Fab Feb 2009: when they're good they are very very good, when they're bad they're todzillas...

[dinkystinky]

New thread for us to chat about our little jekyll & hydes...

Danny is currently stood next to me rearranging my DVD collection - I will be doing a work out to charlie & lola tonight apparently, while DS1 will be watching Billy Blanks Taebo with his pre-bedtime cup of milk and DH's history docu is hiding out with Diego in the city of lost toys...

hello, where is everyone else? off having lives?

SM sounds like a very good idea you taking J to cinema. What about Toy Story? Think DD1 is taking DD2 this week. DS1 took her to see Shrek a few weeks ago and she loved it.
I think its a good idea to try to spend some quality time with the older ones (or in my case number 3!) as they do feel left out. Might try and see if I can take DD2 somewhere myself when DC1 and 2 look after H.

I can't believe I've been 'home' for around 6 weeks now and still haven't done half of the stuff I was going to do. There are still at least 4 friends I need to catch up with that I'm supposed to be meeting for lunch (separately!) and not sure how I'm going to fit it all in.
All the visits to chiropractor and trips down to mum's place have really taken up time.

I keep thinking I ought to take DC to see DH's parents. They are only an hour away but they just don't seem bothered about seeing them. Last summer I suggested going on at least two occasions and they just put me off. DH did take them the beginning of July when he was here but really should make the effort for DCs sake if not theres.

Went to visit my mum's sisters in Guildford yesterday (one is visiting the other from Ireland). Not sure why but we never really saw them when I was younger, think there was some stupid falling out. Had a nice lunch with one aunt and then went to visit mum and dad's grave which was nice and DD2 put flowers on it. I suppose I must to the Inlaws visit for her as they are the only grandparents she has. She was so sweet at the grave leaving flowers for nannie (she never knew my dad)
SM quite jealous of your relationship with your inlaws, good they are finally taking interest.

mslucy how are things with you? has bleeding stopped?
Can't believe a 4 year old called you fat! I'd have gone mad too!

Diet not going as planned. Put on 2lb this week Why is it last year I did so well and lost a stone but this year I'm putting on weight.

oh, and its my 5th wedding anniversary today and the 5th year DH and I have been apart on our anniversary I'd really like just once for us to be together and go out for dinner etc. Is that too much to ask?

Feel I needing to be doing stuff here so am going to go mad today and paint either the front of the house or the kitchen.

Front needs doing as we had new doors/windows last year and they made a mess around the door frame which they filled with grey filler on a nice cream front. I tried patching it up last year with a tester pot but couldn't match so have bought paint to do whole front (part painted part tiled so not tooo big a job)

Kitchen has needed paining for 8 years, ever since I had an extension and had boiler moved. Large patch is dark brown plaster. Started painting 7 years ago and painted one wall and half across top of door

bought some tester pots last month and was torn between cream (as usual) and a pale green. We(kids and I) decided on green so I've bought the paint and am now not convinced.

I suppose I will just get on with it. Surely all green will look better than a large dark brown plaster patch and various shades of cream and green

mos you do sound very busy!!
Yeah, me and MIL (well she's not actually dp's mum. he doesn't have anything to do with his mum, but his dad and current wife have been together for over 25 years. The kids call her Grandma) had a very interesting conversation about reincarnation, self healing, natural medicines (which started after she noticed Luke's eczema). Sometimes I think she is slightly odd, but it is quite interesting to listen to her.
She3 changed how she spells her surname (dp's surname) because of something to do with each letter equals a certain number, and she noticed that life was getting bad when she changed her name, so she played around with the spelling until she got to whatever number total she wanted, and reckons she saw an instant improvement in her life
She's also one of those who say she has cured her dogs of cancers and other mager illnesses through natural methods.
I'd never get bored of listening to her, you just never know what she's gonna come out with!

My relationship with dp's sister and her family seems a bit strained atm, not sure why that is, but I think it has something to do with the fact that I refuse to mother dp and I told SIL and her husband that they were insane if they thought I was going to make sure dinner was on the table for when he got in. Dinner is ready when it's ready.
Plus Ithink she's a bit put out when I moan about him and dc's on facebook!

Morning all. MoS - happy anniversary (hope you and DH get to celebrate it in style when he's over) and good luck with all the painting though make sure it doesnt aggravate your back. Pale green sounds lovely! Glad you had a lovely time with your aunts. You've packed so much in since you got here make sure you take some time to stop and breathe.

SM - I agree with MsLucy re quality time with J hopefully making things easier and you feel like your relationship is sounder. Glad you had a lovely time at your inlaws - it must just be that your inlaws arent baby people. My MiL claims not to be a baby person either - and she certainly enjoys the boys now that they are much more interactive with their little personalities shining through.

MsLucy - glad things are so much better between you and DS1 nowadays and he's loving school so much. DS1 starts in reception in September and he just still seems so little to me but he cant wait.

SM she sounds nice but perhaps a little bit batty? I would never have family on FB. DH's sister (who he doesn't really see much of) sent a FB request to me a few weeks ago but I've ignored it.

dinky think green it is. Hope it will be ok.
Kitchen cupboards are light oakish colour, worktops, light cream/beigeish. Tiles are small mainly cream with a random pattern of dark green which matches hob and microwave. Did have a (nasty) pelmit blind thingy that was green and white checked. DS just took it down as I was going to wash it and I've just realised the room is so much lighter without it. We had blinds put in the conservatory a few years ago and also in kitchen (next to conversatory at back) and the shade of green perfectly matches the paint. Unfortunately blind got taken down when new windows were done but hopefully I will get someone in to re-fit it.

Fingers crossed it will look ok but like I just said to DS, it has to look better than the different colours we have now!

DS just said he is taking me to cinema tonight (well I'm taking him of course as he is just learning to drive) Going to see Night and Day which will be really nice. DD1 will have the arse as she wants to see it but she is too young so I'll hvae to go and see that damm vampire film with her!

dinky DD2 starts 'big school' (foundation 1) in KSA in september and is very excited. Am dreading getting her school shoes though, she won't like black! When we got her uniform in Saudi she had a hissy fit about the blue PE shorts saying 'I'm NOT wearing those, they are not pink'!
DS1 has surfaced and just brought me a present that DH had sent from John Lewis. A lovely wooden jewellery box. At first I was a bit suprised but just realised 5th anniversary is wood and am touched that he actually thought about it.

MOS Happy Anniversary

Aah, that's really sweet of your DH MoS - and of your DS1 for taking you out tonight. Hope you enjoy the film.

JGB thank you you mad stalker (its ok girls, she is friendly, not one of the loons

dinky DS just made me lovely bacon and brie roll, heaven.

Hang in there girls, our toddlers may be driving us mad at the moment but in 15 years they become very useful

mos - mad stalker? moi? never!!!

Hey all - interview et well - was a three part interview for M&S so just have to wait and see if the hours i want slot in with everyone else. It's a new store opening, and so they have 150 jobs to fill. I worked out that from about 750 applicants, 200-250 are at the same stage as me, but luckily I can be quite flexible.

SM hope you and Jacob enjoyed the film, I think some 1:1 time with him and Luke with DP was just what you all needed. My MIL sounds similar to yours - all cosmic ordering, spirit guides and so on. She does Numerology as well, and was happy with M's name as it means she will be goal-orientated, but not in an extreme way!!

mos ah, present from DH sounds lovely. I'm going to buy J a tree for our 5th anniversary next year (in a save the planet, buy a bit of rainforest way, not just giving him a sapling to plant, although...!). How nice he thought of you. It's a shame that you're not with him - maybe some Skype sex?! Hope you enjoy the film with DS. I have to say, I have a great relationship with my mum, so I am looking forward to that with M - 15 years you say? Think I can wait that long!
Green kitchen sounds nice - buy you watch out for your back, madam.

We have what should be out final visit to the cardio team for M's heart. Please keep fingers crossed for me. I'm taking her up by myself (which spells disaster from previous experience) and I'm dreading bad news, or i'll be snivelling and snotting my way home!

I have half a green kitchen!
DS and I have been cracking on and taking it in turns with roller and paintbrush so I've not been bending too much.
DD1 took the others out to the park but number 3 pushed number 4 over and grazed his face so they came home and I'm now cuddling him whilst he dozes on my lap and DD1 is helping DS1 which is a receipe for disaster, those two together in a confined space with paint!

MrsY when is your hospital appointment? I think you are near(ish) me and if you want I'll come with you, not good for you to go on your own

I have a totally green kitchen!
DS and I worked really hard and got it all done and then managed to escape for a few hours to the cinema. Saw Knight and Day and I have to report it was very good, really enjoyed it and would highly recommend.
Saw Inception? a few weeks ago and felt I'd wasted 3 hours of my life. Also saw the A Team last week (feel like I have to make up for all the rest of the year when no cinema) and that was pretty good

MOS very brave of you to paint with DCs - hope you are not all green now.

MrsY - good luck for your appointment with M, and for your M&S job too. By the way let me know the cost of postage for the harness and I'll reimburse you.

Thanks all for your kind words about my poor cat - I don't feel quite so batty about blubbing all week. DS seems to have forgotten all about it thankfully and Lilian is too little to notice that she has gone. However I did hear DS say to Lilian the other day "we have to be really nice to Treacle (my other cat) because she isn't dead yet"

The rest of last week was pretty disasterous too - Lilian managed to get her hand trapped in a gate at nursery and then the following day tripped and banged her chin and put a tooth through her lower lip, meanwhile on the way home from a friends yesterday, DS put a little stone up his nose - I managed to get it out after a hour of persuading a very tearful DS to blow out of his nostrils. I can only hope that this week will be trauma free!

Ah, bless you mos, but I guess at 26 I really should be able to take my daughter to London by myself!! I really will be fine. If it's bad news I can call my brother and he will come and meet me and drive us home.

You have had some dramas, Calico. Things can only get better. Don't worry about the P&P, it was only a pound or two.

I'm back from 2 weeks hols, we had a fantastic time in France. The place we stayed in was amazing and we felt really at home almost immediately, both kids slept like they were at home. dd loved just being in and out of the pool and on the enormous trampoline and it was sunflower season so the area surrounding us was just beautiful. (we went to the edge of one field and made faces in a few of them by rubbing off the seeds and then ooh'd at our creativity each time we drove past. i hope the farmer didn't mind).

then we did a bit of a tour of to see 2 sets of friends in the new forest area then off to wales for my sister's wedding. we arrived a couple of days early to help. it went really well and dd looked so beautiful as a flower girl. only bad bit of wales was that ds became so unsettled in his sleep. i'm sure those bags of mine will look lovely in the photos.

ds has become even more crazy and dashes around all over the place. i was literally elbowing past people at the wedding to keep in distance of him and stop him going into the pool. my other sister and my dad were brilliant at taking turns on being ds chaser though.

there has been a lot going on here and i've only read this page so far. sm i hope the cinema trip went well, i really do think taking time with one or other is a good thing if it can be managed. i'm very lucky in having (a) a nanny and (b) a dp that is almost as involved as i am with them so it's not unusual for me to have some time alone with one or the other. dp took dd and 3 cousins to see toy story 3 when we were in wales and they all loved it.

mos will you PLEASE sit down for a minute. you're as bad as my ds. you make me tired just reading all that you're up to. glad the cinema was good and the kitchen is done. and belated happy anniversary...blimey, sometimes your dh gets it spot on doesn't he. i mean, that gesture involved forward thinking too - not something my dp does a lot of!

calico, sorry to hear you've lost a cat and are having one of those weeks. fingers crossed your luck changes soon.

mrsy - good luck at the hospital. i'd be a wreck even thinking about having to go.

dinky, growing up is so wonderful to see but so emotional too. dd is 5 next week.

scan today and bad news I'm afraid
whatever was there has just slipped away.
feel a bit peculiar and just wanted to say thank you for all your kind words during what has been a very difficult time.

At least I can have a drink on my birthday

oh mslucy i'm so sorry.
give yourself time to take it all in and look after yourself.

i'm lucky enough not to have been through this and can only imagine how awful it must be.

huge hugs to you.

xx

MrsY glad the interview went well.
When will you find out if you've been successful?
calico You did have a bad week didn't you? Here's to hoping it gets better. Hope the lo's are ok x
KBN Glad you had a good time. Well deserved
mslucy I am so so sorry i don't have any words that can help in this time. No one has ever said anything to me that made a m/c easier to cope with

Well today I took ds1 to the cinema to see Shrek. It did not go well. He wouldn't stop talking!
I took him out 3 times and told him if he wanted to watch the film, he's have to sit nicely and stay quiet or we'd have to go back home.
He then said he wanted to watch shrek so we went back in only for him to start running around, so we left and came home.
He was very naughty walking back to the bus stop and today has been a bad day.
Dp has the ump with me because I went back to bed. I have told him about the dark place I am in again and he just now has the ump,

Oh MsLucy - I am so terribly sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself - am sure your lovely boys will be looking after you - and take your time to process what you're thinking and feeling. Huge hugs to you and your boys.

Calico - god that sounds like quite a week you had! Here's hoping this coming week is much better.

KBN - glad you had a great holiday and your sister had a good wedding. Know what you mean about DS being a little nutjob - Danny is exactly the same. DS1 was soooo different at this age - SIL got married when he was 2.5 and there was a pond and an open pool at the wedding venue and he only needed telling once not to go near either of them. Danny on the other hand stops, listens to what we say, grins and does the exact opposite. Sigh. He was such an easy little baby - I miss those days...

MoS- glad you enjoyed the movies. SM - sorry your trip to the cinema wasnt great: DS1 isnt the greatest at sitting and watching films/tv (getting abit better now he's over 4 but still gets bored after about 40 minutes) so I have to admit I havent actually taken him to the cinema yet.

DS1 and Danny were both v well behaved at MIL's garden party yesterday but as MIL has a full house (my parents staying, SIL over from the US and us) and only 3 bedrooms both boys are in with us and sleep is in very short supply. Am actually looking forward to the caravan in france as suspect will get more sleep there...

mslucy I am so very sorry to read your news I have been there and know how it feels and I know from my experience that it helps to talk to someone in real life. I bottled it up which was not the right thing to do. Am so very sorry

SM so sorry your theatre trip was not an enjoyable experience.

KBN glad you had a good holiday.

I've had a crap day. Chiro at 8.50 then home to pick up kids and went to the local Maize Maze. Then into town pm as DC1 2 and myself had opticians appointments. We were taking it in turns to look after DC3 and 4 and when it was DD1's turn to help she was (as usual) not really watching her properly. DD2 was constantly spinning round on a chair despite being warned by me a few times whilst I was talking to the optician. She ended up bashing her head quite hard but we didn't realise how bad until a few minutes later when I noticed her hand was red and further investigation revealed a huge gash in her head. The staff in opticians were great and one ran to get security who got the first aider who had a look and we were then advised to go to a walk in clinic in the town. Went there and were told it was too bad for them to deal with so sent to walk in clinic at hospital. Thank god they dealt with it as we don't have an A & E in our town any more and didn't fancy a 20 min drive to next town. After 3 hours at hospital finally left at 9pm. Have been advised to keep a close eye on DD after her head was glued back together so she is asleep in my bed (as is DS) Doesn't look like I will not be getting much sleep tonight!

mslucy so very sorry to hear your news. Look after yourself xx

MOS your poor DD2! Hope she is feeling better this morning and you managed to get a little sleep.

mos Poor DD! How is she this morning?

What crappy weather.
Have to drive over to my mum's today to get the travel cot. My friend is having the boys overnight tomorrow. Woo-hoo

what is sleep? Had them both in bed with me last night (DD fell out once!) and got about 2 hours in total. H keeps waking up at least every hour and its really getting me down now. Never been so tired in my life.

DD seems ok today but I have warned her that she must stop running around like a loon (not that she takes any notice of me as if she did, she wouldn't have had the bloody accident)

Pouring with rain here and DC1 and 2 still festering in their pits whilst I try to tidy up the tip we are living in. Getting new flooring tomorrow so at some point today I need to move out furniture from two rooms! Not quite sure how that is going to happen. Have started to move a few little bits into dining room and am hoping that we can just push everything into the study whilst they do lounge and then vice versa. Thats the plan anyway. Thank god G & H will be at nursery tomorrow so hopefully we can get it done really late tonight/early am.

SM agree ref weather. Where is this lovely english summer I'd been looking forward to. Just glad we went out to Maize Maze yesterday. Were thinking of waiting til today and so glad we didn't.

How lucky you are having a child free night. I long for 8 hours sleep.

mslucy how are you doing today?

Hello all, I have been so busy so haven't been on in ages...

Busy with work and the two monkeys (who are being lovely at the moment [gasp])...

Work is going really well i am enjoying it so much, I already have people asking for me full time and have only been going out on my own for two weeks..

I am shocked at some of the other staff's practices and values though and the way they treat people we care for.. One carer didn't turn up on monday, didn't call in or anything. As we care for people in their own homes it didn't come to light she hadn't turned up until after the office had shut. Out of hours called me and I picked up her shift but 4 hours after she should have started. One lady was left in a chair, no food, no one to take her to the toilet, cold, lonely, scared and wet through since mid day and i only got to her at 8 O clock. I was disgusted and had a good cry when I got home. How can people do this?

Right just going to check up on the thread a bit.. speak soon xxx

MsLucy so so sorry to hear your sad news , sending all your family much love..