Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread

[cori]

As some of you already know I am currently 5 weeks pregnant after having had a missed miscarriage at 17 weeks in April of this year.
I am very pleased and excited to be pregnant again but at the same time full of fear and anxiety.
Their seems to be a lot of women on mumsnet at the moment who have experienced a recent miscarriage and are pregnant again. We all have the same worries.
Hopefully we can use this thread to offer each other mutual support and help keep each other positive.

slink - you and baby are number one priority you do what you feel is best, but i would make sure they know about this pregnancy, even if nothing else. That way if anything does happen at least tehy may investigate it. Stay calm and de-stressed baby will be much happier if you're happy.

Levels have dropped to 7,000 something, so looking pretty conclusive that the pregnancy has failed.

Have to see at the scan what they suggest to do next. GP thinks that they will just let nature take its course and wait for then next period to clear it all out of my system. Not sure if I could cope with that. Don't like the idea of something dead inside my body, not knowing when it will come out, going to the loo every 10 minutes to see if you have started bleeding....

My body didn't expell it last time and I had to have an ERPC. I don't have confidence it will do it this time.

oh prettybird - so sorry to hear that. Couldn't they book you in for and ERPC once they've seen what the scan shows, i don't think its their decision to make surely you could insist you have one.
take it easy x x x

So sorry Prettybird. I hated the idea of a 'natural' miscarriage too for exactly the same reasons as you so I hope you can have an ERPC. Sending you lots of hugs.

Oh prettybird - I'm soo sorry. thinking of you.

Slink, you're echoing me exactly. There are times where I'm practically frozen. My gp is just like yours. As I've said before she can't understand why, with two daughters, I have to put "everyone through it all over again" by wanting a third. Please don't hesitate to contact me if you want.

How is everyone else? Cori, how was cornwall? Where did you go?

Flutterbye? Diddle?, Petunia, Maddyd and everyone else?

I got scared yesterday and was adament that I could see a darkening of my discharge but eventually persauded myself to see sense. However today am getting some throbbing pains in my rhs and I know this sounds a little mad for only 11 weeks but I swear I'm getting braxton hicks. Does anyone know if that's possible in your first trimester. Booking in appointment has finally arrived ... for when I'm 15 weeks. In the meantime as my health authority don't offer Nuchal scans I'm planning to book one for a week on Tuesday when I will be 12+2. Can't wait to get there. Having got all the way to 11 weeks it feels soooo scarey that it might go wrong now.

Hi everybody,
Prettybird, I am so sorry to hear about your loss, it must be so hard to take so soon after the last one. Hope you are OK.

I had a lovely time in Cornwall, we had a few nice days and a few rainy days, about what you would expect for this time of year really. We stayed in a village called Tregony, near St Austell.

Wills I am glad you have a date for your scan, good luck.

How is everyone else?

I have my next scan on Wednesday, will be 13.6 then so am looking forward to it. Though it will be the next few weeks which will be the most worrying for me as the last baby stopped growing at around 14 weeks so, will be feeling rather nervous about it all.

Very sorry to hear your news prettybird.

wills, I definitely had a period of feeling braxton hicks type tightenings when I was about 9 weeks and very tired in the evenings. They seem to have stopped now though. Good luck for your scan and cori too.

Evening all,
Sorry not been on the last few weeks. I was on holiday the week before last, and this has been the first time I've managed to catch up on everyone.

Cori, we were on holiday just outside Launceston. Did you go to The Eden Project? It's near St. Austell and we managed to get there and thought it was really good.

Prettybird- so sorry to hear your news. Will be thinking of you on Tuesday.

Wills- I know what you mean about a "darkening discharge." Sometimes I have so many aches and pains that I'm scared what I'll find the next time I go to the loo! I'm not sure about Braxton Hicks so early on. My midwife did say that you get more aches and pains with each child.

As for me, I'm now 14+2. I'm fairly convinced that I'm beginning to feel movements. I know people will say that it's too early but with DD2, I thought I was feeling things about the same time. Whatever it is, it's around my belly button, usually just to the left of it. I have to be on my back and relaxed to feel this "something!" The insomnia hasn't let up- awake from 2-4.30 this morning! I'm exhausted now, could really do without it being the beginning of the week tomorrow!

Hope everyone else is well. Good luck, Cori with your scan on Wednesday.

Yes we went to Eden project. It was a really rainy day so we only got to see in the inside the biodomes. They were really impressive, especially the tropical one.

I think I have been feeling 'movements' for a while now, not kicks or anything, just a heavy movement feeling. Though of course i could be making it all up.

Am still suffering from insomnia similar to yours petunia, am also starting to get indegestion, I had it quite badly with DS so have been expecting it.

Cori- glad you had a nice time. I think we had similar weather to you and decided to go to the Eden Project on a "sunny spells" sort of day.
I think you described the "movements" well. It is more like a heavy feeling when I'm lying down and I've had them for a week or two. It gives me something to concentrate on while I'm lying awake at night!

hello all,

alls well here at the moment, had another scan saturday, wanted it next week really btu they couldn't fit us in at a decent time so we took the only time they had which was last saturday.

Baby has grown from 7.4mm to 12.8mm in the last wk which is very good, we even heard the heartbeat, was very exciting.

i'm 8wks 3 days today, will be glad to get to 9 wks, never got that far before with the last 2. fingers crossed.
still feelign nauseous, and tired.

Petunia. I was adament I was feeling movement with dd2 at 13 weeks. Everyone was kept telling me I was wrong, but at the scan I could see the movements and feel them at the same time so I was proved correct! So believe them

Enid, thanks for that, made me go phew.

HI EVERYONE

jen- omg thats awful i really hope everything goes well on the scan tommorrow. try and relax and rest all day.

welcome bugs

diddle- thats great you had another scan and baby has almost doubled in size in a week! thats amazing.
i was telling dp the other day that baby us the size of a lentil but it has a heartbeat already and he was amazed.

i still don't feel sick, i am not too bothered about that now as i feel pg now in other ways. i have made the first milestone - 6 weeks

wrong thread opps

hi all,

wills i think its possible to feel braxton hicks at 11 weeks, although sometimes you uterus contracts because you are not hydrated enough. - also can't beleive you have to wait till 15 weeks for booking in.

petunia- i felt movements from 14 weeks with my ds, in the middle of my belly whilst lieing on my back, it was a poking movement like aliens so it was unmistakable

i am 6.4 weeks and have to get to 24 weeks before i believe this pregnancy will result in a live baby. seems such a long time to panic

thats what ya call killing a thread- soz

No you didn't honey. Well good news and bad. I phoned my local EPU yesterday to talk about the braxton hicks. She explained that yes they do get earlier with more pregnancies but I should probably get a sample to the doctors for testing. I asked if this would account for the green discharge at which point she suggest I went to the docs to get a swab taken. My gp surgery seriously needs either someone not taking their own drugs or under the age of 60 (preferably both). Nevertheless rushed home yesterday to get both done but now have to wait a week for the results. Am drinking copious amounts of cranberry juice in the meantime. Meanwhile have booked a nuchal scan for next Monday (have to pay for nuchal scans in my area) so am not too worried about the scan at 15 weeks.

Am trying like mad not to be frightened over the bladder infection harming baby etc.

Slinkstar - 24 weeks is a long time, but once you feel proding it may feel a little lighter. But we're all here in the meantime.

Well, whilst I was on holidayI barely worried at all.
But now that I am back and I have time on my hands, I am in a constant panic.
I cant wait until 2.00pm tomorrow.

Cori, understand completely. I'm better when I'm at work as I can force myself (sometimes) into focusing on work stuff. How far are you now?

I will 13.6 days tomorrow.

I also have to go back to work tomorrow, ( have been sick for almost a month) but will only be there for a half day because of the scan.

What's been wrong. Its always a downer to have to go back - its a rainy Monday X100. Good luck with your return and with the scan.

Hi all Glad things are going well Diddle.
I've had my 12wk scan over a week ago and yesterday the midwife found its h/b at my booking appointment, I'm 13+5 today so she it was really good that she could hear it.
I won't be back on hear again reguarly until I get a new computer. But I'll hopefully meet some of you at the christmas meet xxx

That's fantastic news. I'm impressed she even looked to hear the heartbeat. My lot refuse until you're past 20 weeks. Its a shame because for some reason I find the heatbeat more wonderful than the scan. Somehow it feels more real.