AUG08 - Sunshine, Friends, Food, & Fun

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(((hug))) you unload all you want. that's cleansing and will allow you to move forward another step. ((((((hug)))))))

Oh cyteen - so sorry. Have you got a nice weekend planned?

Yay QoD . Hooray! (and for an answer too!).

folks my dd1 just had her first "friend phone call." we gotta lay down some RULES! she's only 6 for crying out loud!!!

VYTEEN - it is still very fresh for you all - 3 years is not that long in the scheme of your grieving. You also have alot ofother shockingand distressing things to deal with at the moment. Allow yourself to remember him and your happy times together. It will be hard on Monday, are you working? Can you spend the day with J, spend some time telling him how fantastic and brave his uncle was?

cyteen ((hugs))

Yay QofD!!!!!! I'm so so chuffed for you! Rejoined the thread just in time I think - exciting stuff! How many is that now?

Thinking of you cyteen

When I said 'how many is that now' I meant how many on the thread are pg now?

So after the excitement of earlier, what I should have been doing was the laundry mountain that is sitting in our utility room. What I actually ended up doing was re-reading threads from 2008, and in particular the birthing stories . I'm looking forward to those coming up in 2010

As an aside, I knew it took a while to name L, but didn't realise it took us til 13 days after she was born to agree . What really amused me was that as I was reading through the many, many suggestions that the wonderful Dizzy made, I found myself thinking 'Cara is really nice, I wonder why we didn't go for that'... only to read...

By ataraxis Fri 26-Sep-08 22:21:18
and finally we have a name... she is now officially called Lana. I am going to run to register her on Monday before DH can change his mind. We played with Cara for around a week but it just wouldn't stick. DH didn't overly like Phoebe, but then DS2 suggested Lana and it was the first name we both went yep, like that. Have tried it for a couple of days and it feels right for her. Hooray! and I thought naming a girl was going to be easier than the boys...

Just wanted to say (with only one glass of wine consumed during the entire evening) It's been an amazing journey so far and I love you guys

(((HUGS)))Ataraxis

horray for qod.. was thinking about you last night and wondered if you had re-tested.. so so [ for you!!!

Ataraxis lovely previous post ..

have a fab time in paris sazz ..

hope work goes ok today dizzy..

hopefully no more news from you today oops..

thanks again for all your support last night ladies.. he finally came downstairs at 9 so i retreated upstairs.. the feckin bbq that started all of this never even happened .. think its on tonight so no doubt will be left to entertain my girlies whilst he spending all day organising/playing footie and the off out.. well one think is for sure.. i am up this am and i don't care how awake i am tom or how hungover he is when the dcs wake up tom I AM NOT GETTING UP....

May take your advice lnt and just go away for 24 hours.. thing is not sure he would even notice i'm not around

Congratulations QOD!

LOTI I am hoping you are zzzzzzzz this morning you better not be on here till about lunchtime or he'll you'll be in trouble with me!

ataraxis that's really lovely! I get the wine-love too, sometimes, all befuddly and warm. I expect you'll think we're bossy, nosy, know-it-all types again this morning!

cyteen agree re. 3 years very short. My dad died in 2003, so 7 years ago, and it still feels like the same wrench of the stomach realising he's not here. With sadness & loss in your family background you are so lucky with your lovely dp & ds, and I've no doubt you'll be blessed with more in the near future.

Nice coffee this morning (coffee machine which has never made it to dp's work) v aromatic and tasty so .

Oh sorry lucky I thought that was today you weren't getting up! OK it's tomorrow morning there had better be no sign of you at larkrise.

i'll take a vat of your lovely coffee vg

Morning

Coffe smells good GG.

LOTI - Hope today is better and you and the girls can do something fun.

Awake until nearly 3 with painful contractions again not sure whether to ring delivery again or not they have slowed down now.

It was almost 10before DD was inbed last night then up at 7.30 so it could be a long day!

Sunshining, and day outside look stunning I think we might head off for a walk to get some coffee for DH.

Congrats QoD. LOTI Maybe you should get your ILs to take the kids for the night so you can have the big talk?

Morning

loti hope you have a lovely day with your girls today.

oops please take it easy - gentle stroll if you feel up to it but not much more ok? Hang on in there for another few days babyoops.

gg coffee tastes lurverly, thanks.

Today I will be attempting to shovel gravel . DH is working all weekend and we are only half way through a job we started last weekend, so looks like that'll be me doing it then... don't be surprised if you see me back on here on a regular basis today using gravel avoidance tactics.

qod - how are you doing today? Feeling real yet?!

Oops, if I can be bossy for a minute, when dd2 arrives you can't guarantee that she and dd1 will nap at the same time and when you have more children and none fewer of your own naps, you'll need to draw on your reserves so please do rest.

Cyteen, there aren't words enough. As GG said, it is still so close and so raw. And if you felt any better, you'd probably be feeling bad for 'getting used' to Si not being here.

When my friend's husband died 2 years ago, his last words were 'Love life', and you have made the most spectacular job of loving life, even while you've been going through the last few years. There's much love and support heading in your direction from all of us.

QOD - Now that is wonderful news!

Well look at that, a girl falls asleep on the sofa goes to bed early and misses all the excitement

Congratulations Queenie how exciting for you all!

Loti I'm sure your H would notice if you weren't there if you went on your own and left him to look after the DDs. Could you do that and just book into a hotel / go to a friend's house for 24 hours?

Ataraxis good luck with the gravel remember it'll count as an ExerSazz so not all bad

VG thanks for the coffee. Have never been able to make decent proper stuff, usually tastes like mud so this is a treat Was it a very expensive machine?

Wotcha Buckets

Steady on there oops, you must be knackered, take it easy and hope you have a restful sunny Saturday , in fact that goes for all of you

It's lovely here too, we have eaten our brekker outside (although DD whined it was too cold ) We have been invited to a bbq at my mum's but turned them down in favour of a lazy busy day in our garden. As much as I adore my mum they are big lushes and don't think it would be much fun watching them and DH get pissed while I drink pop so I can drive us home...

Arf at the hijacked coffee machine GG. You always speak of your mum and dad with such love.

Loti, whether he notices or not is absolutely painful for you. But in terms of getting through the next week, try to make plans that, regardless of his opinion, help you to feel clearer-headed.

Oh how did I miss that???

cyteen sweetie, you have had such shit things happen in your life, no wonder you are feeling down This anniversary on top of the recent revelations about your mum, well I am proud and amazed you are still in one piece at all. Be kind to yourself Are you waiting until after the wedding to try for no2? I'm sure miamla or steaky could let the dress out if necessary

Also hello Red

DD hovering for cbeebies games it's sunny outside you daft girl, go and play on the slide

It's 9.55 and I have already planted replacement thyme, some poppies and primroses. I was thinking of Charlie Dimmock while in the garden. Whatever happened to her?

Re. coffee machine I am sorry to have to tell you it is a Krups Nespresso George Clooney one which makes fantastic coffee and has been responsible for my breaking of a longtime Nestle boycott. Oh dear I am rather . Do you all want to spit it out now?

It's this which I think is the lowest grade Nespresso you can get, I paid 130 euros and they threw in a free milk whizzer that doesn't work.