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120 · 29/06/2010 21:31

New thread here...

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treedelivery · 30/06/2010 13:56

Can anyone remember anyo f my festival tips? I can't!! There is a comp on fB and I want to win

I remember glow sticks.......Moose!! Hellllp!!!

120 · 30/06/2010 13:58

there was a great festy thread on here. Depends on the age really.

-plastic bags
-condoms
-money in sock, sock on, zip up in sleeping bag (when sleeping)
-money belt
-extra cheapo phone in case one gets nicked
-potnoodles and biscuits
-Big water bottle for tent.

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treedelivery · 30/06/2010 14:02

Oh blimey, I think my tips were to do with how to bath a baby

treedelivery · 30/06/2010 14:10

new paving Some of it anyway. And poor dh's bike shed. A come down from his garage but never mind. Can't believe the money we ploughed into that! Not finished either, but hoping to finish playhouse walls tonight [pale blue] all the spindles and decking etc are now that sagey type green. Also need to tough up the garden walls....and put the pebbles down the drainage runs....blah blah.

Much more important is that I hun up the new lights outside, like little winmlls. Verry cute. Expect many a boring pic when it's all done

Need to get planting extensive pots and planters too. £££

120 · 30/06/2010 14:11

ah. I think you should put your little truck tip on there. it's amazing. complete with carseat.

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treedelivery · 30/06/2010 14:17

Oooo yes.

120 · 30/06/2010 14:17

looking forward to the pics. I have a fab one in H wearing L's dress. Will upload it tonight. Meant to be working and am being distracted.

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treedelivery · 30/06/2010 14:25

Please upload

I am trapped under dd2, so I have to be here.
Will have to wake her soon for the school run. Such a shame

120 · 30/06/2010 16:08

sorry had to go and work! Christ, uploading takes an age.

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tinktellyaddict · 30/06/2010 17:24

enjoyed dd1s sports day she did really well in all the races.
abit hot though for me!!

chefswife · 30/06/2010 18:14

Moose Thank goodness for DS. The school is putting in the proper effort. We were just talking the other day with other about the school system here and its grand to have a wide scope of children in a class but the support structure is not there. You can't have 32 students in a class and expect that all the kids are getting what they need out of school. Anyhow, I could rant about this topic because I feel it is seriously failing from Pre-school to Post-Graduate degrees, but you'd all get bored. Glad the light at the end of the tunnel is casting the light you need.

Dog I hope my FB comment wasn't to crass. It sort of came from a line I heard on Weeds when the lead character was managing a Maternity store and a woman came in and said, when handed one of the bumps you can put on to try maternity wear, "Oh my. I can't imagine 6 month belly", and 'Nancy' says "Ya, wait till you see six month ass". It was just a very funny scene.

Camping was so much fun and DD loved it. Our campground had a pool, hot tub and manmade lake. Needless to say, I was in the hot tub, lots. DD and I hung out at the beach too with all her new beach toys. Next year I'm bringing a little fishing rod because they stock the pond with trout for eating. How cool! The little town, Coombs, has fun little touristy things too, like Parrot World, (lol self-explanatory) The Pie House, all pies, all kinds, the market is fab full of fresh, organic and cheap fruit and veg, baked goods to die for... well, its cottage country up there, lots of Americans and Chinese visitors too, but clearly someone has some taste for the good life but not costing like you'd expect. DH and I even contemplated going up there for a day trip and big shop. It would almost be worth it. Its only 1 1/2 hour drive away too. The mountains were still snowcapped so you can tell we are not having the weather we are use to here. I've posted some new pictures to FB. Someone told me there is a way to share photos on FB to people who aren't on FB so I'll have a look to see if it works. Our new tent was bigger than we thought once we got it fully up! HUGE!!! LOVE IT! When we go by ourselves we'll be able to set up our little table and cooking stuff even and DD can have her own 'room' too. Well, we'll definitely be getting her, her own sleeping bag. She is such a bed hog! lol
The thing with spending such much close time with your friends and their families is that you start to see where the seams get thin, so to speak. I didn't see it, but a couple of the other parents did, but C, one friends stepDS, who is 10 and the epitome of an over-programed child, (lovely boy though, really, just lots of changes and no real time for him to be 10) was caught shaking and fish hooking his little brother to get him to stop crying, who's almost 2 but is currently undergoing MIR's to find out why he is barely sitting up, let alone standing, and when I heard about it, the light went on, because the doctors are baffled and can't find anything wrong. Things have only become minimally better since they realized he needed glasses. C is left alone with Z a lot to 'watch' him. Anyone that saw it are wrestling with telling J, the mom, because they have so much on their plates already. They're worried that C will get in trouble instead of having explained to him why not to it. But anyhow, he shouldn't be babysitting at 10. HIs mother is getting remarried too this weekend and is pregnant, so C must be in a weird place, being shuffled 50/50 between parents.
The other thing is more of a bitch about one of the moms but I don't want it to sound bitchy, iyswim. I got up and put on oatmeal with blueberries for DD and the other kids and there was plenty for parents too. I put on big thing of coffee and plate of cut up fruit, juice out, breakfast stuff, you know, get the kids fed then the rest is butter. She gets up with G, her DS, 22 months, and gives him a big cup of milk. That's fine, but then she hands him the plate with the cheesy puffs on it from the night before. He ate a couple, cried, she gave him a piece of banana, he ate it, cried, she gave him a packet of craisins, he ate and whined. I told her there was oatmeal for him and she said, 'Oh ya, we'll get to it'. I was watching her, because I was sitting down having coffee and breakfast with DD and some of the other kids, and I can say, I'm not entirely sure what she was doing most of the time. She finally sat down with her mammoth travel mug, that emptied the big coffee I made, (whatever, you can make more, but come on, really, you don't need to fill the cup just because you can, it was like a 3 cup coffee mug!) She got herself some oatmeal, but by then, G is not interested, he's beyond eating, he's clingy and super whiney, then starts the opening of pre-packaged food to feed him, none of which he really ate, just nibbled. That's how she fed him the whole time, which means he never really ate, and was cranky the whole time. He spends most of his time with the Thai Nanny, who is extremely efficient but not so friendly, but G is use to the extreme routine. At least start his day with proper structure. Other things were like, she only took him for a walk in the stroller; he hardly walks, but that might be because he is always wearing these horrific platformish shoes, so he can't feel how to walk and she never walks with him; carries or puts in stroller. He wasn't even in his bare feet when we went to the beach and she wouldn't go into the pool because there was some kids in there. Weird. I don't know. DH said it was like having a kid was an accessory for her, and it almost seems like that. Not that she doesn't adore her LO, I think she has come to depend on her nanny so much, she is out of her element when left on her own with G. Her DH is RCMP and is extremely over protective of G too. The most protective parent I have ever watched. Anyhow, I love these people but when they're sitting in front of you complaining, and you know what the problem is but it would be/could be, a touchy subject once breached, what do you say? Well, my new approach is to keep my mouth shut. I've also found out that I'm the rock star mom in our group, () so I don't want that to be a point of contention, iyswim. It was a fun camping trip anyhow. Actually, I had to laugh too because all the kids were sick by the second night, but the previous night, (we weren't up there yet) all the kids shared R's bath water and he had an ear infection, but they were all talking like, 'how did that happen?' Funny.

chefswife · 30/06/2010 18:19

EPIC POST!!! Sorry!

hackneyzoo · 30/06/2010 20:20

Tree.gaHHHH...I just broke my shopping emabrgo and spent 40 quid on the frugi sale...arghhh. I did get paid today though...so...

Chef camping sounds good, re your friend, I wouldn't say anything, just from reading threads on here I think people take it very personally when people say something about thier parenting, even if it is in the kindest possible way, so my rule of thumb is unless the child is at risk you just have to grin and bear it....even if it goes against all your own priciples. (I have been doing a lot of this of late as we have had BIL and his family staying...the kids live on processed crap food and we have VERY DIFFERENT ideas on parenting )

120 Love the pic of H in drag, super cute, he is looking very grown up now.

Moose...well done again with todays meeting, you are a great mummy! How are the cup cakes? I need to get baking, my Dad is 85 at the weekend and expecting a cake...I was going to make a big pavlova and stuff it with cream and straws...anyone got a good recipe?

Tea...Have you done your cake yet? Is it DDs b'day today? if so happy b'day!

Dog, glad you are feeling better, was worried about you last night. Hope you aren't too knackered from the bedtimes.

Lenni am super of your shopping trip...I really need want a personal shopping experience!

Tink, how was sports day?

treedelivery · 30/06/2010 20:25

Oh gosh yes Tea. Sorry, I didn't realise was so near WHat did you do re the cake in the end?

Good work HKZ, I like to see a wage spent before the first day is out

Lol with chef. I agree about saying nothing, although it is mega mega hard.

hackneyzoo · 30/06/2010 20:46

Are any of you footy fans? My media friend just sent me this leaked article...I couldn't care less and have no idea who the people are...but I understand it is hot gossip
"Courts held a further 2 week gagging order on steve gerrards
private life... turns out he got his wifes sister pregnant (not a
16 year old )
Will hit the newspaper in 14 days, the judge held the gagging
order to protect FA while they decide on capello, and the
future of English footy..
John terry and the england boys all know about it and JT had a
argument with capello because gerrard got to keep the captains
armband. the tension in the camp was down to JT and half the
team saying gerrard was a disgrace and the other half of the
squad backing gerrard..The press conference was related to the
tension and JT wanted Gerrard exposed - they hate each other.."

treedelivery · 30/06/2010 20:50

OMG!!!!!!!!!!! That's some scoop!

missjackson · 30/06/2010 20:52

tree paving looks amazing.hkz I also went a bit crazy with the frugi sale - now that's what I call a sale! Some stuff was 75% off! And loads of sizes left too. Thanks for the tip tree! MM sounds like your meeting went really well and fingers crossed school starts looking up for DS now.

120 well done for dropping the morning feed - I could probably do that too if I wasn't so lazy - I should just kick both DS and DH out of bed and let him have a proper breakfast downstairs instead of from me! I have managed good distraction techniques today, but still had to feed about three times.

[whispering] I got a bfp today but so, so early on, and so worried it won't last.... so no congratulations please. Am just going to keep super schtum about it until 12 weeks.

treedelivery · 30/06/2010 20:53

It can't be true, surely. Have I just fallen for a big prank? ]grin]

missjackson · 30/06/2010 20:55

Also meant to say chef, camping trip sounded like mostly fun, but that's terrible about the 2 yo kid with the older brother abuse though - I hope your friends manage to tell his parents and they get some help for their family... Crap food is one thing, but that's on a whole different level.

Your breakfast sounded great; can you come camping with us next time?

teaandcakeplease · 30/06/2010 21:02

Can I at least give you a ((hug)) Miss J for the BFP? Praying for a sticky egg x

DD's birthday isn't until 28th July. Invites were posted today. Still thinking about cake lots and lots

hackneyzoo · 30/06/2010 21:07

MissJ (((big squeeze)) what did you get from Frugi? i got these for J and this and this for Lil, am really wanting to go back and add these too but am showing very grown up restraint...but they are unisex and stripy and lovely....

Tree I have no idea if its true or not as know nothing about footy...but my friend is a big media whore and knows people who know so who knows? Am I making sense? Oh and festi tip....keep your rizlas in a plastic bag

treedelivery · 30/06/2010 21:09

Well I totally missed that post missJ

Woop woop

hackneyzoo · 30/06/2010 21:18

Chef, just reread your post, meant to say with the C and Z thing, I would say something if the parents are your good friends, it is irresponsible to put a ten year old in that position and unfair on him, especailly if he has a lot of other things going on. Poor kid shouldn't be left to cope with a crying two year old, I think his actions, although wrong, are understandable given his age and situation, I feel for him. I hope the little boy is ok, do they have any idea at all why his development is delayed?

120 · 30/06/2010 21:25

Chef, are you competing with Moosey? You'll never win y'know .

Glad you had a good holiday. I'm with the others. Say nothing and stay wise. Be very nice to the babies that you think need more care and spend more time with them if you can. That's all you can do really.

Work is kicking off big time and I've got to make some hard decisions about spending time with my babies as well as being pretty much forced to finish the feeding as there'll be a lot more time away from home. boo hiss.

Am trying to think of the cash, but frankly, it's not helping!

HZ - lets plan a drink(s) night. We could go for a nice supper somewhere in the village.

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stripeywoollenhat · 30/06/2010 21:28

chef, i agree with hkz about the 10 year old, there's no way it's fair to either of the children, even though i appreciate it might be difficult for their parents to organise things otherwise. hope you feel it's possible for you to say something, can't be an easy position to be in.

tree, argh, no more sales! poor, overused credit card is now even further stretched...

missj, i'm saying nothing