May 2010: All the babies have arrived, welcome to the other side!

[rachelfruitloop]

Here we are ladies, a new Postnatal thread! I wonder if we'll fill this one up as fast with one-handed typing?!

[memorylapse]

oh my word..are we due a new thread again!!!

thanks Rachel

[rachelfruitloop]

Morning Ladies,

I hope you don't mind, I have started a new thread called May 2010 - Drooling, smiling, cooing and nearly sleeping through (and that's just the mummies!)

[memorylapse]

thanks everyone for your kind thoughts..I think new baby and hormones..also the milestone 20 year anniversary made it seem more poignant..it was my due date.Hollyoaks..I so wish I had a picture of him.I lost him in May 1990.I have nothing to remember him by apart from the baby gro I bought him when Pregnant.I spent summer wantingto die and screaming with grief everytime I saw a baby...I got pregnant again quickly and DD1 was born the following July.
Homebirth..my mum beahved as if he never existed..I got a "get well" card after he was born

After DD2 was born in 2004..I lost two babies in quick succesion, one at 16 weeks the other at 23 weeks...which is why I was so anxious during my pregnancy with DD3

any way..that day is passed now..time to move forward...
First1 I forgot to offer my congrats on the job..you are doing so well..the phoenix rising from the ashes

[wouldliketoknow]

yesterday and today, 3 bottles each day only, and we mastered a new sleeping routine, 8 pm to 6 am am i evil?

[millingtonsmummy]

Thinking of you ML. As others have said, I'm so grateful to have my 2 DC.

[pamelat]

ML thinking of you.

[DancingThroughLife]

Have been failing at keeping up this week. I just get comfy then get called off to do duties just as I start to post.

ML, more big hugs from me. I hope you're coping in your way, I'm sorry, I don't know what else to say. Thinking of you x

[TwentiethCenturyHeffa]

Oh ML, big hugs to you. That must be so so hard :( I can't imagine anything harder than losing a child.

[hollyoaks]

ML - big hugs, if you want to talk about your little boy on here than please do. I know my ds talks about her little boy all the time, she has 3 dc not 2 and his names on birthday cards etc. I have his picture up and think about him everyday, sometimes with sadness and always wondering what would have been. He would have been 2 next month. Was yesterday your ds's birthday or edd? :)

[wouldliketoknow]

ml, big hugs to you, my aunty lost the last baby, no 4, it was a boy, after 3 girls, she keep him in a bottle of formol at home, and visit him every birthday, weird but sweet...

my friend also lost her baby when we were 18-20 weeks pregnant, it is hard to deal with.

let's count our blessings and look at our beautiful babies...

[homebirthmummy4]

Oh ML. Bless you, it must be unbelievably hard for you. HUGS
A friend of mine whose firstborn was born same day as my firstborn lost 3 babies after that, each one late on (between 26 and 40 weeks)
She told me the hardest thing was people pretending those babies never existed. I don't know if that is how you feel
But if it helps you to let it all out I am here, or on fb, or I will give you my number if you want.

[Hobnobfanatic]

I'm so sorry, M:L. I can't imagine the grief from losing a baby - even thinking about it is too hard to consider.

[rachelfruitloop]

So sorry ML big hugs to you. I can imagine that is something one can never get over really. Truly heartbreaking. Really puts things in perspective. I feel so blessed to have my boys.

[memorylapse]

just a quickie as Ive dropped off thread will add personals another time.

20 years ago my first baby was due but I lost him to an abruption at 26 weeks..Ive spent the day blubbering and generally feeling sorry for myself..feel kind of choked and raw today like its just happened..

[Carikube]

Hello all, quick post from holiday so I don't lose the thread...
Had a lovely day in Llandudno today with some friends and their children and DD1 was very cute putting her new walking skills to good use. DD2 is still being the model baby which is useful, though we were also talking about teething today as her gums are starting to look a bit pinker and she seems to be getting a bit more upset than usual.

Anyway, off to enjoy a few more days hols so sorry for lack of personals....

[cupcakefairy]

pigley Jude weighs the same as Lucy and he's only 9.5 weeks!

Shopping sounds fab, I really want some wedges!

[pigleychez]

first1- Glad your getting things translated now :)

Hollyoaks- Hope Grace improves soon :(

Pamlet- Theres been a constant comparison between DD and my niece. It does drain!

WLTK- Lucy kicks about and has a habit of getting poo on her socks/feet.

Having a better day today thankfully!

Took Lucy to be weighed first thing.. at 12 weeks shes 12lbs 1.5ozs. :)

Mum came mid morning and we went into town for some shopping. I actually bought somethings for me!! Its usually for the girls so a welcome change. Couple of tops and a fab pair of wedges. I might even start to look abit trendy again!

Mum is being kinda helpful.. when prompted. Did get abit annoyed earlier though when Lucy was crying and I was doing something with DD and instead of helping she asked for the remote so she could turn the tv up as she could hear it [grrr]
Shes now snoring on the sofa. At least DD hasnt whined for Daddy today :)

Planning to go to the farm tomorrow- weather being ok.

[cupcakefairy]

Hello ladies, just a quick drop in..

hbm sorry you have been feeling down :( wish we could all live nearer for a good girly giggle!

Well done to all those coping with DCs on their own! Don't know how you do it..

lol, WLTK Jude is hard to hold down too and regularly kicks his legs so manically he sticks his feet right into his dirty nappy I've just taken off!

[wouldliketoknow]

good news: we are now regular with the poo, 9am and 5 pm.
bad news: that is also bath time, as massive, explosive poo gets to the nappy, the vest, the trousers, the sheet...bum, legs, back, tummy, and it is hard to hold him so he won't touch anything and stick his hand in his mouth...

need some cake now...

[TwentiethCenturyHeffa]

Pamelat - I hate it when people comment on the differences. My parents are terrible for it, especially banging on about how boys are so much easier etc. My DSis and I ignore it, especially because they've always talked about the differences between us as well and it's really annoying!

Hollyoaks - I hope Grace is OK :) Sounds very worrying. I generally find I can tell the difference between anxiety and mother's instinct tbh - I know if I'm being over-anxious and can control it.

Re teething - can't believe how early some of them get teeth! I'm worrying about feeding when he's got teeth - do they bite more or is it OK?

Glad we're not the only ones with a noisy baby! He wakes me up in the night with his farts sometimes I'm trapped between him and DH, not fun!

Pigley - hope you're having a better day today :) You definitely deserve a huge piece of chocolate cake. I got myself a takeaway last week just for putting them both to bed by myself.

Schipo - we used to use Tommee Tippee Closer to Nature for DD and she seemed to like them.

Rachel and Newmomma - hope you're both doing OK, thinking of you.

Good luck to all with baby jabs. Corin had his yesterday and was not a happy bunny. He was grumpy anyway so probably not the best day for it. Seems OK today though. We went on a train ride on the heritage railway with PIL and DD loved it.

[pamelat]

hollyoaks fingers crossed for you. Mothers instinct is a good thing most of the time. Can understand why you need to get her checked out.

It took me 5 appointments with my DD to get her disgnosed as reflux, no one believed me! Perserve if you think something needs seeing to,or at least just checking.

first, I wouldnt meet the ex at the moment. vulnerable time for you maybe? unless he can babysit whilst you go out of course joking.

[wouldliketoknow]

there's no distintion between mother's instinct and anxiety, i live in a panic

what a doctor told my mum in the a&e:' you're gonna have to learn to chill

[hollyoaks]

Hi again, thanks again for all of the reassurance but shortly after my last post Grace started vomiting, first milk and then yellow bile, lots of it and all over my sheets and mattress :(. Cue frantic call to gp surgery demanding to be seen straight away as I was not waiting with an 11 week old who was very sick. I got an emergency appointment with lovely gp who prescribed dioralyte and offered to see her this afternoon if she hasn't improved. She's currently having her second bf of today so we'll see if she keeps that down. Glad I'm seeing consultant next week as I can't help but think that there might be something else wrong. :(

I'm such a worrier I find it difficult to distinguish between mother's instinct and anxiety.

[homebirthmummy4]

My last 2 babies have both lost weight at some point. With Dd3 consultant said I wasn't feeding her enough (ebf) she was 'too' good I felt, slept a lot but I didn't believe consultant,
I felt something not right, made him do test, she had renal reflux and was then on antibiotics til age 5. Virginia has also lost weight but is bright as a button, she has had a cold and thrush and it has affected
My milk supply. Was it mollycuddles who suggested fenugreek? I have been using it 5 days now and she is feeding like a trooper again so I am not too concerned.

Just go with your natural mother's instinct. It is seldom wrong ime.

[first1]

Ah *schipo" love you lol! Good luck for baby's jabs, they're not fun but will be over very quickly.

I'm definitely NOT interested in being with anyone else for a very looong time. Just looking forward to going for a friendly coffee to catch up, but you're all right, I'm going to be extra cautious.

Legal stuff - I've asked solicitor's legal secretary to "translate" for me, which she's put in a long email and is now very self-explantory thankfully. It's just such a long process. Wish it could be done with a click of the fingers but I know that's wishing too much.

hollyoaks Grace sounds like a very content baby, she might just be destined to be a little wee thing!

pamelat sounds like you're getting a great feeding routine going, well done you!

rachel/newmomma hope you're both doing ok. Make sure to holla on here and let us know how you're both feeling.

teething - I think Chloe's first tooth is going to cut soon. She's gone from barely ever dribbling to being like a water fountain, and is always gnawing away at her tiny hand. Time for a teething ring me thinks. Any suggestions?