Pnd or just not coping with my children?

[mamaandthegirls]

I had my newborn 3 weeks ago and have a 2 year old as well.
My partner has now gone back to work after having some paternity leave and I hate every second of being alone with the children.
DD1 is at nursery 3 days a week which is great for me when I need some time to myself and she absolutely loves it anyway. But lately she has been craving my attention even more now her new sibling is here and taking the majority of my time. I feel this immense guilt that I don't get to spend time with her or even enjoy a cuddle with her on the sette before DD2 is screaming.
As for DD2 I don't know if it's just usual newborn behaviour (never noticed it with DD1) or she is just a difficult baby but she screams and cries constantly. She wants to be held every second of every day and I can't get a thing done in the house.
It feels like no matter what we do, she is never happy and it's putting an incredible strain on my relationship with my partner. We are both exhausted and I am crying every day. The smallest thing DD1 does like spill a drink on the carpet I just can't deal with it and shout and break down into tears.
My family I do not have an awful lot to deal with but my parents family have been doing nursery runs for me since I had DD2 which have been an incredible help to us.
I'm feeling so low and although I can't wait for my partner to get home from work every evening, I know that later on in the evening an argument will break out about DD2 who is difficult to settle for whatever reason.
My self esteem feels so low as well which my partner just hasn't helped after an argument over a small thing broke out last week when he had pulled back the curtains but had done it so quickly they looked so silly, so I made a comment that "the curtains look like S" and he replied by saying "well you look like S!" Which he probably didn't mean but it winded me and has upset me ever since.
I just feel like crap, and although I am trying to enjoy motherhood with two children, I'm finding it increasingly hard each day and just wish the crying and screaming would stop.
I just don't know what to do, I was given these children and I don't even feel like I'm being their happy, confident mum like I used to be.

Glad I found this post today- not glad you are suffering but glad I'm not alone.
I've got a 6wk old and a 2year old. I never realised how tough it would be.
My baby wakes every 2 hours for a feed and I am just exhausted. He started going 3-4hrs at the beginning of the night when he had a bottle but now he's got a cold that's all gone out of the window. DD also has a cold and coughs and splutters all night.
DD has stopped napping too which makes the afternoons long and quite stressful if she's tired. Then evening comes and LB starts up with colic.
I feel guilty all the time. Guilty for not spending enough time with my toddler. Guilty for not interacting enough with the baby. Guilty that I can't stop the baby crying in the evening- which I know isn't my fault but just feels shit that I can't help him.
I cry everyday.
I don't even know why I'm crying sometimes. I want to look forward to bedtime but know the night will just be broken sleep. There is no let up.
I just keep thinking this storm will pass.

@Aries456 amazing! I'm glad yesterday was good for you & the baby enjoyed her new milk! It must be a relief for you.
What are your plans for today? Are you going to try and get out and about again?

Last night was ok, DD2 went to sleep at 11pm and woke up at 5.30am to be fed. DD1 is still asleep right now! Yesterday's nursery session must have worn her out.
Really hope my cousin still comes around this afternoon, I don't think I can bare being stuck in on my own with them both as awful as that sounds! I find they're at their worst when we stay in.
I'm hoping tonight is easy again!

Hi @doodledancing our children sound so similar in age, DD2 is 6 weeks on Friday & DD1 is 2.
I also know how you feel with the guilt not spending enough time with toddler. I find DD1 craves my attention all the time but I'm so busy feeding or soothing her sister I can't get down on the floor to play with her.
Please don't feel like you're alone, because you certainly aren't. Do you have any family / husband / partner that can help you? Or maybe just someone for you to have a good cry to and tell them how you're feeling.
I find getting out and about helps my mood, even though I dread it each time because I don't know which DD will kick off! But once I'm out it seems ok and my mood improves because they've got some fresh air.

Omg @mama - I can't believe your little one is sleeping 6.5 hours!!! V jealous - and v pleased she is sleeping better for you.

I am so relieved that I know what the matter is...but because I put her back in cow's milk for 24hrs her rash is back, her diarrhoea is back and she is screaming/crying with wind. Bloody nightmare but at least I know what is going on so can just grit my teeth and try and get through it - praying soya milk is the answer.

Yes been out to soft play with a friend which was nice but DD3 screamed all the way there and back and slept in my arms the whole time there so I couldn't play with DD2 much but she was so happy there! She is now asleep and I am rocking DD3 whilst watching friends... feeling so tired I feel quite dizzy though! Love to nap now but i know if i stop rockinf baby will wake and i will soend another hour trying ti cincol her to sleep...DH is working until 7pm tonight though which sucks a bit.

@doodledancing really sorry you are feeling so rough. No napping must be so tough on you. Does your DP help in the night at all? Do you have any family etc around to give you a hand in the day? An hour out for a bath each evening helps i find :) xx

@Aries456 I am not holding out hope DD2 will sleep that good all the time mind
My cousin came around today which was nice to catch up.
But after she left, DD2 wanted to be held constantly which frustrated DD1 as she wanted me to play with her on the floor, so they were both fighting for my attention. I feel so bloody guilty today, I shouted at DD1 because she poured her tea on the carpet and tried to feed her sister a bottle of milk which resulted in DD2's face getting soaked - poor love was only trying to help mummy. Wondering how I can make it up to her tomorrow now. I just feel awful because DD2 takes up so much of my time, that I feel like I can't give DD1 any attention.

I'm praying with you @Aries that soya is the answer for you!
I'm also glad you managed to get out today, that's amazing. Although, sorry it wasn't 100% great and your shattered. Could DH take over for you tonight for a while? Maybe if he could, have a relaxing bath or a lye down.

I'm hoping my second night is ok with both girls. DD1 went down like a light, but DD2 is fussing right now and won't let me put her down. Spoke to DP on the phone this evening which helped my mood but I really wish he was back tonight. DD2 has a hip scan tomorrow afternoon at the hospital as she was breech presentation throughout my pregnancy (had an elective c section due to that...) so I'm hoping we come out of there with good news and my little breech baby has normal hips. Mostly praying both girls are bloody behaved while we are at the hospital though as DD1 doesn't have nursery tomorrow so I have drag her along too!

Hey @mama - my dd2 was breach until 37 weeks, turned then flipped back as i went into labour so that was ECS for her! We had her hips scanned and she was fine :) also, dd3 was elective (due to the previous 2 emergancies) and I looked it up, apparently some people think ELCS babies can be difficult to settle as they can't quite get out of the shock of an early entry to the world! The cranial osteopath i went to said this to me as well (although she said she could "feel" baby wasn't too surprised by it all...) we had a great 24 hours of day naps after our visits but it didn't last as think this tummy business has just been too much. So maybe worth seeing a Do need you? They cost about £50 but if it helps her be less clingy?

Hope kiddies are good at the hospital for you.... I hate hospital appointments with more than 1.. I usually try to get DH to come with me.
How are your second night? X

@Aries456 glad to know my baby wasn't the only awkward sod who was breech
DD1 was natural birth, but it was bloody traumatic after huge blood loss, resulting in blood and iron transfusion and lots of stitches!! So definitely preferred my ELCS! Such a calm, chill experience.

Her scan went ok, but not great. We did find that her sockets are shallow so they haven't yet joined together properly due to being breech throughout my pregnancy. So need to go back in 2 weeks time.
Both girls were actually really well behaved! DD2 slept majority of the time in the waiting room and even slept through some of the scanning!
I took puzzles and snacks for DD1, although after a bit she was getting bored and restless.
Got home and like clockwork, both girls started crying - at the same time.
Managed to calm them both down - DD1 I bribed with waffle the wonder dog on BBC I player and DD2 I rocked like crazy in her bouncer.
While DD2 was quiet I scrambled to get some tea sorted for DD1 and then did her a bath and sent her to bed which she went down fine.

Last night was fine as well! Both girls slept well. DP came home this evening too from his buisness meetings, I have never been so happy to see him.
Although, I did have a chat with him tonight that I'm feeling low right now because DD1 is constantly fighting for my attention and I feel like I'm so busy with DD2 that I can't 100% give her my attention. He just replied "well I told you all this in January when you got pregnant, I told you this age gap would be hard." Feeling like he's not being understanding about how I feel at the minute.
I just feel like breaking down in tears because he even told me he thinks I purposely don't make time for DD1 and that I favour DD2 over her. I was just so hurt to hear that. I'm really trying with both of them, and I just feel like shit since he's thrown those comments at me.

Tomorrow, I am meeting a friend for a coffee (the one I met the other week) and then going to pick DD1 up from nursery in the afternoon. I hope tomorrow is a better day for me, mentally.
Me and DD2 have our 6 week check next Tuesday so I may bring up to the GP about how low my mood is right now. I even had thoughts today that my children would be better off without me and would be happier if I wasn't around.
Hoping I can shake feeling like this.

Anyway, enough about me @Aries how was your day? Hope the children were good for you and managed to relax. X

Oh @mamaandthegirls please please don't think that! I think you sound like a wonder mum - and I am hearing everything you are doing (not just a polished FB version) and honestly, I think it sounds like you are doing a really fantastic job. Please don't think you aren't giving DD1 enough time or attention. You are giving her plenty - children are like sponges, however much you give them they will take more! What you are giving her is love. And lots of it. She won't even remember this time . And in a few weeks it will even out. My DD1 is 8 weeks today and I managed to read some books and do a bit of colouring with DD1 today and even took them both out to the library because I thought DD1 needed to get out of the house (I am sure she was fine but I felt guilty). It was all rather distasterous and another day i would have cried about it, but feeling a but stronger today (I have still had my daily cry though, this time at DH1 because he wasn't listening to me then made jokes about not listening.. I have told him during yesterday's cry that I can't even take jokes atm!!). But i hsvent been able to do stuff like thar with DD1 in ages..so think it is starting to get a bit easier and in a couple of weeks will for you too.
So yes, DEFINITELY speak to GP. I am so sorry DH is not more supportive. He probably doesn't mean it quite how it sounds, but when you are down jokes or words take on the worst meaning to you. I can't believe he really thinks you favour the baby! That is crazy. He obviously doesn't see how hard each day can be juggling the two. I can't remember if you are BF but even so, could you express and then take DD1 out for the afternoon (or whole day?) on your own this weekend and leave DH with baby?
Finally, sorry about baby's scan not being 100%, hope all is ok when you go back.
Sending lots of hugs and wishing you a good night's sleep so this all seems a bit rosier in the morning. Sleep knowing what a great mum you are x

@Aries456 thanks for your kind words I think everything is getting on top of me. The house is an absolute bomb site daily and I cringe whenever we have visitors because it's a complete mess! Dishes are piled high in the kitchen, wash basket is over flowing with clothes that need folding and to be put away and my bedroom is an absolute dive with clothes sprawled all over the floor. I just can't seem to find the energy to do anything recently. It is an effort to even put the kettle on! DP doesn't seem to help with any housework and it really frustrates me because I can spend all afternoon scrubbing the kitchen from top to bottom and by the evening he's made it a tip again
I am BF DD2 but ended up being lazy and giving her formula so we have to supplement with formula now since I don't make enough milk myself. I've planned to get DD1s feet measured this weekend and get her some new shoes, so I think I'll spend the day having some one to one time with her and ask DP if he could watch DD2 while we do that.
DD1 is at nursery today and I'm absolutely exhausted, I want to nap so badly but DD2 cries the second I shut my eyes
My friend cancelled on me this morning too which was crap in its own way but a god send in another because I think I may have just broken down in tears if she asked me how me and the girls were!

Well done to you for getting out and about! That's brilliant. Hope you're feeling ok today and once again, thanks so much for the lovely message. Did lift my mood a bit. I just keep reminding myself every day is a new day, to try again! X

Hey @mamaandthegirls, I wrote out a long message earlier but it got lost, sorry!

Glad you are going to get some 1-1 time this weekend with Dd1, even if it is buying shoes! Will you also be able to get some nap time? Sounds like you could really do with some x
I know how you feel about the house it frustrates me when I see the place getting messy... but it really doesn't matter and I doubt anyone visiting will notice and if they do they won't care! You have a 6 week old baby and a toddler, they are the priority. And there isn't much you can do when attached to a baby that is a crier! Do you think there is any underlying problem with her or do you feel she is just clingy?
I had a row with DH this husband about how much he is working atm and when I brought up the PND he said "well nice of you to tell me this is the first I have heard of it". I was like, what do you think I have been saying the past 6 weeks?! Amazing. Felt kinda guilty as he had apparently contacted a friend of mine and was trying to organise a spa day for me in a few weeks... whoops! Ha the other day when I said I was hardly getting sleep because she is so squiggly he also said "Oh that is wind, you need to burp her after feeds." I just looked at him dumbstruck and said "what do you THINK I have been doing?!" Honestly.
Anyway, I really hope your weekend is good - try to get a lie in or some nap time to recharge, enjoy time with DD1 and remember, you made it to another weekend!! I know it must feel an age away but I have definitely noticed some day time improvement this week now she is 8 weeks.
Always here for a sympathetic ear and a virtual hug! Xx

Also, how are you doing @doodledancing? How has your week been?

@aries456 hi! Well, me and DD1 went into town together and bought her some new shoes. She picked some lovely pink winter boots, even chose them herself! Weather was a bit crap so couldn't take her to the park like she wanted. But we did pop into a cafe and I had a coffee and she sat nicely eating a snack. I said to her "it's nice spending time with mummy isn't it?" And she was like "it's fun!" It was really sweet. Then DP and DD2 met us in town and we all went for some lunch. Both DDs were behaved during the lunch, but when I needed to pop in a few shops to pick up some things, DD1 started throwing an almighty tantrum because she wanted to walk everywhere and not stay in the double bugger I think if DP wasn't there, I would have gone into a complete melt down. I feel so flustered and stressed when one of them starts kicking off and I'm on my own!
DD1 has gone to bed now and DD2 is chilling in her bouncer, I'm hoping to get some dishes done but I'm so shattered since I didn't get to have a nap today
I'm not too sure if there is an underlying problem with DD2 with her crying, but it was a lot worse before we changed her formula to S&M comfort! For the first 2 weeks she was on regular cow and gate (and the odd top up with breast milk) but she was so difficult to settle and the poor thing was constipated! So she has been a bit easier since changing her milk. I do think she might be a crier though, which sometimes can drive me bloody nuts!

I'm glad you reached out to DH about your PND, but men just have no clue do they? They seem to think we just have to crack on with it because they have to, but it's not as easy for us sometimes.
Have you been to your gp for your PND?
It's amazing he's been trying to arrange a spa day for you! I wish my DP had the brains to even think about doing that for me although It's my birthday at the start of Dec and he bought me my birthday present early yesterday, a coffee machine - bless him. I had been hinting for one since last Christmas , he finally listened can't wait to try it out!
Hope you can get some sleep soon, will DH be able to take over for you for a bit so you can nap or have a lye in?
Feels so nice to know I am not alone, motherhood can be such a lonely time sometimes. Xxx

Hey @mama. How are you? How is the new coffee machine working out ??
I've had a rough few days so not posted as don't want to bum you out! Ha.DH basically worked all weekend, DD2 has a stinking cold which means she is melt downing at EVERYTHING, DD3 seems to be a bit constipated on her new formula so is uncomfortable and i am on my period so am feeling majorly hormonal. After a fairly positive week last week, by Sunday eve i had gone down... cried, rowed, felt utterly exhausted.... today I was back to feeling light headed and dizzy. Tonight I went to bed at 8.30pm and DD2 woke me at 10.30, then DH came to swap at 11.45 and when I went to sore room baby was stiring for a feed. She then woke me every hour from 12-3am squirming and I have just spent 1h 45 settling her. And I have just heard DD2 start up again... Buuut... positives:

1. DH has agree to take DD3 for her jabs tomorrow meaning I might manage to sneak a 20 nap
2. Last night DD3 actually slept 9-5am with 1 quick 2am settle (DD2 woke me at 4am though!)
3. No plans this weekend, no work = sleep + family time
4. 45 days unti Christmas
5. The stress this week has meant I have lost 2lb, despite my wine and sugar consumption - woohoo!

I hope you don't mind me joining this chat, I'm also up with a 7 week old baby while my husband is settling the just turned 2 year old.....I think I'm part of the club.

It sounds like you are all doing a great job and when I hear that I'm not alone feeling overwhelmed, it makes me feel less bad about it.

I have no words of wisdom as I'm in the same place as you all, just hanging on to the promise that it's a phase and it does get better!

I have a 17m old and 5 week old and could have wrote this post myself

Hey @andonandon and @papayya! Not happy that you two are also struggling a bit, but happy to have more mum's in the club who understand how hard it can be sometimes. I managed to go back to bed for hour and half and am now in my 2nd sugary tea after dressing Ds1 for school whilst frantically rocking a crying baby and using Dd2 use me as a climbing frame... honestly, I think I should be on one of those humour postcards or something atm... hope your days all go ok - keep us posted!! Xx

@Aries456 bless you! It sounds like you've had a very hectic few days wish I could have helped as it sounds like you've had a hectic night last night too
I can sort of relate to the period thing, finished my PP bleed last week and I just know Mother Nature will show her ugly head very soon, not looking forward to my first period after all these months!
Hoping you can get some rest things weekend
Please don't remind about Christmas, I'm trying to figure out what to get DD1, and struggling

My past few days have been ok, and my new coffee machine is helping
Sunday we went to my in laws for a roast dinner but DD1 decided she wanted to act up the whole time
Yesterday she was at nursery which was fine but DD2 is still clingy, even if she can't see me, she just cries
So I'm constantly putting her in her bouncer and moving it to whatever room I'm in!
Today we were meant to go to the doctors for DD2s 6 week check, but they called this morning to reschedule. Now I'm stressing because the weather is awful again and I don't know where to go / what to do to keep DD1 entertained.
It's always a long day when DD1 isn't at nursery, I do dread it

@AndOnAndOn @papayya welcome!
You're never alone, as you can see by my PP's I find this motherhood journey hard going, especially with a tight age gap! How are you both doing? I'm sure you're both brilliant mums, so don't doubt yourself when it comes to that.

@aries456 how are you getting on? I took both DD's out yesterday so I could get DD1 some new wellies for nursery. She refused to get in the double buggy and ran off several times in the shops. Chucked an almighty tantrum in mothercare where I then took her into the baby changing area just so I could cry without anyone seeing! Got home and both DDs started crying and no matter what I did for them nothing stopped them, on top of that DP didn't get home until 7.30pm last night so I was frantically getting DD1 ready for bed while DD2 cried because she was hungry 😭 Then during the night DD1 projectile vomited in her bed and it was a messy clean up job! She's feeling a bit better today but has been whining for over an hour because she's over tired. Really can't wait for DP to get home tonight He has a work do tomorrow evening so I'll be with them both tomorrow night until he gets back - which will probably pretty late. Safe to say, I'm dreading it

Hope all is well with you and you've managed to get some rest

OH no @mamaandthegirls! We seem to be in sync. I tried going to pharmacy in supermarket with both girls yesterday. dd1 Also had a spectacular tantrum about wanting her wellies on and off at the same time... then DD3 was crying so much she was sick and started choking on the milk she brought up (she had had her jabs thar day) and I tried to put DD2 back in the trolly and she wouldn't... so a stranger stepped in and held her whilst I got DD3 out if her seat and took care if her. Dd2 screamed like a banshee at the woman... NIGHTMARE!! DH also worked until 8pm! I had to out Dd2 to bed st 5.30 because she was being so dreadful and she slept full 13.5 hours! I thought she just had a cold but maybe it is a mean one. Anyway I hope that helps you feel better!!!
Both girls sleepy today so I got a good break and had a friend come around too plus DH just got home so all bit better now.

Hope your evening improves and DH gets home quickly. Sorry you are in your own tomorrow evening but you have managed 2 whole nights without him - you can do this!! Remember, 1 thing at a time. And if Dd1 needs some time out in her cot whilst you see to baby then you can do that- she won't be able to hurt herself and you can feed the baby if you need to and then sort her out. Be kind to yourself and get a bath in tonight when DH gets back (I am planning on one once DS1 and DD2 go down!) Xx

@Aries456 how are you getting on?I did reply to your last comment but my bloody phone froze on me so I lost the whole thing!
Have a busy week this coming week with both DD's have an appointment each (DD1 for her eyes and then DD2 for her hips again!)

I was fine when DP had his works do, but DD1 has been feeling under the weather this week with a cold so has been whining a lot!!
Tomorrow me and DD2 have our 6-8 week check at doctors and it's food shopping day too!

Ooh you are.brave doing a supermarket run, I don't!! Honestly would.not be able to managed it. Dd3 still screams her head off about the car seat and dd2 is acting up for attention or because she is tired (from waking up between 4-5 each night!)
just had a bit of a crap night with DD3 who has been awake 12.30,3.30, 4.30 (curently holding). I wouldnt mind if i l knew i could nap tomorrow - have finally.realised being perpetually shattered is pretty much the root of why I feel so crap a lot of the time now that the formula change has meant a lot less daytime crying (although this week after her jabs has seen her cry quote a bit more again!)
DH had to.hold her pretty much all of Saturday as she only sleeps in arms or rocker in the day and we went to see family and forgot the rocker. By the evening he was going crazy because he couldn't put her down for more than 10 mind or she started up again. I was like, hello.to the last 8 weeks for me!! Hoping she settles down again this week.
Hope your appointments all go well this week, especially the hips scan x

Oh, and remember to speak to gp about how you have been feeling. Good luck and let me know how it goes 😀

@Aries456 gp went ok, he wants to see me back in 2 weeks regarding my mood. But did get some contraception sorted! Also Monday got a phone call from nursery to pick DD1 up due to her being unwell. Took her drs same day and diagnosed her with croup! Then to top it off, yesterday DD2 had the same, barking cough. Only to be told she has croup as well! Both taking steroids now but they're both crying a lot and poor DD1 really wants to play but has no energy!
Tonight I was going to take them both for the Christmas light switch on where we live, but will keep them in the warm I think!
I still have no idea what to get DD1 for Christmas. It was only her birthday at the end of Aug.
Also, DD2s hip scan went great and we have now been signed off

Anyway @Aries how are you getting on? Hope you've managed to get some rest!

@mamaandthegirls - great news about the scan but rubbish about the croup! Not what you need. Yes, maybe an evening in in the warm is best, there is so much going around this time of year, praying we get to chridtmas with nothing more than our colds!!
Good timing for your message, just got back from my 1st attempt at a toddler group with the girls. Was a complete disaster and I had had such high hopes. DD3 cried for 30 of the 40 mins,m and DD2 spent first 15 mins crying and cloning hold if me, wouldn't do anything she was asked (like give toys back at the end if each section), scratched the faces of 2 different babies and wouldn't share anything. I have to say, today is the first day I actually feel like a failure as a mum. Up until now I have felt that I have been trying hard with a difficult situation, but today I really just thought that I clearly don't have this parenting thing down! 3 attempts out in the car to shops or groups with the girls, 3 disasters. Everyone is always nice to me, but they must look and just think I clearly can't cope. Also feel incredibly guilty that I clesely dont hace enough time for DD2 - I should be taking her to groups and classes and enjoying this lovely stage, and instead I am staying in with her, trapped to a bouncer or sling and when I do take her out it doesn't go well.
Sorry, don't mean to be so negative - you just caught me at a crap point in the day/ week. Doesn't help that since I went back on the pill I have had a 15 day period...

So positives: that DD3 is really in the smiling / coping stage so when she isn't crying she is so sweet and that has helped with the bonding. And I have had some nice points with DD2 yesterday doing things I could do from the sofa, like puzzles, books and learning body parts!! Also got a day Christmas shopping planned on Sunday without the children (which I am already feeling guilty about!!) So that will be a nice break :) and i have been spending lots of money online shopping for the children :) I am planning on getting DD2 a toddler arm chair for the living room, lots of bing stuff as she is obsessed, books, bath toys, puzzles, an upsy daisy and a few other bits. Her birthday is February and DDS is January!

@Aries456 bless you. Don't be so hard on yourself, you're NOT a failure as a mum. You're just a mum trying her best. It's amazing you got out and went to a toddler group, even if it didn't go like you planned, you still went and gave it a go! I used to go to one every week with DD1, but it's such a challenge to get out the door with both of them on time now!
Maybe stick some cebeebies on and have a cup of tea and some lunch. Could you also let DH know how your day went? Maybe he could watch the kids while you have a bath.
As for the pill, I know your struggle, although I'm waiting for my first period to start mine. I'm not great on the pill, but I'll have it if it prevents me having 3 under 5

As for my morning, I'm in the process of potty training DD1. I've been putting her in knickers this week but won't tell me she needs to go and doesn't seem too bothered she has pooed or had a wee in her knickers, I don't know if she's ready?
Maybe it was a bad idea to potty train today as she's not well. Put a nappy on her now she's having a nap on the sofa before lunch. DD2 is currently in my arms, refusing to be put down! I just want something to eat
Have fun at your Christmas shopping! I've decided I'm going to buy a toy hoover (since she's always playing with my real one!) and a keyboard mat for DD1. Not sure what else though. she loves waffle the wonder dog atm but smyths have sold out of their talking waffle dogs!

Be kind to yourself today @Aries x

Yeah had tea, biscuits and friends on Netflix!
Dd2 wants to potty train, She keeps taking her nappy off and putting it in the bin... but she keeps weeing on the floor or sofa, not any success on potty. So have put her back in nappies and going to try again in chridstmas break. Where did you get little knickers from? I am limited to online shopping and not found any little ones!

And ha, yes, not sure I would advocate 3 under 5... although I am sure many mums do it well! DH is working until at least 7.30pm tonight but sure it will be ok. Dd3 is crying in pain when she passes wind again... don't really want to try and change her milk again!
Hope your afternoon is relaxing - maybe scour ebay for waffle dogs?! X

Sorry to butt in. You're all doing amazingly.

I just want to say even though it doesn't seem it it will eventually get easier. I have a 16 month gap between my 2 with DD now nearly 2.5 and DS 10 months.

I also had a crier (milk allergy preemie) and the first 5 months were hellish. It's now so much better, they play together now whole I have a cup of tea and it's gorgeous.

Hang in there.