AUG 08 - Here we go again and again and again...

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Seriously!

miamla - if you want to get away this evening we have a game of settlers going on so do come and crash it if you wld like!

oops we did and it was lovely. Must have done about 4 mile walk, the outer perimeters of both woods . Had to bribe the DD's with food though to stay in the buggy otherwise we would still be there . Found some new sawn off tree trunks in the old arboretum loop walk which the girls both loved jumping on

Just tried to give DD1 a burger hidden in a pitta bread with ketchup. She rumbled me and said 'i don't like this'. So odd that i can persuade her (sometimes after a long time) to eat things. Just not burgers [hmmm]. So she has just eaten the pitta bread, grilled corn on the cob and mushrooms

albs thank you but i'm still not in a great mood and fully intend to be in bed by 9 but do appreciate your offer

well pil have been dispatched to park with DS, DH in the garden repairing the lawn. i've been to tesco's and done a big shop so i'm now in bed having a break

buckets and thank you, yes i know, not like me and as you can see from above, i have taken back the reigns of control

sorry all, haven't caught up properly but will do later when i'm entertaining pil

Attagirl.

I have knitted 2"!!! Well, is a wobbly combination of stocking, garter and half-way-through-a-row switches and is getting wider and wider by the row. Damn these kiddy needles, am going to run out of room for it! Plus the wool had a worn bit so I've had to tie a knot and start a new colour And all the knots in my shoulders which were undone in the jacuzzi have been done up again this afternoon!

But I still prefer knitting to jogging so it has that in its favour.

OMG, we are POSL at INTG - they have a new prop - the 'Olly Bolly Dob Dob flower'

my brother is being a complete cock. i've got a thread in aibu about him and his current visit to uk but he has just phoned and left a message on our answerphone that my mum isn't looking after DS whilst i'm at work this week and that i have to make other arrangements.why? because he wants to spend time with mum.he's a fucker. this is the bro that wanted compensation for loss of earnings to attend my wedding in case anyone's wondering what one it is.
so i've spent the last hour crying. dh is taking tomorrow off work and i'm going to try and take tues off. neither of us trust pil to look after DS all day otherwise they'd have been a solution to it all!

sounds like i should try watching ITNG!

Surely it's up to your mum to decide whether she looks after her grandson or not, Miamla?

And yes, he is being a cunt. A great big sweaty hairy ballsack. I bet he has moobs and smells of vinegar.

i've tried phoning her since he left the message and either my sister or brother answer the phone and they won't let me talk to her. i bet they're all having a fucking good laugh about it

actually, he does normally smell horrible because 'he's a hippie and doesn't believe in wasting water' but he had a rare shower last week!

DH has confiscated my phone now. he's banned me from trying to talk to her anymore because they were upsetting me so much!

how's J been today?

Are your siblings all psychopaths? Seriously, what is their problem with you? And why are they able to control your mum in this way?

J has been fine today, thanks A bit moany on and off but just usual toddler stuff.

Bloody hell miamla that is TOTALLY out of order . Very occasionally i try and get my mum to not mind DSis's children on a Weds so she can come and visit, but this is arranged months in advance to ensure DSis can get cover. I cannot understand that your Mum would agree to such short notice either, unless your brother is lying to her about having ok'd it with her?
TBH i would be going round to see her to ask outright. Yes DP doesn't want you upset but in your situation i would be more worried about my mum letting me down and wanting to ensure she wasn;t being 'played' than worrying about twatty Brother. GRRRRRRR. Wish i lived closer as i am now free for babysitting services

Miamla he is bang out of order!!! How dare he come over here and make changes without checking with your mum or you? He really does have an inflated sense of self importance doesn't he?

DD in bed finally exhausted after loads of running around the garden like a puppy.

Miamla that's outrageous . So sorry you have to deal with this horrible behaviour. I would offer to help you out but we work the same days, Mon to Wed, don't we? If you still need to escape by Thurs/Fri let me know, would love to meet up and you could at least let off steam at me!

no cyteen, not all of them, just the one apparently but he has an awful lot of control over the other two

thanks girls, i'm alot calmer now. DH sent mum a text along the lines of 'miamla is incredibly upset. i'm not having our son treated like a burden and being part of childish games. we really appreciate all you've done until now but i've made other arrangements for childcare for this week' She then phoned, apparently knew nothing about what siblings were doing re answering phone nor what message bro had left. don't believe her tbh, she's just trying to dig herself out of a hole and apparently she's now upset and wants to talk to me. DH told her she couldn't and that i'd phone tomorrow

i just hope DH doesn't lose his job by booking hols at such late notice. his boss is being a real twunt at the moment but that's a whole other story

oh and pert, you're on, we'll def sort something out

Hi everyone.
So sorry not manahed to catch up yet but will as and when.
miamla so sorry to hear your brother is thinking of only himself yet again!

Hope everyone is well and the pregnant ladies are doing well.

An update if anyone is interested

I am still at mums. dcs are doing great. Marcus is like a different child, talking non stop, laughing, singing, dancing, grining all the time. In fact he now only cries for a reason.(if that makes sense) I obviously feel dreadful that he was like he was because of me/us/environment etc...

Dd is great too (still the sibling rivalry) she has developed an amazing relationship with my mum which is fantastic.
Mum takes her off to see to the horses daily which gives me some one to one time with Marcus. She also took her to work with her yesterday and said she loved it playing wit all the horsey things in the shop and being an angel.

They have been staying with their dad on the odd night when he has been either off work or out of the pub!

was advised by my dad and several others for him to have no contact due to him being out drinking almost constantly. he also got beat up the other week and had his eye glued together. I said he shouldnt see them till it looked better.
He turned up at my mums out of the blue friday, and dcs went mad for him, o couldnt exactly stop them from going. He took them to stay over and said they were at the seaside for the day so had them two nights.

Was difficult being away fro them for two nights, but wont deny the sleep and rest did me the world of good.

I have also some fantastci news re a home.

An absolutley gorgeous cottage with a huge garden and paddock on the back in my mums village could be mine very soon.
If i get tje electrics done and pay council tax i can have it rent free for at least a year.

Needs cleaning,painting and a kitchen.

Good news is that my dad and uncle are electicians, and my brother is a landscape gardener and handy man, so all looking very promising.
The dcs love it in the village, and I am generally loving how relaxing it all is. so excited thinking about the summer in this place. Already thinking about my chickens.
I will post before pics asap so you can join me in my renovation project.

Have solicitors in the morning to officially get things moving. dh made a very generous offer,but everyone pushing me to get a financial search done, as all so sure he has money stashed away that I don't know about.

So sorry to ramble on, miss you all, but my laptop has died and I cant really afford a new battery, or charger for it at the moment, so I pinch my little brothers macbook when he is out with his girlfriend.
I will get to catch up soon I promise.
lots of love to you all, please let me know if any meet ups are on the go.

Sister gets married next saturday, and I still have nothing to wear. eek. so off to internet shop while i have the laptop.
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Fantastic to see you . Wheat great news about M and C settling down, it must give you a fantastic feeling that you have definitely done the right thing. Cottage sounds great so does the seeing a solicitor on MOnday.

okay so due to food overdose tonight's word is fantastic

And....

Dizzy sweetie if you are lurking we are thinking of you {{{HUGS}}}

No1 that has cheered my up more than you will ever know. I am very happy that things are going so well for you. I'm also looking forward to the renovation of your cottage.

hi no1... wow! i reckon we should have a meetup at your new place

Yay, so lovely to see you No1 . I can feel you radiating from that post - so lovely to hear.

Go with what YOU think on the financial search. IF what he is offering can set you up and keep you maintained ok day to day then maybe not rock the boat? SO glad to hear DS and DD (and you) thriving and flourishing

Hope to 'see' you soon. xx

No1 hullo and hurray! That all sounds good! Well done you . We miss you though, hope your brother's relationship continues to thrive so you can sneak on here more often

Miamla glad DH is sticking up for you. Good luck with the next few days, hope your mum gets her act together.

Right, bed calls. DH is home from his conference . A good week for everyone beginning tomorrow, I hope.

Ladies - I have just rediscovered the terror associated with DH and trimming hair in places I can no longer reach. A man and scissors will NEVER be allowed that close to my bits ever again!

I am off to bed now with a chicklit book, see you all in the morning.

no1!!!!!!! So incredibly glad to hear from you lovey, I have been thinking of you all week. And how brilliant to hear of all the positive stuff going on, honestly I am made up

There MUST be a meet up soon!

Lots of love to you and those gorgeous LOs xxx

I am off to bed now after draining my brain on my uni presentation, so night night all.

Fuckity, fuckity fuckit

Have just realised i am running toddler group and making pizza's tomorrow plus doing refreshments. Bugger. Will have to get up, make dough and a lemon drizzle cake all before 9. Gah

Night all. xx

No1 fantastic to see you and to hear that you are working things out for your new life. Cottage sounds great - no time to reply at greater length but echo CC go on your instinct and natural sense of what is right.

Sazz I expect you are stabbing your cake and drizzling lemon by now hope you have fun today.

Am going to work and leaving ds2 with new lady. Will you all keep an eye on him for me, I'll leave the computer running... Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhh.