AUG 08 - Here we go again and again and again...

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Seriously!

Yes, it does sound like you have cracked it in realising that. From all you have said it certainly does seem to be the case

So a break in Cyprus for you - doing what YOU want if CM has the girls for a bit and then a plan is needed. Any thoughts on what that plan might entail.....?

Morning LOTI and Crispy

DD up at 6.30 but happy to snuggle until 7 when I resorted to the dreaded Peppa pig in bed but that didn't last so we are downstairs and DD is on her second bowl of shreddies and I have read 'Some dogs do' about 47 times! DH will be woken up in 15minutes as DD apparently 'needs' him which I suspect comes from him allowing her to share his toast and jam.

We are (if it stops raining) going to plant out DDs veg plants and plant some more seeds.

thinking of a plan.. it think maybe the best thing would be for him to move out for a bit and try and get this need to do whatever he wants whenever he wants out of his system.. he is a massive football fan so when the world cup starts he is going to be wanting to go out lots and i canot even start to think about what that might entail..

the first day we go to cyprus the team he supports are in the playoff and on tv and he already said he wants to see them play.. 1st day away on hols with the kids in over a year and thats what he wants to do?? priorties are all wrong..

what i have really found this weekend tho is peace.. just ticking along with the girls deciding myself what to do/watch on tv/even cook and it feels nice..

i am also seriously thinking of trying to back to work part time to try and re-establish some of my own identity.. he loves me being a sahm and i must confess i do love it but i don't think its put me in the right frame of mind to voice my own opinions/thoughts about what i want iykwim??

ye gods sorry crispy this is a bit heavy for a sunday morning

LOTI - sounds like this weekend has actually been very good for you. You have had a chance to think about all that is going on and a way of helping yourself out of it. If working p/t will help you get your sense if self back then go for it. Yes being s SAHM is fab but unless you have some 'adult' time away from the children discissing things that are not child related it can become who you are rather than the independant person you are.

Morning Oops and you have but what i what i was trying to say so well .. hope dd has got her papa up

Papa apparently needs another 15minutes

Well done on the thinking you have done, sounds like things are sorting in your head . Do you think he would agree to move out easily though? Obv requires rent on somewhere else as well as the house, unless he has a footy mate he can crash with? PT work sounds like a good idea to help speed up your transformation back to fiesty independent, kick ass woman

Don't tell me it is raining down South Oops as i was thinking of a trip to Westonbirt today. Can't be stuck in again and i refuse to go to soft play hell. Maybe a garden centre then........

LOL at the Young Ones last night! hotsy glad your dh so happy re. Leeds! And cyteen those shoes are stunning... slaver

Hello early risers (me not included today obviously).

Loti I am loving your new voice .

MmeCrisp where did you decide to pitch your tent?

redser that reminds me - don't know did I say this or not - we booked a house on the Beara Pen (originally was Mizen) so a possible meetup the middle two weeks of August? I would lurve to be coming down to the litfest too but currently looking unlikely.

Great work LOTI. He loves you being a SAHM because it shows the world he is earning enough to support his family. Box ticked, job done, pub time. So do you think you'll mention it on holiday or just stay out of his way? 'Have you actually noticed that your marriage is on the rocks and that I'm looking through the basics of being a single mum?' I am willing to bet it will come as a huge shock to him as he is so complacent, maybe the holiday would be a good time to talk it through.

I watched Dr Panassuss last night, don't know why I rented it as I hate Terry Gilliam films and this turned out to be no exception. Huge budget for a limitless world of the imagination and they recycle the same props and design grr, have seen more imagination in an episode of Pokemon tbh. And boring too, no plot and rubbish Pythonesque jokes (move on, man!.) Which leads me to my point, that Python and The Young Ones were amazing, groundbreaking premiers of silliness, the pinnacle of which was my beloved Vic Reeves' Big Night Out, but when I watch them these days I don't find them so hilarious at all.

Lady here in Kerry first (the website has the worst best music ) and here in Kilkenny second

Sorry, tis Tipperary second . Looked at so many last night i ended up like this

I hope one of you is around at the moment to calm me down! I got woken up when pil and dh went to bed, woken up again at 3am when fil had a wee then woken again when mil had a wee then DS started crying at 4 so i was up with him for half hour. DS awake again at 5/5.30 gave up at 6.30, brought him into bed with me. he wasn't happy. dh decided pinning him down would be conducive to sleep so i got up with him
i am so tired and angry. all of them (apart from me and ds) are still fast asleep upstairs. i just know mil is going to come down soon and be full of the joys of spring blah blah oh and the best bit...they're staying til at least fucking wednesday. how the hell can i go to work tomorrow if tonight's another night like the last two have been?

oh and good morning to you all

great, i can hear movement upstairs. time to put my fucking smile on nope, can't quite manage one

and the lawn looks awful

miamla as SOON as one of them comes down, say 'T has had milk/cereal/banana and a new nappy. I am off for some shut eye. Help yourself to tea and breakfast'.

Smile sweetly and exit stage left.

he is on his way back ekk.. no pub this afo .. please may i keep my strong resolve i have built up over the last two days!!!

Morning ladies

loti I am totally loving the new you, I have to say. Stay calm, stay resolved. It sounds like this weekend has been quite therapeutic for you in a way.

miamla argh. Hope you are getting some rest now.

Not much doing here so far. S hasn't been sick yet it stays that way.

Ooh mon Crisp I had never heard of the Apple Farm one I LOVE it! It looks gorge, where did you find it???

loti remember, detachment is your friend. Show no interest or care unless he shows willing to sit down and actually discuss the state of your marriage (if that's what you want).

Miamla this pisses me off so much, why on earth should you be expected to slap on a smile in your own house? Tell them all to fuck off. Or do what Crispy said (the real world option ).

Another sunny morning at the allotment, toddlertastic. Managed to get some sweetcorn and strawberries in despite three crazy 1yos trying to escape or lurching around near red ants' nests Everyone is knackered now - DS asleep, DP just gone for a lie down.

Came home with yet more rhubarb, sigh.

QoD fingers crossed for a better day from Seb today.

TS & LWFH Happy Mother's Day!

Loti hioe you manage to keep up your resolve for DH's return.

Cyteen loving the Kurt Geiger ones.

Hots Dad is a Leeds fan too. DH is a Carlisle supporter which actually works quite well when the Singaporean taxi drivers ask which team he supports expecting the usual Premiership sides to be trotted out - usually the rest of the journey is peaceful!

Miamla This seems very unlike you. Stop being a doormat - how are they ever going to learn how to behave if you don't tell/show them? Make the three of them take T out to give you some peace so DH can demonstrate how to look after him. Then they can at least take him out to a playground every day that they're staying.

Have had lovely morning with BF, jacuzzi, sauna and swim followed by a little luncheroo out. DH has just taken big two out swimming and Kurt due his nap so time to get my learn-to-knit kit out!

Mother's Day

Reese crying at 7am. Very obvious crying. 7:15am, I get up to take care of things.

I have picked up the living room, dining room, bathroom and kitchen. Made breakfast. Fed the girls. Taken a shower.

It is 9:56AM. DH is still in bed.

Happy Mother's Day.

Oh TS - HAPPY MOTHERS DAY - I hope it improves.

DH sent me back to bed once he got up at 9ish and left me until 10 when him and DD came in and said they were off to breakfast at the farmshop and did I want to join them. SO we went off and DD had a second breakfast of bacon, egg, sauasage, mushrooms and toast. Then we went to the enchanted woods where they have set up the most amazing childrens trail. For the first time DD was old enough to do some of the activities. She napped once we got home and DH sent me back for another nap (I didn't refuse today ) DD and I just made scones for ILs comoing to tea. DH having a nap.

Miamla - I hope you sent them all out and managed a nap.

Cyteen I love the shoes! Allotment sounds fab. We planted beans, peas and calabrese today.

Buckets - sounds like a peaceful morning.

Hi Singa - how is DS?

Lady just a few hours minutes googling all of a few campsites in Kerry/Wexford/Waterford/Cork & Tipperary . Still waiting to hear back from them but mad music 1st site secured

LOTI really hoping you are doing ok and managing cold shoulder routine. Stay strong there ok????

Oops Am LOL'ing about how many times you can fit nap in one post

miamla i sincerely hope you told them all to sort themselves out?

TS that is crap. You should have stayed in bed and kicked DH out (tis what i would do ). Then get DD1 on side to tell Daddy that he should be making breakfast in bed for you and waiting on you hand and foot all day. I certainly intend to train DD1 into being such a nagging harridan prompt for DH in future years. Whatever happens, make sure he takes you and the girls out for lunch/tea

Hiya spring, is DS settled into your new home now?

I think DD2 is ready for a bed as she keeps going into DD1's room and getting into bed and pulling the covers up. DD1 is NOT impressed

Crispy - It's just one nap for each member of our household and one for Miamla. Didi you get to Westonbirt?

I have had to open the back doors and throw DD out she is a little hyper and needs to run off some excess energy before she breaks something in the house.