June 07 - Over here!!!!!

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oops, didn't notice the thread was getting too big!

PMSL at the Burn's night smilies; I thought they were wearing earphones.

not sure I agree with them; as a proud Scot, I hate all that fucking tacky tartan crap that we get labelled with, tartan tammies and fake ginger hair more than most

I think you are right not to just throw it all away without trying to sort it out Ria. Good luck. I know it's going to be really hard, but if there is a chance then maybe you can do it and be better than ever? Would you (and he) consider counselling together?

Good news at work today. A paper I wrote is going to be published

Well done Jammy and good luck with MIL - I've given up with mine!

your mum is right Ria - it is your life and you have to do what is right for you (and your boys) irrespective of what anyone else thinks.....and 14 years is a long time. From what you have said, you obviously do have a chance and perhaps living apart for a while will help you both work it out. In some ways at least you are confronting it....there are times here where we just bob along and a lot is left unsaid . not all the time but.....well you know what I mean. Hugs to you xx

going here on my hols and am really looking forward to it. Taking my mum for babysitting purposes a break as well.

that looks lovely Norty

yay jammy

early bed for me I think. been a long day.

DS1 is having dizzy spells. Is this normal for his age or do I need to brave the GP (and my DMs scorn)?

Is he eating properly Ria? A bit anxious maybe? or it could just be a simple ear infection? Is it causing him to have accidents?

Just spent the whole evening contructing a letter of complaint to the people I buy my childcare vouchers from and sent it to their MD, operations director and director of HR.....even I don't get anywhere, I feel so much better for saying my bit! Its great when you press that "send" button and know thats it - done and survive the consequences!

Oh shit?

ANyone about? Care to offer a quick opinion? We are goign to my parents on Sat/Sun, as they missed seeing Jamlet at their 50th party the other week. We were hoping to go out for a curry on Sat night, but otherwise spend all the time with my family - my DSis always visits them on Saturday morning/afternoon and she said her daughter and son-in-law would prob come too. So just rang my parents to check is it OK if we go out on Sat night, would they babysit and get told that my sis, her son, daughter and son-in-law have invited themselves round for dinner on Sat night and they were expecting to eat with us! And I suspect know that if I hadn't rung just now we wouldn't hear about this until we get there on Sat.

Dad has said they will go along with whatever, and I am to speak to my DSis, but AIBU to me fed up with her always (this sort of thing has happened several times before) planning things to do with us without asking and to ring and tell her that sorry we are going out? The last 2 times we have visited our curry plans have fallen through, so DH especially was really looking forward to this and besides my mums cooking is, well, questionable

oh, ignore that last port - I just spoke to my DSis and it's sorted, we are going out after all!

Happy Birthday Ria

Off on my hols so see you in a week. Going by the look of this thread, I won't have to catch up!

Happy Birthday Ria!

I hope something nice happens today, and it really is a happy birthday.

In all honesty, I know this will probably be a really shit day, but next years won't be as bad, and the one after that will be better still. Things are going to get better. xxx

Oh Ria, I almost missed the chance to say Happy Birthday!!!!!! Hope you have done something nice with the boys.

Been full on busy here today. Visit to a local(ish) primary and preschool this morning, gardener in again over lunchtime, volunteering at the children's centre this afternoon and then friends came back with us from there to play. By the time they went home you wouldn't know we had a living room carpet But thankfully it was just clutter not mess and 10 mins throwing stuff back in boxes put it straight And we are off to my parents in the morning, so when I get back from my counselling there is packing to do!

have a great time jammy & norty

thanks foxy

was an OK day. bacon rolls and present opening with the boys at stupid o'clock, racing round finding cricket whites for DS1 (he has to go to school in sports clothes for Sport Relief, and he wouldn't wear a tracksuit fo fear of looking like a chav)

went into town and for lunch with baggins and Dsis, then quick supermarket run (for family-sized chicken korma) as DS1s friend is coming for tea today, and McD's for the boys, then strawberry and cream
cake with my parents. So tired I couldn't face my mini bottle of pink fizz, one of the mums at school gave me flowers too, and my "friend" gave me a cross stitch magazine (but I have issues with her accusing her ex-partner of telling DH that she was having an affair with me - VERY COMPLICATED!!! - so it was difficult to be overly nice)

it is raining today. hope you all have a nice weekend.

DAISY!!!!! you OK?

You lost me with your issues with your friend Ria But you're right, it does sounds complicated.

My parents seemed to really love having Jamlet (and us) to stay. Jamlet loved it too Only fly in the ointment was a grumpy DH.

aw bless you ria, thinking about me when you have your own ishoos going on!

All fine here, have been in the Lakes for a couple of nights to celebrate the outlaws goldden wedding anniversary.....great fun, but hard work with my lot so am knackered. And got home to find my laptop power pack dead and the battery is goosed so has no charge in it and it needs the power on permanently. Have comandeered DH's little pooter, but can'tt work the teeny keyboard. I may be a bit quiet for a few days till I get things sorted.

Off to catch up...if I ever get tthrought the mountain of laundry that a two night6 break has generaqted

whereabouts did you go daisy?

had a seriously shit day today, made worse by more shit with DH. Would it be really childish to remove him as a friend on FB? I don't suppose he would be bothered though.

Am off to bed now. With a bit of luck we'll all sleep until December

Have you caught up with the washing yet Daisy? My wash mountain pile at home has been enormous for weeks now, I never seem to get more than half way through it and I turn my back and it has doubled in size again

Just had a lovely curry out with the girls. But even a kashmir has given me indigestion. And was feeling sick a few morning recently

No work tomorrow Eye test for Jamlet at the hospital, so we will combine that with a visit to see the rabbits and fishies in the big pet shop. And then friends coming to stay for a couple of nights and a day out with my brother

DH saw a mouse in the living room doorway the other night, eek! So we now have a couple of humane traps, but we are hoping it's just one wandered in from the garden while the door was open for 3 days when the gardener was here, rather than a family putting down roots.

hope all goes well at the hospital Jammy. Might your indigestion and sickness be a bit exciting?

Have finally sorted the big pile of clean laundry that has been on baggins bed for 3 weeks have even put baggins and most of DS1s stuff away, but will have to get DS1s out again for him to try it all on, as there isn't enough drawer space when it's all clean so something will have to go! He will not be impressed. Have left DS2s out so we can try it as we go, it's a big job. My plan for the next week or so is to sort the boys room so I can get baggins and DS2 back in their own beds over the holidays. (Have half-cleaned DS1s room and given up)

Think we might go to music tots this afternoon. It will be nice for baggins, and good for me to get out after the last couple of days (OK, so I was out Sunday and Friday last week, but hey)

Hope everyone is having a good day.

eeeewwww at mouses.

I found 2 slugs in my conservatory the other evening

No Ria, not exciting. I did wonder - half excited and half scared to bits over the idea, but no. Period started late last night, a couple of days late, but definitely here.

Jamlet was so good at the hospital, and they aren't overly worried, but not happy enough to discharge us yet. And they want to do another "glasses test" in a couple of months (with drops in the eyes, oh crumbs that'll be fun!)

Sorry, the phone rang and I pressed post with the excitement! But I meant to say have a good afternoon Ria - sounds like you are being very positive and good trying to sort things out too, but eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwww for the slugs!!!!

eww, can't do slugs. Give me mice any day. Oh, I have one scuttling about the living room. Doesn't need to go to the kitchen, enough foodstuff in here.

I see your laundry, Daisy, and raise you 11 loads since Monday. Mostly vomit covered. Niiiiiice.

So, I disappear, come back and get all competitive over rodents and laundry!

pretty much sums it all up for the mo!

How's things Ria? Are you coping OK?
Are you trying for another baby Jammy?
Daisy, are you through the laundry? We can start planning a meet up in the next couple of months!

Oh no Foxy ! DO want to, but I need to get my arse into gear and get myself fitter, and DH really wants me to sort my depression out, so it's all on hold atm. But I was beginning to wonder if it'd happened anyway, but no. Probably for the best tbh.

jammy, sometimes the "surprise" ones are the best (though he has turned into a poo monster today)

DS1 and I did all his clothes except his school clothes, though I am a bit crap and let him keep his favourite tshirts even though they are almost too small, think he is going to see the student counsellor today, and have made him a dentist appointment for the holidays as he has a mutant back tooth . Also explained to him that just because I am still keeping in touch with my friend and DH isn't here, it doesn't mean I'm a lesbian. (I know that may sound a bit far-fetched, but if other friend has said anything to anyone else, or within earshot of her DC, goodness only knows what might be said in this village) He said he would worry if was a couple of times a week or anything, bless him

just tidying round today after toddler church this morning (baggins thinks one of the ladies that runs it is Jesus) and hoping the window man will ring to come and replace my window.

Just keeping going foxy, good days, bad days and worse tbh, hopefully have had the bad and worse ones this week and will get through the weekend unscathed How are your plans getting on? Not long now

I would recommend ditching a family member for cutting down on laundry, and putting any remaining items belonging to them in a bag out of sight. Sadly it's not great for personal wellbeing!

sorry for mammoth post, bored today.

Hi everyone.

Ria, I'm sorry things are still crap for you [hugs]

Foxy, how are the wedding plans going? Not long now!

Nothing much going on here - other than pukey and feverish children - unfortunately I'm not very good at being nurse-maid. I get really frustrated with being in all the time.

We're going to Thorpe Park tomorrow, without kids, as a birthday/farewell for my sis - who's leaving on 30th . I can't believe she's been here for 3 months, it's flown. I'm going to really miss her

Take care everyone xx

blardy hell, tis quiet round here!!

sorry not around much; pooter issues so am having to wair till DH is in bed before loggin on usinfg hisd Eeeeee:PC...,..and the keyboard is teeny tiny so my mutton fingers keep hiting extra keys...

just wanted to say thaT i l:OVE Y'all and miss you much.##

...and ma a lightweight; have had a whole bottle of wine am am mashed....ho0w times have changed!!!

Ria.......we are prolly gonna be over you8r way in the Easte4r hols if you wanna meet up at the seasidfe. Thinnking of you lovbely {(((huggs}}}}