Jan 09 Summer sun, peachy bums and... toddler tantrums..

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New thread here...

Hi everyone. Sorry for lack of proper catch up. Totally knackered and ridiculously over-anxious about this one going wrong. I can't bear it and feel sick every time I get a twinge (which is all the time). I know I have to just relax and what will be will be, but this is no fun.

N still awake so should really go and put him down now (he napped from 4 till 530!) - will try to catch up properly later.

Ya... lack of catch up from me too. I've had a friend in from Waterloo, ON, who actually comes from London, where we met. She has some friends in Vancouver and was able to make the trip over to the island. Being Canada Day, we headed downtown and did Canada Day stuff (eating, watching buskers, dropping huge ice cream cones before even getting one bite off,lol, only me) and site seeing the next two days. Came here and see there is lots of talk and I am so sorry but I'm too knackered to catch up. I did read someone getting sick in the kiddie toilets...lol. That's awesome.

MJ Try meditation, honestly. That's what I did. Find a quiet spot somewhere that is completely comfortable to you, sit cross legged, or as comfortable as you can, (pillow under bum is great), and start with 5 very deep and slow and thoughtful breaths. Think one (just one) good thought with every exhale and feel the reality of that thought rushing in when you inhale. Well, that's what I do. Then I go for about 5 minutes of thoughtful breathing on that thought and feel fab after, cause you are thinking a happy thought. Perhaps yours could be giving birth on your due date. Visualize.
OK. Hmm. I've only had one gin on the rocks tonight. I'm not usually this sappy. Off to bed with me.

morning

hi miss j and everyone else try to relax i know it must be hard

Oi! 120, both my boys have long 'surgfer' hair and I lurve it. Each to their own I suppose. Have tried them both with short hair and just doesn't seem to suit them somehow.

Dd still has hardly any hair, it has grown in thickness though and she has a few curls at the nape of her neck, which are really cute.

Dog, so glad your evening ended up being lovely after all. I had a killer headache last night so ended up going to bed really early as dh was out on the razz. He came home at 1.00 am well gone and spent the next couple of hours throwing up whilst wailing that he'd only had four pints - must've been a bad pint - etc etc. Made some sympathetic noises, got him comfy on the sofa (as the toilet is downstairs for throwing up purposes) and left him to it at abouyt 2.30 am.

He was decidedly green this morning, but bless him, still made the breakfast and is now mowing the lawn. He hardly ever goes out and his night out last night was my idea, so I'm not cross, just amused.

MissJ ((hugs)). Just a thought - could you maybe invest in a relaxation cd to lie down and listen to when N is napping? It might help to bring down your anxiety levels a bit. I am just about ot buy a kiddies one for ds1 to listen to in the hope it will help with his reflux and other anxiety symptoms.

Morning all. Sadly missed Pat as her DH's hangover too much.

Lol at the hair talk, cut off 50% of the curls this morning. Feel a bit bad about it, but it doesn't work for me on him. Plus he keeps getting a heat rash round his neck so I feel justified. MIL is going to be sad as she loves them too. Don't mind a few curls but can't have a boy with a mullet! Will take a pic when he is up.

Another day, another portrait to start. Better get painting!

MJ, I had some really bad worries with my first pregnancy. Took me until 7 mo to accept that I just might be having a baby.

With DS pregnancy, I wrote down all my worries and found that helped. Sort of took stopped me having to list them in my head (bit like when you write down a shopping list, it goes from your short term memory). Can you take up a knitting project or a good book to take your mind off it and give you something else to think about?

i kept a diary when pregnant with pregnancies too definetly helps

hi mm boys hair sounds cool
dd1 has lots of lovely straight brown hair and dd2 has short blond curly hair

Hi all.

I have £150 till the end of the month eek!! Were did £1500 go in 5 days????????????

Hope all well, have read but am flying through.

I've hoovered the car and mopped the floors, and even gone round the floor meets skirting board with a baby wipe or 50. Am on a roll!! About to iron in front of the tennis.

x

Oh rofl.

I just typed £150 and thought, y'know' seriously wher has it gone. Ok Frugi had a sale and there was that white company accident but still....

I miss read it. £1500.00. Much better!!!

I mean really and again!

Anyhoooo, Moose, sorry for your fair. All our fairs [3!] have been tinged in not quite perfectness. Ether I have been harrased on a stall, or some such thing. So I can iimagine your day. Poor you with that ankle. Are you taken oral arnica?

MissJ - ipod and subscription to Audible. find a Agatha Christie so soothing I am normally asleep after 10 seconds minuites. I had the fears too. I thought my 1st born had caught a facial disfigurement off the tv. I wantched one of those programes where they go to ndia and find cases and treat them. I had to get the consultant to scan me next day, which he did, between sniggers.
I think it;s our hormones. They send us crazy anxious to make double sure we keep ourselves safe. 'Cos really if we are afraid of tv we are unlikey to mountain climb
I hope you are having a more relaxing time today. x

No work till Wed night. Yay. Had brutal nights tbh. I worked 8pm to 8.15am with half a bag of crisps and 2 glasses of squash. I sat and cried when I got home. I slept 11 to 7pm yesterda, and mdnight till 9 this am. I'm a different woman this am!

Sorry Ladies. A quick bitch because I was made angry at DH in record time today. Took all of bout 3 seconds upon waking up. DH too went out for a couple last night after work, really only a couple but was drinking at work too, so... he was all "I'll get up with DD and take her with me to get mussels to take up to work and let you have a proper sleep in." He'd be gone for a couple of hours. She wakes, he never hears her, (that's fine) but when I said 'She's awake' he's all "What, What. Its only 6" and rolled over. F!@#$%^&CKER. I just need some time to myself, I've been busy and DD has been my sidekick. Don't tell me you are going to do something if you have no intention of doing it. Now DD has just been crying all morning too, picking up on my frequency.

good for you tree. glad you are feeling better!

...that would have been some shopping accident!

The portrait I did yesterday was nearly as hard as J, but thank God, I managed to pull it off (I think). Am adding blondes to the list of difficult things to paint. Their skin tones are blue FGS. What do they eat to manage that?

Oh mne are blue. For sure. Blue with grey and white. Nice!

I can imagine how hard that must be.

chefswife (((((((hugs)))))) TBH, I'd need to 'have a little talk' about that one. I have very low tolerance for any behaviour that even hints at the 'well you're the mum/woman so you're the last port of call and the ultimate fall back' No no, we are team tree here , and I have a feminist soapbox as big as any bed, and much less comfy. DH knows this

Poor man!

So you, how can your day get better? Declare it null and void, stick dvd on and have a snacky dinner? Or get out of the house, turn it around into a lovely day with dd and declare it a trumph?

3rd option is to breeze up to dh, hand her over, say you are popping out - and come back when you are ready. After a visit to a nice shop and a cafe break. Have done that many a time, only especially since H-bomb landed. Poor bomber, she gets the blame for loads of my lazyness moments.

Things are better now; we are eating oatmeal and watching Guess With Jess with the sound off. DD likes to watch the characters bounce around. Got some Jazz on the laptop playing. Man, DH really knows how to burn my ass.

xpost chef. It is horrible when that happens. He must have forgotten. I feel like I just can't get enough time to myself at the moment. They are just so demanding, aren't they? Doesn't matter where I go/sit/stand/lie, one or both will be touching me / lying on me/ worming their fingers through my hair / stroking my arms / hanging off my legs. If I change room, the little troops follow me. If I change my mind mid through a room change, I trip over them. Very grrrr.

Crikey, I can't keep up with this thread.

MissJ sorry you are feeling anxious, I hope the next six week passes quickly and smoothly for you, its super hard not to worry. Maybe a fresh batch of chocolate brownies might help... I always find chocolate relaxes me when wine isn't an option... (Which would explin my weight gain of 5kg!)

Tree...do you want to come and mop our floors? Glad you are feeling refreshed, enjoy your days off. I am bloody knackered...at least I can start the count down til the summer hols now..19 days...

120 H's hair looks rock n roll...can't imagine him with short hair. J's needs a cut, just no idea what to do with it, its so blong and fluffy. Ended up having a fish n chip picnic in the park, amazingly fresh f&c, had never had the vicky park ones before. Was very busy there though, so have retreated back to the tranquility of the garden.

Lenni, am so sorry for your friend's little boy, that must be awful for him and hid family, hope they are getting lots of support, sending lots of positive vibes thier way. Does he have neuroblastoma? It was one of the things they investigated Ds for and is most common in 1-3 year olds I think, we were constantly reassured that young children are very resilient and generally respond well to treatment. I'm sure your friends have lots of info, but the macmillian website is very good for links and information about different cancers and treatment in children. Anyway am sending them lots of positive vibes and thoughts and remembering how lucky we are x

Tea, was going to second what 120 said about North Norfolk as a holiday destination. I haven't ever been, but a friend of mine you took thier Dcs to Centre Parks (they got a cheap last minute deal), they were really sceptical about going, but had a really good time, and most importantly thier DCs (1 and 3.5) loved it, the only bad thing was all the extras were quite pricey. If you can go out of school holiday time English Country Cottages have some really cheap deals all over the uk.

Dog, hope you are feeling less knackered and down, the last bits of pregnancy really drag on, it must be hard going when its so warm. When is your baby due? It can't be far off now.

My mind is frazzled and can't remember what I have missed....Pat...hope your hangover is better! Right, I am off to get into the paddling pool before the DCs trash it again.

Thanks Tree I needed that boast this morning. Things will be great today because I'll be working on my sculpture and he will be taking her out for a couple of hours. I was really looking forward to sleeping in this morning. Its been a couple of weeks as both DD and DH have been sick so I've picked my end of things like you do. I even got up twice this week to do morning routine with DD so DH could watch the football reasonably uninterrupted.

X posts with 120/tree/chef.... Grr for you chef... I have a very strcit rule about lie ins, we take it in turns at the weekend and try and let each other have one morning of childfree time until at least 11am...it works pretty well and was only instigated after a number of incidents such as you described...normally involving a hungover (d)h.

120 am feeling your pain, L and J are so in my space at the moment, its really hard work, they don't do it to DH half as much...think I am a soft touch.

120 Demanding to say the least. lol. DD is underfoot a lot. The other day I picked her up and plopped her on the couch with a 'OMG, can I please just have two minutes without you pawing at me'. Its annoying, funny and endearing all at the same time. But really, I WANT TWO MINUTES.

Not to beat a dead horse... but I try to explain to DH that even though for the most part I do get to sleep through the night, (DD goes down quick if she wakes), I'm still on call and its not so restful sleep. The hour I get when he gets up with DD is so sleep filled because I know I don't have to worry about her or go after her when she cries.

The way through all this is to simply go away.

I went for a night a few times with dd1. It got the message home loud and clear, as they experience what it is really like.

Did us me the power of good.

Am drooling over the Saltwater sale. Darn it. No point getting lovely things until I am less fat, but still. Tempting!

Apologoes for all those I haven't replied too. I am a bit transient today, can't focus. I get like that, I bet we all do. All flighty and high speed. Will collapse later in a flump!

Dinner?

Look here cos we all need cheering up and should buy ouselves a new frock