Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread

[cori]

As some of you already know I am currently 5 weeks pregnant after having had a missed miscarriage at 17 weeks in April of this year.
I am very pleased and excited to be pregnant again but at the same time full of fear and anxiety.
Their seems to be a lot of women on mumsnet at the moment who have experienced a recent miscarriage and are pregnant again. We all have the same worries.
Hopefully we can use this thread to offer each other mutual support and help keep each other positive.

peepee - sorry to crash the thread, my doc said that you ov around 3 wks after your m/c on average

It is a hi-be-be, I got it from Ebay.
My booking in appointment is on the 19th, will be 11wks 6 days, then. I dont know if I will get another scan on this date as I already have had two, and besides if I am hearing heartbeat regulary by then I probably wont mind. I am starting to feel to confident I will make the first trimester out. Not so sure about the rest of it.
Xena I am sure you will make it until then as well.

Hi girls, I'm fine. Boobs are now feeling a bit tender but no sickness, didn't with ds preg either though so won't believe actually pg until my dating scan in 2 weeks time.

I kinda knew when I was ov so we just BD'd twice around that time and hey presto, jobs a goodun! Hubbie too busy with work to do any more so we're really lucky.

Peepee - I'm just gonna relax until the scan can't do anything until then.

Have a happy Friday!

Some days I feel really positive, others I feel like I have no chance. I have had this really heavy feeling in the bottom of my stomach area, its the same feeling i had after I found out the last baby had died, before I was induceded. I dont know what to think. Not really far enough along to get my doppler working yet.

Cori could you go and ask for a reassurance scan for next week to put your mind at rest. I know it is horrible worrying I have had twinges today and been worrying - got my scan on Monday so will know till then, but usually start worrying immediately after..
take care

I have just had a scan last monday, my booking appointment is on the 19th. I suppose I could call midwife on Monday if I am still getting this sensation. She is very understanding. OK will do that.

Well, pregnancy insomnia has set in! Thought I'd do something useful!
Cori- hope you're feeling better. I'd call your midwife. She knows what you've been through so should be able to reassure you. The heaviness you have might be part of everything growing and stretching.

As for me (apart from the insomnia!) everything seems to be OK. Got my scan on Monday so feeling a little nervous about that. And my skin has completely gone to pot! Spots everywhere! Wretched hormones!

Anyway, night all. Hope everyone's doing well.

Me too petunia feel asleep about 8.30 and now I can't get back to sleep.

I am wandering around convinced that I am not p/g.
I have checked on several different web sites and have found out that HGC levels do not go down straight away after a m/c and that it takes between 9 to 34 days. The average is 19 days.

I have no symptoms other than paranoia.

DH is not interested in my worries. I think he is fed up with listening to me going on and on and on..............

GP called and said he had no joy from the hospital so it looks as though I will not have an appointment to go to on Tuesday.

Mind u they wouldn't see anything anyway. If I am p/g I could only b about 4 weeks.

Have a good day ladies. I am at work

Was convinced this morning that I had lost this baby. Woke up and bump (yes have already) had gone down, and again this feeling of heaviness.
I was in tears and thinking there was no hope.

However now the bump is back (does gravity make it look flater after sleeping. I dont know.) Still worried, but not as much as this morning. WIll see how I am on Monday, and consider whether to call the midwife.

Peepee, I think you are probably pregnant, take a test in another couple of days to check. When do you think you will get an appointment.?

Cori,
I am sure u will be fine. When do u have your appointment at the hospital? Do u have a doppler?

I know this is sooooooooooooooo stressful.
I did a test about 10 mins ago and though it says + it is getting lighter. I know it is late in the day and HCG levels are higher in the morning but it just does not seem to be happening. Surely the + should be getting darker! My worst fear is going to the hospital having a scan and then getting blank looks from the doc when he finds nothing. What can I do? WAIT? I have no choice.

What great news about Diddle and Lottie.
I assume you have all heard that they got a big fat +. BRILLIANT NEWS.......

Next hospital appointment is on the 19th October.

A couple of weeks ago i did a repeat pregnancy test too, and the line did look lighter than the original one, but I have had a positive scan since. I put it down to using a different test.

Yes I heard about Diddle and lottielou.
I am so pleased for both of them.

Cori, mine have all been Clearblue tests so they should all b about the same colour.
I am driving myself insane.

I will not be too bothered if it is - as I do expect it to be negative, it's just that I feel as though I am wasting valuable time as i have to abstain. More to the point, I am jabbing heparin into my thigh every day, taking aspirin and shoving a suppositry up me too.
I have to laugh. I am, i am going mad...

Cori- my bump goes down in the mornings as well! I just give my boobs a squeeze to see if they're still big! I've got one of those pg diaries that I was given by the Dr last time, and it says that there maybe more of a bump in the evenings. Maybe it's something to do with water retention, my ankles are like tree trunks in the evening! I keep thinking I'm feeling some movements as well. Right down by my belly button, if I lie on my side. It really must be too early. Although, I was fairly sure with DD2, I was feeling things at 14 weeks.
Hadn't heard about Diddle and Lottielou. Big congrats to them.

Peepee, what a pain. I mean its one thing to think that you are pregnant and just having to wait and see its another to be injecting, abstaining and inserting etc.Poor you. What are the suppositries for.?

Petunia, how many weeks are you now?
Bump has definetly returned with a vegenance tonight. So maybe I am OK. I have also just eaten a chip butty, I dont believe I have ever eaten one before in my life...

Very early morning all,
Yep, up and about due to pregnancy insomnia again!
Cori- I'm 10+5wks according to the early scan I had a few weeks ago. I was wondering though, when I'm reading these pregnancy week-by-week things, whether to take it from that early scan when they said I was 6+3 or from 7+2 as I thought I was (and taking it from the 1st day of last period like midwives do). I usually end up reading for both wks in these diaries anyway! Anyway, have another scan tomorrow so see what they say then.

Xena- missed you yesterday morning, I went back to bed around 3.45am after being awake about 3hrs. I always get this insomnia when I'm pg. I'm told it's the body's way of getting used to the sleepless nights!

Peepee- I think our ex-neighbour had to have injections every day and take aspirin. I know she had something wrong with her blood so perhaps it was the same thing you've got. She went on to have 2 children. I'd carry on doing the injecting and everything just in case.

Cori,
Suppositries are progesterone. Not too sure why I have to take em. I just do as I am told.

It has been 27 days since my last bleed after m/c. Is that OK as after my last m/c I only started to bleed after 14 days.
How long is it roughly B 4 bleeding is back to normal?

It takes on cycle dosent it..? My I think my first period after last M/C was 35 days. It must vary from person to person.

hi ladies - guess i should be joining you here now. Feel a bit dubious about doing that, as I am so worried that this pregnancy is going to go wrong. I am 5 wks 4 days. taking it a little easier and i'm under strct instrcutions not to pick the kids up, and rest when i need to.
I didn't think i had any symptoms, but i have a stuffy nose which i had with my past 2 pregnancies, very tired mid afternoon and i'm visiting the toilet a lot. lets hope it stays that way. i'm struggling to be positive, although i am excited.

phew that was good to share that, thanks ladies.

so how are you all doing. peepee, what happens next with you, when do you ahve to visit the hospital again?

Diddle CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Diddle, great to see you on the TTC after miscarriage graduation thread. It is a worrying time, and there is no escape from that unfortunatly. All the worst possible scenarios will go through your mind everyday, but then every day there will be another glimmer of hope that makes you feel just a little bit confident, and everyday that glimmer gets a little bit brighter. I was convinced on Saturday morning that it was all over, but today I am feeling confident (ish) again, I dont think I need an emergency scan. Just take one day at a time.

thanks xena - think i'm still in shock

What happened cori? I've been having a few pains this morning?