May 2010: All the babies have arrived, welcome to the other side!

[rachelfruitloop]

Here we are ladies, a new Postnatal thread! I wonder if we'll fill this one up as fast with one-handed typing?!

WLTK We've had green poo now and then too; mw said it was a sign of colic and we did notice it was always after Jude had had a particularly fussy/crying day. It's nothing to worry about unless it's consistent.

newmomma :( huge hugs to you. Is there any chance of you getting away for some you time, a massage or something? Sorry if that's rubbish advice but just worried for you.

cupcake, that actually makes sense, oscar had a difficult couple of days after jabs.

newmomma, i wish i had some advice to make it all better

I thought the green poo was too much fore milk not enough hind milk, Jacob has the odd green nappy but as long as it's the odd one it should be ok.

I have seen FF babies with solid green poos, maybe some FF mums know more?

I think it is really hard when another baby comes along and you have to split your time between 2, motherhood comes complete with a huge dose of guilt, you never feel like you have enough quality time with either of them. I would love to spend some one on one time with each of mine but I just cannot, I try to listen to them and maybe spend even 10 minutes with them just listening to them each day, it's so hard though.

wouldliketoknow - so your initials are AS on FB? Just checking, it's hard to keep up with who is who, MN names and RL names

yes, and i never know who is who

BRB..yes I was rather cross at DH as I pointed out..although she is no longer exclusiveky breastfed, she doesnt need juice..sigh..

Newmomma will go an have a look at your other thread today

Rachel..I recommend chatting with your HV..everything DS1 is doing is attention seeking..but do not feel guilty..he will get used to his brother and in time will actually miss him when he is not there..yes honestly!.

when Eric is a little older you can leave him with DH and take DS1 out to spend some time with him..beleive it or not..I try and spend time individualy with the DCs..even if its just time sat in either of the DS's chatting to them about their day..we are having similiar probs with DD2 who is feeling very jealous..so Im trying to make the effort to sit and have some time with her

tomlin Lmao at your Oh My God. V funny. My mum is a minister (vicar in England), but think she would see funny side. Christening question came up at my neice'ss 1st bday today. Tricky subject as DH doesn't really want Sam christened as we don't go to church anymore (he is/wascatholic and I am/was church of Scotland). Neither of us really beilevers so get his point, but would put my mum in bit of a position in her parish if he wasn't. Iwould quite like it really as nice celebration for Sam esp as we had such a tough start with the spinal puncture headache thing. No real celebration of birth happened. Not complaining, we just got on with things.

BRB SK I would be on for a Glasgow meet or wherever suited. There was a third person too from inverness. Sorry mind like a sieve., Was it heffa?

Newmomma Hope things get better for you soon. Sounds really, really tough. Sam has his moments, but can't imagine it being all day. Poor wee mite. Is colic meant to stop at about 12 weeks? Hopefully light at the end of the tunnel? Just think soon you will be calmly snuggling up together and getting those lovely lovely smiles.

short feeds Someone posted about this. I'm finding feeds much shorter now too during the day only though. He seems to pull off alot. Sometimes for smiles, but sometimes v grumpily and not sure why. Sam was also waing every 2 hrs at night and I thought it was maybe cause he was feeding for such short periods during day. Who knows? Sam thankfully slept better last 3 nights. Me feeling bit better today if still a bit dizzy at times. Enjoyed DH being off to help.

Anyone find their brain has totally disappeared? I can not spell or punctuate for anything and I got an A for higher English and then studied it at uni! My face book status had thankfully as two words and no punctuation. It's just fallen out my head!

ML I would have been mad at my DH for the juice. Recent thing here is my mum saying I need to start weaning Sam as that is why he is up so much in the night. Boll*cks. Pretty sure Bmilk is v high calorie and he is only 11 weeks. Think it is a generation thing.

We have also had green poos, usually when her feeding is erratic.

Right this minute she is lying on our bed looking at a picture book with daddy.

She seems to have decided certain things are daily essentials

1. Morning playtime and rhymes with daddy
2. Naked playtime at 5ish before a bath, she pushes with her feet to lift her tummy for daddy to blow raspberries. Very cute

She seems to see me as cuddles comfort and food and daddy as playmate
It is lovely to see them having fun.
Does anyone else wonder how to entertain their baby or is it just me?

I am very impressed at those people driving for holidays. I love driving but haven't done more than an hours journey
With virginia yet.

Another one who is trying to match minute names with fb. I have a few
That I am sure of but working through the rest.

Who was it suggested lists for packing? I totally agree, I have lists for everything
Even colour coded for each person, sounds sad but I cope better when organised

Newmomma. Big hugs to you. It WILL get better.

Minute names???? Aaah I mean mumsnet. Yep sassles, proof that my brain is also scrambled.

morning, everyone
i am enjoying one of those rare moments when everyone is asleep and everything is quiet, see if i can have breakfast in peace for once...

Newmomma- :( I really really hope things improve soon for you. It must be so draining both pyhsically and emotionally. I too have heard great things about cranial osteopath. Might be worth a try.

Molly- enjoy your holiday :)

Tomlin- I hope the christening went well and DS didnt say anthing inappropriate

Rachel- I too have days of feeling sad for DD. I do try to spend abit of time with her whilst Lucy naps and get out on family days out when possible.
She's still talking about meeting Peppa and George so think ive clocked up some Good mummy points for a while :)

ML- Hope Olivias tummy is more settled now after the juice. DD1 is 2 and hardly ever has juice. I have a long running disagreement over this with my mum, who thinks im being cruel. She happily drinks water or milk so why bother with juice.

Sassles- We are in the same boat. DH is a complete athiest and refuses to get either of the girls christened. I can see his point and im not overly fussed either way. He also refused to get married in a church, but that was fine as we married in a lovely little castle instead :)

Homebirth- DD1 is exactly the same.. Mummy is for general day to day stuff, but Daddy is the fun one!

Im another list maker! DH cringes when i say im going to make a list

Been busy blitzing the upstairs rooms this morning and doing lots of odd jobs that ive been meaning to do.

Ive just booked Lucy's Handprints to match DD1's on the wall and ordered a big Canvas photo print of her to hang in our room to match the one we have of DD1.

I plan to have a practice on my camera this afternoon too. Some of you will know that Photography is a hobby of mine and I like to do arty shots of the girls. DH's work collegue saw the pics and thought we had had professional ones done. She has just had a little boy who is about 4 weeks now and has asked me to do some of her DS. Im abit nervous as its ok when its just for you but added pressure of will she like them etc.
If it goes OK and she likes them, I may look into doing it in a more formal cappacity.

DH is away all next week which im dreading, just hope the girls behave themselves! Im making the most of DH this weekend to get bits done so its less to do during the week.

DD is bugging me for the bouncy castle up as the suns out so have a good afternoon all :)

Sorry to all those struggling with older DCs, must be really hard.

Homebirthmummy - Corin seems to mostly be entertained by DD, and loves naked time. As soon as he realises his clothes are coming off he starts laughing and wriggling around.

My initials on Facebook are RW. Pretty sure I know who most people are.

Newmomma - huge hugs to you, you sound so down :( I hope the colic clears up soon and you can start enjoying her more.

hbmummy I agree it's hard to know how to entertain them at this age. Jude will stay on his playmat for around 20 minutes before he starts fussing and crying. His current favourite toy sems to be a muslin square...if I put one in his hands he starts cooing lots and chewing it, quite cute :)

pigley good luck with the photos :) we bought a DSLR camera before J was born & I'm so pleased with the shots we've been getting. Can't wait til he's a bit older and more active for good photos. We don't have any good ones of the 3 of us together though so hoping my BIL-to-be will take some of us soon as he's a v good photographer. Would be a shame not to get good ones while he's still small.

sassles was it Gils who was near Inverness? I miss some of our ladies who haven't posted in ages...if you're reading ladies do pop in and say hi!
And yes I'm also finding my brain going to mush and can't think of certain words or misspell them (I do studied English at Uni!!)

Ooh, also..my bf is about 30 weeks pregnant & I'm putting together a shoebox of goodies for her to take to the hospital as my MIL did that for me and it was lovely.
I already have stuff I found really useful (mini toiletries, hand gel, tissues, energy tablets, sweets/chocs, dried fruit, nipple cream...) anyone got tips of what you couldn't have gone without at the hospital, or that you find really useful now (for example, my MIL gave me mini antibacterial hand gel for the hospital & I now have it in the changing bag for when out and about and unable to wash my hands post-nappy change..)

All suggestions gratefully received :) (this is like deja vu of our hospital bag chats!!)

lots of huge underwear and oversix#ze t-shirt, altought maybe best she chose that herself.

Cupcake - for afterwards Lavender oil and nice soft Natracare maternity pads, also Lucozade Sport Orange drink or similar. One of those perked both me and baby up during the pushing phase.

cupcake a pack of anti-bac cleaning wipes? uber practical but I wouldn't have been without them

newmomma really thinking of you, want you to know we're all here to support in anyway we can.

Busy w/e for me, totally exhausted now. Need to have a moan ... Was my birthday on Fri (21 again), spent the day with DC & although DH had to be at work was showered with lots of lovely pressies & attention. But then had to travel up north alone in the eve as Sat was my oldest friend's hen do. First time I've left Harry so obviously anxious. Arrived at my parents late on Fri & my mum forgot to wish me a happy birthday & didn't even have a card for me! She remembered by Sat am & wished me happy belated but made me feel a bit pants. Anyway the hen was awesome, drank too many cocktails & crawled in at 3am :) But today had to do 4.5 hr journey to join DH at his parents to celebrate his Aunts 60th. All I really wanted was to be at home just the 4 of us. MIL offered to open champage & DH's nan said that would be lovely as there was double birthday to celebrate & MIL quickly said no, today was all about her sister's special birthday. Bit rude seeing as I'd barely had any time with DH to celebrate my bd. She doesn't even like her sister?! Anyway it was all a bit awkward & I know I was frosty. Whole w/e has made me think how lucky I am to have wonderful DH & our 2 gorgeous munchkins. Moan over

Love to all!

Hi Ladies,
Just a quick one tonight! Eric turned over onto his tummy from his back for the first time on Fri, at 11 weeks old. Today, every time I put him on his playmat or blanket on the floor he turned over to his tummy and desperately tried to crawl! DS1 was about 6 months old when he first turned over and didn't start crawling until he was a year old, (though he's always been the type to sit back and observe and not very "physical". Made him a very easy baby to look after!) so I am quite surprised! I reckon I'm going to have my hands full with this one! I hope everyone had a good weekend!

Happy belated birthday Millingtonsmummy! Sorry things were so awkward with your MIL, that would have really upset me! Well done lasting til 3 am for the hen do, you trooper!

Millingtonsmummy, a belated happy birthday, its blo0dy awful when people forget,perhaps we could start a list of
When peoples birthdays are, throw each other virtual birthday parties?

rachel, I am very impressed at Eric's new skills

I am lying awake, Virginia is having a night of 2hourly feeds,DH is doing a darn good
Impression of a pneumatic drill next to me and keeping me awake. Problem is I am now lying
Here thinking too much and upsetting myself. I am so bloody lonely, I was ashamed of myself over my divorce 6 years ago
And kind of ran from everybody (shame was in fact that I'd hidden years of abuse and now was seen as divorcing for no reason)anyway,
I now have a new life which is very nice but I have no idea who I am anymore, feel lost and have no real friends who I can turn to and no idea
How to make any as I feel so inadequate. I don't want a friend for the purpose of moaning, but for oppportunity to have someone to laugh with, God how
I miss having a laugh with other women!

I am sorry for bringing you all down with my post, hope it all looks brighter in the daylight.

home, you don't bring anybody down, i also feel that way, i live quite far from where i work(ed) so seeing work buddies is difficult, my 'best' friend was a woman a couple of years younger than me, she is married, to someone double her age, and has a girl in cuba she is trying to bring here, we were happy going for coffee and having a laugh, but when i found out i was pregnant she didn't like it muchshe wants a baby, dh said a firm no, she started to go out to disco bar and weekend alone in london, with some new lady friends, but she also grow apart from her husband,...quite disturbing, really, but i haven't heard from her since march, i remember because it was the start of my maternity leave,
my solution, go to baby groups, you'll make friends with one or two mums, and i think i can garantee a laugh...

Millingtonsmummy happy belated birthday . On my first mothers day MIL (who I actually like) made a similar remark as it was FIL's birthday too so had all gathered for meal. DH wished me happy first mothers day and she said birthdays were much more important than mothers day . I actually agree but no need to say it, especially for someones first one.

Home and WLTK, my best friend moved to Australia without telling me!! It was very odd. She had a baby (before me) and simply disappeared during maternity leave. She ignored all my messages. last year she got back in touch and said sorry. She has a very controlling boyfriend who made her to do it she remains controlled today.Anyway nice to be back in touch with her but avoid the subject of him.

Alex is 3 months today. rachel impressed with the moving. I had a dream that Alex could roll everywhere, he can't He is very big so I think he wont be far off. I dont really want him to move just yet . DD is finally getting used to him but if he moves near her things (or even his own, poor soul) that may be another story!

ps) one of my best mummy friends has just found that her ivf has failed She has one DD and says she wont try again as so emotionally and physically difficult. I am very sad on her behalf. We are so lucky, even though I am very tired and sometimes wonder what on earth I am doing. I feel for her. Know she is lucky to have the one DD but still big thing to know thats it now.

Ps) does anyone find they are sweatier b/feeding? I think I smell, not so much bo but just warm and funny

Hi all, just marking the thread as I've fell off. One-handed typing as rocking Grace to sleep with the other.

Hope those feeling down feel better soon :)