Fab Feb 2009: when they're good they are very very good, when they're bad they're todzillas...

[dinkystinky]

New thread for us to chat about our little jekyll & hydes...

Danny is currently stood next to me rearranging my DVD collection - I will be doing a work out to charlie & lola tonight apparently, while DS1 will be watching Billy Blanks Taebo with his pre-bedtime cup of milk and DH's history docu is hiding out with Diego in the city of lost toys...

Oh Spotty - sending you huge hugs my love. Sounds like life is being pretty damn trying for you and your loved ones at the moment - have you seen your GP about your PND? My sister struggles with depression (has for many years now) and found that yoga/meditation (combined with meds) really helped her when things were pretty shitty. I know you're gyming lots so it may be that you've found a good vent already but if not, really would be worth trying that (as helps switch off your brain from going into overdrive which in my sister's case was the trigger point for her worst episodes). Thank god your boys are being good for mummy when she really needs them to be. Hope life gets a hell of a lot better for you and your loved ones really soon.

Phoenix - god you've been busy! All the sorting out will be so worth it when you've don eup your mum's place. And sorry to hear about the mouldy carpet. Maybe worth posting in good housekeeping section to see if any of the domestic goddessses there can advise on how to save it?

Rosie - have fun at the library. Danny and DS1 love it there and come home every week with 4 books each to read. Its brilliant! And both boys love going on the Cbeebies site on the computers there - worth checking out the pingu pages with M. Bet you he'll love watching you play the keepy uppy game.

Crapola night last night with Danny chundering from 8 till around 2 and then so distraught he was awake crying/being comforted/bf for the next 2 hours - so got 2 hours sleep in total last night. Feel like death this morning. Ho hum. Suspect he was coming down with this bug over the past couple of days which is why his sleep was so crap. Poor love. He looks v sorry for himself this morning and not his usual bundle of crazy toddler boy energy.

Oh dinky Poor Danny
he has had a rough time of it so far hasn't he.
Are you working today? I really don't know how you survive.

We are off to the farm today, should be fun.

Caffeine is a wonderful thing...

Have fun at the farm SM. Bugger about those hours - fingers crossed they can offer you better hours or some form of childcare help.

hello all,
spotty sorry you have having a bad time at the moment, hope things get better for you very soon.

dinky sorry about another crappy night. To be honest, I just expect it now. H has had a cough for nearly 4 weeks and can't get a doctors appointment as they have a (bloody stupid) new system there they just get a doctor to call and say whether it warrants an appt and the one I spoke to felt it didn't. I said he should try being woken every sodding hour at night and then make that decision!

SM shame about the hours, hopefully they can change them so its easier for you to sort childcare out

rosie fingers crossed for you with TTC. Personally I rather eat broken glass but thats just me
Had chiropractor again this morning, 3 times a week I'm having to go and the lady I saw this morning confirmed that having DC3 and 4 probably caused the further damage to my back.

The work we are doing is on mum's place, down on the south coast. Tiny little 1 bed bungalow but think it will be lovely to do up and keep as a holiday home and hopefully a good investment. The lady who was buying was really taking the p* and had reduced her offer a few times and when we thought about it we decided mum would have loved it if we'd kept it. DH had looked at static caravans and they are stupid money so made more sense to keep mum's place. DC1 and 2 have so many happy memories of time spent down there with nannie and granadad and hopefully it will keep the memories alive.
It is/was dad's birthday today and really missing him.
Him and mum did a lot of work on the bungalow so its nice (in a way) that we are working hard on it to.
Laminate being fitted on Monday so hopefully I can have it looking half decent before DH comes home next month.

Just managed to find a plumber to come out to our house here in the uk (rosie we are here until September) to sort out the leak and am hoping it can be fixed without too much damage to bathroom. Not sure how they do it when all tile cubicle and floor are tiled?

dinky good idea about asking for advice in housekeeping section although have to say I'm a bit wary about venturing on other threads at the moment, too many loons about!
Fingers crossed we can salvage the carpet and just replace the gripper thingy and underlay which won't cost anything as we are getting lamintate done in this house in 2 weeks so will nick a bit from here.

Keep meaning to ask how someone is but I'm having mental blocks and can't think of her name. Lady who was at Coram fields meet up last year with little boy whose mum was very ill? I've not seen her on here for a while (or MS or swampy or Herbie) and just wondered how she was. I know I'll think of her name at 2am!

Very excited, out to cinema in half an hour with DS1. DD1 will pick up DS2 and DD2 from nursery at 1pm and look after for a few hours. Nursery is a godsend (keeping me sane and enabling me to get to chiro and get householdy things done) Very rarely get to cinema (although did see inception last week with DD1 and felt I'd wasted 3 hours of my life!)
Going to see A team which looks like it will be fun

Are you thinking of Elkiedee Phoenix? Not seen her on here for ages.

Hello all, have to be very rude (again) and not read through al th posts as it's manic here. DS1 is 4 today and on Saturday we have the double whamy of both boys being christened and ds1's birthday party so i'm running around like a mad woman trying to get organised.

We're off to the park in a few minutes with some friends and the kids are stuffed full of my lopsided attempt at a cake (the damn thing capsized in the fridge last night and underwent serious repair work)

SM I saw you FB status about the pram... so sorry, what a rotten thing to happen

Hi all!

TITS hope all your plans are going well. You must be mad to have all that in one day!

pheonix fingers crossed that all goes well with the bungalow. It's lovely that your eldest are happy to look after the smaller ones, enjoy the film.

SM how crappy. Hope all the wheels fall off the buggy (not the new one ;) ) and that work can offer you better hours. Does seem daft to expect you to go backwards and fowards like that.

Things are pretty much the same as always here. Stretching the money to pay the bills and slogging my guts out trying to get a job. Don't know why I bother.

Am waiting to here back from the GP about my post-natal de-brief and counselling, although I've been told I should expect a 9 month wait for counselling. My doctor told me it woud be quicker and easier if I just get pregnant again. Genious. Don't know how long I should wait before I chase him up about it.

Weather is rubbish so plan to go to the park has been shelved. Hope it clears up as we have our toddle tomorrow. Thanks to those who you who have sponsored us - link on my FB page for those of you who haven't... ;)

Still here, just KNACKERED. Not a lot to say except three boys run me ragged and wear me out. And it is the school holidays.

Hello all, havent had time to read through all the posts but Just wanted to say thank you to you all again for sponsoring jessica and owen on the toddle tomorrow, i will post pics after the event. We have exceeded our target which is great.. So thanks to you all xxxxxxxxxx

I have started my job now and am finding it hard work... Dont know why as I have only done six hours so far but it makes me feel like i have to get everything done in the day that i may have left till the evenings ie ironing, washing etc... So I feel that I am actually loosing quality time with the children.. if that makes sence.. This coupled with the fact that i will only be able to put them to bed twice every two weeks is really making me feel ........... dont know what the word it but I feel i am missing out...... Also as i have had to buy sat nav and CBR check and other bits for job i wont actually see any money from it for a few weeks....... I know it will be worth it in the end but right now the transition is shit....

Right will catch up now and try to get back on later when I get back from work....

dinky yes, you are right (as always) thats who I was thinking of. Hope she is ok, I remember her mum being ill and the last news not being very good. Is anyone in touch with her in RL?

TITS sounds like all manic there, hope christening/party goes ok

MrsY that is rubbish having to wait that long. I'd go back and chase your GP. Not sure I'm on FB with you? I've been rubbish at it previously and am trying to make an effort and keep up now. I have friend requests from people I'm not sure who they are. One is obviously MN due to mutual friends. One is initials JK. Anyone here?

Had a great time at cinema, really enjoyed A team and would highly recommend.
Right, hopefully plumber will be here in a bit and can sort out the bloody leak

shameful x post there with MrsY teehee sorry my lovely, see you tomorrow...xx

wow lots of posts to catch up on.

Mrsy, I dotn think they will make you wait 9 months tbh. I got told there was a 12 month waiting list and then got an app within weeks so FC for you xxx

Spotty sorry you have it rough atm not sure what was deleted but feel free to facebook any of us with anything private we can help with. xxx

SM re the pushchair, how did they get into your building? maybe someone knows who it is? then we can track them down and beat them up for you

Littlesez, I asked for that post to be removed because there was a link between a posters old name to her new one and I just thought (at 3 o'clock this morning) it was best to not have the link come up if the stalkers are still doing searches iyswim.

He he bumps - yup. See you tomorrow! x

Thanks littlesez and Dinky. Yeah, 9 months was a bit of a shock. The GP didn't give me a timeframe but my midwife friend, who is the one pushing me to see someone, said her sister (who is an NHS/private counsellor) has a 9 month waiting list. But she said her step-father is a semi-retired counsellor who can give me mates-rates for private sessions, if needs be. Just need to do the de-brief first.

I saw the GP last Thursday, if I haven't heard from him by next Thursday, I'll give him a ring and chase him up - don't want to be a pain, but now I've started down this road, I want to see it through.

Anyway, off to bed. TTFN x

Sorry, that should be littlesez and pheonix!

Look what I got for Jacob's birthday what a bargain

They had one on display in the store and he loved it! For a third of the price too.
dinky I was at the time looking at the scooters and was about to buy one for £25, but then saw this on offer.
I think we'll get him a scooter for christmas

That looks great SM - he'll love it!

MrsY - you've made a good first step. FWIW, I didnt go for counselling after DS1 was born, but I did talk out my experience with my NCT teacher, postnatal doulas etc. and got to grips with it properly when I got pregnant with Danny (doing the hypnobirthing to put to rest the last of the ghosts from DS1's birth - and it worked brilliantly). Taking steps to understand and accept what happened and what lessons you can take away from it can only be a good thing. Good luck for your toddle today.

Bumps - going from being at home 24/7 with kids to working is a huge adjustment and you'll be feeling alot of things right now - including tired and v guilty. Give it time - it does get easier and kids are extremely adaptable. And you'll really cherish those bedtimes when you do put them to bed rather than seeing it as a bit of a chore (as I do ). And remember the fab long term plan - you are doing this for a reason!

Tulips - hope the party went well and the christening goes brilliantly this weekend.

Right, off to do some work now.

Where is everybody?

DS1 now has the D&V bug - and we're off camping this afternoon (in sussex where it is rain, rain, rain forecast - ho hum). Our poor nanny has the bug too. Danny seems better so fingers crossed its just a 24 hour thing and DS1 will be better v soon. He's sleeping at the moment - am hoping when he wakes up the D bit will have passed...

Hi dinky I've not long been up. Both boys were throwing up all last night, so I told dp when he got in at 6 that I have to have some sleep!

Hope your lot are better soon and that camping goes ok.

We are having Sky installed today

dinky You ok?

Hey all.

Hope you managed to get some rest SM and you're enjoying all Sky has to offer! Are the boys any better? That website looks great, I'm sure Jacob will love the racing game.

Hope the camping's going well, Dinky.

Thinking of you, TITS - hope the weekend is going really well for you and your family.

hello all, I'm back as me Did take a few weeks out to deal with real life but missed you all so name changed but couldn't get on with new name and suddenly decided I wasn't going to let a few loons force me out. I was worried about one of them coming on here as she had been going onto other threads I'd been on and didn't want her spoiling things on my two main threads, this one and a bereavement one I'm on hence me disappearing for a while. It got very personal, ie her posting info from my FB page and threatening to link to it which was a little bit worrying.

Anyway, a few weeks down the line now and no doubt she is annoying someone else now. I just wasn't in a good place at that time, very emotional about mum's death/possible sale of her house and now me buying it etc so a bit fragile.

Anyway, feeling like crap now but for different reasons. Single parent for 3 weeks now and another 3 1/2 to go. Very hard going. H has had a cough for over 3 weeks now and it just won't go. DD has had it on and off but not as bad and she is not keeping me up all night. Averaging around 3 hours sleep per night at the moment so not feeling to bright. Have told DH I'm going to a hotel for the night for 8 hours sleep when he is back.

H was sick three times in my bed last night and all over me. Really could done without that.

dinky hope yours are better and camping is going ok. If it gets too cold/damp I'm in sussex so come and bang on my door for a cuppa and a bacon sarnie

SM bastards ref your pushchair. God help them if you catch them.
So sweet of you to worry about me due to name thing. Didn't see the actual post but thanks for thinking of me. It was actually your comments that made me think about coming back as me. I should not let bullies push me out. Very sweet that I'm old enough to be your mother and you were 'mothering'/protecting me. Glad you got a fab birthday pressie for J. When is his birthday?

littlesez hope all going ok with you and DH.

spotty are you ok? Missed some of your post that my 'mum' had deleted. Hope you are ok. if you need anything FB me.

bumps if you are out there, are you up for a Bluewater meet up next week or week after? (and anyone else in that neck of the woods)

TITS hope your mad weekend has been going ok and boys are safely 'dunked'.

hi to everyone else x

Lol mos 'that' thread was just so wrong and like you say, became far too personal and I just didn't want you gettnganymore hassle and upset from it, but good for you for coming back as mos and making that stand.
I saw one of 'them' on another thread the other day and it has always seemed to me that she is just one that likes to get at people. Must have qute a sad RL.
But anyway, enough of all that nonsense now, good to see that you can move on

It's Jacob's birthday on Wednesday (4th) and that is also the day that Luke turns 18 months!!!!! Flown by.

I have been quite poorly today and all through last night and had my mum come over today so I could throw up without both the boys n the bathroom asking me what I'm doing and climbing all over me.
She is a true star. She got here at about 10 this morning, I'd been up since 3am and the boys since 5, so i went striaght back to bed and the boys were so good. I couldn't sleep for ages, so just layed down, but there was no whinging at all and they all had a very nice day.
Mum took thenm to the park and I made a huge mistake of trying to do some cleaning, which left me feeling very rough again.
I'm still feeling rough, but fingers crossed this is a 24 hour thing and 'll be back on track tomorrow.

My brother is going to get Jacob a scooter for his birthday. That is going to be one spoil boy!

Hey MOS good to see you again. How are things at the bungalow? It's so lovely that you can buy it and use it as a holiday house. Whereabouts is it? It must be hard without your DH - I saw that your eldest have been helping out with the lit'lies, which is very sweet. Do the bacon and booze make up for a few weeks as a single parent?!

I was going to suggest a meet up - either a south-east one in Bluewater, or possibly a bigger London based one. Would be nice to see people again (funds allowing).

Poor you SM, hope you feeling better now? Three cheers for your mum, what a star.

Are you having a party for Jacob?

Hi to everyone else! I'm working MN-ing again today if anyone fancies keeping me company!

Oh - Calico did you get the parcel?