AUG 08 - So how many more will be expecting again before this thread is full?

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Do tell?

On the other hand GG. I'm not sure it would be such a big thing for me that I'd go through the whole process of finding someone else I liked, someone else DCs liked and the upheaval of a move if she is lovely and DCs liked her. Hmmm. Tricky.

Feck it will review overnight. She comes to our house rather than him going there.

Also dp home from days away so we can discuss.

Thanks for all your input.

How the feck did anyone make a parenting decision without MN? I mean how did the blardy Victorians etc do it?

VG don't be angry, remain calm and have a chat with her about it when you are composed - when are you next seeing her? if she is kind/gentle and otherwise great with E is it worth seeing how she responds to you mentioning the tv? I have to admit after a day of cabin fever and sick lympet girl I made them all do jigsaws whilst I watched neighbours

then again I know how poor my parenting skills are

I know what you mean about the her TV vs his TV thing GG. Like you sazzles, I don't watch anything of mine during the day and if, early evening at the weekend I do take control of the remote it's always something that is really for them but I find vaguely amusing (Total Wipeout/X-Factor ). Are things working out with her in every other way?

Yes, I like her, she's kind, gentle and seems reliable. I of course would SHRINK from The Conversation but on the other hand if you can't be a lioness for your children is there any point to you?

DD1 loves Total Wipeout and DD2 creases up when they fall on their faces

But I think it's different if you, as a mother, do it. Your antennae are never completely down, for one thing. Your child trusts you without thinking, for another, and doesn't have to question your attention/engagement. And you have a better sense of your own children, when they can spare you, when they need you, etc. Does that make sense? And I think if you're being paid to look after a child in an active way you do that.

OK I know I am going a bit over the top here.

I mean of course I ignore them all the time, if anyone added up my post times over the last 2 years they would see it would be 100 per cent impossible for me to be an effective parent as well as an effective MNer. But I ignore him with love and imagination .

Oh dear I'm sorry to be awol for ages then clog up the thread with navel-gazing shite. I do thank you all for your views but had better scarper to repeat them to dp as if I thought of them on my own .

You are all so fab.

I love you all.

VG I only watched tv that was non-child related during my nanny hours when the mom asked me to. Often she wouldn't have time to catch her afternoon soap which came on around nap time so she would ask that I watch and report. It was a soap opera that I was a long time follower of so I wasn't put out at all. It was actually one of the small things she and I connected on.

TV watching isn't terrible BUT it's obviously bothered you in a deep way. I'm thinking maybe it's not so much the tv watching but maybe something a little more and the tv watching just gives you a graspable reason to dismiss her. If you feel even the slightest bit uncomfortable with her YOU SHOULD FIND SOMEONE ELSE. You MUST be comfortable with your child care provider NO MATTER WHAT. (((hug)))

crossed with VG

ROFL - I heart your DD1 Sazz, she's fab

VG - of course its ok for me to do it, I am not paying myself a ridiclious amount of money to look after my children - I too was a bit when mine annouced last week at 2.30pm that she was done for the day and would sit and watch Aladdin with the girls - I thought, eh, I don't fecking think so and gave her a list of things to do as I had to do the hateful food shop. am sure that didn't get me employeer of the year but I pay half my wage each month and am wishing something for my money to make it hurt less handing it over

and frankly when anything involves your gorgeous DS' - nothing is an over reaction

lets hope she takes after her Dad then

night all, wishe me luck for a less spotty child in the morning and a sleep through - I know its a big ask but still I believe in you all

Just checking up on SoonToBeNotTheSmallestDixie, hope the night has brought sweet dreams and an improvement to your spots.

VG I wouldn't be happy if DH watched that, never mind someone who was being paid for looking after my babies. I hope you get it sorted.

Good luck with HR today Sazz, hope they find a few more pennies for you...

Got that Friday feeling but combined with a big pile of work to do before I can bugger off home. Better get on...

MOrning All

GG - I would have to say in my proffessional opinion (I never thought i would ever say that on here!) She is out of order, I think I only every had the telly on at work during the day was when the kiddies were older and ill or at 5.30 when they were allowed their allocated hour. DD has a little cbeebies in the morning whilst eating her breakfast and then a bit in the let afternoon/evening which she mostly ignores it. I do occasionally watch a little location location when she is about but it goes off if she starts watching.

I think Sazz should be named Sozzles

Dizz - I hope spotty is feeling better tis morning and you have managed some sleep.

MORNING oops sorry, didn't mean to shout
i've been sitting here reading, and loving all your good news, being sad about the bad news and just generally smiling at what a wonderful group we are but sleep deprivation/hormones/memory loss has not aided me in recalling what i was going to say to individuals apart from dizz...wonderful news re DD4/DS1!!!! and sorry to hear about D's spottiness..hope she gets over it quickly

oh my am i looking forward to DS's nap today...i'll be straight in bed, seconds after him!

and no, dress isn't quite finished which is obviously what i should be doing instead of sleeping but the dress can wait, my sagging eyelids can't!

pleased to report though that as of midnight last night, favours are all done

Morning MrsMiamla do NOT stay up all night tonight hemming or whatever, you'll give yourself eyebags on the day! Counting the hours now ...

Thanks oops for your view on my ishoo too - not due back till after Easter so will address then. (Thank goodness don't have to deal with it today ).

Hope poor spotty wee duck had a comfortable night & not too itchy today dizz.

GG I wouldn't be happy with it either for all the reasons you and others have said (being her tv rather than kid-specific, relationship between childminder and child v different to that of child and parent etc.) BUT I wouldn't dismiss her right away if you have otherwise been happy with her care of DS2.

If you remember, I had an issue with DS's nursery a while back where they left him in dirty nappies two days running. I was furious and my initial reaction was to pull him out of there and find something else, but on reflection I decided to have a calm chat with the manager about it and actually I'm very glad I did. Nothing of the sort has ever happened since and my DS is happy and settled. Overall their care of him and the other LOs is excellent (as poppy said, I like knowing he gets three exciting activity-packed days guaranteed every week, in case I feel like being a little more slack ). Yesterday when I dropped him off, he ran into his keyworker's arms with a great big grin

When you took her on, did you have a thorough talk about expectations and rules? I only ask as it seemed to be a fairly laidback appointment process, and in those sort of situations it's easy to overlook the more difficult stuff for the sake of a nice atmosphere (I know, because I do it myself all the time). Before you get rid, it might be worth sitting her down and having a pleasant-but-firm chat about what exactly you expect her to do and not do. Draw up a contract, even - it will help both of you know where you stand.

Then, if stuff continues to happen that you're not jazzed about, you'll be able to reassess from a clear starting point.

sleep has not happened my wee lamb has horrid spots all over her bottom and privates that are causing her distress - we now both stink of tea tree cream!! she was up till 1am shouting the house down looking for her dad under all the pillows and only calmed down when I let her put on her wellies! DH came home at 1.30am and helped me administer anti histamen and paracetamol so she slept for a few hours after than - wee pudding

she's got new ones in her ears/hair/face etc and I think unless she dramatically improves during this morning's nap our Easter plans are scuppered - one last chance this morning though as we're good to go, just need her not to be so sore. DD2 not in great form today either so am keeping my fingers crossed that comes to nothing [meep]

am only online as its Direct debit day and have to do some juggling but after that she's back to bed as are DH and I and there will be no floor scrubbing involved [pooped emoticon]

VG glad you have some time to give it some consideration

Miamla - you've done so well with all your wedding preperations, I do hope that everything almost done and you can RELAX and enjoy

sozzles Sazz, best of luck with HR
morning all else

Oh no! Poor Dylan

Oh Poor D - Dizz hope you, DH and D are all napping soundly.

Has anyone seen that random rabbit popping up on threads?? Very funny.

DD and I have been out to the supermarket for DH's shopping for whilst he is away but will have to make a seperate trip for the rst of our stuff later as he was worn out by the madness that is marketday it even affects the supermarket - every old lady and her granny, aunt and dead dog turn up - sometimes men should just stay home!

morning

((((hugs)))) Dizzy
Good Luck! Sazzles
Merry Wedding Miamla

EVERYONE