Fab Feb 2009 bar: toddle on in, grab a pew: mummy's in need of a drink or two...

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New thread for us to natter on about our toddling terrors... complete with some virtual booze. Mine's a french martini....

mos I started to think you don't like us anymore
Hope you've had a good few weeks with the older dc's.
Poor H being poorly again. Hope he's better soon. x

SM hope you are all ok. I see you've had your trials and tribulations again. Its getting really hard work with H being ill. Previously DH and I have taken it in turns being with him and sleeping in spare room so we at least get some sleep every other night but as DC1 and 2 are here we don't have a spare room and we are all knackered. Haven't got the heart to tell DH that its not just H keeping me awake, its his snoring and farting!

mos yeah, we're all good. What trials and tribulations have I had? My memory is failing me again

MOS - nice to see you back on but sorry H is poorly again - poor little man. Hope he responds quickly and well to treatment. Enjoy your extra time with DS1 and DD1 - hope you've had a lovely time having them over with you.

Bumps - hope things are going better now with O.

well I must say how brave of me to do an AIBU, i am pleased with reponses general consensus is YANBU but maybe I should chill a little, which is true! some weird repsonses though about giving Izzy a complex about food because im obsessed! I just ignored them

Hi MOS thanks for your post, I plan not to give Izzy meat until she is old enough to ask for it and then she will have to get hubby to make it. Im hoping she will not eat meat like me but prepared for her saying she wants to though.

Hope you are ok Ive not been on the thread much myself. Poor H Hugs for you both xxx

Anyone remember KT (had a DD Poppy and moved to be nearer her DF's family)? Just seen on facebook that she's single again now - seems to be so much splitting up/pain going through the fab febbers at the moment. Here is hoping that the future will be brighter and better for everyone.

mos... i was just wondering today if your older dcs were going to be stuck in saudi because of the ash situation.

hope rebooking the flights doesn't cost you... i read yesterday that they're not obligated to go to too much trouble to accomodate people as it comes under 'circumstances impossible for the airline to predict or avoid'

Poor H being ill again, hope the meds kick in quickly for him poor mite.

littlesez, sorry i missed your thread. glad you weren't too badly damaged by AIBU, it can be a tad scary over there

Yes, I remember KT. She was back in the gym days after having dd wasn't she?
That is a shame that she is single now.
They say don't they that the first 6 monthsw are the hardest, but tbh, I think it just gets tougher.

Luke had his jabs yesterday and was so brave.

jacob has a high temp, he's been in bed with me all night and not slept much. At least he is asleep now though. Shame I'm not.

Dp is back off to Wales today for the week.

hi all,
PT/TITS LOL at new initials. Don't scare me like that. Surely the airlines will fly them back at no extra cost? 2 x one way tickets from here will cost us over 1k which we just haven't got.

SM I meant all the bumps and illnesses (trials and tribulations!) wasn't it one of yours that bumped his head badly (have to admit to skimming thread yesterday very quickly in between watching sky news for updates on sodding airports) Hope your LO feels better soon, its so horrible when they are ill. H is still coughing badly but at least wasn't sick last night.

Sad about KT. Anyone heard from Snowmama recently as to how she is doing.
Things not going to well with DH and I at the moment, he is back to being an arse again. He is always worse when DC1 and 2 are here, makes it clear sometimes he resents them but I'm sorry, he knew damm well when he met me I had to kids so as DD1 said to him the other day 'get over it' (didn't go down too well!)

I have to say, if it wasn't for the fact that DD2 is so settled and loving it here and my Happy Hands business is going so well (2 more signed up this morning for course starting Tuesday) I'd be going home I think. He is being such an arse. I got an email from my brother a few weeks ago saying an offer was made on mum's house. Made me very sad as so final if that makes sense and all he could say was 'excellent, we'll have her money soon'. sorry but I'd rather have mum back than her money
Also, he is back to the UK on a business trip next month and I asked him to go to her house to pick up a few mementoes for me and DC3 and 4 to remember/know their grandparents by but he refused saying 'he is not having her crap/shit in our house'. Tosser!

Sorry, very me, me, me post.

Hope everyone is doing ok

mos yes, Luke did bash his head quite badly, resulting in hospital trip.
Sorry things are rough with your dh again
He is sounding like a proper twat again
Where is your mum's house? maybe one of us could pick up some things for you??

Mos sounds like lifes a tad stressy for you atm Sometimes i think that there are some men that are missing a sensitivity chip and it sounds like you bagged him! I went out with a guy when i split with my ex DH who was a bit like that about my kids. When we first started going out i made the mistake of leaving them with babysitters or my ExDH for the weekend so he got lulled into a false sense of having only me and he was a proper arse when i used to say he needed to spend more time arount me AND the kids. Its hard if youve got children from a previous marriage sometimes, i made sure when i got with DH now that he knows my children were there before him and if he steps too far out of line they will be there AFTER him but luckily they all get along with the exception of the odd Kraktoa-type explosion from DD3 who winds everybody up at the moment it has to be said

Hope they can get back to school soon though and all of these air restrictions are lifted.I am sure they will fly your DC's back at either no extra charge or perhaps a nominal one? After all you have paid for a ticket and everyone is in the same boat - who is your carrier?

Sorry that Jacob is poorly SM I seem to be having a phase where nobody is ill in the house so i am grateful for that!

Milo is going to have to go into his own room next to ours within the next month - he is waking up when we come to bed and arsing around till 1.30 and generally displaying signs of the fact that he needs to go into his own room. I know lots of people put their lo's into their own room ages ago and i definately think that its time.

SM and rosie thanks so much for confirming DH is a twunt, glad its not just me

You are so right Rosie, kids must come first. I made the mistake of letting him bully me into sending DD1 back to boarding school 2 years ago. He gave an ultimatum, she went or we all went. As it turns out, she loves it and it was a good move but it wasn't fair what he did.
I've been in touch with a nursery back in the UK which is 5 mins walk from our house which I'd like to get G & H into, if only for the summer but maybe longer if I feel settled there. Its a shame as it took me so long to settle there having given up my life in the UK (and my career!) and I have loads of friends here (as to DD and DS) but I think we'd settle back ok. Rather that than carry on living with someone who is so spiteful and verbally abusive. Don't need that crap anymore. Putting kids first.

DD and DS due to fly BMI so we will keep an eye on what they are doing.

Really nice thread going in chat about offering a bed to other MNers stranded due to ash. Nice thought and would be nice if we could all help each other. I've volunteered my house in Florida but not sure if anyone will need it although there are a few families stranded in Tampa.
Can't believe a bloody volcano can cause so much chaos.

PT aren't you our resident expert on volcanos? Explain ......

The thing is MOS that DD1 going to boarding school has been mutually beneficial for you all (luckily) but i think he should be at the very least tolerant and at the most bloody ecstatic about your DD1 and DS1 coming to visit, after all G&H need their older siblings (i know Milo ADORES his sisters, infact i think he prefers their company to mine as they are more fun!) Maybe he is just going through a twatty stage (you have mentioned that he does get them here and there), i dunno - men do that sometimes and if your coming back for a while in the summer see how you get on? Spite and vitirol arent good for you (you just lost your mum fgs) and neither are they for your mutual DC's. Really hope he bucks his ideas up!

That other thread is great isnt it? There was ash on my car yesterday and DD1 didnt believe me (she said it was dust and i was like, ffs its not the Sahara its Swindon!) So i showed her the Sunday Telegraph article today which named good ol' Swindon by name as having Volcano ash, its another beautiful day here and we spent most of yesterday in the garden with Milo (sunhat and sunblock on) but im not sure if it is starting to fall if he should be out there? DH and myself are both asthmatic and i noticed that yesterday i was on my inhaler a wee bit more than usual so maybe we should stay in today Rubbish! its just so nice out there!

rosie It is a lovely day isn't it? We don't have a garden, so we have to make an effort to go outside and I really don't know if I can be bothered with another day in the park spending hours saying "weeeeeeee, that looks like such fun"
We all had such a bad night last night, I might just give the boys lunch and try to get them back into bed.
Really tempted to have a day off from life!

due to the volcano's latitude and the height it's spewing ash up into the stratosphere the ash is being caught in the jet stream and distributed quite widely. the weather conditions atm while causing us lovely sunshine also mean the ash isn't being removed from the atmosphere by rain and it's not dissipating as fast as they initialy hoped. Although no crashes have been caused by volcanic ash several planes have over the years had near misses due to the volcanic ash (which isn't ash as such but tiny particles of rock and glass) damaging their engines.

lol at TITS... hadn't noticed but i kinda like it, my tits are worthy of homage

Rosie, people with asthma are advised to stay in and keep their meds with them at all times so you guys might be best avoiding outside for today. there's rain here atm so if it goes over your direction it should remove a fair bit of the ash.

mos, sorry your dh is being a shithead yet again I hope it all works out for the best for you and the dcs.

TITS thanks for that explanation oh wise one

DS1 and DD1 have just been booked on the first available BMI out of here which is 27th and that is assuming that we don't have lovely sunshine and the ash in the stratosphere buggers off

hope they don't have any major exams this year... that's a fair whack of school to miss!

Hi all. MOS - so sorry your DH is being a twunt again: hope he comes back to his senses soon and starts behaving like an adult rather than a stroppy teenager.. at the first available flights back to the UK though!

SilveryMoon - sorry you had such a bad night last night. I agree - keep it low key and indoors today regardless of the sunshine out there and you'll all hopefully feel alot better.

TITS thats the problem, DS has his mock exam on Wednesday and the real thing is the 29th and as it stands the earliest they will be back is pm 28th

mos I can't believe there's not a flight before then! (well I can, I obviously don't thyink you are lying!)

Well, we all had a nap. Jacob in his bed, and Luke came in with me as he is really snuffly.
Anyway, woke up with Jacob asking Luke if he wanted a breadstick (or a beesick as he calls them). So I get up and there are Jacob sized white footprints on my carpet . I walk past the kitchen and there is an empty pack of cornflour, and an enpty box of icing sugar on the floor with the contents EVERYWHERE!!!!!!!!
Little git.

poor ds1 mos

although maybe plenty of boring study time in the desert away from friends is a good thing in that case... I assume if he had a mock this week he brought his books with him? or am i being naive with regards to teenage strategising?

Oh no MOS - that's rubbish. But from what I can remember from school, boarding schools often have contingency plans for mocks where they can email them to be done under timed conditions at home with parents adjudicating - so may be that all will be ok with him taking it over in Saudi. Not so great about the real thing being the day after he arrives back in the UK though - again hopefully they have an emergency contingency plan to hand....

SM - at Jacob's baking exploits. Bloody You Can Cook has a lot to answer for. Hope you have a much better night tonight.

mos he is a tosser! how insensitive about your mums stuff I know I have said it before but....Its not as easy as it sounds but you would be so much better off without him. none of my business i know

SM oh dear, he really is a little bugger isn't he
Its crazy ref flights isn't it. I too find it hard to believe that the next flight out is the 27th but my friend stranded in the UK has had her flight back here changed twice and her current date is the 26th so that makes sense as DC1 and 2 would go back on her flight once its turned around.

dinky DS is attempting to 'attend' his french class this afternoon via skype and if it works, will do his french oral exam via skype too.

littlesez thanks for that. Makes me so much better when I realise I'M not the one that is being unreasonable (as he says!)

The way I look at it, I was a single parent before when DC1 and 2 were 4 and 1 so I can do it again. I won't allow anyone to continue putting me down the way he does.

It makes me so mad that I gave up everything for him. My job/career, friends, family and since being here I've worked hard to gain more qualifications to support us when we return home. I've qualified as a family mediator, done two counsellings courses and of course set up my signing classes. The latest insult is 'they must be desperate if they let people like YOU do counselling'! Twunt.

I'm going to wait until DC1 and 2 go home (whenever that may be!) and then sit down and talk to him and say it will be (approx) 2 months before I'm due to return to the UK for the summer and if things (ie HIM!) don't change by the end of that time then I won't be returning here in september. Last chance for him.
Need to make a firm decision as DD due to start 'big' school here in September and H will be starting nursery so if I'm leaving permanently, now is the time so I can get them settled in the UK.
Sorry, very me, me, me again.

Hope everyone is ok and their DH's/DPs aren't being twats

mos So sorry things have to come to this for you