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Depressed four weeks after birth

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Annemarie40 · 11/12/2022 21:09

Can someone please give me advice I’m lying in bed crying as I type this. I’m a single mum by choice in my forties , had a little girl by c- section four weeks ago. When I told my parents that I was pregnant they said that they were delighted. For eleven years before I got pregnant I was being treated by a psychiatrist for depression and doing great on medication. During my pregnancy I opted to stay off medication and got support from my maternity hospital’s mental health team. I felt great during pregnancy. I restarted my medication after the birth however ten days after my little girl was born I started to feel terrible couldn’t stop crying etc. I’ve felt very down for the past few weeks. I’ve got my own apartment and plan to say with my parents until after Christmas and then go back to my own place. A few weeks ago I burst out crying in front of my Dad he screamed at me that if I ever cried again in front of him that he’d tell me to leave. I then broke down crying and told both my parents about the years of depression. I hadn’t told them because when I brought up the depression thing years ago they told me that they didn’t believe that I was depressed. Ever since I told them they have told me that my problem is that I’m lazy. My Dad told me today that he doesn’t believe that I’m depressed at all and that I must buy a bigger apartment locally and not go back to my own apartment. Im so upset I don’t know what to do.

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user1469559754 · 28/01/2023 12:02

How are things? Have you made any progress with moving out? Hope you are feeling stronger.

user1469559754 · 12/05/2023 09:52

How are things now with you?

Annemarie40 · 12/05/2023 16:50

Thank you so much to the people who are enquiring how I am.

I’m doing a bit better now, still at home but hopefully will be in a position to move out in a few months. Relationship with parents is better because I’ve learnt ways of not getting into arguments with them. One way of doing this is to be mad busy every day, caring for the baby and going to the local library etc.

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GMummy35 · 16/05/2023 20:05

I have a DD(5) and DS(9weeks) I’ve been feeling like I’ve made a mistake having another child. I’d been through it all; made it through the trenches of colic, reflux, no sleep, weaning, potty training, hellish soft plays and terrible temper tantrums… DD was in school and what did I go and do? Get pregnant. I don't do well with pregnancy and suffered with extreme sickness which is debilitating for almost the entire 9 months (both pregnancies). Now DS is here and I thought maybe it would be easier this time around, that this baby would be easier and I would be more relaxed as a second time mum, that I’d know what I was doing. I just feel so alone and at times very angry. DH and I have had to divide and conquer so he focuses on DD and I just feel like I’m alone with DS all day long. I’m exhausted and feel annoyed at myself for thinking having another one would be a good idea. Then I feel guilty for thinking that. Part of me knows it will get better but I just feel so trapped at the moment it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Anyone experienced anything similar?

mushypeas94 · 09/09/2023 21:34

How are things? Are you out of your parents' home yet? Hope your baby is well and he is keeping your spirits up. Have you gone back to work?

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