Fab Feb 2009 bar: toddle on in, grab a pew: mummy's in need of a drink or two...

[dinkystinky]

New thread for us to natter on about our toddling terrors... complete with some virtual booze. Mine's a french martini....

the link doesn't work SM... what's the thread title and i'll have a look?

A seems to be alright again, aside from the horrific nappies that is.

how are you today dinky?

Still suffering from flu unfortunately - but thanks for asking SM and Tulips. Is it in AIBU SM?

Oh. It's in chat and is titled I just need to rant about my friend and her ds (or something like that)

Let me try again

Bugger, still can't do it. Tut
dinky Are you crazy? I am not brave enough to post in AIBU you crazy lady
It's in chat. x

SM have posted on your other thread

Thanks for your message on my thread dinky
i spoke to one ofthe staff at the childrens centre and she basically said I have to accept that not everyone's parenting style will be like mine. I said that's fine, but IMO, when it comes down to fundamental rights from wrongs, surely something can be said. She said not really, I jusdt have to learn to live with it.

hmm, not really that helpful then. Sorry SM, I'd just try and avoid this mum and her DS as much as possible then - and if he's playing near L or J just keep a close eye on him and tell him off as you'd tell your boys off.

Hello Ladies!

Dinky sorry to hear you are still stuck with the flu ? how miserable . Hope you manage to perk up for the weekend.

SM ? sorry have not seen your other thread but recall you have mentioned them before ? sounds like a case of steering clear of them (is this the same mum who posted a controversial comment on your Facebook status quite recently?)

Tulips ? how are you and your brood today? Sounds like you?ve been having a horrible time of it with that bug. Hope A continues to improve?

I tried to post the other day but hit the Escape key accidentally after typing a huge post!! This is my first chance at catching up again (because I?m at work !!). I had wanted to say a big thank you for all the recent advice and suggestions about AD?s and DD! MOS - it?s lovely that you were thinking of my DD! I had a look at Singing Hands and am sure I recognise the two ladies from a programme that?s been on Cbeebies. I spoke to the Portage worker who came round on Wednesday to see DD, and she thinks a bit of Makaton could help to back up DD?s language, but she also suggested working with pictures and photographs. Really interesting stuff ? a lot of work for me of course! Basically, it involves me taking lots of photos of people we see, places we go, things like the car, the pushchair, bed, shops, park etc ? and each day setting up a timetable with the pictures in the order we are going to do them. During the day, we talk about the next thing on the list, look at the picture/photo of the person/thing, and then when the ?task? is complete, remove that picture then talk about the next one. This should help prepare her for the activity/person etc. They cannot rule out ASD at this point, but even if she is on the spectrum, the thought is it would be high functioning. We will have a portage worker coming to our house once a week from June, a speech & language assessment and an autism workshop. Crikey! I feel a lot better already ? I think a combination of the portage and my visit to the GP has made me feel a bit more in control ? I?ve been taking the AD?s for 4 days, so know they won?t have kicked in yet, but all good so far?..

SM - how did you get on with your visit from the outreach worker? I think you make a great family liaison worker .

MOS how did the waddle toddle go? Hope the DC?s cooperated with their costumes!

What?s everyone up to this weekend? DH is away AGAIN, this time mountain biking, so I?m off to Essex for a friend?s son?s birthday BBQ, then staying at my mum?s? Not 100% sure about staying at my mum?s ? I have to sleep in the same room as the DC?s and Sam?s on an early waking (5am) phase at the moment? Ho hum, maybe I?ll be able to remove him before he wakes DD?. Better dash now as have to pick up hire care (DH taking ours) and work out how to get the car seats strapped in?

hello all,
dinky hope flu has gone now (its 40 degrees here!)

SM stupid vet. Must be on commission with flea companies!

PT/TITS oh poor little A. Had to chuckle at the pitiful 'dad' though. When H was really sick last month and was puking when he coughed I held him over the bidet when he was sick and he looked up and said the most pitiful 'daddeee'. So sweet.

STW hope the Makaton works out for you and DD. I probably have some papers here (very basic from classes 1 to 3) I could post you if you don't want to buy anything yet. Could get you started. If you want me to send them email me asap ([email protected]) as DH is flying back to the UK on business late tomorrow night and he can post them to you if you let me have your address.

Waddle toddle went well although too bloody hot. Really need it earlier in the year. DD looked beautiful as Tinkerbell and DH refused to wear the peter pan hat but looked cute, if a bit flushed.

Had a cake sale and raffle after and just from that alone we've raised around SR11,000 which is about 1,500 sterling and thats before the sponsorship money is collected.

right, have to dash as strawberry muffins in the oven which DD just made.

Dinky you're in talk round up. i'm so proud of you!!

ooh, a claim to fame on our thread. Does that make dinky mumsnet royalty?

That'll be being stuck in bed with just a laptop and MN for company yesterday afternoon that got me my claim to fame! Was a v funny little threadlet going on - though put the amusing factor down to my flu induced delirium. Glad someone else found it funny.

See your Nigella traits have been passed on to DD MoS. Glad the waddle toddle went well.

Good luck with the weekend STW. ITs great you're getting so much good support with DD and there is a plan in place. All sounds like hard work but stuff that is doable and worth trying.

STW No it wasn't the person that left that comment on my fb. I don't even really know her, met her about 3/4 times.
The meeting the other day went well, we're just atm looking at what i enjoy doing and my interests etc before I can fully decide what I want to do, she said I should try to find some thinking time for myself and some time away from the boys.
Re the AD's, i found I started feeling alot better straight away. As you say, they wouldn't have kicked in yet, but that relief of getting it off your chest and saying out loud to the gp that you need a mental kick does wonders
Re your dd, the photo's the prep talks etc, I do that with my 2. Not the photos but I give them lots of warning about what our next activities are and in what order we will do things through the day.
Jacob is obsessed with Mr Tumble (Something Special would be the program you saw Singing Hands on) so we do the odd bit of makaton here, just whatever he picks up really, but we do bits and pieces too.
I'd love to do a full course in it. They used to do one at the children's centre we go to, but the staff member left

for dinky I have never read the talk round-up. But will now one of us is on it!

Read this, I copy and pasted it from that mums fb status

Oh dear!!! Get up to find reece has taken all my wet washing out the machine, in the draw part he has crumbled bread and cracked eggs as washing powder, climbed up on the side to get a sharp knife to cut the lid off the glue as comfort!! Why I ask.... To wash his bouncy ball!!!

See, wtf?
The sharp knife bit scares me a bit. What's he doing in the kitchen while she's still in bed?
I have a knife block on my kitchen counter and the boys can open the fridge etc which is why I have a gate across the kitchen so things like this don't ever happen.
He could have really hurt himself.
AIBU to want to tell her to sort it out!

oh arse, H had a rash last night and this morning it was much worse and he has been a rat with a temperature for about 3 days. Of course the experienced mum of 4 that I am put it down to teething. Just been to med centre and he has chicken pox
To make matters worse, DH is out on business tonight. Oh deep joy.

mos Poor H! Lots of hugs and kisses xxx

arse arse arse. Wonder how long til DD gets it. Am a leper at the moment out here, will stay locked in the house for 10 days

Oh no MOS - poor H and poor you! Hope its a mild dose and he gets over it quickly. And that DD doesnt get it.

SM at that woman's FB status. My kids can possibly reach all sorts in the kitchen (not sharp stuff or poisonous stuff which is well out of reach/locked away) but we never leave them unsupervised in there for precisely that reason. Yes, she does need to sort it out.

Have tried to read through but keep forgetting who said what dd, dp and myself got the damn tummy bug yesterday (why is it that the kids take it in turns to get it when i'd prefer them to all get it at once but dp and myself get it together so we can't function at all?!) Poor ds1 was an angel though and played quietly all day while we all dozed on the couch... bless him, he didn't even make much of a mess and kept giving us cuddles and hugs. A was a differant matter what with the four molars he's pushing through atm but i was able to subdue him with boobs for the most part.

STW... sounds like alot of work you'll have to be doing with dd, I really hope it helps her cope a bit better. Good luck with it all

mos... ouch, chicken pox in that heat! poor little sod, and poor you having to deal with him. Hope it's a mild dose and he recovers quickly.

Well I did comment on the status and told her |I thought that was shocking and could have been quite nasty.
Then basically a few pwople came on basically saying it's ok, they have vivid imaginations etc etc and that they only copy what we do.
I said that I'm all for them using their imaginations and what not but as long as the environment is safe for them and these things are out of reach.
She then said this......

It's not like I left it lying around!!! FFS!!! He got the kitchen chair pulled it over to the side climbed up and on to the kitchen side and got it from the knife block!! That's what he was in trouble for!! And b4 any 1 says I should have been watching him I was in the toilet if that's ok, x

There were even people saying that this boy was so clever
I said that IMVHO, as parents it is our job to assess the risks in our homes to ensure this kind of thing doesn't happen.

I seriously think these people are all deluded.
One person asked where this magical out of reach place is!
In a f**king cupboard with a latch on would be 1 place.
Having a gate over the kitchen would be another, I mean it's not rocket science is it.
There's nothing else I can say now, just see what she says to me when I see her monday and then I will point out to her that maybe if her son had consistant rules, these things might not happen and that if he is able to drag chairs over to climb on the counters, she clearly needs to block his access to that room.

Anyway, I bought a really nice cardy at the jumble sale for 30p!

If I stop being Mrs Judgy-pants, will you all come back

No

I can see why you were concerned/annoyed SM, that is bloody irresponsible behaviour and the mother seems to be having a laugh about it. Loon.

DH finally buggered off/flew back to UK on business early hours of this morning. Weren't sure whether he'd be able to go as on skynews last night they warned of possible closures due to volcanic ash. But it was ok they said, they'd give 6 hours notice of closures. That is great if you are flying from the UK but what if you are flying INTO the UK and its a 7 hour flight?

Not really sure now if H has chicken pox (it was a nurse that saw him yesterday, not a doctor but I assumed she was right). However, quite a few people have seen him today when I was walking DD to nursery as she appears unaffected and nursery confirmed she should still go) and they have commented that it doesn't look like chicken pox.

So what does CP look like? He had a temperature for 3 days (put down to teething) and had a rash all over him (mainly tummy and back but now legs and face). Apparently CP rash has blisters that come up but he doesn't have that.

Just read another thread in childrens health about a little girl who had something similar, high fever then rash which came on 10 days after MMR. H finally had his vaccination last saturday and I'm wondering if this is what caused it? Maybe its just a reaction to the vaccination?

Views? Would be good to know as a lot of people are treating him/us as lepers and I've got to cancel my 4 sign language classes tomorrow and Tuesday as so many people expressed concerns about coming.

SM come back and judge

mos I believe chicken pox spots have like a yello-y puss/liquid in them to start.
They don't scab over straight away, but once they do, you're no longer contagious.
You arew contagious for 10 days before the spot appear (I think)

Can you google it? You'll find images of chicken pox on-line somewhere and will be able to have a look.

Luke got a pin-prick rash all over him after his 3 month jabs. I took him to A&E and they said it was dry skin and diagnosed ezcema.
Told me to use regular E-45 cream on him, and when it didn't improve I went to gp and got some bath oilatum and some aveeno cream.

Re the fb thing, what really annoys me is that everyone was saying what a clever boy he is , what an imagination, bless him etc etc. Wouldn't be saying that if he'd fell off the counter whilst holding the knife would they. They'd then be as shocked as I am now.
I want to ask her if she's moved them, but I won't (might do when i see her tomorrow)
and remember this is the same boy who drew over my walls, who I spent 2 hours on thursday telling off while he was being a terror and his mum was on the phone, who is always being mean to other children and never gets told off by his mum (and before anyone reminds me about Jacobs aggression, I always tell him off)

Anyway, enough of that.

The boys are eating their lunch watching a Thomas dvd and then I'm hoping for a nap