Fab Feb 2009 bar: toddle on in, grab a pew: mummy's in need of a drink or two...

[dinkystinky]

New thread for us to natter on about our toddling terrors... complete with some virtual booze. Mine's a french martini....

AAAARRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!

why does every god damn bill come in the same week as the mechanic needs to be payed, i need oil, we have to drive to ballinrobe for a birthday party tomorrow (petrol and gift needed) and i owe 4 weeks of playschool fees (naughty treasurer )??????

and that's not even thinking about the arsing credit card and my OU fees.

Sorry for the whinge, I hate feeling stressed about money and dp has his head in the clouds when it comes to these things which makes me even more stressed

THOM... A is in a mix of pjs and babygroes but tbh he looks as cute and snug in the pg as the babygores and they're soooo much easier (although hopefully he's not being too badly taumatised by the fact that he's wearing both ds1's and dd's out grown pjs.... pink hearts king of suit him

STW.... that sounds like a lovely day/night out for your leaving do... and wow, what an incredible leaving gift too!

MOS - it was herby's secretary whose daughter died. Havent seen Herbgarden on the boards for a long time though - hope she's ok.

Tulips - sorry the bloody bills have all come in at the same time - think its a variation of Sod's law that makes the cash crunch all come at once. Hope you manage to sort out your finances ok without too much pain.

STW glad you had a lovely leaving do and fab present and hope the new job goes well x

TITR sorry you are so stressed about things. DH is the opposite of yours, he gets so stressed about bills even though we are reasonably well off. He had this rather ridiculous idea about paying off the mortgage by next year and so reduced the term a few years ago which meant we had to findd over 1,500 pcm for the mortgage payment alone. I got sick of the constant stress of it and worrying about other bills so I made arrangements to change it back to original term and payments reduced by around 1,200 pcm. Huge reduction of stress and if we have spare money we can pay it off.

I know how hard it is when there are bills to be paid. When I was a single parent I came very close to losing my house and don't want to go down that road again.

dinky, thats right, knew it was one of the lawyers . Hope herby is ok, anyone have her contact details?

I was thinking of herbgarden the other day actually. Hope she is ok.
Stw - leaving do sounded good
dinky - guilt comes with being a mother doesn't it. No matter what we do and what decisions we make we will always find something to feel guilty about. It sill pass.
Tulips - I hate bill time too. I try to keep my head buried over it though and am too scared to even check the bank balance. I have just started a money management course though so hopefully I'll get a few tips from that that I could share.
Both my boys have conjunctivitis. They started drops yesterday morning do I'm hoping thrh'll be ok for playgroup Monday.

Welcome back SilveryMoon - though so sorry to hear your boys have conjunctivitis. That's miserable - hope the drops do their magic quickly (and its not too painful having to rugby tackle them down to give them the drops).

Danny slept through again last night from 10.30 (when DH gave him a dreamfeed - ridiculous that we have started giving a 1 year old a dream feed but from trial and error, it seems to prevent the umpteen night wakings through the night) till 6.30 this morning - feel almost human today. When the monkey wakes up from his nap, we're off to the RAF museum in Colindale - DS1 is beside himself with excitement!

I'm still posting from the iPhone so is a pain!
Dinky - have a great day at the museum. Bet my ds1 would love it there too. I really should start planning proper family days out.
Hell of a night again last night. Both of them were playing misery guts.

SNOW! loads of it

pity we have to drive halfway across the country for a feckin birthday party today not in the humour to see this paticular family tbh, would much rather stay home a curl up in front of the fire while the kids run around in the snow.

SM... sorry about the conjunctivitis, ds1 is very prone to it too and it's a bollocks.... mild salt water works wonders for him.

dinky, have fun... sounds like a lovely day out

Good morning. I'm in a breezy mood as M stayed at her Godmother's last night, I went out with the girls from work and had a delicious meal with two bottles of fizz, plus three rounds of drink, plus we all got a red rose, and spent £20 all told!

Then, I slept in till 9:30! I love life!

Sorry to hear about the boys conjunctivitis, SM, not nice. How are they with drops?

Dinky, have a lovely day, sounds like fun. Sorry to hear Danny is back to his usual tricks at night, ttiap!

STW, sounds like you had a great time, hope you have a lovely day today - what/where/when is the new job?

MOS, I've put stuff on ebay, and it's sometimes gone for more than I paid! But I guess it's different if it's a fixed price. Can you have a look on ebay and see what similar things are going for or is that too much of a faff?! If so, then I would have thought between 60-50% of label price is good. I meant to ask, how are your BSL classes?

TITR or should that be TITS?! It's a bit like that for us too. As I've been training for my new role I've been earning loads of overtime, but then I needed new glasses, a new part for my car, and I got an fucking parking ticket the other day. I hate money.

Evening all - hope you had a good day. SM - fingers crossed for a better night for you.

Those of you near London - the RAF Museum in Hendon/Colindale is excellent for a rainy day and FREE! Would take your own sandwiches as the ones there are expensive and not particularly impressive but both boys loved it - and DH and I found it really interesting too. Was pretty busy thanks to the incessant rain out there but loads of space for little ones to run/crawl/toddle (pick your method of movement) around in. Then went this afternoon to buy Danny his first ever pair of shoes - and he was in DS1's forward facing car seat (put DS1 in a booster seat) - sob, where has my baby gone??? Spoke to DH about no 3 last night and he was pretty against the idea as both boys were playing up abit yesterday morning and the thought of 3 playing up scared him - suspect am going to have to wait until Danny is reliably sleeping through before I broach the subject again

Tulips - snow Its nearly bloody March for godsake! Hope the drive to the party and the party went ok.

MrsY - glad you had a good night. Hope the hangover wasnt too bad. What's the new role you're training for?

Evening!

Glad you all enjoyed the museum Dinky. We were toying with the idea of the British Museum but in the end opted for DH taking DS1 to the cinema whilst Mr T & I mooched round the shops. I feel it is only a matter of time before shopping and DS2 will not mix.

DH & I were also talking about no3 but our reservation is
financial rather than an ability to cope (though after this evening...) I don't think I do really want another one but I do have a few wistful moments here and there thinking that I'll never have a girl.

MrsY glad you enjoyed you night out. Still BF Mr T morning, noon and night so no time off on the horizon for me. Still, as an old bird I must admit I don't really mind too much.

I think you'll find Dinky snow in March is not unusual. In fact as a little purple pop person once sang, Sometimes it snows in April...

THOM - sounds like you and DH divided and conquered today! Danny already doesnt mix well with shopping - infact took an avid dislike to them from around 6 months old... True, forgot about Prince - or squiggle's - pearls of wisdom...

Hi guys sorry for my swearing frenzy just sleep deprived and mastitis hoping to be on a bit more when i get bit more sleep. But love to you all and the fab feb babes xxx

A is my little shopping buddy.... not sure how long that will last and lord knows i rarely get to the shops anyway but it's nice while it lasts.

we're definitely, 100% certain stopping at 3 is right for us but i do still get alot of sad moments when i realise i'll never have a baby again part of it stems from the fact that i sort of feel robbed of those precious early days with A because of what happened when he was born, but i'm fully aware that having another for that reason alone would be ridiculous!

Kids were angels at the party yesterday, A mooched around and played happily all day and even gave the party boys parents a cuddle each (very unlike my little momma's boy!) unfortunately we forgot his dummy so he screamed for about 45 mins straight on the way home poor sod.

MrsY... . glad you had a lovely re;axing weekend, sounds blissful

Glad the party was worth the effort to get there Tulips - but sorry about the noisy drive back. Danny is like that too - but better now he's forward facing as DS1 spends his time in the car making Danny laugh

Oh, it was, TITR I felt like a grown up again, and I'm very lucky that I don't suffer with hangovers!

Dinky, I'm just doing sales admin/customer services so not hard, just very busy. I'll be working either 8am-6pm or 1pm-11pm at weekends, looking after 4 email accounts, three phone lines and live chat! Hard, but worth it as I can spend mid-week with M. Actually, we had to do a promotion recently, and they wanted to do a 5% off deal, so I named it FabFeb5 in honour of all you lovely ladies!

We're in the 'no more baby' blues at the moment, forward facing, walking and talking (with plenty of attitude) so she's very much a toddler, and I also feel I missed out at first - what with the pregnancy from hell, the birth from hell, and then the problems with feeding, my bond with M developed very slowly, something I wasn't expecting, but she's such a happy little lamb, we want as many more as we can afford! We will have to move, but my mum retires in the next few years, and she's a Social Worker, so gets a big lump sum, after she finishes the bathroom, it's half to my sister and half to me, and we can afford to get a bigger house AND one closer to Tunbridge Wells!!!

Oh wow MrsY, how lovely of your other to give you and your sister that money Are you going to wait til then to have another or are you planning a head start on a bigger family before then?

BTW, am i the only one on the thread whose periods haven't returned yet? they came back at 12 months with ds1 but he was feeding less than A at this stage, A still can't take a cup or bottle The nurse called round yesterday as the SALT contacted her about A's feeding issues and she wanted to check his weight and make sure we were coping. He's 9.9kgs, so below average but well withing normal range so at least i'm not being accused of starving him

er hello......haven't had a chat with you lot for a few months - so sorry, I just can't keep up with the pace!

Just posted about my DD in behaviour/development and thought I'd check to see if you were all still here and you are! Hope everyone is ok and Fab Feb one-year-on babies are bouncing?

I'm in a panic as DD is falling off the weight charts so of course turning to MN for some comfort......

Ok will promise to have a look back at what all of you have been up to....

xx

Calico! Hope all good with you on the whole and your DS and DD are all good. Will take a look at your thread on behaviour - but from memory your DD has always been a petite little lady, so as long as she is happy and healthy I really wouldnt sweat the weight charts thing. If she's not happy and healthy, that's a different matter. We're all built differently - and that goes for babies too. See above on Tulips post - her A is tiny compared to his brother but doing great.

yeah... ds1 was 9kgs at about 6 months

the weird thing is they're incredibly similar in appearance, A just seems to be the compact version of his big bro

hello all and welcome back calico and mrsY mrsY great news about your job although obviously it will mean less time with your DH will must be hard. Given the choice though, I'd rather spend more time with H than with DH
Signing classes going well. Had two classes today and have had a request to start one next week for some older girls (their younger siblings do it and they have been nagging to join) so will start a class for 4 to 6 year olds. Can't believe over halfway through second course and starting new one after Easter. Lots of new little babies around since last summer so hoping to haul a few in.

SM hope the boys eyes are better, what a pain.

dinky glad museum trip was good. DD is too destructive to take somewhere like that at the moment.

TITR/TITS you are not alone ref periods. Weirdly, I had a tiny bleed on H's first birthday but nothing since. Still b/f but also had contraceptive injection in January so don't know if thats why they've not returned. Had a few periody type pains the last few weeks though but nothing yet.

Anyone heard from Elkie? I hope all is ok with her and her mum.

Aww - thanks for the hugs and wine Dinky!

Yep, you're right DD has always been pretty little but recently she has started to look scrawny... the odd thing is that she eats really well compared with her super fussy brother, so have never been too worried but she is still only 7.25kg! She is on the move all the time of course, but aren't they all??

Hi there Calico! Haven't managed to read your other thread but hoping all ok with DD.

Have just snuck upstairs with the laptop to catch up and also watch One Born every Minute. Was in floods of tears last week but hoping to keep it together tonight!

Had my first two days in the new job and have good feelings about it! However... been really worried about the DC's as both are unwell and have been sick at the childminder's, but she kept them because she knew it was my first week in the new job. Also, got a call today to say that Sam had had quite a bad fall and injured his gum. TITR - sounds a bit like what happened to A.

I'm sorry I can't concentrate because of this blimmin' programme!! Going to have to sign off and try again tomorrow .

Morning all. Back in the land of sleep deprivation - ho hum -still it was nice while the sleep lasted Danny off his food, drooling and grumpy as all hell - yep its teething time again. Sigh.

STW - glad the new job is going well and what a star your childminder is - hang on to her! Hope the DC are ok and get better soon - lots of bugs doing the rounds at the moment - and sorry to hear about Sam's fall. Have to say though you need to get used to your little boy injuring himself (if his gum is hurting him I totally recommend anbesol liquid - totally numbs the area - miracle stuff) - all little boys seem to be total and utter nutters when it comes to attempting the impossible... Danny tried climbing up the sofa yesterday and was only just caught in time before flinging himself head first off it... crazy child. Maybe he was trying to end the teething pain Cant watch birth programmes at all so totally avoiding one born every minute - though from the number of threads it generates it sounds like its quite an interesting watch.

Elkie - if you're lurking, thinking of you and your mum. Is it today she gets her results?

MOS - meant to say earlier its great how your sing and sign classes are taking off. Here's hoping its the start of a great new career path for you.

MrsY - the job sounds great and its fantastic you'll get midweek time with M as a result - after all that's when all the fun classes/groups are. And I'm so pleased you guys are feeling ready - as a couple and a family - to have more. You have really come a long way in the past year so here's a glass of champers and hurrah in your direction.

Tulips - my periods only returned when I moved Danny to mixed feeding at 6 and a bit months - before that he was feeding so much it kept them at bay (despite a few attempts at starting). Suspect when A drops down to just morning and bedtime yours may return.

SilveryMoon - hope you and your boys are ok and you get your laptop sorted. We miss you.

Swampster - how are the move plans going? We are, fingers crossed, kicking off our building work come August and will need to move out in July - am dreading it but so looking forward to the end result. Have been in negotiations with our neighbours who also want to do a kitchen extension (but on a less grand scale) so fingers crossed we'll be able to swing the idiot planners between us to approve both our plans if we both do the work at the same time...

dinky... i know you're right. they only came back with the other kids once i stopped night feeds and they fed less during the day. Which they'd turn up though, feeling crampy constantly for months now and driving myself mad panicing about pregnancy

STW.... A's gum healed really well... it still looks a little lopsided but doesn't seem to bother him and is only really noticable if you know what you're looking for. One Born Every Minute was good last night.... i felt so sorry for poor Joy, talk about a long drawn out affair and she still ended up with the cs poor love. That other woman was mental though

A has slept 10 and 8 hours the last two nights his cat has been climbing into his cot with him when we head up to bed and it seems to help him stay asleep to have her purring at the end of the cot.

Tulips! Would invest in a cat-cum-baby-whisperer to get Danny to sleep but given DH's allergies to all things feline, it'd probably backfire...