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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Started potty training today - anyone else want to give / get a bit of moral support?

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Biscuitsandtea · 15/10/2011 18:24

Hi, DS is 3 and we've started potty training him today. We were hoping to wait until he woke up one morning and said 'I'm done with nappies thanks very much Mummy - let's go wild with the pants', but this hasn't happened so we thought we'd just try him with nothing on at first and then pants and see how it goes.

Just wondered if anyone else was starting too and wanted to go through it together?

We've done various bits of nappy free time for months with varying amounts of success, but only ever an hour or two here and there with no consistency to see how he was doing and whether we thought he knew when he was weeing or pooing. It's only recently that I've thought that he actually does know hence deciding to give it a go today.

We had a quiet weekend so thought 'no time like the present!'

Now a couple of times in the week we'd had no nappy on and a fair bit of success in the potty. Wednesday = lots of mopping up wees but a few 'hits' at the end of the afternoon. Thursday was better with no accidents. but this was still doing everything bare bum!

Today we were doing pretty well this morning. Everything going in the potty and no accidents, so after lunch we thought we'd try adding pants into the equation. previously pants = accidents (I wonder if he would forget it wasn't a nappy?) so we never persevered with them, but we have this afternoon. Certainly more accidents this afternoon, which is I think a mixture of being tired and the 'pant effect' and we had a very rough few hours between say 3 and 5. Then we've had a few more wees on the potty and going a bit better this evening.

We're planning more of the same tomorrow but we have a birthday party to go to in the afternoon and I'm in a bit of a predicament about that in as much as I don't want to go back to nappies and confuse / demoralise him, but equally don't want loads of accidents at my friend's DDs party so as yet we're undecided. I think at the moment we'll be erring on the side of a nappy as it's just not fair if he has an accident in the middle of the party?

Anyway, anyone who wants to join me for the ride, please come aboard :-)

I'll have Wine, Brew and Biscuit to help the journey go along!

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Biscuitsandtea · 23/10/2011 09:29

Oooh good luck everyone and welcome back on the wagon Blackcat

Shaz great that there have been no accidents so far.

We're having a quite morning before another birthday party this afternoon. I thought a morning of slouching around at home next to the potty might refocus DS a bit! :)

So far we have a wee on the potty after I talked him into it (another 'I want a wee' 'I don't want to' conversation, but did it in the end. Then I was in a different room and he did a poo in the potty all unprompted again so so far so good today :)

I'd like him to do an unprompted (or un-nagged!) wee then I'd feel like we were back on track.

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Rollon2012 · 23/10/2011 10:04

HOLA! I'm New

gonna start PT my 2yr old im scared :?

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Biscuitsandtea · 23/10/2011 10:31

Oooh good luck Rollon

How are you starting?

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Shaz2011 · 23/10/2011 10:33

I spoke to soon 1 accident while I was feeding my ds2 (weaning) but he came straight up to me to tell me he had weed Sad but earlier he came up to me & said wee so I helped him get his pants down & he done a huge wee Smile so we will wait & see how the rest of the day go.

Shaz2011 · 23/10/2011 10:34

Welcome rollon wish you the best of luck how are you going to start? Smile

BlackCatinaWitchesHatonaBroom · 23/10/2011 11:05

Hi everyone, .[hsmile]

DD is wearing pants now (she asked for them on after I said to her "no nappies")
Wink

We have had no wees or poos yet anywhereConfused
Maybe I need to be giving her more to drink and eat?

BlackCatinaWitchesHatonaBroom · 23/10/2011 13:16

We had one pair of wet pants so far. DD got a bit upset but I just tried to reasure her that it's ok. She is now sat on potty again so fingers crossed!

How is everyone else doing?

Kingsroadie · 23/10/2011 13:16

Sounding good guys! No accidents here this morning - think 2 wees in potty. Fingers crossed for a good afternoon...

Shaz2011 · 23/10/2011 15:43

We have had a great day today ds had another huge wee before we went to in laws had dinner came up to me & said wee again so took him to the big toilet & he done a long wee & a poo than asked for a wee again a little but later but didn't get intime but finished off in potty so all in all 2 accidents all day BlushSmileGrin

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Biscuitsandtea · 23/10/2011 17:13

Glad it sounds like it is a better day for people today Smile

We've had a better day too Smile. No accidents so far, some self sufficient poos and wee's on the potty and then a party this afternoon. This was the bit making me nervous as it was a 'leave them with the staff' party somewhere he'd not been before so was worried about him asking for a wee. However, he got through it with no accidents, an asked another mum who he knows who was there for a bit of it when he needed a wee.

He's knackered now though so hope he has the energy to struggle the 2 yards to the potty if the need arises Grin.

Very glad he's been 'self prompting' today though - this is A. Step. Forward Smile

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Shaz2011 · 23/10/2011 18:15

Seems like everyone is getting there Smile won't be long until we can all say our dc are potty trained Grin

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Biscuitsandtea · 23/10/2011 18:16

Whoop whoop Smile

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Biscuitsandtea · 23/10/2011 18:20

So, what do we reckon the criteria is to 'be' potty trained?

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monkeybananas · 23/10/2011 18:36

wow! good going mums. Smile
it sounds like everything is going in the right direction again Grin
well, DS was dropped at my parents for a sleep over and collected this morning,.. reporting NO accidents Grin and no accidents this afternoon. I think we'be nearly cracked it- a bit more self prompting and we're sorted.
Not sure what the definition of "potty trained" is

BlackCatinaWitchesHatonaBroom · 23/10/2011 19:30

Not going so well here but we are only just starting out.
DD seems to either be holding it in or there is something not quite right Confused
We have only had one pairs of wet pants all day and nothing else at all!Shock
Not quite sure where to go from here.
Sometimes she sits on potty no trouble, other times she is refusing.

Anyone else been through this?

Rollon2012 · 23/10/2011 19:36

thanks all

I have no idea Im a bit wary of the supernanny no holds barred approach I need some tips

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Biscuitsandtea · 23/10/2011 19:40

What is the super nanny no holds barred approach Rollon?

How does your dc (sorry, on phone and can remember if DS or dd Blush) do with nappy free time? Have you tried that at all? How old is your DC? I know you said 2 but are they just 2, nearly 3 etc?

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BlackCatinaWitchesHatonaBroom · 23/10/2011 19:47

Rollon Is this your first time potty training?
It's ok to be scared/worried. Not sure if I can give you many tips as I'm starting with dd, although I did it about 5 years ago with ds so I can't remember everything from back then.

Just make sure you have lots of pairs of spare pants and some cloths etc to mop up accidents.

Good luck!

Rollon2012 · 23/10/2011 19:52

yeah first

basically its not nappies ie even when going to the supermarket

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Biscuitsandtea · 23/10/2011 20:06

Ah ok - so just going cold turkey!

Hmm, well with DS we kind of did odd bits of nappy free time at home with the potty there, but just sort of when we had an hour or two free. From that I've judged whether I thought he knew what was going on, or if he knew when the wee's were coming.

I was actually hoping that he would just make his own mind up on it, but then when he got to 3 we thought we'd up the nappy free time to help him get the hang of it.

Once he seemed to be doing ok with nappy free, we went all out last weekend and went bare bum first, staying in the house, then adding in pants, but still staying in. Then we just took it slowly from there deciding when to send him out in pants (which was day 3 at nursery as day 2 went pretty well).

But then, strategy wise, DS is obviously fairly elderly Smile - so it might depend on how old your dc is? Because he was older I think he got it quicker and once he figured out when the wee's were coming he also had quite good bladder control so from quite early on he knew what was coming by had time to get to the loo. Therefore it meant we could go out to places with a bit of safety.

Having said that, I have a rucksack packed with a travel potty, wipes, nappy sacks for wet things, spare pants, spare trousers, spare socks, just in case. And then I have another bag with loads and loads of pants and trousers in that I stick in the boot as I figure it is better to be over prepared than under prepared! I was a girl fluids once upon a time of course Wink.

We haven't followed a particular approach, just kind of made it up as we've gone along. I don't know much about the supernanny approach, so I don't know what age she is advocating it for?

Hope that helps a bit anyway (and it doesn't come across as if I think I'm some sort of expert - I know I'm not but I thought I'd just tell you how we'd gone forward) Smile

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Biscuitsandtea · 23/10/2011 20:07

And it is our first time potty training too so I totally understand being scared! I was totally terrified! And I think it is one of those things that the idea is more scary than the reality.

Remember, if it turns out awfully, you can always ditch it and come back later! SmileConfused

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monkeybananas · 23/10/2011 20:09

Rolon... good luck Smile
we did pretty hard core, no nappies except for sleeping. (this is 2nd attempt at potty training btw)
first 2days, stay home and put dc on potty every 15-20 mins to put the idea in their head. day 3 perhaps a trip to friends/ family member then go for it, out and about. apparently changing to a pull up can, for some children, lead to confusion anywhoo, it all seems to have worked (2nd time round) for us.

BlackCatinaWitchesHatonaBroom · 23/10/2011 20:55

I agree with the others, If possible try to have a few days home to start with then If dc gets the idea try to go on a short trip out of the house but take all the necessary potty/spare pants etc. I am playing chicken till she gets the idea at home and using pull ups for outings. Wink
I think even those of us who have done it before still find it a worry!
Every child is different and they learn at their own speed.

Shaz2011 · 23/10/2011 20:56

When we started my ds I started with leaving the potty around so he got used to it than putting him on the potty every morning once he got up than after breakfast again after lunch before bath and before bed once he got used to that we went bare bum & looked out for signs he needed to go once he mastered that we put him in pants starting of with around the house for half a day than increased it to a full day & than ventured out & about which seems to have worked for us but it could be different for u I hope this helps best of luck ?

Rollon2012 · 23/10/2011 22:35

thanks guys also he doesnt have enough words to say 'I need the toilet' yet which makes things a bit harder just 'poo' atm

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