Dec 08 Ladies - Maybe this thread they'll ALL sleep through the night at the same time!

[Beans33]

Apologies for rubbish title, couldn't think of anything - mind is totally riddled by hormones...!

Ahhhh
Am currently wearing my new nightie. Very pleased with it. Am sending back about 60% of what I ordered though. Always happens with toast, some stuff I absolutely love and some is hideous in the flesh. this is lovely though. Have delegated finishing bedtime to DH who finally showed up, and am contemplating taking a leaf out of Effie's book and going for a spa day tomorrow. Have to get out of this funk.

Thank you for your kind words. Invis that sounds like quite a week. Hope your DD is feeling better.

I meant to say too that is very good news about your Dad ladyt. DH reading over my shoulder so better go

I meant this sorry. Hope you're enjoying Belfast veggie.

Just want to do a quiet hurrah for MOM. Am in bonkers clenaing and organising mode so not had much time for MN not even for lurking.

Anyway will be back properly next wk. We have our wedding party/reception thing tom night am not looking forward to it. Center of attention is not me. Will just get drunk and behave badly.

Oh and flippin hives have flared up again so tom eve I have to put on my wedding dress with hives all over my neck and shoulders and with bad tan lines that no amount of fake tan will cover up. Also I have a spot the size of Mount Etna on my forehead which Archie keeps helpfully pointing out and telling me I have a spot!

Onwards and upwards.

Will be back for personals on Monday. And no doubt dome more whinging.

Happy weekend all.

Jam, you dark horse Have a lovely, lovely time tomorrow night. Max Factor Pan Stick (old fashioned, I know, but it's been going for forty years for a reason) and a dust of transluscent powder will cover any spot. And maybe the hives will fade overnight if you douse them in Calamine.

Congratulations, Jam, have a really lovely time.

Sorry to Urbane and Invis about your work problems. Invis I hope you're not working your butt off this weekend, is there another way you can show your client that you care about their case but without giving yourself too much work as it's not yours anymore?

Urbane, that sounds like a very uncomfortable situation, and of course you feel bad about letting the GLA one down. have you been given a deadline to make a decision?

Had another shocking night, T coughing and wheezing like crazy and can't get him to take his inhaler, it's literally physically impossible. I'm wondering whether there are any allergy issues there (dust, rhinitis etc) as he constantly has a runny nose and is coughing. Does anyone know how to go about checking for allergies? Is is a question of getting a referral from the GP?

Spot: if it is a dust mite allergy you can do a lot by washing floors and bedding. Does T have a carpet in his room? Washing bedlinen and pillows ans duvets then drying them in the sun should kill off any mites. Def go to the gp for a referral. Also could it be hay fever? The old Vaseline on the nostrils trick might help (sticks to the pollen). Detergents? Fairy washing powder/liquid has a lot of perfume in it.

Ooh, thanks for the tips, Effie, not heard about the vaseline one, will give it a try.
Just got my screening results back and I've been classed as low risk so feeling quite relieved!
Daisy, how are you doing? Been thinking of you.

spot - yay for the low risk!!!! sorry to hear T is so poorly.

jam - you know what? you'll look gorgeous and have so much fun, no matter what you think. i'd love to find a reason (and losing 2.5 stone) to wear my wedding dress again - have fun!

sorry to those of you with work problems. sounds tough.

we are having a one and a half year birthday party for madam today. the garden looks like a playgroup - paddling pool, trampoline, tunnel - basically anything i could find to put outside. am a little nervous of being invaded by little humans - there's only 5 of them plus parents, but still.

Hi all
So much has happened on here. So sorry if I miss things out.
mom and wg huge congratulations to you both! Am praying your tiny ones will stick and grow. It must be so hard to balance the scariness and the excitement.
Daisy you poor thing. I'm so sorry to hear how things are with your dh. I wish I could come round and sit with you and have a stern word with him. I have no wise advice to offer, but what others have said re taking some time out sounds sensible. Do you talk to your parents about these things? Do you think dh realises the seriousness of the situation?
zoe how scary for you. I'd have been a wreck too. I pulled out on a roundabout yesterday without looking right and a car was coming and the driver really glared at me (quite rightly!) and that was enough to reduce me to a jibbering wreck!
kiwi it sounds like you've done a fantastic job with your dd's sleep and that you've more than managed without your dh. Big well done to you . You are superkiwi!
Urbane what a stress and how unpleasant to have to go through that Hope the new role works out ok. How's the asthma?
Spotofalcoholfreecheerfulness in York there is a paediatric allergy clinic but you need a GP referral so I imagine there'll be similar things where you are. I'd never heard of the vaselinated nostrils effie - that's really good idea! How's the foot now effie? And have you done a test?
Pubes I think you sounds incredibly positive about what sounds like a pretty tricky trip away! I think you're a Very Good Wife
ladyt so so pleased for your dad. Not a great thing to have, but, like you said, the best outcome of the potentials. How's the sleep? Hope you get a good rest tonight. Is the rash getting better? You sounds like you're really in the wars
wg P stopped BF a few months ago and has had no milk since, other than what's on her cereal. So she wakes around 6.30 - 7am, we get her out of her cot at 7 and go straight down for breakfast, which is usually weetabix, yogurt and a satsuma. She might have a tiny bit of water from a beaker but usually not.
Oh and on the BF thing...it's been a few months since we stopped, yet when I'm in the shower I can still squeeze milk out! How odd is that?!
veggie I LOVE those croc sandals! Hope you're having a fab time away. My friend is at a wedding in belfast too - wonder if it's the same one?
Invis that sounds like a stressful, worrying, expensive, frustrating week. I think you need to not work your guts out this weekend. Here's hoping for a better week to come.
Jam Hope you have a fabulous time at your wedding do
Beans I loved the birth story and am so pleased to hear things are going so well in the Beans Family. Pics of baby Pru on here please (I'm not on FB!)
SL how's the bump today? I was picturing you doing the headstand off the settee thing that someone suggested! Any progress with the house?
LadyT you have my sympathy on the noisy cockerel. We have a farm behind our house and the cockerel makes a right old racket and certainly not just a little dawn wake up call. I might sneak out and glue it's beak shut, or chop off that wobbly red bit (not sure that would shut it up but I think it's freaky!)
Things here have been ticking along at the slightly-more-hectic-than-normal pace, thus preventing me from being on here much. The girls are both now competely scabbed over, so Lu was back to school on Wednesday. I thought that would be when life returned to normal, but unfortunately my car started making an odd noise, so I took it to the garage and they diagnosed it as being very poorly. So they gave me a (very old, no power steering, no radio, wind-down windows) corsa to drive while they had my car, which sounded worse than mine! Anyway I drove that to work on Thursday, but then thursday evening DH drove it and the steering wheel came off I was due to pick up my friend on Fri morning at 6am to take her to the airport (to go to the Belfast wedding!) so I took DH's car and he sorted out the courtesy car then took that to his work. I got my friend to the airport on time then went straight from there to work, which took twice as long as it shoulod have done, after I got completely lost (so much that I cried) on the outskirts of Leeds (and had the roundabout scenario) and arrived at work about 3 minutes before I was due to start a lesson on puberty and periods for a load of 10 year olds! I did the lesson but felt pretty shocking, then got back to the office with a mahoooosive headache, then felt sick, then fainted . Anyway after a drink and biccy I went home and straight to bed, got up for a few hours at tea time, then went back to bed still feeling rotten at 8.30 last night, and woke up fine this morning (woken by the cockerel!). I think it might have been a migraine but it's been years since I had one. It happened about 2 weeks ago too. Strange.
Today we had our church fun day, so I spent from 12 till 4 painting kids' faces! I had a fab time although I think my fingers may have a permanent green tinge to them now
I was going to do the ironing tonight (with my new iron - how dull am I that I'm excited about my new iron?!) but it took me so long to catch up that I think I'll go to bed instead!

oh and JJ I don't think I said a massive congartulations to you too So chuffed for you!

So sorry aub I forgot to say how sad that situation is for your friend. I woke up at 4am and was thinking about her and said a prayer for her and her family.
and jj, congartulations are similar to congratulations, but a bit more special

Hi all

Just a quickie - have bunged a picture on my profile. Sorry to sail on and sail off again - DH gone to B&Q so I am in sole charge. CBeebies on which DH would disapprove of MASSIVELY - tough! Quelle surprise.

Big love.

xxxx

Aw, that's a lovely photo, Beans. Hope you are doing ok. Pop in when you can. Ooh, I love the tiddly new babes. There was a blissful 8wk old at the chambers party yesterday, she was so cute.

Spot, great news about the low risk - bet that's a load off. Personally I think it's naughty that you haven't been referred for allergy tests for T so far - when we take DD to the hospital tomorrow they will apparently test for allergies (which I don't think for one minute she actually has) so it's not like they can't do it at their age. Good luck with pursuing it.

Trace, that sounds like a nightmare day the other day. And a nightmare car! Was your friend going to Veggie's Belfast wedding? Oh, and at least the girls have scabbed over so you are on the way out. If you get that possible migraine again, think about what you have eaten, as foods are often triggers, aren't they? Though I guess they aren't the only thing. I could do with a new iron so if you have bought a real cracker, I want to know what it is

Chambers do was nice yesterday but I wasn't in a very good mood. In the end I went with the older dress that I wore last year, because I felt more glamorous in it. It was only hard on my bump by early evening. I had heels on (lowish ones, but still) and they felt vile. A friend of DP's was saying how small my bump was, and I was just feeling quite good when some bird who I don't know came up and said "Well, YOU don't look like you've got long to go!" Talk about burst my bubble. In the iciest voice this side of the North Pole I said "I have, as a matter of fact. Another three months." I know it's silly to be miffed, but I was I was still chatted up by this bloke who always chats me up, though. It's an odd one. He has a lovely 10month old baby, and I do really like his wife (a colleague of DP's, who is still on mat leave and wants to meet up with me for lunch one day) but he makes absolutely no secret of the fact, at every single chambers function, that he likes me. He swapped seats at the Christmas do to sit next to me. I like talking to him, actually, but I am slightly uncertain as to how to handle it. And I have to admit, it is rather nice having someone telling you how beautiful you are when you feel, as I did yesterday, a fat blousy mess. Also, DP's compliments/attentions are as rare as rocking horse shit. Anyway, this probably all sounds very spoilt and furthermore I do think my hormones are going a bit mad at the moment as I was inwardly furious with DP all day as a) he hadn't ironed his shorts and they were vv crumpled (and I always TRY to make an effort myself, even on the days when I don't go anywhere and don't see anyone) and b) he couldn't be arsed to have a shower on Saturday morning as he had had one on Friday evening at 11pm (true, he had, but so what!) I don't really know why these things upset me so much, I think I'd just tut and shrug normally.

Invis, I hope you haven't been slaving all weekend. And Jam, hope last night was fabby. WG - how did the party go off?

Enjoy the football, kids. I can't get a life to cricket so I am here all day, putatively working.

Gah. What a crock o' shoite that game was. Kiwi, I hope that at least your DH will get an early bath, which will be nice for you. 'Tis the only potential positive I can think of!

so what do all you property gurus make of this then? It's the road next to where I live now but has an extra room and a utility and downstairs loo, and the upstairs has proper height ceilings, whereas our one now is a dormer bungalow so we can't even fit a wardrobe in at present. Not much garden (ie none but a pretty courtyard bit) but open views at the back as it's right next to a farm. It's just been reduced although it's only been on the market for a few weeks.
Flippin football today. I agree with LadyT!

a mahoosive crock of shite. i am now exploiting my german heritage - yay, go the krauts.

thanks, lady, the party was just lovely - paddling pool, trampoline, tunnel in the garden, some lovely babies and parents, some pimms (i did indulge in the odd glass- wish i was off alcohol) and no meltdowns. MCS and DT (friends who went to that wedding in sweden with you and avo, i believe) were there with their dd, too.

trace - looks GORGEOUS!

Trace, have no knowledge of the area but it looks a really lovely house! Oooh, are you thinking of putting in an offer?

Ah, yes WG, D came but M stayed at home with their DD. Mmmm, Pimms - I haven't had one at all this year yet.

Still feeling in quite a grump. I know this is as nothing to all you breastfeeders but my nipples have been really tender and also tingling in a really irritating way since January. I know, full well, that they won't start behaving until sometime in October or November. That isn't why I am in a grump, but whilst it is so lovely to be expecting a baby, and I know I should be cherishing it as the last time, the myriad symptoms of pregnancy do get on my wick. Right, off to grump to myself!

HAving already done an hour's work in my PJs, I am just about to drive in to do some more. Deadline at 4pm so fingers crossed I make it.

LAdy T - all the very best for O's appointment today. I hope you get a paed who is encouraging and sensible, with lots of practical suggestions for tempting Miss O to eat. I'll be thinking of you. Lots of love.

Once this project off my plate, I should have the time to post properly adn not just lurk. Have a good day everyone.

Daisy - sounds promising, I do agree with your dh in that he needs a chance since he didn't know how you felt. I really hope this holiday goes well and you can work through things.

Beans cute photo, but it's tiiiiiiny! Can you post a bigger one or or FB?

Sybs - good luck with the deadline today

Lady, good luck with the appt today, hope you are feeling a little better this morning.

Vag how was the wedding?

Awww thanks Trace I have posted some pics of my latest trip away wifey excellence

Anyway, last minute accom searching turned into a great success. Found a fabulous place to stay which I would highly recommend. Nothing was too much trouble and the place was fabulous. ds had some more teething issues but wasn't as bad as he has been. Didn't do much except enjoy the hotel and then watch some of the race, but it was lovely and the weather obviously was perfect.
ds is a bit off with sleeping with all this travel and wouldn't go to bad last night, but finally nodded off at about 830, then up at 6 I'm knackered again, as a result. Getting another fan today as the temp was 28C in his room last night even with a fan on for him.

Daisy, that's really good news. I'm so pleased he is taking you seriously.

I am malingering in bed with a horrendous headache which has been going on for three days. I have a gp appt this morning - now I need to call in to work and break the news . I hate taking time off, it makes me feel like such a fraud.

Good morning all. my computer keeps freezing so apologies for somewhat haphazard personals - Beans gorgeous picture but I repeat cries for bigger one please!

LadyT Alas, early exit for DH is not following swiftly behind Englands (somewhat predictable IMO) failure - but it DOES mean that there's no way they'll want him to stay longer, so that's good news.

Daisy Sounds to me like a really good breakthorough with DH. WHether of course it will sort things out only time can tell but at least you've been able to really let him know how you feel, and it sounds like his reaction was positive. Obviously you can't just mend/patch up feelings but it sounds like you might be able to have a little space/calm to work on it together.

A question - does anyone know where I can buy a cute little toddler-sized beanbag? DD loves sitting on cushions etc and I think she'd really like one but can only see the "armchair-ashaped" kind which I don't actually think she'd like as much. I want a normal beanbag shaped one, just much much smaller...!

Hello ladies. Back from Belfast with a very tired family. Poor DH had to go to Brussels early this morning while the boys and I slept in. EasyJet very kindly gave us an extra 2 hrs in Belfast so instead of getting in at a reasonably hour we got in late and everyone was shattered. Also on the easyjet theme. Always make sure you print out your booked baggage confirmation as if you don't that is when Easyjet will mysteriously not have any record of you having paid for your hold baggage.

Anyway apart from easyjet being annoying we had a lovely weekend. We realised we knew more of the friends than we thought and re met with a couple who were expecting their first child when we last saw them and who we got really well with but due to moving out of London never really got to catch up with again. Surprisingly that DS child is now 3.5 years and they also have a DS2 20 month old! We really get on well and had a brilliant time with them and their kids as well as another couple we know really well. The bride didn't arrive until the day but we spent time with the groom and looked after their son while he did last minute bits. The all the DS's (& one DD) had a great time and formed a very nice pack. There were various other children who also had a great time, I think some of the kids are a bit cotton wooled so had a great time going completely mental in the grounds of the hotel. The night of the wedding was good though had to resettle DS2 once & DS1 got a nose bleed but we spent a decent amount of time at the party enough time to have a few Mojitos (there is a funny story to attach there but might tell it later) and give myself quite a nice hangover. I didn't get to have my nice spa time but did get breakfast to myself one morning which was good, though unfortunately got say next to one of the precious cotton wooled kids families so was a little annoying, the mother was not someone I would normally get on with was a cross between elsmuggo and someone who knows absolutely everything and enjoys boring everyone with boring trivia, whilst whining to anyone who would listening about how difficult it is looking after her one son, most people with kids at the wedding had at least 2, & this boy was very sweet but not an overly exuberant boy, well compared to my 2 who were quite lively the whole weekend.

Anyhoo I'm going on I've read up but can only remember Daisy's news & Urbane's quite stressful work situation. Urbane I do think your situation seems a bit yukky. I think your boss is worried about losing you but is really going about trying to keep you in quite a dodgy way. Is he/she approachable enough to let her know how stressed out this has made you and you will stay but want them to realise the situation they put you in? I think the HR lady was tactless but she has obviously seen something she doesn't like in the way they delt with you. Her job means she can't outright tell you to complain so i guess that is why she hasn't gone into detail.

Daisy sorry it came to you getting so upset to get his attention but hopefully things will improve. I would maybe chat to your mum. I know she has a lot on her plate but I would hate to think my boys didn't feel they could offload on me because they thought I was too stressed. When they are older that is.

Wow it's hot huh!

Oh & DS1 looked gorgeous in his Pirate costume everyone loved it. DS2 had a little baby mao suit and looked a bit like a tai chi instructor, again very cute and was told so many times over the day. Both boys were brilliant during the service as were most of the kids with exception of some of the littler ones who found it too hot so retired with one parent to the graveyard which was much nicer. DS1 was so upset when we left he and the newly marrieds DS get on so well and have known each other since they were a week old. They were both inconsolable when we left. DS1 cried the whole way to the airport. Then on & off the
whole way home. I suddenly felt really guilty for constantly taking him away from his friends. I even wondered if we should have ever left London?!?

Pubes glad you had a nice weekend

spot they were the traditional crocs gloggs I'm actually not a big fan of those just because I can't stand loose shoes I like to feel strapped into a shoe. But they are great for the boys. The wedges were great soooooo confortable and I can't usually deal with more than a kitten heal. I could even run after DS2 in them.