January 2009- Help! A toddler ate my baby!

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I told you it was a lame title.....

tree - hope u r ok miss u on here

elk - glad mums op went well
sunday sounds fun
miss j - ye for shopping

Lenni, hoping your are ok. You sounded very low last night.

Elkie, good news that your Mum's op was straightforward and she won't need a stoma.

MissJ, you are very naughty tempting me with toy and clothes shopping. Am all spent out for this month after buying the stuff for the boys' parties otherwise I'd be there with me boots blacked.

TREEEEEEEE!!! Please come back to us, we having been missing you - LOTS!

Well, I have news. Not much by other peoples' standards, but huge for me.

This morning I went to the school to give ds1 his antibiotics and met the only Mum at the school I actually really feel comfortable with (her ds1 was in my ds1's nursery group and her dd is in my ds2's class, so we've know each other a fair few years now). She was told she could come to the school and watch the year 1's do their Sport Relief Mile, but when she got there the Secretary said that parents weren't invited and they couldn't let her in (teacher got her wires crossed apparently). She had to pick up her youngest from Nursery in half an hour so it wasn't worth her walking home and she said she was going to sit on a park bench and wait. So - I invited her back to mine for coffee!!

I know, I know, its a trivial thing for most people, but she is the first person I have ever spontaneously invited for coffee and the only person from the school that has been allowed to cross the threshold of my home.

I had to do a lot of apologising, as the place was a complete wreck, I hadn't done the breakfast dishes, piles of washing and toys everywhere and several newly delivered parcels half opened in the living room etc etc etc. It was fine though, even dd didn't cry when I popped in the kitchen to make the drinks. In fact she chattered away to her, showed off her walking skills and brought her toys to her. I am both shocked at and proud of myself at the same time!

Now for a not-so-great confession. I had arranged a hair appointment for this morning, but the hairdresser had to cancel at the last minute. I am going to two parties tomorrow and really wanted something done with my hair. Soooo, I came home after the school run and cut my own fringe! Stoooopid! I am not happy with it at all and wish I hadn't been so dumb. I always used to cut my own hair in my late teens/early twenties and did it exactly the same way , but have definitely lost the knack. It could be just a shock as my hair was all one length before and I knew I have a gap in the middle of my fringe, but honestly, I now have two scrattly looking cowlicks instead of a fringe and am going to have to crack open my straighteners for the first time in about three years!

at Moose's hair cutting adventures, am sure it will be tamed with a bit of straightening if not try drying it on a rounded brush first and then straightening in opposite direction to way you want it to go before doing it the right way iyswim.

I'm ok, just under a lot of pressure atm and not getting much support from dh. Tbh he's being a bit of a swine, he's working too hard, worrying too much and generally not great to be around. It happens to us all sometimes, I wish he would recognise that he isn't the only person on the planet though . life will get easier by 30th April when I should at least know what is happening with my funding. Not helped that yesterday spent day in hospital with poorly nephew and v v v old Gran gone into care home. I'll go and do some shopping methinks.

Hkz - not been on fb but will look now...

Elkie - thinking of you and your Mum.

Missj - thank you for lovely offer, sometime soon, maybe may half term? Hope snot much better for weekend

Hello,

MissJ i am glad someone else watches brothers and sisters! It's such a great series and very underated imo.

Moose your dd sounds so cute with the wrapping paper. Well done for your achievement of having someone over for coffee. I'm like that too, never have people over Then i moan wonder why i get so lonely.

Things are fine here, took Finley swimming this morning, he loved it. Got dd some new clothes.

Hi Lenni, sorry to hear things are so tough at the moment. My dh is another one for getting himself worked up into the worry/stress inward spiral, its hard to live with sometimes, but as you say can happen to us all occasionally. Hope things improve for you soon. Hope your nephew is ok too.

Hi MsSparkle, good to hear everything is good with you and yours.

The Laura Ashley dress is up at 8.00 this evening, if you see me on here around that time, please kick me up the bum remind me to go and bid on it.

Have also seen a lovely Karen Millen dress but am wondering whether it might be a fake with it being on ebay. here

Oh, almost forgot. Lenni, how funny your suggestion was exactly what I did. I decided I'd better sort my fringe out before I went to the school, so wet it and used my big round brush to dry it, then used my straighteners once it was dry. Bit of a faff if I end up having to do it every morning, but I'm actually quite pleased with the end result.

Thank goodness. Such a relief, as I was starting to panic about how ridiculous I was going to look at the parties tomorrow. (I have to face lots of friends from our Uni years. Some I haven't seen for a couple of years, others I haven't seen since I've had children. ) I fear there will be more of these parties to come as we are all turning the big 40 over the next 12 months or so.

I am such a hopeless 'girl' I really can't be doing with 'doing my hair' and using product and hair styling tools etc. Dd on the otherhand looks like she is on course to singlehandedly redress the lack of girlyness in our house. She absolutely loves trying on hats and shoes and brushing her non-existent hair or even mine if she gets the chance! She is hilarious, putting on one hat after another and exclaiming 'at! at!" whilst striking all sorts of 'look at me!' type poses. I don't get it, its certainly not genetic and she sure as heck 'ain't modelling any behaviour she's seen in this house. I'm guessing I'm going to have to face years of trudging around endless clothes shops with her when she's older - lordy what a thought!

non existent (Harumph! That didn't work properly, must've been the hyphen.)

morning

mm - hope u get hair sorted

Hey all, sorry being really crap.

morning Tink- off shopping today?

Lenni- hope all ok

Moose- LOL at hair, hope the situation sorted.

Tree- sneaking in there! Hope RL being ok and work not too bad.

MsSparkle- I wathed the first two series of brothers and sisters I think, I did love it, some very lovely men to look at

Had friends over last night who left at 2am and DH refused to get up with DD (meant to be my lie-in) this morning so I feel a bit 'fuggy'.
Just put seven bottles of wine in the recycling and 4 beer bottles too, secretly hoping DH and friend's DH took the brunt of that as I can't remember.................

Z slept well though and is still in bed now after waking briefly a 7

Morning everyone...third hungover Saturday in a row...dh off to work and I have to brave a 3 year old's birthday party later....think detox might be coming up...

Pat I feel your pain...DS slept through last night too...horay, feel there is light at the en dof the tunnel. I have stopped feeding him if he wakes in the night now and it seems to be working.

MissJ, another B&S fan here...its so corney...but sooooo good. Its like grown up Dawson's Creek. Hope N is feeling better today.

Elki- Glad your Ma's op went well, hope she makes a swift recovery. Enjoy C's belated party. Yep...lets do a London meet up...

Lenni, hope you aren't feeling too stressed and its all coming together. My proposal has to be in Tuesday for my first essay/project and I am burying my head in the sand an dhaven't even started....will be a late nighter on Monday I think.

Hello Tree! How the devil are you? Hope all is good with work, DH and DDs.
Morning to everyone else too, have just caught up on the htread and retained veyr little.

120...I have a baby sitting favour to ask...don't suppose you are about next Friday eve? Hope the DCs have recovered and you are feeling better too.

Have been walking on air for the past two days...realise that DS still has a lot of hosp appointments, mris etc ahead of him, but the relief that they are holding off potentially harsh treatment is such a relief. Makes me realise how lucky we are to have our health and family and friends around us.

Have booked a holiday for the summer, we have decided to go away for about 5 weeks, we are going to fly out to see DH's brother in the hills in Andalucia and then make are way up the coast to some friends in Barcalon, go through the pyranees and then to Toulouse to stay at another friends house. Have booked the flight into Malaga and out of Toulouse...so all we have to do now is work out how to get from one place to the other without a car! eek...anyone good with train timetables?

Right...off to face the day and drag my children round the supermarket...joy!

still no voice here and shitty coldy end of whatever we had. H still weak/moany too. DH and DD thankfully full of beans.

HZ one of us will definitely be able to do it!

Am very excited... we are buying a new second hand car. woohoo. finally more space!

Right. must finish the portrait of my brothers PILs tonight. Nearly there and have been going all day. Very odd doing two faces at once!

pat - nite with friends sounded good

hkz - holiday aounds great and just what u need

120 - sorry for you still feeling poorly!!
ye for car

hi books

Am so glad there are others out there in the B&S club... grown up Dawson's - just perfect hkz! I managed another episode this morning at my Mum's while N slept - he seems to be doing a straight 2 hours in the buggy mid-morning 10-12ish, which will not be great for our busy mum & babies social schedule....

hkz your holiday sounds amazing and I am too, too jealous - I will be stuck helping MIL at the B&B. Got a real flash today of - I used to have glam and fun life, and now I am spending Saturday making 16 dainty little glass bowls of tiramisu for a bunch of strangers while my son clings onto my legs... ... but must count blessings, etc etc.

N is properly ill ! He is pale, eyes red-rimmed with pus at edges (does this mean he has conjunctivitis?), snotty, coughing, not eating a thing but luckily still lots of bf-ing, and generally just down in the dumps . Hope he gets better soon. On the upside, he was asleep by 7.21pm .

MM sounds like a good rescue job on the fringe.

books haven't found time for Glee yet, is it ace?

pat your friday night sounds like fun!

OMG, I started re-reading 'the child in time' last night - I read it the first time around when I was a mere babe of 19. (I can't remember the end either, so don't ruin it for me!) But this time, reading it as a mother, I was in tears by the end of the first page - read a third of it in one straight sitting with more tears - now I want to read the rest but can't quite face the emotional turmoil... have the Saturday guardian as my other option .

mj - sounds like conjunctivitis. Breast milk is good for it (I couldn't get any out), if you can manage it. Otherwise cooled, boiled water + cotton wool. One swipe and then throw the wool away, just like with newborns. Don't rewipe. Gently wipe until all pus gone. It really helps refresh the eyes though and stops them itching and hurting so much.

I have finished the portrait! Yeeeeeee - Hah! Have put it on my profile for those interested.

Right. Sod being ill. I am going to ruddy well have a glass of wine. I've lost 2kg this week!! Think it's the not drinking...

120 - your painting is lovely
Very talented lady.

Miss J - hellooooo I used to wait until the let down and then pull my poor boy off for a minute and drip some in his eyes, worked very well. His eyes always improved in no time. Not sure he appreciated it tho at the time!

MissJ - my two both get gunky eyes with viruses, milk does work. I don't think is always conjunctivitis, T has had that once and was a lot worse than the cold type gunk.

HKZ/Pat - sounds like you both had good nights last night, am very envious, except I now suffer such awful hangovers I don't think can do it anymore!

Off again, sorry to be so rubbish, on birthday night out. Only another two weeks until the start of a new decade

Ta T&C

Hope you have a fab night out Lenni! Agree with Lenni. Ours this time was defo conj as we still have bright red eyes 4 days later and the gunk was sooo bad we couldn't open our eyes. Even the doc took pity and gave me some thickish cream to squeeze in. If it is just sticky eye, breast milk will do the job nicely!

MissJ- How very strange, I reread the 'child in time' shortly after I had E a few years ago and cried my eyes out. I studied it for A-level so it still had all my pencilled 17yr old scrawlings all over it! I will not ruin it but I LOVE the ending, loved it at 17 and love it now still! Such a multi-layered book, I love all McEwan though, oddly found Atonement hard going to read whereas everyone else loves it.

I have 'saturday' and 'on chesil beach', 'enduring love' and one other I think if you would like a lend?

Agree, breastmilk excellent for cleaning eyes, although if it doesn't clear up after a few days you need drops.

120- fab picture, as always Envious of weight loss, but not the illness!

Books- party sounds fun, we have been to DH's Gramp's 90th party this afternoon, we don't have a lot to do with his dad's side of the family so it was a bit odd but the DC's were actually great and enjoyed the adoring old people. DD ate all kinds of crap and went to bed high as a kite though! I sipped a bit of bucks fizz and my stomach turned , obviously too old for drinking two nights running

HZ- your holday sounds amazing, how very brave of you too with the enfants in tow, not DH's cup of tea at all but I used to love those 'book the flight there and back and fill in the gaps later' kind of hols!
Oh yes, saturday the 3rd July we have a wedding in hampstead?? and have booked a premier inn where we can't check in till 2pm. We are getting the train from glos in the morning so we have a few hours to use before the wedding at 1pm so I wondered if we could pop in to see you guys and maybe (be very cheeky) and get changed at yours???? Don't worry if you are not in or unavailable, I'm sue we could find something to do but I just thought it would be a good opportunity to meet H and L, and your good self ofcourse. God, just reread and it sounds very cheeky

Elkie- glad you have had some good news with your mum.

So, how many 'points' do you think I have earnt today whilst DH has been a hungover mess?
-let him have a lie in
-made him tea and bacon sandwich
-made him lunch
-ran him bath
-did all Z's pooey nappies
-put kids to bed myself
-done all the housework
-made his gramp some cranberry and white chocolate cookies because he forgot to get him a present from DD

I think at least a massage or something 'worthwile' is in order, or maybe I should bank them for next time I feel rough and he can do everything!
Right, feeling very ropey now so off for a bath and bed!

Hey Lenni, x-posts, have a good night out........................forgot all about that 'little' birthday you have coming up

I second breats milk for conjuntivtus, it cleared up every time when I did this with DS.

Books, sounds like a lovely day. Enjoy the rest of your w/e.

MissJ I hope N feels better soon. I can sympathise with you about the ankle limpet...ds is constantly clinging to my leg resulting in me constantly nearly squashing him. Good job he's a big lad.

120 Good news about the car. Also good news that you can babysit!

Lenni...the big 3...0.....! Whoo hoo. Are you doing anything good? I just turned 31...oh to be 30 again

teaandcakes, how is your DS doing today? Any better?

Am getting a bit over excited about going on holiday...its not until the end of July so I need to calm myself a little...and come up with a serious saving plan so we actually have somemoney to spend when we are there.

My hangover has actually defeated me. I might have to retire to bed...

My little man is definitely on the way up HKZ. Very jealous of your planned hol. I missed that bit earlier when trying to catch up.

Feeling sick from eating too much chocolate to console myself tonight, as my marriage is quietly going down the toilet. But I have a support thread for that elsewhere on mn.

I'm here for antenatal club stuff for my LO's. You guys all sound like you know each other sooo well. I feel like an imposter Silly I know

Teaandcakes- Just popped back in before I hit the sack and must respond to your last post.
You are not an imposter, always more the merier on here! I joined late, after I had Z so was never on the ante-natal threads, but have always found everyone really welcoming on here and have got to know some really good friends.
We will always listen to ramblings and ventings of spleens so feel free!

Sounds like a tough time in your relationship at the moment, I think you are entitled to as much chocolate as you deem necessary and have some very un-mumsnetty ((hugs)) thrown in for good measure

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