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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Started potty training today - anyone else want to give / get a bit of moral support?

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Biscuitsandtea · 15/10/2011 18:24

Hi, DS is 3 and we've started potty training him today. We were hoping to wait until he woke up one morning and said 'I'm done with nappies thanks very much Mummy - let's go wild with the pants', but this hasn't happened so we thought we'd just try him with nothing on at first and then pants and see how it goes.

Just wondered if anyone else was starting too and wanted to go through it together?

We've done various bits of nappy free time for months with varying amounts of success, but only ever an hour or two here and there with no consistency to see how he was doing and whether we thought he knew when he was weeing or pooing. It's only recently that I've thought that he actually does know hence deciding to give it a go today.

We had a quiet weekend so thought 'no time like the present!'

Now a couple of times in the week we'd had no nappy on and a fair bit of success in the potty. Wednesday = lots of mopping up wees but a few 'hits' at the end of the afternoon. Thursday was better with no accidents. but this was still doing everything bare bum!

Today we were doing pretty well this morning. Everything going in the potty and no accidents, so after lunch we thought we'd try adding pants into the equation. previously pants = accidents (I wonder if he would forget it wasn't a nappy?) so we never persevered with them, but we have this afternoon. Certainly more accidents this afternoon, which is I think a mixture of being tired and the 'pant effect' and we had a very rough few hours between say 3 and 5. Then we've had a few more wees on the potty and going a bit better this evening.

We're planning more of the same tomorrow but we have a birthday party to go to in the afternoon and I'm in a bit of a predicament about that in as much as I don't want to go back to nappies and confuse / demoralise him, but equally don't want loads of accidents at my friend's DDs party so as yet we're undecided. I think at the moment we'll be erring on the side of a nappy as it's just not fair if he has an accident in the middle of the party?

Anyway, anyone who wants to join me for the ride, please come aboard :-)

I'll have Wine, Brew and Biscuit to help the journey go along!

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ChunkyMonkeyMother · 23/10/2011 22:56

Wow just had a quick read through and everyone is doing so well! Congrats ladies and DCs of course!

We had a few hiccups this week especially at nursery - I've been told that my foghorn child is the quietest one in there! So he isn't telling them he needs a wee and he's holding it in as long as he can, little buggerlugs! We're getting there now though as he has turned a corner this weekend - no accidents and even asked to have his bedtime nappy taken off to use the potty one more time before bed! I nearly fainted ha ha

Just need to get him to poo next, he did try today but he didn't feel comfortable whilst me and dh were eagerly trying to watch but not watch ha ha. He's doing very well I think - week 2 now (where did that go?!?) So we've got this week then I'm off for a week so I'm hoping to leave the house - dare I? Ha ha

Good luck with week 2 guys and thank you so much for all the support on here, its already been said but when you talk to parents or family their children trained themselves at about 3 weeks old so you never get a truthful experience, on here it makes me feel so much better that others kids are holding it in or just not doing it at all - so thank you very much!

Kingsroadie · 23/10/2011 22:56

Rollon - how old is he? I have heard that boys are usually ready at 2.4 or after. It depends on whether he can let you know or not. To be honest though our parents trained some of us before we had many words. My daughter is nearly 23 months and she has lots of words but isn't massively advanced verbally. She has started to me two, three and sometimes four word clauses (ie mummy, wee and dadda juice please etc) But we have managed to do it with her. (I say we have "done" it but we're in the process, same as the others on here). No accidents today though so am pleased Grin

I read Gina Ford's potty training book to give me an idea of her criteria (but some of them my daughter can't do anyway, mainly dressing herself - pulling pants up and down) and I had been putting her on the potty and letting her be naked and saying tell mummy if you need a wee etc. Anyway last Sunday we tried a nappy free day and she did 11 wees, 8 of which were in the potty so I thought I would give it a go as that seemed a pretty good start. She is holding her bladder longer and longer and today I think only did 5 or 6 wees (and a poo), and when she was put to bed then cried and asked for her potty for a wee Grin - bless her. I said it was okay to do wee wees in nappy at night!

Anyway we stayed in mainly (had a couple of short trips out to drop car at garage and collect) for the first few days to let her get the hang of it and get confident. I would massively recommend a travel potty. We have a my carry potty (link up thread I think).

Anyway hope that helps and good luck - let us know how you get on!

Rollon2012 · 23/10/2011 23:12

just 2 years

Kingsroadie · 23/10/2011 23:19

I would say: you know him best so totally up to you! If he seems ready then go for it. What's the worst that can happen? Grin A wee/poo in pants I suppose...

Kingsroadie · 23/10/2011 23:20

PS I haven't put her back in a nappy/pull up (except for at nap time/bed time) since we started. But obv whatever works for you!

BlackCatinaWitchesHatonaBroom · 24/10/2011 11:54

Hello all, Is anyone around? (MNetting)/potty training?

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Biscuitsandtea · 24/10/2011 11:56

I'm around but DS is at nursery so am MNing / mopping the floor without there having been a wee on it first Grin

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Shaz2011 · 24/10/2011 11:56

Hi black cat how's it going? I have had 1 accident today so far & about 3/4 wees in potty Smile

BlackCatinaWitchesHatonaBroom · 24/10/2011 12:00

We have had no nappy on all morning, no wees or poos anywhere although she weed in her nappy over night.

shaz that is good. Smile

Shaz2011 · 24/10/2011 12:16

I spoke to soon just came into a huge puddle on the floor I think he might of tried cos his pants were on the floor so we will see how the rest of the day goes we are going out later so we will see if there is any accidents while we are out Hmm

Shaz2011 · 24/10/2011 20:23

Evening all today was ok had 3 accident all in all how did everyone else do?

BlackCatinaWitchesHatonaBroom · 24/10/2011 20:27

DD waited till 5.00pm then she done a wee on the carpet. Then she asked for pants on and wet them but got a tiny dribble in the potty. Grin That's all for today.

Kingsroadie · 24/10/2011 22:23

Hi everyone,

We had another accident-free day today so am very pleased Grin.

Probably 6 or so wees and a poo, all in the potty, and we were out this morning. Long may it continue!

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Biscuitsandtea · 25/10/2011 07:59

Morning, also accident free for us yesterday. Mostly at nursery (and apparently sometimes he hasn't been sat properly on the toilet so makes a bit of a puddle Blush but not an accident exactly, just a positioning issue!) but also a pop when he got home. Going out a lot today so fingers crossed for another good'un Smile

What day are you on now Blackcat? don't give up yet xx

Good luck to everyone else too.

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Shaz2011 · 25/10/2011 09:26

1 accicdent so far I hope it's better than yesterday Confused

Kingsroadie · 25/10/2011 13:14

Biscuits - great news! No positioning issues def don't count as accidents in my book - we had a few last week and they are not their faults. The intention is there and that's good enough for me Grin

Good luck today everyone!

BlackCatinaWitchesHatonaBroom · 25/10/2011 16:29

We took a day off today and went out on the train. Feeling a bit fed up with everything as dd had some massive strops while we were out.Sad Sad
Also don't feel like we are making much progress with potty training. Might give it another go tomorrow?! Confused

Shaz2011 · 25/10/2011 17:34

Blackcat it takes time if u feel u need to start over or have a break than do so it's not easy best of luck

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Biscuitsandtea · 25/10/2011 18:14

Agree with Shaz Blackcat - don't panic about it or put too much pressure on either of you xx

We've had one accident this afternoon when DS fell asleep in the car and carried on napping (for about another hour and a half) when we got home. I think he might have needed a wee when he went to sleep so not entirely surprised. And I'm less worried about nap times. He doesn't always have a nap and I think bladder control or waking to wee is a different skill set. Other than that, because we've been out most of the day it's been a lot of weeping when we're near a toilet, but he's done ok (apart from the little accident).

How've you all done? xx

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Biscuitsandtea · 25/10/2011 18:38

I am aware now though that I sound like I am making excuses whenever DS has an accident..... Blush

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Shaz2011 · 25/10/2011 19:56

We had 3 accidents but one was dh fault as ds said he needed a wee & dh thought he could take his own pants down until I told him he hasn't mastered that yet & by than it was too late but we had 3 success on potty

Kingsroadie · 25/10/2011 21:03

Biscuits - I don't think you're making excuses! My daughter is still wearing nappies for her naps. TBH I think at 23 months (tomorrow) she won't be able to hold it when sleeping. But even so, I agree it is a different skill set and I think there isn't anything you can do to train it - they are just ready when they are ready.

No accidents today - think she has cracked it. It's just whether they are ready - if not it's not worth making yourself (and them) miserable over it.
Blackcat - I think I have read (and it seems to make sense) that if after a week it isn't significantly better than when you started it may be best to have a break and start again in a few weeks/months. Can't remember how long you have been going for - but don't beat yourself up - she may just not be ready yet.

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Biscuitsandtea · 25/10/2011 21:15

Yay for no accidents Kings Smile.

DS doesn't really nap that much now or else he would be in a nappy for them (he still has a nappy at night, and it is still wet in the morning) but he'd fallen asleep in the car and then stayed asleep on the sofa.

Agree Blackcat - what kings says makes sense I think - if it's been a week and not much improvement then perhaps give it a break? I'm all for waiting until it's easy...... Smile

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cara2244 · 25/10/2011 21:21

Rolon, we started cold turkey today.
Oh what a nightmare. DS must've had 15 wees, not a single one on the potty. He has amazing verbal skills but has never sat on the potty or loo, despite encouragement, hence the cold turkey.

He sat on both the potty and loo today loads of times and tried.
we took a potty when we went out,twice.

If it gets to Thursday with nothing on the potty he's going back to nappies.

Very envious of you ladies and your successes!

Rollon2012 · 25/10/2011 21:26

oh dont even go there mon night after bath sat him on infront of tv :/ only way he would stay.

not one pee

got up peed on carpet straight away, twice.

today not even tried not feeling too good. I need to get him to sitb on it!!! without tv lol

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