June 07 - Over here!!!!!

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oops, didn't notice the thread was getting too big!

PMSL at the Burn's night smilies; I thought they were wearing earphones.

not sure I agree with them; as a proud Scot, I hate all that fucking tacky tartan crap that we get labelled with, tartan tammies and fake ginger hair more than most

Oh Ria Hugs

Oh god Ria

you know where we are if you need us

{{hugs}}

{{hus}} to you Jammy as well

OMG Ria and for you.

Call me if you need anything; I know I'm a wee bit away, but I can be there if need be.

Oh Ria - how terrible for you.....
How are you feeling? and how are the children?

Also so sorry Jammy - what a shit time we're having??

thanks guys. need to go and lock myself in the bathroom and cry again

DS1 is angry and hates him. Baggins heard too much shouting (he was napping) and is very edgy. DS2 hasn't said anything so am assuming he knows but doesn't want to ask and get it confirmed, but he is being quite challenging.

I am and downright in pieces, in some sort of cycle. am dreading the weekend. he hasn't even been in touch with the kids which makes me

so sorry about your cat jammy.

sorry you are struggling with stuff daisy, but good the hip is getting better. we will have to have a beach-meet-up this summer, when things are ALL a bit sunnier

I suppose I am lucky, in that my friends recently-dumped partner (who has become a good friend, more so since she left) is in contact with H, and I think she is being quite pro-active on my behalf, as she went through leaving her kids to move in with friend, and then got dumped in a big way, so she can see both sides, and she has always had a bit of a connection with him anyway.

he has blamed my depression for having to go before he had a breakdown.

Oh Ria....poor you and poor boys

Glad you have got some RL support - are your mum and dad helping out as well. Do you know where DH has gone? Can't believe he hasn't been in touch with DC's

I think he has gone to work. convenient that they lent him a car last week and they have rooms. I am so for the boys.

baggins just tried cutting his own hair I have an envelope of 4 inch long strands now luckily it isn't that noticable (I don't think) so I shouldn't have to cut it all short.

Ria, so for you. And for the boys too of course, on their behalf. I hope he gets in touch soon. And hope you are managing - I know I'm a long way away, but if there is anything I can do...

We had a little burial this morning for the Jamkit. There wasn't a lot to be said, we just said it had been lovely to have her with us for the past 14 years and then said goodbye. "Bye cat" shouted Jamlet from across the garden. Then I had to go to the vets to pay the bill, and return the towel they had used to put her on (I washed it last night and they seemed v surprised that I had bothered), and other bits. That made me cry all over again, I guess that was the last thing to do for her and it felt very final saying goodbye and thank you to the vet.

Oh and DH has asked me to point out the effort he put into digging the grave!

Aw Ria....wish I knew what to say, other than I hope you are holding it together. Blaming your depression is bloody despicable imvho...how does it go? oh yes, in sickness and in health

I hope he has been in touch with the boys, and that they are doing OK. Hugs to you all lovely lady....and I meant it about shouting if you need anything.

Aw jammy; it's really hard losing a much loved pet, much hugs to you...and praise at how manly DH was with his digging as well obviously

My hip is feeling almost normal today! I woke up in a very awkward position this morning, and it wasn't even remotely uncomfortable, let alone painful.....and strangely enough I have been much less grumpy now that I am not in pain! My shoulder is a day or so behind it too....I will be doing gymnastics before I lknow it...if only the pelvic floor holds up

We got two new gerbils today; adopted via the Pets at Home adoption scheme...they are about 4 months old and very lively. Already named Dexter (silver grey and gorgeous) and Morph (pale honey with random little white patches on his head). We like the name Dexter, but not keen on Morph....so suggestions for a boy's name that goes with Dexter please!

Oh, and a new ceramic hob installed.....ours was original with the kitchen extension which was done in 1984! and was hideously pitted and stained and the white enamelled surround was rusty and yellow . Anyhoo it died on Monday as I was cooking lunch, so I ordered a new one....it then miraculously started working again, and DH was in favour of sending it back, but I put my foot down and insisted it stayed.....tis all fresh and lovely and smooth and I am looking forward to cooking Sunday dinner tomorrow!

soory for the verbal diahorrea; I have had much wine!

it has to be Dexter and Fletcher daisy. there is no other combination (even if your DC will never know what "Press Gang" was, they may see Hotel Babylon on vintage sky when they're all growed up)

of your fixed hip and your new hob. I have ibuprofen after my dodgy reaction to paracetamol on Tuesday, but haven't taken any. No doubt I'll be in pain in my hips in the morning as I have 2 snuggly bedfellows tonight.

jammy. But please excuse me a sneaky chuckle at Jamlet shouting Bye (and DHs sterling grave-diggin effort). I am up now to feed my scared-of-downstairs-in-the-dark cat. Hope he will venture outside now so I do't have to get up again.

thanks for the support and the offers of help. Means a lot.

OK, back to bed. Luckily the inability to sleep seems as if it was temporary!

I (inwardly) chuckled myself Ria, it's OK.

Planted some poppies over "the" spot today, and a big red spiky plant (cordyline I think) behind it. Will fill the rest in over time, but wanted something in there now.

We went shopping for Jamlet yesterday, and nothing was pink ! Red boots and slippers, and green hat/gloves because she preferred the boys' colours to the girls' .

Nice day today, looked at a car this morning, then the garden centre, and 2 trips to the park

oh no Ria, I'm so sorry. and for you all

I agree with Dexter Fletcher

DH and I were only saying last night how DD is growing out of tantrums now and becoming so much easier to deal with now communication isn't an isuue.

Unfortunately, DS is just growing into them and spent the hours of 3am - 6am throwing one cos he is teething, but refused all offers of calpol and bonjela

Hope everyone is ok - seem to be having a bit of a shit time on this thread atm

Hi guys. Been for my "lone parent" interview this morning. Burst into tears when she said that Didn't help that she was a militant 11 year-divorcee who feels better off without her ex

need to do some "life laundry" type stuff!

Fucking hell Ria. I'm so, so shocked and sorry.

I know its hard, and there's a lot of shit ahead, but you will get through it and out the other end. Promise. xx

You may be a lone parent Ria, but you are not alone - you have us!!!!

DH bought a car today, a BMW 530 D Sport Touring . We looked at it yesterday and he has decided he likes it! So I get our current car (Alfa 156 Sportswagon) for a bit and then we'll trade it in later in the year as I'd prefer something a bit smaller. But only 2 more days of getting the bus home from work

And I enquired at work today about term-time working, starting in Sept. There is a management meeting tomorrow, so they will discuss it then. Looks like I will have to work 4 short-ish days (6 hours per day) each week during term time to get the school holidays off. Seems sad that in 6 months time I might be down to 1 day plus weekends with Jamlet, and that she'll be at nursery 4 days per week (9.00-3.15), but it will save lots of faff with childcare in the holidays.

DO I smell or something?

...ergh....bleargh

just busy busy busy here. SW weigh in tonight! least said soonest mended is all I will say and then I'm doing the tickets for the school disco, so have a mound of envelopes to sort through on a daily basis at the mo.

just dropping on quickly; am utterly shattered and emotionally exhausted. DD screamed for over an hour today . I have never ever seen her so wound up and cross, and watching her hyperventilating was no fun at all as I thought she was going to pass out...and in the playground too! where she started trying to escape from the pram and when she couldn't was stripping all her clothes off! When she calmed down though she was good as gold and even ate all her tea; first time in months!!

right, off to bed.

can't smell a thing, I have a cold

Foxy, I have left you a message on FB

to add insult to injury my bloody mother has just rung up and bollocked me because DS1 is saving his dinner money up to buy something he is dying to have, and implied it wasn't bringing him up properly. Thanks for the support, especially to day when I could have done with it.

Hope things are going better today ria?

We are struck down with colds again And too tired to trek into and across London to meet my brother. Shame as would have been lovely to see him and I was really looking forward to the museum. I think it's the same one I loved going to about 20 years ago (how old dod I feel?) only now revamped and made more interactive and child friendly Hey perhaps we could do a meet up there?