Fab Feb 2009: when they're good they are very very good, when they're bad they're todzillas...

[dinkystinky]

New thread for us to chat about our little jekyll & hydes...

Danny is currently stood next to me rearranging my DVD collection - I will be doing a work out to charlie & lola tonight apparently, while DS1 will be watching Billy Blanks Taebo with his pre-bedtime cup of milk and DH's history docu is hiding out with Diego in the city of lost toys...

hello everyone,
bank transfer for house deposit finally went yesterday..thank the lord!
had to put the car in for a service today and to get a new handbreak and timing belt replaced. god knows how much this will cost.
was woken up this morning with dp at 7 am shouting "shit, ive slept in, have a meeting with the solicitor at half 9 this morning, where's my passport??" bear in mind we sat last night and had dinner together and no mention of any solicitor or indeed any passport. The kids are up and shouting for juice/porrige/toast and i'm scrambling about like a manic chimp looking for a passport..
then its all my fault..
its totally put me in a bad mood all morning,i hate when he leaves everything to the last minute..grrrr.
apologies for the rant..

Morning all... sorry for being absent but have been poorly with tonsillitus.. which is ouch ouch ouch...

apart from that all is good here.. Except the house is too small and no room to swing a cat or baby what ever is closest at hand really...

dinky Thanks for asking about dp's work issue. Nothing has happened, no one has said anything at all about it. Proper joke. No way could they possibly have a case to sack him after continuing even now to let him work.
His team leader said that they're just going to give him a written warning.

Am really tired, but just wanted to pop on and say hi.
Will catch up better tomorrow.

SM it souds like they haven't got a leg to stand on really,hope it all just gets resolved asap xx

dinky have you taken some anti inflammatories?

morning.
dinky hope the shoulder is getting better
bumps that you have tonsillitis. Hope it gets better soon.

So, guess what happened yesterday? When I got into the school, I was in the class which I was in last thursday (great, love that class), and one of the perm TA's came in and said "Nicola, so you're with us permanently now then" and I said no, just today. She said "Oh. The agency were sending us someone on a perm basis, and we all assumed that'd be you. Are you sure it's just today?"
Then through the day, I was doing loads of stuff with the less able children, I was feeding and doing a bit of 1:1 work, then I went on the trip to the park so the teacher could show me the procedure of class outings.
The TA gave me loads of info on a private nursery down the road from the school so I could think about enrolling ds2 there.

I might call the agency and just tell them that I'd be interested in a more permanent position if ever there was anything going that the school would consider me for.........what do you think?

I just spoke to the agency and told them I would definitely be interested if anything more permanent camke up there.
She said that the school did originally ask about how available I was, but my contact had said my availability was only every few weeks, so I have told her it's just about childcare, but that if I was working and earning then I would be able to get childcare so that would necessarily be an issue and I'd be happy to step into a more regular position.
My contact is going to speak to the school later and let them know.
Where they'd asked for me first off, I think now they are trying to do it internally, but we shall see.
keep your fingers crossed

Wow - how exciting SM! If you like the school and there is a possible childcare solution for L, then it sounds workable. Am assuming you'd be able to work childcare out for DS1 too so all sounds good Glad nothing came of that discplinary meeting too for your DP - must be a relief.

Thanks for kind wishes and advice on shoulder too SM and LittleSez (yep am on anti-inflammatories) - seems to be getting abit better but am feeling v sluggish and fat at the moment with not having been able to do any exercise for a couple of weeks with combination of illness then shoulder so am going to try a gentle run over the weekend to see how it feels and then start doing non-weight bearing exercise next week which will be the real test!

Clarabumps - are you moving? DH puts me in charge of paperwork for the family too - on the plus side it means I always know where passports etc are but is v annoying when they spring on you suddenly that they need something.

Bumps - poor you with tonsillitis. Hope you're recovering swiftly and eating lots of yummy icecream (for medicinal purposes ) while you recover.

Well, ds1 is starting a school attached nursery next week, so he'd have to stay in the area.
My options are, there is a private nursery next to the school, and they do the hand-over, so he can go there in the mornings (breakfast club starts at 7am) and they'd take him to his nursery in the afternoon, and a friend of mine can collect him and give him dinner.
Or a friend said she wouldn't mind having him, but she's also just downsized her car, so don't think that's workable.
Ds2 can come to slough with me and hopefully be enrolled at a nursery there, or else he will have to join ds1 at the private nursery and stay there all day.
My only concern, si again paying out more than I'd be earning.
I'm sure people will help me out to begin with, until I learn to drive (will take lessons when and if I ever earn a regular income).
But, think the best thing is to jump off that bridge if I get to it and not get too carried away right now.
it might be too late

It all sounds workable SM - hope it all works out for you

Danny is being a monster with sleeping at the moment - not sure if its teething or picking up on stress of move - but he's been so difficult to get down to sleep (over 40 minutes of crying and reassuring him) and waking, standing and crying for mummy in the night several times as well. Its bloody exhausting - and shoulder isnt being helped with all the picking him up to comfort etc. Though on the plus side, he can now put on his own shoes and say "mummy", "bubble", "ball" and "tush" (for his bum) as well as daddy, cheese, Josh and bye

silvery, thats sounds like a great opportunity..it just seems a lot when you think about the logistics of getting dc's here there and everywhere.

My friend was in a situation like that a few years ago when her youngest was in full time childcare and it wasnt actually worth her while working at all ,however she wanted to keep some kind of foothold in her career so just kept at it. She found that circumstances changed and it did get better. She found a cheaper childminder then he was at nursery, and it eased off after a bit..but she said in the initial stages she couldnt think about the big picture, she just did it.

Dinky-we're due to complete on our new house today. its a shit-tip shell of a 2 bed semi but its a steal.we're currently in a 3 bed rented flat so its a major downsize but we have a massive loft and a front and back garden.

Dp is a joiner/kitchen fitter/plasterer/ french polisher..pretty handy but its just him trying to renovate a house on his days off. Groan!have told him we're not moving in untill its done cos as soon as we're in work will stop..and i'll become a moaning wench!

what does everyone have planned for the weekend??xx

Thanks Clara I do expect it to be quite hard to begin with, but I think we are all ready for me to do something outside of the home now.
Things are very strained here atm. That's just with ds1 and his current run of tantrums and complete melt-downs.

i know how you feel, if it werent for the fact there are no jobs in my current sector down here, id be back at work. I just get so jealous of the fact dp get to leave the house. I sometimes feel i'd like the kids more if i got a chance to miss them. ds1 has just stopped throwing his meltdowns and ds2 has started his. There is no joy in taking him anywhere, i permanently avoid going anywhere to eat or have a coffee as ds2 always kicks off. which then ends up in the domino effect of ds1 acting up. feel a bit like a hermit.
I think going back to work would do u the world of good. gives u something other than being a mammy.

Hello all, having a funny day here.

The dc's teacher called me in after school and expressed concerns about both kids. I suspect that the main reason for the talk was to deflect attention away from the fact that dd had another girl's homework diary sent home last night which contained highly sensitive personal information (questions to her mother about SN assessments ) and I dared to suggest that if she includes information like that in the homework diaries, she really should ensure they go in the correct bag (but it was dd's fault you see.... god damn 5 year olds not being 100% responsible ) However she did mention ds1 as well and expressed concerns (dyspraxia was mentioned)

Came home from that and have had A screaming hysterically ever since, no idea what on earth is wrong with him and am reaching the point of not caring tbh.

The dresser I ordered last week arrived but it was supposed to be cash on delivery and the delivery man seemed to have no idea about that so am having to chase it up now, can't pay by credit card as their system doesn't seem to like my card much (first the payment came off four times instead of one and once that was sorted it refused to take my card at all!) so am going to have to fanny around with getting a bank draft and all that nonsense.

HI clara weekend at littlesez household is working tomorrow including a show in the park, then having some me time out with the girls tomorrow night Then Sunday i am going to my SIL's for the day me and Izzy.

How about you?

SM its sad that the wage only covers the childcare. must make it a difficult decision but it does sound like you would be happy going for it

hey dinky, hope your ok this evening and not in too much pain, FC for a good nights sleep for you xxx

SR rough day and [hmmm] at the teacher

I am on my own! don't like it one bit but i have got the tele on loud Not looking forward to waking up without izzy cant wait to give her a massive squeeze tomorrow at work.

Morning all. Hope we're all ok.
littlesez I don't know what the wage will be. Atm, thru the agency, I am getting £50 per day, and I can imagine that it'll cost more than that to pay for 1 full and 1 half day in childcare.
Didn't hear back from agency yesterday, so maybe it's not looking good anyway.
Dp has gone off to play golf, but I told him when he gets in at lunch time, I'm going back to bed!
He's also agreed to work tomorrow, so it's just me with these 2 monster children I have.

My neighbour came round yesterday, and said she'd heard me scream at Jacob to "F* off" so she thought she'd just stop by to see if I was ok.
Half an hour later she came back with a bunch of flowers, a big bar of chocolate, a tub of ice cream, a bottle of wine, and heat mag to cheer me up after a rough day. How sweet is that?

(btw, i don't normally talk to my children in that manner, but I was not coping well yesterday)

Ergh, what a rubbish nights sleep. Was so tired I feel asleep about 10, woke up at 1am having a bad dream, 1.30am there was a fox crying outside my bedroom window, 2am F woke up and cried, settled him, he woke up again at 3.00 and came in with me (DH on nights) and then kicked and punched me all night until half past 6 when he sat up and shouted 'BOT BOT MAMA' in my face.

I am feeling tired and unmotivated this morning. I have made myself a strong cup of coffee and fed the children biscuits.

SR- at DD getting someone elses homework diary with such sensitive information inside!

SM- that was very kind of your neighbour- can she pop round here today? Glad the job sounds like it is going well for you.

MS Sorry you hand a rubbish night. Hope you can have a nice relaxing day today and that the dc's will be happy to sit and watch telly quietly. That'd be heaven hey?

must be a day for it..ive been a really long walk down the shore with the boys, been to the cafe, the market, the sweetie shop, the swings and the two of them have moaned the face off me. just bumped into one of the other mums at the swings and we were discussing the zumba class we were at the other night.then i was saying ive put on half a stone since giving up smoking.. she uttered "i just find i forget to eat i'm just too busy!"
gasp!i must be a lazy arsehole then..could have actually punched her square in the dorothy perkins sunglasses! why do women do that to eash other?
Silvery, that was so nice of your neighbour..fancy swapping with me?(mine is my mil..hence the reason im moving)
littlesez-oooh a night out!!fantastic..u lucky duck!
Starting weightwatchers on monday so will prob devour the last of the camembert in the fridge. might just put it on a french stick and eat it in a one-er. ha!
im counting the days till strictly come dancing starts..sad i know..its my guilty pleasure.well that and cheese

She probably didn't mean it like that, Clara. It is something I might have said without expecting to cause any offence.

I forget to eat because I just do. I think I had a bit of an eating disorder when I was in my teens/twenties and it is still with me a bit. Half the time I only eat because I have to feed the kids but they all eat pretty well, I'm relieved to say.

I lost about 10 stone-plus after DS3 and was really worried. I also looked awful, all gaunt and hollow. I've started putting it back on and DH is happy I have squishy bits for him to hold on to again.

Love "BOT BOT MAMA", MS. DH took DS1 and DS2 to football this morning and DS3 and I slept until 12.30!!!

clara... I think i'd have said something like that too without meaning anything by it I'm the same as swampy... i have been known to forget to eat for days on end. I used to give myself starvation induced migraines as a child as i just had no urge to eat. I do eat more these days but like swampster, if i wasn't feeding the kids i'd probably only have dinner 3/4 times a week and as it is i never eat breakfast and rarely eat much through the day... I pick a bit but it takes a concerted effort to actually sit down with some food. And in my case it's certainly not that i'm too busy

That should have been 10 kilos-plus, of course. Ten stone would have been minus-swampster.

Lol at the minus-swampster! Wish I could forget to eat - I tend to do mindless overeating rather than the other way round. Maybe its a 3 child household thing - certainly my friends with 3 kids dont seem to have any time to themselves to do anything much and are very thin... Clara - am sure that your friend didnt mean anything by it. Good luck with WWs - if you stick to it you'll definitely hit your goal. And congrats on the house purchase - sounds like it has loads of potential. Hope your DP gets it sorted quickly for you so you can move in. DH's dad was a roofer and having contacts in the building trade came in v useful for him and his family - so hopefully your DP can call some mates in at mates rates to help him out.

MS - my commiserations. We had a shocker with Danny last night too. He is currently sleeping but dont have high hopes for a good night tonight either. Ho hum. Lol at bot bot mama - Danny has excelled at yelling mummy in the middle of the night but no references to why he's so distressed yet.

SM - sorry you had a shocker of a day yesterday - nice thing for your neighbour to do for you and glad it brightened your day. Hope today was better.

Clara, my friend has just lost over 5 stone with WW and looks absolutely fantastic, and feels great too. It really does work if you're quite diciplined, she allows herself one or two 'bad' days a week but counts points mercilessly on the other days and the weight just fell off her.... this is a woman who has desribed herself as 'a big girl' all 32 years of her life and she's now barely over 10 stone and still aims to lose another half a stone to hit her target.

clara that other mum sounds like a bit of a smug old lemon!
Goodluck with WW, I don't have the will-power to diet so shall just remain a bit of a bloater, but that's ok with me as long as I can still enjoy my chocolate. I'm a bit of a complosive eater. I always seem to be eating. i'm eating now, at 1:40 am, i am eating a pack of quavers and a chocolate digestive

Today (or yesterday rather) was better. Dp got back from golf at midday, I went straight back to bed, then my friend rang me at 5 and asked if I could drop a tenner round to her because her ds was in bed and her dh was in france so she couldn't get out. Perfect excuse for an early evening outing and a few glasses of vino!