Tigga
Thank you for reassuring me, although I'm sorry it had to be with such painful experiences.
On a lighter note, as the Sister who is coming tomorrow lives in France and is married to a Frenchman, the whole family is bilingual. I said to DS1, who is learning French at nursery, that it would be nice as he could show off his French. He said 'I don't want them to speak French' and got really upset, so I explained that they spoke English too and wouldn't speak French unless he wanted them to.
He wailed 'I don't want them to speak English!!!!'
So I said 'What do you want them to speak then?'
He said 'I want them to speak Normal!'