November 09 - solids and crawling underway but sleepless nights still here to stay!!

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Jem- I hate to plug it on this thread, but would something like what I do be any good to you? It fits really well with kids as you can just take them with you. Link in my post at 22.47 last night.

I did have a look - still considering my options at the minute. I'm a web developer so have freelance to fall back on if all else fails.

Laugs sleeps still crap Fed up of it. It's become this big thing in my life and I can't seem to get rid of it.

I started work again in May but I work freelance so it fits around everyone else and sleeps.

Sorry to hear that BBL. My aunt, who I spoke to you about, is going back on anti-depressants as nothing else is working for her and the lack of sleep is making everything so much worse. Worth a try?

Do you know what sort of anti-depressants she takes? I've been dithering about taking medication for 6 months now and still dithering, every day I dither! I did try fluoxitine (prozac) but it made the insomnia ten times worse.

Proud mummy alert: I've had two lovely school reports for DS1 and DS2 today

Aw well done DS1 and DS2.

She had been prescribed ADs which she hated and I think felt made things worse, so she stopped them without speaking to the doctor. Then things got worse again and now she's been to see a different doctor to get different ADs (the first doctor was horrible anyway) but I'm not sure what they are. I can find out for you though.

Sorry to hear your sleep's still crap, BBL Good on the DS's though.

Lovely to see you laugs, BBL, butterpie and hello jem

It's HOT isn't it?!

I was in London on Thursday night laugs for bday drinks and dinner with old friends and it made me go a bit funny too. And Rosa. Two nights in a row i didn't put her to bed and now she has been demanding boob much more (previously on morn/night and small afternoon one) and waking a lot in the night. Urgh. If that's what the price of feeling like 'myself' (not mummy) for a night or two is, maybe I'll not bother. Now that is depressing too...

Another cucumber fan her ursi as well as strawberries. She loves destroying them, along with her clothes. But I think you are taking things more slowly and I know some people hold off strawbs. No probs here tho.

Off to have a look at your link butterpie

MissInterpret, it's true, we are taking it slowly, mainly because we had big problems after sweetcorn and then even worse after strawberries. It took us almost two weeks to go back to a normal digestion. (We went through 4 nappies each night for a while - usually within 10min). So I've decided no strawberries for this season anymore.

sorry to hear that you are still not sleeping well BBL but well done to your ds's on their school reports.

Have had a busy couple of days here, Dh had his vasectomy on Thursday so he is a bit sore and a bit black and blue but overall good. was a bit nervous when we took him down to the hospital but was relieved when he came out ok. He was done under general for some reason so had to be careful of side effects of that when he came home. he didnt do much yesterday and rested mainly. he was very achey. He braved it out shopping today. Am happy with his decision just wish I could take the soreness away for him.
Ds and dd have been good today and have a present each whilst shopping and are now relaxing at home. (baby is in bed now)

Just has to give B his first hair cut His crazy quiff was so long it kept going in his eyes. Have take a tiny amount off, so its still crazy

sirboob, glad you only took a tiny bit off. He looked so cute with it! Do you still have it? You could make a wig for Paula She is still almost bald (although it seems to get better)

DWB Hope you're feeling ok today. Good luck with your return to work tomorrow.

SB Have you kept a lock of B's hair? I wished I had kept a lock of D's hair. He had tons of hair and still does. I asked the barber yesterday to give him a number 2 all over as the heat was really getting to him. He looks even more like his Daddy with the new haircut.

Laugs I hope you feel brighter. I have had some low days lately. I keep thinking my period is going to show up, but no sign yet. I feel more hormonal of late. I struggle without any family help. I have MIL close by, but she is pretty useless with babies and I feel she is on a different planet most of the time. It's really hard at times when you have no family support. Maybe finding some 'me' time may help?

BBL Sorry your sleep isn't improving. Do you have any good nights?

Ninja your wedding sounds lovely!

By the way.. D is DS1!! I haven't given my baby a number 2

Oh yes, its in a little box with the dreadlocks I cut off a while back I can't stand to just throw it away. He does have rather impressive hair, especially in the mornings

Juicy I hope DH mades a speedy recovery

BBL I hope the sleep improves for you soon, that must be very hard

DWB fingers crossed for you tomorrow.

Laugs if you tried prozac last time, it might be worth giving citalopram a shot this time? Everyone I've spoken to who got on badly with one got on fantastically with the other! I do really feel for you; it makes everything feel 100% worse than it really is when you feel low. x

Do any of you know much about housing benefit? My parents have started asking me for more money being here and I'm thinking it would actually be cheaper (as well as more practical!) moving out, but have no idea about HB.

SB You should go for it if you can. I know a small amount about housing benefit. I recently looked in to the costs when we were relocating MIL from Shrew to London. Our local authority were offering her £600pcm as a single women, living in Greater London. We could find rental properties for this amount, but many landlords refused DSS. I think this is crazy. She is an OAP and hardly a party animal (occasionally blasts out the odd Robbie Williams track). The odd property that would accept my MIL (they were awful accomodation) wanted us to pay a deposit and a month of rent up front. We managed to get her sheltered housing which has worked out brilliant. She gets her council tax paid for as well. I think finding the property is the hardest job. Phone your LA and see what they advice. Also, keep your eyes peeled and see what the lettings market have on offer.

Hi all, been lurking but no time to post as busy packing! We are off on Tuesday, gulp, and have been having lot's of sad goodbyes with friends and family.

Millie is loving her food and now squeals if we are eating and she doesn't have anything. This morning I was eating a bagel with peanut butter and she grabbed it and stuffed it in her mouth. I wasn't sure about her having peanut better yet so I took it of her and she squealed so loudly and frantically waved her arms! In the end I thought it probably wouldn't do her any harm to have some and she doesn't appear to be allergic to peanuts!

Her sleeping is a lot better too, thank god. She has slept through some nights and others wakes maybe once at about 3 am then sleeps through till morning, that I can handle! Although its typical that she has started sleeping through just before we go to Singapore and now her sleep patterns are going to get totally messed up.

Jem welcome to the thread!

butterpie good to see you back...there are some other regulars missing, hope everyone is ok, Pavlov's not been on for a while has she?

Right, better go and do some more chores, I will try and get back on before I leave...

sirboob no idea about HB I'm afraid, hopefully someone else on here can advise. Bless Bryn and his crazy hair!

juicy Hope your dh makes a speedy recovery and isn't too sore...

bbl Sorry you are still having sleeping issues, I hope it sorts itself out soon.

Don't know what happened there, my post has gone a bit strange and not in the order that It was written, hope it still makes sense!

Oh and I meant took the bagel off Millie not of!

Cheers Fruit - everyone has advised me around here that its best to go in saying "I've found X property, this is the address, have spoken to the landlord - these are my circumstances, how much am I eligible for?" which is slightly intimidating. Am glad you found somewhere for her

SB can you put yourself on the housing list? When B turns 1 you might find you'll go to the top of the list. My BF has mental health problems and can't work because of this. She is married and her DH has a full time job. They were living with her parents when she was pg with DS1. She spoke with the LA and advised them she could no longer live in the family home as she doesn't get along with her step dad and he wants to kick her out. Her DM wrote a letter to back this up. The LA housed her under medical reasons. She was offered a 1 bed flat and was moved when DS1 turned 1 to a 2 bed. Might be worth thinking about other options.

Housing list around here is crazily long. And all they are issuing people at the moment is bedsits in the middle of nowhere. A friend of mine has recently enquired and was offered the closest one - a two hour drive away. Thanks though.

My mum just had a go at me because I've said I won't be going to my cousins (secondary) hen do the day before Bryn's Baptism. She's going - its a three hour drive, and apparently she will be able to do both. I know my mother, and she won't; she will either end up staying the night and oversleeping on the Sunday morning, or even if she leaves the moment it finishes, she will be knackered from the do / drive back the next day and will either not attend the Baptism or will be falling asleep at the back of the chuch. I know she will - she's done the same thing for a friends wedding. And she wonders why I'm telling her she's being irrational... UGH.

SB - www.entitledto.co.uk

Very useful for trying out different situations. Also, you can claim HB for paying rent to your parents, if that is an option...

Evening all

A friend had asked me about my birth story so I sent her it by email, after looking at my posts on here while in labour and then my birth story on the first postnatal thread. A nice way to reminisce and round off my maternity leave!

Have been a bit teary today, had a little cry giving Ethan a feed before bed. I don't think I could be a stay at home mum permanently, I think I would always need to work to stay sane, but it's the thought of working full-time indefinitely due to DP's working situation which is bringing me down a bit. DP said earlier "Don't worry, Ethan will be fine"... I think that's part of the problem, accepting that he will be ok without his mummy!

I'm hoping I'll be okay tomorrow as I definitely do not want to get upset in work! Hopefully the day will fly in.

Helips I hope you're not finding all the goodbyes too difficult. It's not goodbye, it's a "see you soon"! Good luck with the move x

SB Hope you can sort something out. And I'm interested in hearing how you managed the haircut... Ethan has a very long fringe which I'm constantly sweeping to the side but I'm worried he wouldn't sit still long enough for me to cut his hair. Also a bit scared about making a mess!

Hope everyone else is well. I for one am pleased to see the end of this world cup!

I know what you mean about the working- I think I secretly like it when nobody else can settle Emmeline...

I just had Laugs round for tea! It was great :D

Butterpie - Not impressed! Not only can my baby survive when Mummy is working but my forum friends are meeting for tea!