July 2005 babies

[AussieSim]

Welcome all those with fresh new babies. Oh the joys and tribulations. Post the lot here!

I hope I haven't overlooked a previous thread here for us. Anyway, here goes.

DS2 was due 3 July but arrived 29 June, 9lb 6oz. He has been growing nicely and is 4 weeks old today. I am breastfeeding and have already had mastitis and thrush but am pushing on with it. Biggest problem is sometimes he sleeps too long in the day and then wakes up a lot in the night, not that he stays awake for long, just long enough to feed and go back to sleep. The Midwife says that I shouldn't worry about his lack of wakefulness for the moment in the absence of any other issues, and to see how he is going around the 6 week mark. She also said I should wake him up during the day, which I have been reluctant to do, but I think I will have to do. Anyone else got an overly sleepy baby who doesn't seem to be growing out of it quickly enough?

sorry snafud the link, bows and exits stage left, falling down the stairs...

Hi everyone. well done to all those who have lost weight. think i am going the wrong way. Very disappointed to be back to periods, even got my period migraine with them. think its very unfair this early.

HC. my dd is also feeding manically. so much so that i have hard and painful breasts again today, haven't had that for weeks.

Hope you are doing okay Eulalia. I have had some rough days too. Hope you feel bit brighter this week.

Hello. Well done on the weight gain. HC very of you for loosing 1kg a week without any effort. And Pamina, your weight loss is fantastic.

It was my birthday yesterday and I certainly didn't loose any weight. A friend bought me the most heavenly cake and then babysat for our 2 little girls whilst I went out for a meal with dh. It was fantastic to have a night of freedom. Dd2 refused her bottle though in our absence so my poor friend was very relieved to see us on our return. I had big problems with getting dd1 to take a bottle. I hope history is not repeating itself. I'm going to try and get dd2 to have a bottle again today.

dd2 has been rather horse sounding since her injections on Tuesday. Is this normal? Her cry is very pitiful.

Eulalia, hope things are going better. I have days when I feel I can't cope and I don't have half as much as you. All your posts make you sound like an absolutely fantastic mum.

Pinkmamma, poor you on the period front.

HC, you think you've got clothing problems with you ds now. Wait until your dd grows up! We have major arguments with dd1 every morning about what she's going to wear. The first thing she says each morning is "Mummy, what am I going to wear today?". She is completely obsessed by clothes and has been since she was about 15 months. At 15 months she would cry and cry and cry if you took off one of her favourite bips. If we hadn't put one on her, she would somehow manage to find one to put on. From then, it has gone from bad to worse. She thinks I'm a cruel mummy for not letting her wear my shoes to nursery.

Well, better go. dd2 is asleep and I need to get everything ready for dd1's birthday party on a saturday. Is there a face icon type thing which shows dread?

Morning july mumss hugss

hope all you mums and lovely july babies are well and growing. Us june mums have put some of our updated pics of our babies on our members profiles is you want to take a peek.

Anyway have a great day i do lurk very now and then hugsssssss xxxxxx

Thanks everyone for the kind comments.

Happy birthday yesterday Lolasmum

Yes it is hard - I think mainly because I am doing childcare 7 days a week. dh doesn't have time to do anything However feeling better now - have phoned Social Services for support and also started this week with my childminder for 4 hours. She takes dd one day and ds1 the other and it has already made a difference - I feel more calm. I want to enjoy ds2 while he is little.

Just a general hello as I need to go out now and get shopping. Off to a kids party at the village hall tonight. Have a good weekend everyone.

Happy Birthday for Wednesday Lolasmum. Everyone's gone very quiet it seems which means it's much easier to keep up with this thread! Glad things are a little calmer with a bit of help Eulalia.

Have a sunny weekend everyone.

mumsnet is much more fun than laundry! my uncle has taken dd1 to the park so i can get things ready 4 party. dh is playing golf . currently feeding dd2 then its full steam ahead on operation party [scared face].

Lolasmum - now you have been cross with your DH I feel I can add that my DH is off in London at a party and has been gone since Wednesday and is coming back tomorrow . He decided to make it a "business trip" but is really just hooking up with old mates and drinking a lot!

DD and I have colds - nothing serious at all but poor Harriet is really snotty and snuffly. I have banned the boys' school friends from sticking their filthy little hands inside the pram

DS1's class at school is going to be shown a guide dog next week, and DS1 was asking if a guide dog knows where everywhere is (like The Knowledge!!) so if you tell it to take you to Albania it could do so! He's going to be in for a big disappointment!

Oh dear MrsD. Every woman I've spoken to recently has been moaning about their Dh's. Anybody got anything positive to say about theirs? Dh did do all the tidying though after the party. The party was a real success, but I am relieved it's over. Got another one to go to this morning.

Glad the party went well. We are planning DD's christening and I'm beginning to get a bit nervous about all the people who we'll need to feed afterwards. I really want to thank all our family and friends for being so kind to me when I was pregnant, so we're making a big thing of the christening.

Better get dressed I suppose!

not getting decent computer time boo hiss.
off on holiday back in a week. wish me luck with first flight with snuffly baby...dp just gone out to buy nasal aspirator so poor little thing can feed if he gets worse. sigh timing, huh? hope yopu're all well, enjoying the shift to autumn freshness, xx

Good luck with flight Merryberry and have a brillaint holiday.

MrsD, we need to think about christening too.... We left it until dd1 was 8 months and the priest let his displeasure be known in no uncertain terms!

Enjoy your holiday Merryberry!

Lolasmum, we left DS2's christening until he was about 18 months . It was mainly becuase DH was being gormless about chosing a godfather. We've organised godparents quickly this time, but getting a weekend when everyone is available is quite tricky. We're RC but not that many of our friends our so we have a small pool of potential godparents and don't want to use up too many "possibles" in case we have more children!!

Poor DD is still really enuffly and has a chesty cough as well. If it doesn't clear up by tomorrow I'll take her to the clinic and get the doctor there to have a listen. She is sleeping until about 3am then waking practically every half hour thereafter so I'm doing uniforms/breakfast/lunchboxes in a daze and will probably end up giving the boys homework sandwiches!

Mrs D Dh is RC too. Our problem is that all the people we know who also are are not the sort of people would want to be in charge of moral and spirtual guidance of our children! We're stuck on the godparent one. I think you're very brave to consider another. I'm struggling with 2.

Poor you on the sleepless nights. It has to start getting better soon (in theory)

The counsellor at the hospital had a comforting theory about why I'm still fixated with pregnancy: becuase I was too scared at the time to do any nice pregnant things like sort out clothes or prepare a room, I'm going through those processes now. I don't know if it's right but it made sense to me and made me feel less batty!

Honestly, I am much better equipped to cope with tiredness this time round. I have in the past year had so many nights lying awake because I was upset or worrying, that to be awake with my lovely baby is relatively easy to cope with

Where is everyone? Are you all having top quality time with your families, exercising your pelvic floors and reading the Booker shortlist?

That makes sense MrsD. You were deprived of a lot of the excitement and anticipation that comes with being pregnant.

We have been so lucky with dd2 as she has been seeping through the night for the last 6 weeks. But, for two nights running we've had sleepless nights. Dh did a disapearing act last night and i can't blame him. I am not used to the sleepless nights and a rather zombiefied today. Hoping to get a nap at soe point today as it is dd1s birthday today and some friends and family are popping round to see her after nursery. That means more cake!!!

hellllllloooooo

brief computer time whilst dd naps & ds plays with his farm (actually, may have spoken too soon, i can see an eye opening....). things are going well here, dd is looking delicious in stripey tights (i am so shallow)! she's still a chilled little thing, though can do fantastic wobbly bottom lips if the situation calls for it. she's started really craning her head around looking at things, trying to sit up.

we had a trip to brighton last week to visit pinkmama & her lovely brood. the girls weren't ever awake at the same time, but the boys had fun!

err, not much else to report. i am still too keen on chocolate, but fitted into a pair of jeans i haven't so far this morning which is cheering. they go well with my £2 primark top! we're starting to look at schools for ds to start next year which is rather terrifying. he's excited though.

am of your dd2 sleeping through lolasmum, & a little at the thought of more children mrsd!

hc - girl things are lovely aren't they?

Off to get ds2's first lot of jabs today and an 8 week developmental check.

He seems to be sleeping a lot today - making up for the last few days where he hardly slept.

Wondering what to do about contracpetion - don't want to take pills and don't like the idea of injections, coils etc which just leaves condoms. Want to take advantage of the fact that I don't get periods for ages when breastfeeding but obviously need a back-up. Anyone tried femidoms (have I got the name right?!)

Only 8 days till our holiday!!! must go and do more packing...

Afternoon all, just a quick post as I am off with ds2 to have his second lot of vaccinations later.

Wanted to ask a question actually, how many of you have a bedtime routine - especially those who co-sleep? I think ours is sadly lacking at the moment and for the last two nights I feel as if I have had no sleep at all. Would be grateful to hear any opinions .

I'l be back later, got to go and wake ds2 now.

I've changed my name! I thoght that dd2 would get upset if I carried on as lolsmu for much longer. I've taken the first two letters from the girls names. Its taken me about 2 hours to work out how to do it. Having a thick day.

like it belo!

we have no kind of routine at all bagpuss! this wouldn't surprise anyone who knows me.... never had one with ds & he's turned out ok. we have dd downstairs with us in the evenings, & actually more often than not she's actually asleep, either on one of us or in her bouncy chair. i take her up to bed with me when i go, generally between 10 & 11, & feed her if she's up for it. she starts off in her cot & generally comes into bed with us after one of her night feeds. i worry about her getting cold as her cot is right under the window. and i like cuddling her in bed too! she tends to do 1 really good sleep of 6-7 hours, but it's a bit variable - can start at 7pm or 11... after that she wakes up much more often. they're still only tiny though aren't they.

Good name Belo!

Bagpuss - our evening "routine" goes like this:
DD falls asleep around 4-5pm to the sound of DS2 shouting that he doesn't want his supper. I leave her asleep in her swing (in the kitchen with us) even though I know it's not a very good idea. I wake her up in time for the boys' bath and she kicks around on her changing mat whilst the boys have their bath. I bathe her in the baby bath and then tip the water on top of the boys (big treat!). On a good night she has a feed whilst I read the boys their story, or perhaps waves at the pictures. Some nights we abandon the story if she is being very cranky.

After we've said goodnight to the boys I carry her around with me for the next few hours until I go to bed. She's in our room but starts off in her crib and when she wakes up around 3am I sometimes keep her in our bed, especially if it's cold. Recently she's been waking up quite a lot between 3 - 7am but before she got her cold usually woke 3am, 5am and 7am.

I'd quite like to start getting her into bed when the boys go to bed, and I reckon the first thing is to encourage her to stay awake whilst the boys are having supper/doing homework. I'm not really organised enough with supper so need to put her down whilst I'm cooking - and then she falls asleep. I guess I should start preparing the meal whilst the boys are at school but I don't. Like HC, I'm on balance not sufficiently bothered about it

Eulalia - I read a review of the femidom shortly after they came out that reported that they "rustle during "usage"" . Don't know anything else about them though, I'm afraid. I'm in the same position as you in that none of the alternatives appeal. Still entirely academic for me though I'm afraid so I'm leaving my remaining brain cell free to think about other things.

Stripey tights are lovely HC! I'm just getting into the tights on babies thing

Phew, sounds exactly like us HC apart from the 6-7 hour sleeps that is .

The reason for the question is that dh is really stressing about how we get ds2 into his own room after 6 months is up. I'm not really sure either but both the other two were in their own rooms at this point and as ds2 will be my last I'm not ready to give up co-sleeping just yet.

Mrsd, I am in the fixated by pregnancy gang too. Funnily enough I blame it on ds1's traumatic entrance in to the world. Although ds2 will be our last baby I am really struggling with giving baby stuff away. Feel very guilty about giving my sil our moses basket yesterday and cannot part with any newborn clothes just yet. dh dispairs of me......