June09: First birthdays coming up, we're on the move!

[June2009]

Happy Mother's day Juners ;)

hey gauchita hope you're enjoying your time with your niece, I'm sure your sister is appreciating you being there, especially if she can catch some sleep.
what an honour to be godparents :D congrats!
Good luck with the ttc :D:D 3 of my rl "mum" friends are pregnant and due beginning of next year, they don't know either how they will cope with two. All talking about double buggies ;)

bigcar how's the cat? :) got some christmas pressies sorted, not sure what to get fil and dad.
We're doing xmas eve and xmas day at ours. mil/fil may drop in, we'll just have to be open minded! We know what we're having for xmas dinner (passion fruit cheesecake, the rest does not matter ;D)

lol @ the matching jumpers, do people really do this? .

The court case is over, the judge will deliberate in a week or two. Weirdly it's not so stressfull now, we'll see after deliberation...

hey snow good to hear from you, did you have a good time at your ils? Have you got any specific plans for your maternity leave?
I did a collage poster type thingy for sil's xmas present, hopefully it'll look good!
They sent me some voucher code if you're interested let me know.

sam hope you're ok, dealing with the bankruptcy must be draining. Moving is quite stressfull at the best of times, try and take it easy on yourself.
I think C has nightmares too. I read somewhere they start having dreams about now. I was talking about it with a friend of mine today and her daughter has been having nightmares after she introduced watching a bit of baby tv in her night routine. So she stopped that and her daughter is sleeping sound again.

The weather has really turned this weekend, it is winter, the tree leaves have fallen out. :(

We did a few fireworks and watched a display from home. C liked it and was clapping and saying "yay" at the pretty fountain ones :D
Not so much the big noisy ones, she was waving her fingers and saying "no" "no" "no" :D

All right up early tomorrow, I should be going to bed!

Hi all!

Sorry for not being able to catch up. On my way to the airport soon. Loooong flight ahead, fingers crossed for a smooth one!

Waves to all

gauchita hoping the flight goes well and M makes it easy on you! Must be looking forward to seeing DH.
june I like the collage idea. A had photos at nursery today so will wait till they come and then decide what to do. Nothing really planned for the next few weeks, lots of going to visit people and a trip to london on sat to meet up with a friend. Can't wait! Will squeeze in borough markets and maybe some oxford st shopping before i come home.
strawberry glad the bankruptcy going as smoothly as it can. Hope you not feeling too stressed about the move. At least you don't need to move before christmas.
bigcar does the new arrival have a name yet? How things in your house?
skies how is C doing? Ulcers cleared up?
allsheep how did the half term weaning go? Any joy?

Well happy sleeping news here- A has slept through the last 3 nights! Joy! Long may it continue.
Right, better go get him in the bath
waves to all

hey snow the poster code is NOVPOSTER10 (with snapfish.com) but has to be used by sunday 14.11.
I received sil's yesterday and it looks very good, I'm sure she will like it.
gauchita You're coming back already, how time flies! Have a good flight!

Gotta go for now,

morning all

snow, yay for mat leave Sorry to hear the sickness is back, hopefully now you'll get a little rest, so long as A is in the mood what do you thing A makes of it all? Have you everything sorted yet? Gaviscon may well work but it tastes like snot awful

strawberry, glad the phonecall went well, sounds like you have your plans all sorted now, at least you won't have to be out before christmas, or all over the front page of the sun E is a very restless sleeper, he tosses and turns all night and I'm a light sleeper so it does wake me up, we need to extend the house so we can move him out of our room.

june, good to hear you've christmas dinner sorted, sounds yum! Hope all's well with the ils and the divorce. My ils are hard to buy for, they don't do a lot, don't have any hobbies, don't put photos up if you give them those, don't go on holiday, arghhhhhh E seemed to like the fireworks, they do a massive display in the park opposite, he sat in his buggy watching quite happily.

gauchita, hope the trip back wasn't too eventful and that your sister and new baby are well settled now, must have been a bit of a wrench to leave

the cat with no name as was is now called meow, mainly because that's all she does, she's so chatty She's not too happy at the moment, she was spayed on wednesday and pulled one of her stitches out so has one of those cone collars on, will post a pic in a minute. So in true cat style, she is sulking and making us all pay

dh was off work last week, it was his birthday just over a week ago so thought he'd have some time at home. He assures me it had nothing to do with black ops being released last tuesday Can't complain too much we did get a reasonable amount done, replaced the hoover as we've killed 2 in 1 month, had both for a while, but typical they both go now I know it sounds a bit sad but with our lot the floors need doing at least once a day so after two days without one, the house looked awful.

well, as dh is back at work now I will be mostly sitting and drinking tea, just for today anyway!

waves to all

bigcar how lovely sitting and drinking tea today :)

What hoover do you have? We bought a dyson probably 7 years ago now, got it services twice by dyson (£50 each time) and they replaced loads of parts and tubes etc and it's still working really well.

We've been talking about extending the house, oh well at least talking about it doesn't cost anything, did give me a headache though! That's not going to happen for at least the next 5 years anyway. I do hope you can get E out of your room before then?

re: the divorce...still waiting on the judge's deliberation. Should be this week. The tension has gone down completely now, mil came by on friday to say hello (and brought some sweets, doughnuts and danish parties for C. (wtf???)) She also announced that she got her a rocking horse for xmas, one of the massive ones. I don't know whether to be bowled over by the gesture or incensed by the sheer size of it and where the hell is it going to go???

argh gotta go for now sorry

june, it's just a Hoover that was on special at the moment so just a cheapy one, I've broken a dyson before now vaccum cleaners enter this house at their peril!

oh I don't think we can keep him in with us for that long We've had some quotes to get the loft converted over the last few weeks so really just have to get round to making a decision about who to go with. Hopefully we can start march/april time, I want it done before E needs to go into a bed. We'd love to extend out the back too as it'd give us a lovely big square sitting room but finances just won't allow. Really not looking forward to all the upheavel and mess. Sounds like you'll have to bring your extension plans forward, especially if mil makes any more extravagent gestures Did you C enjoy eating the cakes? Fingers crossed the judgement doesn't bring you too much stress.

Hi all!

Finally have a minute to try and catch up!

June, oh dear, oblivious is the word, huh? Gosh, the patience you must have to keep your calm. Hope the judges decision doesn't cause too much upheaval in DH's family and most of all that it doesn't bounce back on you guys. Oh, BTW, I like the thread idea you suggested I'm rubbish thinking about witty and catchy names so I don't offer any ideas

Bigcar, aw poor Meow, it must be really uncomfortable with all the stitches. Happy belated birthday to your DH I bet he took time off to enjoy his birthday the game yes Does DS1 also like playing it? If so, I guess there's a lot of massive lot of beheading and shooting going on there We have a VAX hoover, those that also wash carpets, after a streak of puking events in M's room It works great and it was not that expensive, all things considered We had bought a couple of cheap ones before, they were from Tesco, and they worked fine. I freecycled them when we got this last one.

Strawberry, glad to hear the call went well and, as others said, that you won't have to move before Christmas or go to the papers That was a good card up your sleeve, just in case, let me tell you

Snow, yay! Maternity leave!! Hope you manage to get some needed rest, A permitting, and that the MS clears soon, poor you.

Hi to all Juners!

Never-ending flight on Thursday-Friday. 20+ hours due to some delays, I was exhausted. M was awful on the first flight, wouldn't sit at all, and kept crying, she was just too tired to settle. Fortunately that one was a short one and during the long one she slept almost all the way. Then in the last one she slept through as well so that was good.

The flat was in a state, though, so on Saturday M and I caught up on some sleep and then it was cleaning time. DH had spent so little time in the flat as he was working like mad, that he hadn't been able to clean it the previous weekend so... Laundry is done now and jet lag is clearing, fortunately.

It's DH's birthday tomorrow (June, your DH's is soon as well, right?) No celebration with friends this year as work is hectic but maybe we'll do something this weekend. The new business was launched last Thursday so he's still very very busy.

Wow, this post got long, sorry!

Waves to all!

Hello all.

So sorry I've been absent for so long. No excuse, but felt it was too long to catch up, if you know what I mean.

Anyway, hope all is well with you guys?

DS has been diagnosed with a squint and a lazy eye. He's got astigmatisms in both eyes which affects his distance and he's long sighted in both eyes too. Basically he sees everything in 2D most of the time and everything's pretty blurry so glasses for life for him. I was relieved they weren't going to patch him for the lazy eye, but because both eyes were about the same he didn't need it. He'll always have a lazy eye, but hopefully the glasses will correct it (while he wears them) and he might be able to have laser surgery when he's older so he doesn't have to have the specs. Bless him he was brilliant yesterday at the hospital doing all the tests. It's his birthday in a couple of weeks so I gave him one of his presents early. He was so chuffed to get a 'Woody' from Toy Story! We chose him some cool specs from Specsavers and we pick them up on Friday. I can't wait to see his little face when he sees clearly for the first time in 4 years!

DD is going through a tough phase and is such a picky eater. I've got a thread going here that explains everything. It's really got me down over the last few weeks, but determined to just go with the flow and give her the food she likes so she doesn't get stressed at meal times. Apart from DS's fish allergy, he always guzzled everything pretty much so it's a big shock when I see how little DD survives on!

Getting ready for the first Christmas without FIL. MIL is coming to us on Christmas day so it should be a really chilled out day. We're never normally at home, but rushing around in the car to try and see both sets of parents. It should be so lovely being in our own home and I think MIL is looking forward to it. I think it'll be a hard day for her.

All going well apart from that. Apologies again for being so absent and I promise to be better in future ....

afternoon all

gauchits, dh insists black ops release had nothing to do with booking time off I'm not keen on ds1 playing it as it's an 18 and the game itself is pretty violent, he's only 10. The online play isn't so bad, basically a first person shooter so he's occassionally allowed as a treat. It's hard though, so many of his friends already have the game or will get it for christmas, they have COD already so the pressures pretty big. Happy birthday to your dh for yesterday hope you get time to celebrate soon!

alloverit, sorry to hear about ds's vision, there are some great kids frames available now and so much choice, bet he'll look gorgeous Don't expect instant results, particularly if he has a high prescription, it will take his eyes some time to get used to them so he may not be over keen to wear them all the time to start with. He won't realise he doesn't see as everyone around him does so it may all be a little strange to start off with. He may well be fine and take to it like a duck to water but don't worry if he doesn't. I hope christams goes well for you, it's horrible feeling that a loved one is missing but the dcs will be a lovely distraction, our juners will be so much more involved with it all this year.

meow the cat is much better now, she seems back to herself, not eating a lot yet but I'm a lot happier with how she's doing. E gets so excited when he sees her, we need to work on which way to stroke a cat but he's loving having her around. Dd3's not so keen, not frightened of her but won't get too close. Dd3 has started practising for her christmas play, it's all coming round rather quickly now, have got a few christmas presents but need to be a bit more organised. Pil both have a birthday between now and christmas so need to sort something for them rather quickly, they're hard to buy for so it's not that easy.

waves to all

alloverit, have added a pic of dd3 in her latest specs She looks odd without them on now!

hey alloverit First xmas with someone missing is tough, the dynamics has changed etc take it easy. It'll be fantastic for him when your ds gets his specs on friday.
I love my glasses, I have two pairs from specsavers to go with different outfits LOL.
bigcar I got someone a personalised thorntons choccie box It's £12 for 12 chocolate + delivery (have a look for vouchers on google, found one where they send you a free chocolate if you spend more than £15 iirc).
Doing well on the xmas presents actually, only need to find something for a couple and both grandads. I have had less of a budget this year (recession maternity leave etc)which has made the choice easier in a way. (couldn't worry about it not being expensive enough iyswim).
gauchitahello hope you have recovered from the trip and have a happy birthday to your dh!
C is up, ttfn!

hello girls,
House of snot and mucky eyes here. What fun! . After 5 nights in a row sleeping through, A has been up again with coughing/vomits etc. Back to sleep training again when he is well.I did enjoy the full nights sleep. DH on call and has to sleep at work, so plenty of time to MN tonight.

gauchita glad you back safe. Hope your DH had a lovely birthday and I bet he was glad to see you back home safely. Have you got much work on?
bigcar Love DD3's glasses, she looks gorgeous. A has learnt to be gentle (at times) with the GPs dogs. Kisses them alot too, . So cute to watch E learn about meow!Glad she on the mend.
june any decision on the PIL? Well done you on the christmas shopping front. Am almost done here too,in the hope the baby may make an early appearance.
alloverit so pleased to see you here.Welcome back.Sorry about DS's eyes. A has a funny eye too and we have the optomotrist, paed opthalmic surgeon and orthoptist next week to get an opinion on how best to manage it. Sorry DD's eating such a stress, A is still picky and I can never predict when he is going to have a good or bad day. I think you sound like you are going about things the best way. We end up offering yoghurt each evening as at least he will have had something to eat. Although v sad without FIL, I think it will be lovely for you not to be running around and just enjoy time at home on christmas day.

PILs have invited themselves here for christmas, suits me fine, they can keep A amused and I will hopefully have had the baby or be in labour!
Booked myself some trips to the beautician and going to find somewhere for a massage in the next few weeks too. Waddling nicely now!

Take care Juners

evening all

sorry couldn't resist

june, thanks for the link

snow, just imagine A doing that then kissing his new baby brother/sister your christmas sounds like it will be lovely, although hopefully you'll avoid labour on christmas day!

waves to all

Hi all

Ugh, just cried my way through an episode of Private Practice. Yes, I know I'm sad

Bigcar, where did you get those tiny little bears? (They are bears, right? ) Glad to hear Meow is doing better. Working on "stroking" instead of "hitting" or "pulling" is the way forward, indeed I see what you mean re. COD. I had no idea it was SO violent! If it's for over 18s it must be awfully violent. Definitely too much for DS1, although, as you say, it's so hard to say "no" when every other boy in his class has it and plays it.

June, wow, you're so organised! I guess because we don't have any family around Christmas shopping is a one day thing It's just Mila and closest friends, in my case, DH doesn't do that If tomorrow is D-day for the trial decision, I'll be thinking of you.

Snow, awww so nice! I hope you're enjoying your leisure time these days Hope the snot clears and full night's sleep comes back to the Snow household.

Ineed, I'm on the exact same boat as you It's SOOOO frustrating and hiding my frustration or anger is HARD. I keep offering things and acting as if nothing was happening but inside you just feel so drained, don't you? M would eat cous cous, cheese, yog, toast and milk every single day but that's not nearly enough, where's the fruit and veg? high protein? So exhausting, I really hope it's a phase. I read your thread, there are some interesting ideas wrt food options, great advice there. I'm sure Christmas will be lovely at home. It'll feel different without FIL of course but you will all be together, and that's what matters.

Right, busy days here, a bit of work and some other work that didn't come through as I didn't have anyone to look after M. It's moments like these when I wish my parents were closer Oh well...

I managed to get DH's bday presents, albeit a bit late We celebrated with a few friends, he had a lovely time.

I got M a toy hoover and a cleaning set for Christmas today She absolutely loves anything that has to do with household items and cleaning so she'll enjoy them thoroughly I guess

Bed's calling now

Waves!!!

Argh!

Sorry, Alloverit!! Got your nickname wrong there, so sorry

pombear anyone?

[ bear ] but without the spaces

I have to try out the bear emotion. bigcar Has this appeared because of the pom bear thread or is it for children in need?

Well, 3am, A has slept through I think- just another 2hrs and he will have. I on the other hand am up with insomnia, chesty cough and general whinging as DH snoring his head off. I should be enjoying my sleep and making the most of it. Oh well.

gauchita alloverit perhaps we should just get the kids together at meal times. It is soo hard. I have tried to go zen, whereas DH gets v het up about the not eating/playing with food (read: throwing food on the floor). I think I am getting myself ready for the constant mantra of 'this too shall pass' that comes alongside newborn crying etc.

snow, purely down to pombear anyone? to be used when any totally bonkers behaviour is seen! Not sure of it'll be permanent though.

sorry to hear you're not sleeping, I remember that well, it's no fun. Hope A decides on a long nap this morning.

waves to all

bigcar would you explain why people say pombear for that kind of behaviour? I know it's something to do with the "bonkers" thread and I started reading it but it's got over 600 messages :S
snow I remember too well the insomnia and how irritating I found anyone who would say "better make sure you get all the sleep you can now cause once the babys here....."
I was up all night with d&v, ashamed to say I think it was food poisoning from something I cooked (chicken, I was in a rush and didn't cook it enough!!It looked ok though luckily just for me and didn;t poison anyone else!)
I haven't puked in a few hours so hopefully I am over the worst of it, spent all morning disinfecting the toilet (sorry for tmi, it is still early).

court case, well it's not over after all, They have to go back and we don't know when or for how long or what. Hopefully it'll be over by the end of this year. My worry is that when they have to sell the house sil won't have anywhere to live. she knows this but is in denial and has not looked at any options whatsoever.pil will go and live with his gf and if mil doesn't want sil with her (which would be fair enough I mean sil is nearly 30yo!) then I really pray to god no-one suggests she lives with us. I think sil expects someone will sort a place out for her.
Our relationship has improved since my hormones were all over the place when i was pregnant but not good enough to live under the same roof. I think she should really, for her own sake, manage her money better and find a place to live, really.

sorry to hear you're having problems with the feeding, allover and gauchita. C is very random with it, sometimes good, sometimes awful. She will not eat any vegetables whatsoever. I will check out your thread.

sent dh with C to the music group so I can catch up on some sleep/rest. So far not working out really well, been doing washing/tidying and all sorts and getting tired. Now lying down in my bed and going to try and doze off!

take care juners!

june, if you remember, the menu the op was offered was slightly . . . ummmm . . . odd and what you'd feed the kids really. After a lot of speculation of them being either swingers or bonkers the op had them to dinner at hers. As you can imagine there were a lot of helpful suggestions from mners to follow the orignal theme set by the bonkers couple, some of which the op took. Well, little did the op realise but her dh had popped out to the shops to get some pre dinner nibbles, as they were all sat enjoying some expensive wine, ops dh walked into the room with a dish and uttered the immortal words, 'pombear anyone?'. To which the op had to leave the room to rofl and her dh has become a mn classic

sorry to hear the divorce is still ongoing. I'd always assumed from what you have said about sil that she was much younger than that she really needs to get off her backside and sort herself out doesn't she?! Hope you get some rest and feel better soon

- no reason, just wanted to do a bear!

Well DS got his glasses today and the first thing he said when he could see me clearly for the first time in his life was 'mum, you're massive'

The lenses are quite thick, which I'm surprised at, but apparently the hospital writes down prescriptions differently to Specsavers and when they 'transposed' (?) it into their system it is actually nearly +4 in both eyes so worse than I thought. Oh well, I'm just so pleased he can see!

Sorry to hear that there are other Juners with picky eaters.... it's so depressing isn't it? I've had a bit of a breakthrough in that if DD isn't in her high chair and is pottering around, she will eat more. Does mean I'm chasing her around with the bowl and spoon, but at least she's eating something!

bigcar I loved that Pombear thread! It was hilarious!

June - the court case sounds like a bit of a nightmare . I bet you'll be so relieved when it's all over. that your SIL is still living at home and expects to be housed!

snow - Sounds as though your DS has a similar eye problem to my DS. He had to see all those people at the hospital too. Good luck with your appointment!

June - Hope you start to feel better soon. I had E coli poisoning about 9 years ago and I was ill for about 6 weeks. A bloody (literally! ) nightmare! On the plus side I lost about two stone, but not really worth all the pain!

Anyway MIL over in a sec so must frantically tidy up shove stuff under sofa

aaahhh, A asleep, DH at work and the house (and remote ) to myself. What a shme there is nowt much on. I support the idea of children in need but have to say, despite all the years of working in paediatric disability in the UK, I have never seen any of my kidlets or their families directly benefit from children in need funding. Does anyone have any positive experiences of it??

june you poor thing, I hope you are tucked up in bed and resting.
bigcar that was a fabulous precis of the pombear thread
alloverit I like the free range eating idea- will try it out. We had a friend's birthday party tonight, A was the youngest and loved being sat at the table with the big boys- ate quite a bit Does this mean I need to borrow all the 3 year olds i the street every meal?
Lovely that DS taking well to wearing the glasses. Of course you will look bigger to him with that prescription! Don't fret.

A trip to ikea this weekend to get the drawers for bubba, and collection of a rocking chair for our room from Ebay. Two midwifes have said it must be a girl this week- one based on heart rate and the other from the number of foetal movements . Should we do a sweepstake for date/sex/weight?

snow, remote to yourself for a whole evening, a true treat Nope, no experience of children in need funding over here either. As I spat my tea over the room, dh asked why I was laughing so much, I explained the pombear saga and all I got was a and a 'I spose you're on mn again'. Oh and I've a few older dcs you can have for free if needed, will wrap them and arrange a courier now Hope you have a good weekend

alloverit, glad your ds took to his glasses, despite the comment Hope all went well with mil you clean the same way as me!

sorry snow, don't know your due date so will have to go early/late

bigcar: girl, 8lb, 2 days late (sorry!)

waves

Cheers bigcar, cup of tea is a great idea. Thanks for the Ikea vibes, I will need them!
If only there was something I wanted to watch on tonight! Was going to make some pancakes but can't be bothered and have eaten A's chocolate buttons from the party.
Some possibly helpful info for the sweep- Due date 28th Dec.

I think I might just head to bed after the crappy sleep last night.

Night night all