March 2010- Group Therapy on the cheap

[ValiumtheConqueror]

And cupcakes

MummyElk you are doing a SPLENDID job. I was looking at those gorgeous photos of the three of you thinking what a together and loving bunch you must be. DD1 biting DD2 - I don't have any answers, but maybe it is an attention thing? Is she old enough to be removed from the room and put on her own and ignored for a few mins if she bites so she doesn't get any attention from doing it?

It must be really hard with two sometimes and I'd be pissed off at DH if he left me for a night with only 1. How about some unannounced child-care for him in the near future so you can have a bit of baby-free time?

hi Dalrymps, nice you hear from you and liking all these BFP stories. Weaning - have ifnished the baby led book and think am going to do that - it appeals ot my inner lazy person and also seems to make sense to me. S showing no interest in food at all yet, and don't plan to start till 26 weeks ish, but am sitting her on my lap while I eat so she can spectate!

Thinking am having some kind of psychotic episode at the moment. I've got this weird little niggle that I'm pregnant. I am NOT. It would be IMPOSSIBLE. We've had sex a handful of times since she was born - most of them a couple of months ago. I was back on the pill for most of them (though come off it now as I hated it), we also used the withdrawal method (sorry TMI) AND I'm breastfeeding. So unless it's a miracle this is all in my head. But just keep getting a weird feeling and last night I kept thinking I could feel something moving around a bit in there. I may be losing the plot I think. Gah - pull self together woman!

Right. Off to sort out flat after FIL staying for weekend. Oh and trying to psych self up to meet my postnatal group at swimming pool later. Really don't want to get myself in to a cozzie any time soon. Particularly the foetus of my imagination as too many chocolate biscuits is making me look very flabby of tum of late.

Omg massive at all the spelling mistakes, this phone may be pretty but has very annoying predictive text!

Just to clear some things up, Miles is not a stroganoff baby, he is a strong baby and we are not brooch, we are broody !

Rebecca my inner noseyness demands you take a test to put my your mind at rest!

Darylmps stroganoff baby made me ROFL

back after babygroup and taking DH's trousers to the magical sewing ladies (why do all his trousers have holes in the crotch???)

Oh and I forgot to say re weaning, I'm planning a mixture or blw and purees depending on whether we are out and about and what is most convenient.

oh and mummyelk hang in there, itll be ok.. at your DH for unannounced night away..

Donttry I have also met superhans in a pub in north london. Im now concerned he may have drinking problem!

oh mummyelk- you did not bore me at all totally sypmathise, these men do do some very strabge and selfish things, i am sure they just dont register sometimes! hope you had an ok night and your girls were good for you too!

as for biting 2 year olds, you are not alone my DD who was 2 in feb is a biter too= its awful she will sink her teeth into both my boys without a second thought,poor harry has gone to school today with a huge bite, open wound and bruise on his arm from yesterday at the park! all because she didn't want to sit next to him for our picnic= its heart breaking and so stressful too.

she has bitten Elliott a fair few times too and its just awful, cant offer any advise as we are in the same boat we keep doing time out and its slowly begining to have an effect!

icwas how was your night>? did you get anymore sleep?

lovely to see you back darylmps!

gotta go do some cleaning my house seems to resemble a rubbish tip atm!!!!! ooooppppssssss! lol

Mummyelk you poor thing - I would be super at an unannounced night away (and I only have one). Hope last night was OK. No advice on the biting - hope it's just one of those phases that passes quickly.

Sarah yay for shiny new laptop! Afraid also have no advice on the biting but time outs sound like a good plan.

Rebecca ooh, I'd also say test! And enjoy the pool later - I'd love a trip to the pool but am just unable to imagine donning a cossie right now . I also have some notion that I want DS to swim in the sea first when we go back to Ireland in August [irrational emoticon]

Siamese at SuperHans - the guy is obviously a fixture in pubs

Dal lovely to see you (though I love looking at your FB photos so feel like I "see" you a lot!). And hurrah for the iphone - big fan of mine though the predictive text thing is a bit annoying...

Fliss hope you're enjoying the solo parenting - your DH certainly has had good weather for his trip (London is still hot).

OK baby just started crying - laters!

Melk must have x posted with you. You have my sympathies, I would have been seriously unimpressed if I had been in your situation. Sorry you've been left dealing with both if them at a difficult time when dd is biting .

I have been very lucky so fat with ds1 so not sure what to advise. I'd it were me I'd just be doing time out after 1 warning, reinforcing why in time out once there and repeating why again when time out over and asking for an appology aka supernanny. In contrast to that I would over praise any good behaviour no matter how small, for eg just playing nicely, doing ad asked etc. I'm sure you're probably doing all that already. I'm sure it's just a phase and will be over soon, can I offer a little ttsp? ( hugs)

MummyElk I agree with rebecca you are doing a SPLENDID work. I would also be annoyed if DH would left me alone with two kids for two night. Biting... sorry, I don't know what to say. I'm still struggling with DS biting my nipple.

Rebecca do the test! I guess we are all exited with the possibility of having one of us pregnant again

Dalrymps lol at stroganoff baby

Hope everyone else is well.

x

JUST for you guys (ahem) I took a test and of course am not pregnant - it would have been some kind of miraculous conception!

Phew.

Part of me feels very slightly disappointed but I really, really, really want a much bigger age gap.

Rofl I still can't stop chuckling at stroganoff baby !

melk I join you in solidarity with a 'what the frick are men thinking sometimes? Infact, are they even thinking at all...?' You need to speak to DH about it, probably not whilst you're very angry, but if you dont get it off your chest it'll fester. Have some chocolate (yes, I bought two more packs. What?! I need them now!)

Oh my goodness, I literally lol'd at stroganoff baby! And figured you being brooch was some kind of regionl vernacular . I myself find James to be more of a pasta bake...

You guys.... you're so funny. Stroganoff indeed!!!

MummyElk Full of sympathy for your . I would be too. FWIW my usual reaction to this would be some silent cold shouldering followed by almighty grumble. I've found this to be an unsuccessful method of improving my marriage however and would strongly suggest a very calm and friendly chat with DH about how the 2 nights in a row has made you feel a) unimportant (information not shared shows a lack of empathy for you b) put upon c)sad that he'd rather spend the time with his family than HIS FAMILY (iyswim). I suspect as you've said, that part of the prob is feeling "a failure" with regards to E. biting T. Don't. you didn't bite her. You didn't tell E to bite her. You will have handled the situation beautifully no doubt and made all the right "please don't hurt your sister she's your friend and you have to teach her how to be a loving big girl" noises. You might not solve it overnight but parenting is the long game not the short term reward game and you'll get through to her eventually. FWIW DS1 used to bite DD lots and nothing particularly worked as a permanent solution. Just being consistent got through in the end and DD is entirely unscathed and plays very happily with him now. I think with DS1 it was partly because DD was so chubby and gorgeous it was hard (even for me) not to nibble her...

Everyone else - hi - MUST go play with DS1

Morning

mummyelk don't apologise for your annoyance with DH. I'ms quite sure you'd remeber a little thing lie him sleeping out!!!! I'd be huffed at it not being mentioned before now too. Re the biting - I can only suggest the naughty step - works well for my sisters 3 boys in similar situations.

waterbabies cancelled for today - why do I feel like eating the whole cupboard of chocolate instead??? Serisouly though- for the last week all I feel like eating is crap. I really can;t be bothered with anything and getting quite tired of DS's frequent grumbles due ti his teething. I do love him but he isn't his sunny self and I'm getting quite tired of it - not as tired of it as I'm sure he is!! I just want one just one long lie in is that soooo much to ask.....................

MummyElk I am echoing everyone else here in the sentiment that you are a fab mummy, and also that your DH is behaving twattishly thoughtlessly by a) leaving you to deal with the DDs two nights in a row and b) neglecting to even tell you about it till now! Men are just a bit oblivious sometimes. I have no advice re the biting, but your FB pics must be deceptive as she looks like butter wouldn't melt in her mouth

rebecca that's odd that you mention feeling pregnant, I swear I've been feeling little twitches in my abdomen too, although it would have to be the immaculate conception here Also, if I can squeeze myself into a swimming costume, I'm sure you can too.

Pixie swimming was fun, Isobel seemed to enjoy it. DH (bless him) was a bit paranoid about the bigger kids splashing her (not on purpose, obv), and the uncleanliness of the pool/changing facilities. I thought it was fine; he thinks she's probably caught cholera or similar from the water Glad you had a nice weekend, sounds lovely.

Dalrymps I LOLed at stroganoff baby too. Predictive text is a PITA, but that one's a winner

Isobel rolled from front to back for the first time yesterday! She's finding it a bit tricky, so spends most of her time on her side now. I'll have to be really careful where I leave her from now on.

to everyone. I'm off to search the local pubs for SuperHans do some washing/tidying while Isobel sleeps.

Oops, should have said she rolled from back to front (almost made the same typing error in a different post, so came back to check!).

Maybe you loonies feel pg because we were pg this time last year...? I was excited about Rebecca's pregnancy there for a minute!

MummyElk - I agree with the person who said don't give the biter any attention when she does it, just say in a low tone voice (like supernanny does): You do not bite your sister. and then you put her in her bed or room for a while.

I was reading fast, and was wondering what a stroganoff baby is, I thought it meant he likes textured food already!

hi all
thank you sooooo SO much for the support and advice - nice to know i'm definitely not going round the bend - and also that DD isn't the only biter in the world!! just read an interesting thing in the MN advice bit (here) which gave me a bit of clarity about the way ahead. I think i need to be totally consistent and pick my battles.
You all said such sweet things, thank you. Both my girlies are really very lush, most of the time!! (Utterly biased i know)
As for DH well we have sort of made up on the phone. He did actually come home to help out with tea and the beginning of bathtime. He also rang up this evening to offer to drive home tonight. I have to admit.....that the one thing I was completely looking forward to was... having the Whole Bed To Myself... so i put him off that. Terrible Wife. I know. rkd you make me laugh about the cold shouldering - exactly what i've been doing!
Plus a very good friend has picked up on the vibes and has whipped up a girly night out for me on Weds. I love her. She's due her own DC2 on Sunday so quite frankly she deserves a medal.
SO: Dilemma on MummyElk Street has passed. For the moment!! Thank you all again (and apologies for the lack of shout outs - but they were all read and appreciated)

Can't believe we are all talking about weaning already - i mean, i can.... but where the bloody hell have our little scrunched up newborns gone?!!

siamese i had a ganglion on my wrist removed about, um, ten years ago. there's a 15% chance of it coming back. Guess what.....yep, it's back and bigger than ever!! It was too close to an artery to smash with a big book. Apparently a lot of doctors used to do that - "Just place your hand on the desk, let me have a proper look" (with something big like a Bible) "hmm...there you are, that should sort it"

Oh I have GOT to go and poo. TMI i know but frankly, you've all been there you know how i feel.
(well no, not IN my bathroom, that would be too much)(it's too small anyway)
(you know what i mean)

Forgot to say, since this is a thread about our March babies (not my feb 08 baby) that Thea (brilliant choice btw RKD's brother ) is also rolling, and tonight had the kickiest, smiliest time in the bath, she LOVED it...Also, she's properly chatting to us now, it's like she's got the confidence to tell us all about stuff....i think before hand there was just a bit too much noise around her!! ha ha.
Lovely lovely age. (though i say that a lot)(i quite like it all)

can anyone help with my other thread please? its been bothering me all day..

the ganglion hurts - not quite childbirth but really nasty when DD kicks it - I cant imagine htting it on purpose.

rebecca or for the negative?

BMI wooohoo for the rolling..

i just reREAD my last few sentences....what i meant was...

"you've all been there" (as in, the need to poo)
and then when i went off on one about not in the bathroom i MEANT....
"well you haven't all been in my bathroom cos it's tiny and it wouldn't fit you all"
NOT
"well i'm not going to poo in my bathroom my poo is too small for that"
because, well, mostly because THAT wouldn't have made SENSE.

As you were. already way too much said about poo.

just pour yourself a large G&T mummyelk and stop worrying about the poo

I was also v entertained by the 'stroganoff' baby !!!!