AUG 08 - So how many more will be expecting again before this thread is full?

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Do tell?

thanks oops.

He's still asleep.

Come ON. I am leaving in 49 minutes.

Have no shame GG - go and poke the boy! I couldn't survive not seeing DD all day.

Back in a bit (as my two have only been awake 20 mins ) but just seen you are back to work today VG Lots of love to you my dear I'm sure it'll be fine

DS slept until 7am for the first time in ages, although that was punctuated by an hour of wakefulness at 3am and then coming into our bed. Was nice to have a snuggle though

Red I'm sure you did fine, calm and eloquent person that you are. Haven't seen the specific thread you mean but IME Dittany is very clued-up but very 'old school' in her insistence that nothing is ultimately a woman's fault - it's all down to patriarchy (i.e. men). I do believe that patriarchy is a pervasive and restrictive presence in the modern world, but if women are to be considered true humans (which of course we are) that means accepting that women are capable of being just as venal, cruel, ignorant, stupid, misguided and just plain rubbish as the opposite sex.

spring commiserations on the period. Mine is still impending, yawn.

oops if you believe that women deserve full human rights and an equal voice in the world, you're a feminist

Morning everyone else, must go and change DS's nappy - he STINKS.

cyteen when were you due? The whole 'thinking I'm pregnant' business is so wearing isn't it? 'Luckily' my cycle has shortened to 26ish days now so I don't have the overdue anticipation but still manage to cram plenty of symptoms in

Springa ooh yes we can help I am guessing you want somewhere roughly halfway, although your friend can come further than you as you have already come halfway round the world Will you be driving or on the train? Erm Wakefield is pretty shit.

No offence to No1 but I wouldn't suggest Rotherham (grimish post-industrial northern town) but what about Sheffield? There are some amazing parks if the weather is good, and the museum we went to on our meetup was pretty fab - Weston Park or what about Cannon Hall Farm I can't remember how long you're here for, we will need to scoop you up in an Aug08 meet too

Children calling...

Well I thought Redlentil was talking about weeding her garden. Always thought Dittany would be a lovely girl's name.

morning all, we got till after 7am this morning lets hope its not a blip

have managed to sort through some of the mountain of clothing this morning - sounds ridiclious but I've kept so much stuff for D from the other two and I'm never quite sure what size it is etc etc

DD1 at school, DD2 at playgroup and D napping so Im now having some toast

6am start here yawn.. been to playgroup now just waiting to do lunch and hopefully nap time..

dire headache here this am think it is sinus related so feeling yuck and popping pills..

def need to have proper chat with dh cos feeling so exhausted and a bit shouty towards girls tbh but need to think about what to say as if i come across whingy he won't listen.. toast dizzy yummmmmmm

Sazz both, albeit a very small chance. Period is due anytime now, I just wish it would hurry up if it's going to arrive since I am (a) so over wondering if I am pg and (b) insane with hormone rage and a danger to everyone around me.

Also bored with the nap refusal thing that DS is doing at the moment. I'm afraid I have left him wailing and moaning in his room. He's tired, I got him all sleepy before I put him in the cot, but it's always the same at the moment - he faffs and faffs about till he's woken himself up, then demands to get out even though he is vile without a nap. Feel like a shit mummy for doing it but we're both approaching end of tether.

Cyteen, agree with Sazz.. you have to just leave him in his cot for a while and hopefully that will do the trick... having said that left dd2 in her cot on sat for 40mins and eventually gave up!!!

she went out like a light after lunch.. thank god for play group!!

Well that was a total fail, the only result being that we both ended up in tears of frustration. Luckily DS thinks my tears are funny He's now eating an ice lolly after having had some Calpol, and I feel like even more of a shit mum (although still not as shit as my own, since I'm not under the impression that he'd be better off without me. Ahaha.)

Sorry, I hate this time of year. Horrible memories of Simon's decline and death. It makes me wobble.

I am drinking a cup of sweet tea to try and calm down

Well we have wasted a morning doing nothing We played animals, bounced on the new ladybird, chased the cat and then went for a nap. Awake now and had lunch - I have just realised it is 1.30 We really should do something but DD far to happy pootling and I have hit a wall, bump aching, hips sore and I still have another 8 and a bit weeks of this (more like 10 weeks if she is as stubborn coming out as she in inside!)

Walk we had planned has just been called off as it is not peeing down. Best go rescue the washing.

Cyteen - HUGS. Please try not get too upset with it - can you not snuggle down with him for a bit and see if it does the trick? DD refuses point blank to sleep in her cot during the day so I let her nap where she falls as she goes down so well at bedtime I would hate to ruin that by forcing her to sleep in there during the day. Today she climbed into my bed, snuggled down with her muzzy adn called me for a snoozle - so I obliged. Nomally she just sits on my lap, falls asleep I lay her on the sofa/floor and she is set for an hour or so. Enjoy your tea. I am having a sweet cuppa too to try and wake up this very quiet baby.

Cyteen Have you tried to put him down again now the Calpol should have kicked in? I am a v tough mummy about naps, if I can't be confident about knowing better than a one year old, what can I be confident about? Have you got anything fun planned soon to look forward to btw? If not, find something .

We just bought an annual pass thing for £70 that gives free family entry to lots of interesting places and parking at country parks (which is v handy for good playgrounds with adjacent cafes). Means we can quit while we're ahead and not worry about value for money if we leave an hour after we arrive. Which we did yesterday as I forced DH to come out with us from our hungover house and go play and enjoy the late afternoon sunshine. Made us feel like w were doing some actual parenting.

LOTI Good luck, v sensible to plan your talk in advance.

Oops Sometimes it's nice to stay in and chill out, esp with your aches and pains. Stick an old movie on and put your feet up..

Not feeling particularly confident about anything at the moment so no reason why I should feel in control of DS's sleep.

At least my period is here though, yay Five or six days of bleeding like a stuck pig and feeling like a fool should cheer me up no end.

SHIT DAY! Promise to return when my mood has lifted. Love to all.

Hey ladies, jut wanted to let you know I am ok ish, and thanks for all wors fo suppport.

Both dcs having a nap,both exhausted with all the moving and sleeping all over the place this last week!!
bless them,they are coping well with it, but dd has been very low, quiet, affectionate and has tummy ache today.

H has been flitting from being nice (when sober) and very abusive when drunk.Death threats etc..
He has spent the last 4 days in the pub, and has only asked about the dcs today!!
he turned up at my mums unexpcted this morning with his dad.

dcs got all upset and he asked if he could take them. I said yes,but please don't take them home, as i didnt want dd to see empty room. So he didnt take them at all!!!!

Pathetic really, he has never ever taken them both out anywhere EVER.So because he couldnt take them to house to potter about, he didnt take them at all!
DD was gutted at first that he wouldn't take her out.

I am just waiting for solicitor to call back to tell me when they can seeme.

I have been advised to report the violent messages to the police, if i fear for our safety.Not sure what to do. Dont want it to get nasty,but it cleaarly will!

So sorry for long post, will promise to catch up better and respond.
vg hope work was ok today.
spring I am from Rotherham, lots of places are a bit grim, but not where I am
Sheffield has better meet up places. Cannon Hall is lovely.
Hope all the pregnant ladies are doing well.

No1 - lovely to 'see' you. You are a very strong and brave woman, you know what you have done is best for you and the LOs. Please do log every threat DH makes as if , heaven forbid, anything physical happens they will have a record of his pre-existing threats and will be more likely to take action. Hope you get a solicitor appointmnet soon. Hugs to you all and remember we are here for you when you need anything or just people to listen.

Oh No1 it all sucks doesn't it but you are on your way to the new better life that you deserve. And honey, it's been nasty for some time has it not, you putting your foot down legally is putting a stop to nastiness, you're not starting anything. I should diarise every contact if I were you, you may need stats to illustrate unreliability and lack of concern.

Cyteen

Okay No1 you win the shit day contest. What CRAP! Life's too short to have to deal with crap. You and your dcs are too lovely. All will be better for you soon I just know it. (((((HUG))))) I must agree with Buckets regarding noting all contact. It will make it easier if things do turn extremely sour. ((((HUG)))) ((((HUG))))) (((((HUG))))))