May 2009 - Don't forget to wear your good shoes...

[belgina]

Right, new thread...

Sorry about the title

Cocktail anyone?

morning everyone
thank you for all the get well messages. dh is back to work today and i'm feeling almost back to normal. G is still not 100% (she threw up her 1st bf this am) DS luckily avoided it altogether. But was hard to look after him when dh & i just felt like curling up and dying for a while. we had to take it in turns crashing in bed. G just wanted to sleep and have bf.
I hope the other poorly ones are on the mend and those that have now gone back to work are finding it ok.
tummum hugs x you deserve a job that doesn't make you so stressed. Don't worry about the shoe rack.. it probably deserved it anyway
dandy sorry your cm#1 turned out to mess you around.. sounds like cm#2 is a good option even with being more expensive.
uhoh G just vomited again.. Can I have a partial NCA please?

Morning!
Lots of sickness round here.

R has an appointment with the GP at 3pm as he has had a few days of diahorrea now and yesterday he started arching his back and screaming out . He ended up sleeping with us from 1am as he wouldn't settle. He feed every 3 hours and then DD woke at 6.15. She and I have also had diahorrea. Why???

Hope everyone who is stressed had good nights sleep. I can't NC but I'll try to get back on later.

Morning all!

Sorry to hear that the D&V and various things are still hanging around, hope everyone improves soon.

younger and tummum - hugs or cake? or both? I am having (too many) days where I shout at DD1 especially, but DH on the receiving end too. I also have days where I want to throw things - I used to like going to the bottle bank to chuck glass bottles, bit now they collect them from the house it's much less therapeutic! I'm sorry I don't have any constructive advice, I'm hoping for miracles from the counselling.

separation anxiety - I know it's a phase, I know it'll pass, but aaaaarrrrgghhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please, A, just give me a break, the world is not going to end if I turn my back on you for a second.

I always post too soon!

younger - I think the book is Buddhism for Mothers. I'm going to get a copy, will have to be on internet as Waterstones in town here can't get it for me, something about the publisher.

febes - hope the Dr is ok this afternoon,a dn that R improves.

singing - did you have trifle for breakfast?!

jael - glad you've come to a decision. Your DD sounds as bright as anything!

dandy - hope the CM thing works out ok for you.

I started reading all the OFSTED reports for preschools last night for DD1, how on earth do you decide? The one that she has friends at already, the one nearest the school that she will (hopefully) go to, or the one that you like best?

Yes, it is Buddhism for Mothers. There are two books; one for mothers of small babies and the other for mothers of toddlers. I found it very helpful but I think I need to dip back into it. It isn't really about Buddhism, more about how to cope. It certainly doesn't advocate becoming a Buddhist, but it does refer to Buddhism quite a bit.

As for pre-schools, I looked for the outstanding ones in our local area and visited the ones that were closest. I discounted one immediately because the front door was wide open onto the main road, with no adult around to care or wonder how I'd got in. Another I crossed off the list because it was in the centre of town and getting there would take ages in the rush hour. I cast the net a little wider and found one in the next village which is just idyllic. It is small, the gardens are very pretty and they are outdoors a lot. I love it.

I am also a firm believer in trusting gut instinct so once I found that one I stopped looking. It does mean that I didn't look at the pre-school attached the local primary, but I just make sure we have lots of playdates with children who'll go there. Having said that, I'm not sure DS will go there either for primary, but that is whole other dilemma!

I discounted one of the CMs I met for an open front door! Shocking. Thanks, llareggub - for the book info. I'd tried to get it from our library before I bought it, but the only copy they have is out on loan, and was due back in March last year!

I know hugs are 'un MNetty', but I need and will take any hugs on offer .

Fi, glad you're feeling better, sounds awful. you too, Febes, get well vibes coming your way....

Tummum, hope you're better today.

very bad preschool/nursery run this morning. started off very well but then I was rushing DDs along and dd1 stepped in dog poo though i gave her huge warning so I got cross and started impatiently talking at her which made things worse so she tantrummed the whole way to preschool and this is such a run-on sentence i have to put a full stop in. now.

but. after feeling rubbish mum who doesn't like her dd1 , we apologised to each other (very grown up) and started the day anew with promises of 'Mummy-India Time'(eg lots of cuddles). hope this afternoon is better and i am patient. llare, I will buy that Buddhist book at 1st opportunity.

have a work call at 1030, better get H settled with toys 1st.

have a good day, all.

Have one from me too, younger. Mwah!

First and foremost:

BIG HUGS to tummum and younger I hope you both are feeling better soon.

tumm Not sure what to advise, but if you can't leave work yet, then it might be worth looking at ways of coping with it/letting all the s*te that goes on there go over your head. Maybe back to those 'and relax' tapes? The more you get wound up about work, the worse it'll get too I think. This doesn't sound right, but I hope you know what I mean. I know it's easier said than done when people tell you to let things pass/ignore things, but if you could find a way... In a way it's helpful for me to be a bit socially inept and I always seem to be totally oblivious to thing going on at work . I'll send you a bit of that, lol.

younger Sorry for the bad start. We all have days/periods like that. It helps that you realise that you are being too shouty for your own comfort and now you can look at how you can stop or reduce that. The stop and think method has alway been helpful for me when I go through such phases. I.e. before shouting take a deep breath, is it worth shouting about or can I just express my anger in a non-shouty way. It helps, but takes some conscious effort. Sometimes me and the dcs get in this viscious circle of shouting, i.e. me shouting because they wont listen and they don't listen unless I shout because they're so used to me shouting. It's hard to break this, but it can be done. I think dandy is right with her suggestions of looking for solutions fore each individual problem. It'll make the overall picture less stressful IYKWIM.

I hope all of you who've newly started back at work are doing well.

singing Any triffle left?

flippin I'm also one to go for the gut feeling method of school selection. The ofsted reports are not very good at reflecting the friendliness of the staff, overall feel of the place IYKWIM and especially with pre-schoolers that's in a way more important than the actual learning that gets done.

Today will be the ap's 1st day with just her and the dcs.... or not. DH just phoned. He'll be home in 2h, just as I'm going to leave. Oh well, I'll get her to be in charge of C anyway and DH can sort the eldest, while I'm off collecting uniform/seeing the osteo.

Gotta go now. Almost time for jumping beans.

Shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit.

Am getting a train up to Liverpool in 3 hours for a meeting in 3 hours (DH is home for a few days). I HAVE NO CLOTHES! Have manged to squeeze into one pair of work-ish trousers. Gah. Presentation is ready on usb key thingummajig. Unless M gets her mitts on it and eats it first. AND I will be wearing popsocks!

Am looking forward to snoozing and reading on the train though AND the mahoosive hotel breakfast tomorrow. Oooh and a good nights sleep!

First instalment of hip investigations / jabbing with needles / injecting with dye /injecting with pain relief and steroids etc etc on Friday. Bit scared as under general anaesthetic. Eeeek. Bigger op in 3 weeks time. Don't really like the sound of the head of my femur being 'shaved' but if that can help prevent me from having a hip replacement in 5 years time, then so be it. I will be staying at my Mum's in Malmesbury for 2 weeks so if anyone plans to pop through the area then do say!

Prob won't be back on here now till Friday morning when will be pooing myself. Again.

Want trifle

Tummum - bless you. I will insist on visiting my brother soon and staying over at his and come over to you with tons of tea and biscuits. Chocolate ones. Or maybe trifle. I shouted at M the other day, felt awful, as she cried loads afterwards. I can't even remember what it was about now. And yes, DH did go berserk at the scaffolding. Ah well.

Dandy - didn't take offence at your post at all - read it as it was intended!

Right, M has my presentation notes all out over the floor. I have to go!

Sat in the car catching up whilst O is asleep in the back before our Jo Jingles class. (Got here 5mins early so happy to let him sleep a bit longer!)

younger - hugs-a-plenty headed your way (and for anyone else that wants them). I think this is one of the most stressful times as we (and/or our fellow RL mums) go back to work. As well as everything else, there's all the emotions and practicalities of going back or if we're not going back, hearing about those that are. Hope that makes sense!

saus - hope your presentation goes well and that you find something to go with the pop socks! Fingers crossed for Fri for you too.

Sorry, gotta go. Time for our happy Jo Jingles singalong! Catch up later!

Ses- hope you enjoyed your jo jingles class.

saus- did you make it to Liverpool in time?!

younger- don't be too hard on yourself, but certainly see your GP if you think it would help. I am wondering whether to go back and see mine- I was coping well off the ADs but now i feel like i have permanent PMT and I don't like how I am with the DCs and DH ATM.

I should be at work, but DS1 was puking last night so I was meant to be in the office til 12 and then working from home, but i got a call at 2.45 to say S had a high temp and wasn't himself so now I am looking after 2 poorly boys and will have to do some work tonight. Wednesdays should also be my day when i finish work at 3 and have a couple of hours of "me time" so this wasn't quite what i envisaged for today . At least DS1 and DS2 seem a bit better now, and hopefully well enough for nursery tomorrow.

Aargh! I keep getting hiccups today! Current bout lasted 15mins so far and O keeps giving me strange looks!

Pula - thanks, Jo Jingles was good We're thinking of doing a joint Jo Jingles party for our NCT group 1st birthdays in May.
Sorry you've missed out on your me time today. Hope DSs are better for tomorrow.

younger & Tummum - hope you've had better days today.

Belgina - hope ap (and DH!) got on ok today and you got on ok at osteo.

flippin - you're right, separation anxiety will pass but it is a v difficult phase. It tends to come and go with O and isn't always v predictable!

Febes - poor you Hope your household becomes bug free v soon

Fi - glad you're feeling better. Hope G is back to her happy self soon too.

AAaaarggh! Still hiccupping!!!

Thanks Dandy - that seems to have worked
Have you spoken to CM#1 today? Not easy but I don't see that she's given you any option really.

Hellloooo! Well I feel much better. I been to tutor my year 5 maths boy who is so cute and funny and always cheers me up. I get to play teacher again which is fun.

The Doc said R is fine and the arching of the back is probably becasue he felt yuck. He was much better today so hopefully the poo will be solid again tomorrow .

Confession-I cried at Eastenders last night when the baby was born .

febes- glad R is on the mend. I must confess I didn't cry but my heart melted when the baby made it's first cry- it reminded me of the emotion of it all- with DD she didn't cry and was taken away so her first cry was in another room. DS1 cried very quickly and I was so relieved after a nerve-wracking c-s. And with DS2 he cried, and he didn't stop even when snuggled up with DH and me

I had a funny moment last night . I was in deep sleep and I could hear crying which i thought sounded like S. I was rousing myself to go see him, and I could hear him saying "muuuummmmmy" in between cries. I was half-awake/half-asleep and so proud that my little man had learnt to say mummy, but when i came round, I realised it was DS1 crying . Oh well, he'll learn to babble soon i hope. The HV is coming mid-march so i can ask about it then. Although not sure DS1 babbled much and never did the "pretend speaking"/babbling that DD did before she learnt words.

Oooh I just finished the trifle. That's 2 helpings today .

In hope everyone is ok. Younger pula I hope your DSs are ok

DD1's Parents' Evening thing today. Bear in mind she missed the 1st term of Senior School as we were in France, all I heard was 'wonderful.....perfect....pleasure to teach.....highest marks.....way above average....superb'. God she's wonderful and intelligent . She was scarlet by the end. Seriously, I am exploding with pride. please accept my apologies for smuggery, she's just so damn fabulous. All her teachers said nothing but praise.

sorry!!!!!!!!!!!

singin- you can smug away as much as you like on here . What a lovely clever DD you have and I am not surprised she was . I never get to go to parents evenings when I was at school so had to wait in dread at home for my parents to return (thankfully it was mostly positive stuff apart from the odd "class clown" comment )

evening all.
Ses, never heard of Jo Jingles - sounds jolly, though. are your hics gone?

Pula, hope the boys are better and hope you find another opportunity for me time - it's very important. And, ikwym about constant PMT.

Febes, that's great you can tutor and also get smiles from it.

sausage, hope you got on ok today.

Tummum, hope you had a better day.

Our day turned out ok in the end. I had some special time with dd1 who was so overjoyed to have mummy to herself she was gushing on the phone to DH who called in the middle of us reading. bless. it made me realise how important it is to give each DD undivided attention if only for an hour.

that made me forget about the drama of this morning, thankfully.

am tired and will go up to bed soon. don't really 'get' curling which is on the olympics right now.

xposted singin, that's brilliant about DD1, sing praises to your heart's content. From the brief moments I met your dd1, I can see what a lovely, bright, clever young thing she is (just look at her mum!). That's great news .

Rightbackatcha younger. Glad you enjoyed some 1-1 time today. I am a horrendous shouting bear sometimes. I have snapped at S too (in my defence, she had bitten me very hard). I was talking to DH the other day about my time in France and finally admitted to him that I think I had a minor breakdown out there, I had a couple of moments with the girls that terrified me.....

I know you'll get through this, I know you miss your family and your DH is working such very, very long hours. It's so tough for you

Quick post while I've got 5 mins. Not a good day here. J is sicky
DP decided to give him his bedtime bottle upstairs in our room tonight after his bath, he decided to P.V everywhere all over our room. His dinner came up, which was cottage pie, so that was luvvverrly...that with the fact he sicked all over me and the lounge earlier

Singin You should be one proud mommy! Feel free to burst with pride andsage boast on here, I do it enough Welldone to your DD!

Sausage Hope today went ok, I saw via FB your train post.

Pula Sorry your boys are still unwell ME time soon.

Younger/Ses DD does Jo Jingles on Fridays at nursery. I've never seen her do it. But she shows me all that she does, and makes me copy her, when she does her little dances at home lol

Thanks Singin and ouch at S biting. H has bitten me enough times where I'm thinking of phasing out bf soon. but not yet. I also hope you're feeling better since your time in france.

also wanted to thank Belgina for the good advice on stepping back and taking a deep breath. very wise people on this thread.