also has steriods and I regularly use my ventolin. I'm very precious when it comes to pills and just wont take anything but don't have the option over the steriods because of my asthma. There are hundreds of other women like me with asthma BUT as my consultant said at the time at no point can you ever officially run tests on a pregnant women to prove this. HTH

Enid - But I'm an official member of the secret society of boob bashing club.

Wills, that gives me more confidence. If I still have the problem next week (I think I will somehow) I will go to GP ask for the steroid spray. Cheers.

hi all, thanks god you are all back i thought i'd killed the thread.
i am back from uni and the work is really getting intense i don't think i am going to beable to cope with pg and uni for much longer!

anyways i am a member of the boob bashing club too although my boobs are not hurting as much as they were last pregnancy, in fact they are only sore if i really bash em, along with the lack of pg symptoms; well other than constipation- well maybe i should be worried, my dp says its probabley because my body is so used to the hgc hormone, it just doesn't respond anymore. do you think thats possible?

Also a member of the bbc (boob bashing club!) although with me it's more of a squeeze or a nudge just to check boobs are still big!

Slinkstah- don't know about getting used to the hormone but I don't think my boobs have hurt as much this time round as they have with previous pregnancies.

Cori- also on steroid inhaler for mild asthma.

And welcome to spub.

Cheers for the welcome.
I am also a boob basher. Can we have an online support group?

morning ladies - good to hear from you Xena - glad all is well. how far are you now?

Hows everyone else?

Gosh this thread is quiet today. Hi Diddle I'm fine but include into that a day spent green and stuffing my face yesterday and what looks like a stonking cold today!

CORI - what's happening! Have been waiting for you to post! You ok? how was scan and how was work? Although is that why you've not posted cos you're at work. Hope all is well.

Spub - maybe we should rename this thread to the bosom bashers club!

Had my scan this afternoon. Everything still looks fine accorrding to the sonographer, good heart beat and plenty of movement. So feel relieved for the moment.

Also I could feel the baby at the same place she was scanning. So that heavy feeling I was describing is the baby.

Cori- that's excellent news.

oh cori thats grat news, how far along are you now.

14 weeks tomorrow.

oh wow i can't wait to be that far, i'm 8wks 5 days. and wishing away my sickness, found something i can eat without feeling quessy now though - m&s chicken pie, yum yum

Cori, that's fab news.

Diddle I find (like Enid) that unfortuantely eating stodge helps with the sickness - suspect I'm going to resemble a two tonne heffer before long.