Jan 09 Summer sun, peachy bums and... toddler tantrums..

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New thread here...

Have just downloaded it Tree. What a beautiful tribute to an amazing girl. Will try and keep the thread bumped for you. x

Hi there elkie, how are things with you and yours?

Thank you Moosey.

Yay for elkiedee. How's in going?

Off to parents eve, back later x

Dog, my iron levels were low but not low enough to be considered anaemic for most people. The mw said to try the pills anyway and there was almost an overnight improvement. (Although I went onto Floradix instead asap to avoid the dreaded constipation. )

She said the standard guidelines really just represent the average range and the amount of iron needed varies from person to person. So, where another person with my iron levels would be fine, I obviously need a higher iron concentration in my blood to be able to function normally.

My mum is the same with her thyroid. She measures slightly above the level required to diagnose hypo-thyroid, but when they tried her on thyroxine it literally changed her life, as she had been feeling so ill for months before.

My three are all still up as had to wait for dh to come home and feed them. Its way too late now and they are all going to be so grumpy tomorrow.

yes, hope you have a lovely browse through J's folder/book.

I tried to buy the song but am not allowed to download their download app to buy it as the work computers are locked administratviely. Have liked it on my facebook though, so hopefully that will get more attention. Couldn't find the other thread in chat either .

Moosey, sorry to hear about you foot. Hopefully they will work out what on earth has truly happened.

Hi Elkie

soooo tired. Hopefully will pick up near the end of the week as have a night out with DP on thurs and dinner with HZ on fri.

I currently just want to curl up in a corner. Don't know what is wrong with me. Am eating ok, sleeping at least 6-7 undisturbed hours a night (usually need 8, but that is better than I've had in 3 years). I wake up every morning feeling hungover, whether I've had a drink the night before or not, feel permanently exhausted and am confused and lacking in..erm..clarity of thought. Have just dropped the morning feeds properly in the last two weeks and seem to be losing weight. Don't know if it is baby hormonal/stress about job/virus or what. Hideous.

120 - when Jacob started sleeping through the night I actually felt worse for quite a while, despite getting more sleep per night than I had for a long time. My theory was my body was finally trying to catch up. I felt rotten every morning though. Have you tried Berocca? They're very good and definitely help me loads!

Moose - Ouch ouch ouch! So sorry your ankle is still so sore, hope tomorrow they can at least find a treatment that heals it fast!

DOG - seriously impressed at 2 DCs in bed so early!

Tree - good luck at parents evening

My bond is very different with DC2 I thought it was due to marriage breakdown, 17 month gap between them and also due to him being horrendous with colic for 10 weeks at the beginning and screaming constantly. Its definitely changing and evolving lately to something better.

Tonight I feel like Cruella Devile (sp?) and I want to be Mary Poppins DD had several wee accidents this afternoon on the carpet and sofa , kept rushing around being silly, not sharing with her brother and pushing him over. I felt like I spent her last 90 mins awake telling her off and raising my voice constantly and now I feel like a failure. I realised as I put her to bed I'd hardly praised her at all today or much recently. It's hard being a lone parent but I should be used to it by now, as it was October my H and I separated. I want to be this perfect loving mummy to make up for their wretched daddy....

Oops sorry DOG I meant 3 DCs

Oh tea, my DD is being a terror at the moment too by being mean to H. I'm thinking it's because I've been spending more time with him so she is jealous. Must be soo hard on your own. You are doing a terrific job so don't be too hard on yourself!

Interesting that you had that too. Not nice at all. Can't take Berocca when still BF, but used to have it all the time for hangovers in my 20's! Am planning to stop BF in the next month or so, so maybe it will all settle down after that and I can get my body back. The spinning has already started to have a big effect on my shape, so maybe that's something to do with it too? Just don't know and too tired to think about it!

Do you take the breast feeding pregnacare by vitabiotics? Maybe more vitamins in a safer form would still help?

Thank you for the kind words, still feel rotten and that I don't praise her and affirm her enough.

Oh Tea ((hugs)) no-one is perfect and you are doing a great job. You don't have to make up for their Daddy, you just have to be their Mummy and love them, that's all they need and that doesn't mean being perfect, it just means doing your best and loving them.

Believe me, my Dad was hopeless, absent much of the time and often left me waiting by the window on contact days from dawn till dusk when he didn't show up - it did hurt, obviously, but I knew I was loved and my Mum cared for me and that love was my security blanket. My Mum was no angel either, she has a temper which puts mine firmly in the shadows and I was always the one that caught it (literally) but, I always knew I was loved and being at home with my Mum was my safe place - to be honest my crap Dad didn't figure as long as I knew I had my Mum and my sister.

Everyone has bad days. When I've had a day like that, I go in and kiss them in their sleep and tell them that I love them, then the next morning tell them I'm sorry that I was a shouty Mummy yesterday and suggest we all have a better day today.

Tomorrow is a new day. ((more hugs))

I am just about to buy this book for my boys, to remind them that even though I get cross with them and am shouty sometimes it doesn't change how much they are loved and always will be. I love you stinky face is another good one with a similar message and my boys love it.

Be warned though, I bought Love You Forever a few years back and it makes me cry every time I read it.

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Thanks for bumping Moosey babe.

((((((((((hugs)))))))))) for Tea, because you deserve them, We are blessed, we have tomorrow and can begin again. When I feel like this, and I do, I get up before they do. I get dressed and have a drink. Then I take deep breaths and basically beging the show. Stepford mum. If I have had enough sleep I can almost convince myself! I place a small goal of getting dd1 to school without any sarcasm or josling her along.

Small goals. Seems to help me.

Also hugs to 120 and DOg. WHo sapped all the energy!? 120 bet you have a virus. I def had something after dd1. I used to have to go up the stairs on my hands and knees. To this day I don't know if it was depression, viral, or a combination of both triggereed by either.

120, I am taking Fembion Energetic Mum vitamins and have noticed a huge difference.

You can also take Floradix while you are bf and that always perks me up.

Do you think you might be overdoing the spinning and that's why you are so tired? I always do that, throw myself headlong into a new exercise regime instead of easing myself in gently.

Other than that, are you sure you are over your 'low mood'. One of the signs of depression is all encompassing exhaustion and waking up in the morning feeling exhausted even though you have had a full night's sleep. Please keep an eye on it. It might be worth a quick visit to the GP to see what they think.

Oh yes, Dog, if there's a history of thyroid problems definitely get it checked, as it can be triggered by pregnancy. Also keep a close eye postnatally as that is another 'trigger point'.

Lol, I know what you mean about her being your MIL. I would definitely make sure she didn't have a key!

Tree, I had a mystery virus? after I had ds1. Similar to you, totally exhausted to the point of crawling around, but I had really bad l/s abdominal pain that they couldn't find the source of either. The GPs were totally stumped. Dh wanted to take me on holiday to Ireland for some tlc and to get some R&R, but they wouldn't authorise me to travel and made me sign a form saying I had gone against their advice. It went on for a few months and I still don't know what it was to this day.

Ooo odd Moose. I wonder if it is bf related, because come to think of it I must have been winding down feeding about then?!

I have totally blown my mn cover by lnking into charity Ellie's fund. Am now undecided. SHould I name change tpo preserve myself. I like my name though, and who cares who I am? I'd totally have to never mention work again though. Doesn't sound so bad

So she does! I'd forgotten that. Good reason to keep the windows locked methinks.

I found the bh hurt more with each pregnancy (I won't mention the afterpains) - has that been the same for you?

Tree, I think you could easily be covered by a standard little caveat.

Perhaps or something similar but much better worded. I think that's how Tiktok managed to keep giving out such excellent advice on breastfeeding.

Oh yes, how did you get on at parents' evening? Bet they said she's a little superstar didn't they?

Hello folks.

Parents eve was a hoot. It was more of a pupils eve. DD1 showed us all around everywhere, and gave us a blow by blow account of her wrok folder. We had a general chat with the teachers. There didn't seem much to talk about, as she is doing well and I guess at this stage it is sort of puppy school isn't it? Hard to discuss the ins and outs of learning when you are looking at a picture of a tadpole. I thought they would think me a loon if I started going into assessments and learning goals etc. As everything is ok I guess we just wafted about and enjoyed dd1's pride in her success.

So I fished for compliements about dd1, they gave them and we left

They said to maybe work on her writing, so we will.

Thanks for asking. You are lovely. Am feeling full of love as the charity thread has gone well.

I'm staying me. If I need to vent about someone or something I guess I'll namechange, and cunningly point you all in the right direction