May 2009 - Don't forget to wear your good shoes...

[belgina]

Right, new thread...

Sorry about the title

Cocktail anyone?

jael If your dd is not shy, I would move her too. More than likely next year the 2 nursery groups will mix to make 1 reception group and she'll be in with her friend again. My ds (who is shy) moved schools between nursery and reception and so he had to 'break' in to existing friend circles. He did that with no trouble. I think at their age los make friends much more easily. And it sounds like your dd could do with the more challenging material the morning group is getting.

dandy Some great advice here re your childminder. Hope it gets sorted soon.

C's feeling better now. Her temp has gone down now, still of her solids, though she was eyeing up a chocolate biscuit at dinnertime, so I think she'll be her old self tomorrow

singing Hope you're having a lovely b'day evening. I get unwrapped last minute b'day presents all the time. I understand how you feel. He does love me though

Sorry, I fear this is going to be a mememememe post. Well, I survived (and enjoyed) my unexpected day of looking after the kids and she is returning to work tomorrow.

On a serious note, though, I do have to admit to doing something I am really ashamed of. I was stressing first thing this morning about trying to log on to work emails (today was the worst possible day to be off, so I was desperate to log in but the flipping thing was not working). So I was phoning the help-desk, whilst trying to get the kids ready for school, and I noticed that I could only see one of my posh office shoes. This really narked me, so I took more shoes off it to find the other side of the pair whilst I had the phone on loudspeaker to the help-desk and the kids were messing about getting ready. In the end I got so frustrated I completely lost it, and started smashing the shoe-rack with my hands. The DCs were really upset to see me smashing the living daylights out of this shoe rack. My hands still hurt now & the rack is now splinters. I feel like a total failure for doing this.

I have spent a long time reflecting on this today and I realise that

1. I must never let this sort of thing happen again
2. I have to stop working at my current employers. It is, literally, driving me bananas and up the wall

I have thought long and hard about whether I am depressed or not, and I honestly don't think I am, it's purely a reaction to work. I am feeling quite trapped ATM because DH's job is looking v. dodgy and I feel I shouldn't give up a regular wage. The business opportunity didn't work out and I don't have an alternative. But now I realise I have to get out, even if it to another full time job working for someone else.

So today I am feeling with myself. But I am feeling that this day should be a turning point to better things. God, it's tough being a Mum sometimes.

Oh Tummum, please don't be too hard on yourself. Both boys of mine are playing up so can't say too much but couldn't let that go unanswered, you poor love. I'm always around if you want to chat. I'm going to leave an unmumsnetty x and call you hun too. x

Belgina Thanks for replying to my previous post. Speaking to DD's teacher this morning, in September the two nursery classes with be split in half to make 2 reception classes apparently. To make it easier to teach the children, so the children may not be with "friends" that they have been with for the previous year anyway. So I think after having our talk with DD, DP and myself are going to go ahead with moving her to the AM nursery. I think she'll benefit from that extra learning in that small group everyday with the reception teacher. In a few weeks, we'll have a meeting with Mrs X again to discuss how she's settled in and doing socially

I forgot to say hi Muddled you're LO sounds like he's coming along brilliantly!!

It was delicious, there's loads left if anybody wants any. Plus I made best. pasta. meatballs. ever.

dandy I hope your cm situation is resolved soon. I am facing imminent childcare issues thanks to work dragging their feet about deciding on my hours.

tum What a bobbins day, I hope you are ok. So sorry you feel this way about your job

Right, about to watch Heroes recorded from t'other night and quaff some vino.

SURRRPPRRIIISSSSEEEE

Well I enjoyed it anyway reg

tummum- sorry to hear you are feeling so low. Maybe your job is making you depressed, or you are stressed about your DHs job worries? Would it be worth speaking to your GP? I have been horrid shouty mum today after a bad night (and it wasn't due to S). I struggled to get the DCs ready for school/nursery on my own- I think it is hard ATM because DS2 is either starting with (really) bad separation anxiety or is feeling poorly (cold/teething) and therefore wants me to hold him, so I can't go anywhere/do anything without him sobbing and crawling after me.

Jael- if it was me, I would go for the morning session. You have a bright spark and i'm sure from what youy have said about her she likes to learn and she will no doubt find it enjoyable. Don't worry about her friendship groups if she isn't a shy thing. She can still have playdates with her best friend. My DD moved nurseries when she was nearly 2, and then moved up to pre-school (from 12 to 25 children, all older than her) when she was 3 so had to make new friends. When she started school, she didn't know anyone in her year and she has made lots of friends again . It took a few weeks each time to settle in, so maybe give it a go and review it after a month.

Well I was glad my DH was back tonight, as DS1 decided to projectile vomit all over the carpet in DS2s room at bathtime. At least DH cleaned it up . Then DS1 was sick again, and then again once in bed (duvet is in the wash as I type). So that means 2 days off nursery for him, but DH and I have worked out a plan so we both "work from home" a bit, and DH's dad might be able to look after him tomorrow morning if DS1 isn't too poorly. I don't think DS1 has been properly sick before (not since a baby, and even then only a handful of times) so it was a big shock for him, poor love.

Tum hope you have had a relaxing evening. Like Llare says, don't be too hard on yourself. It's only a shoe rack and it is a big adjustment for everyone being back at work.

Belgina glad C is feeling a bit better today. High temps are always so worrying.

Hi Dandy. I wouldn't worry about telling your 1st childminder no thanks - after all, she's the one who's done the messing around.

Headless hope you survived your first day back. Did you feel like a new girl?

How are you doing Jael. It sounds like your dd is very sociable so I wouldn't worry about moving her.

Ses at morning to yourself. An uninterrupted shower .

Saus gahhh...scaffolding.....grrr....Ours has been up for 5 months now. For a 6 week job .

Hello everyone else. Can't namecheck anymore as I'm too lazy (but honest) .

Just watched One Born Every Minute and managed not to cry. Life here plods on as ever with nothing much to report. The kiddies are lovely (well, if you discount that the threes seem worse than the terrible twos for dd, and ds just grabs anything in reach - cats, remote controls, big sister's hair etc etc)...

Right, perhaps should go to bed now.

So many diseases around here at the moment.

B has been at nursery all of 6 weeks and has racked up an impressive number of illnesses. My particular favourite was "Sixth disease" otherwise known as "roseola infantum" which had very similar symptoms as meningitis. Nice.

Right. Am really off to bed now. Especially as I need a poo.

Ahem. Perhaps too much information

I have missed you reg

Thanks guys. You're great, you lot. I am not trying to be hard on myself but I do need to get a grip 'cos it's only a blinking job . And my hand is still hurting .

Reg ROFL, but not at sixth disease. Sounds niiiiiice. Not.

Fi hope you and yours are feeling better. Oh, and good that C is feeling better Belgina Pula this 3DC and working lark is a bit hard, isn't it... hope S gets a bit better at the separation thing

Dandy I am of the opinion that gut instinct is a good thing to trust when it comes to childcare. Hope it all works out for you.

Ses at uninterrupted shower

Hobble did your DH go nuts at the scaffolding?

Singing happy last 1/2 hr of your birthday. Any trifle left?

Younger you OK?

Cherry nice to hear from you

Hi all.

still chuckling at Reg

tummum- yes, 3DCs + work = recipe for disaster. I am hoping S is clingy due to illness, because if this is separation anxiety, it seems much worse than when the other DCs had it (although maybe my memory of it has faded). Of course, I am also worrying that it is the CC at night which has made him more anxious .

Ses- i do get some quite long showers even with DCs around, but now I have S pining for me at the shower door- luckily he can still see me so it's not so bad really.

Must go to bed and get some sleep. Night night ladies.

reggiee- hope you had a nice poo

Thanks Pula I feel a little less stressed about moving her I think, at least I know it's too benefit her. And if it doesn't work out, because she is finding it hard to make new friends then I'm sure they will take her back in the PM session

What's with all the sickie babies? J P.Vommed earlier too! All over my new rug lol he is SO SO snotty though! When I go into him in the morning it's gross, he's standing up at his cot saying "MaMaMaMa" smiling with snot running into his mouth...luvvverrly we've had this for about a week now. I think his 7th tooth may be on the way.

Reggie I'm good thankyou, feeling much better today

Hey younger I messaged you a few mins ago. I hope you're ok. I'll take a calming herbal tea if there's one going.

Trifle anyone?

I too am still snurkling and sniggering at reg.

DH had a bizarre run-in with alleged traffic police today. I think they were scammers, they seemed to panic when they realised he knew his onions (son of police chief you see). Very strange.

Dandy, defn CM no. 2. I can tell by your tone in the posts which you think is right.

belgina, so glad C is better.

Tumm, I'm so sorry you've had that kind of day and feel rubbish. please try not to be hard on yourself (easy for me to say). it's really easy to lose it when dealing with children, work, other stress. tomorrow is a new day. I'm glad anyway to hear you say that this day is a turning point; sounds positive.

Tummum and Pula, shouty mum here as well. I'm ashamed to say I have more days than I care to admit when I show a side of me I'd rather not to the girls. I feel so impatient and yell all the time and get so annoyed at the DD's. I usually feel like I'm their age and not the mature adult I should be. llare, was it you who was reading a Zen-type book on parenting? Please remind me...

I've been really anxious lately about a few things including fitting in my work hours with looking after the DDs, maintaining the housework, DH's job stress, health anxiety, and homesickness (my family in the US). i've not been on too much lately as I can't concentrate. don't know what the solution is but may go back to GP.

things just seem so overwhelming at times. don't they?

I should add it's so nice of you guys to ask, such lovely MN support .

night all

xxx

Thanks Dandy.

hope everyone had a good sleep last night and a positive, relaxed day ahead.