AUG 08 - Toddzilla vs Mum-ra!

[cyteen]

Once more with feeling

Buckets I live in the world you described last night most days. As for feeling odd while out at night, I get that too and think mine is because I'm more of a day person now. Any after 6pm is difficult because I know I should be getting ready to put the girls to bed and planning for the next day....then going to bed myself. I'm much more comfortable doing lunch meetups and seeing friends at pilates or a shop. Plus it doesn't seem as odd passing up a drink during those times. When I go out at night I don't even consider drinking since I have to drive myself home.

No1 that's a very smart move on the sleeping. That's pretty much how we had to work with dd1. Very strange that Reese didn't have the same issue.

HP I'll probably have a morning like yours tomorrow when we're meant to be getting up for school.

Lucky following your lead for fresh air...in a few minutes.

Dizzy when you are finished I've got a pile that needs to be sorted as well. Feel free to bottom call anytime.

Advisement Requested

So you've all been subject to my posting regarding the lovely relationship between me & my SIL. Well considering the philosophy keep your friends close and your enemies closer, should I friend her on FB?

One angle of that is that I'm reaching out in the hopes to break the crapsphere that is going on with my DB.

Another angle of that is if she denies my request it only proves my theory that she's not interested at all in a better level of communication.

I'm sure there's more angles but those are my two top ones at the moment.

Why would you do?

TS - that wasn't just a pile I had it was a whole fecking room poor Dylan hasn't had floor in weeks and I'm going to have to stand with them all one night this week and do the old - try this on, does it fit, yes or no, right put it in that pile, now try this on, does it fit, yes or no? right put it in that pile then, no it doesn't matter you don't like it, its fits so you're wearing it, try this^ on, oh its too small? are you sure, oh ok that's 3 sizes too wee for you for you then, take it off, no you can't keep it, I don't care if it has sodding Dora on it, it will do your sister now, stop crying please, brilliant now I'm going to have to cut you out if it etc etc etc

a slight insight into the life of Dixie

have just booked myself into a food hygiene course in Feb - what am I thinking

off to get DD1 and do a food shop before collecting asbo and limpet - then I'll have to explain to DH why the girls bed is stripped and he can't get into any of the rooms because they're full of clothing!!!!

steaky come back - I need blanket/quilt/material advice!!

TS do you know anyone else that is friends with her? does she use FB a lot? I've requested people as friends and thought that they haven't accepted me only to find out that they hardly use it and maybe pop on once every few months - not sure what to do to be honest

I'm the person who took 3hrs to decide whether or not to send a text message to a friend who still owes us £290 which we badly need its now sent and I feel sick waiting on a reply tbh

right, really have to go and get DD1 so she's not last one standing at the school, bless her blackwoollytights cotton socks

Did I hear the word fabric mentioned?

TS - don't do it. You will only be second guessing her motivations should she friend or not friend you back. Concentrate your energies on the relationships that are close and dear to you.

Dizzy what do you need my sweet?

DD currently on the turn of the stair throwing down all the laundry I had thrown neatly folded to take up later.

oh and I have a date tomorrow night.

Whatwhatwhat? steaky you can't just leave us hanging like that.

dizzy LOL at asbo and limpet Mine is a little stripy tornado today, very happy to have Daddy around methinks.

mwah hah hah ha ha!

Cyteen tis just some hairy trucker I found on Soulmates.

Dizzy sounds like you need a bubble bath ALONE!

As for SIL's FB usage. She was soley a MySpace girl but has recently (within the past year) started FBing a lot. SHE'S made friends with my Dad, his wife, her daughter, my Aunt-G and her children, my Aunt-A and her children. All of those are folks I communicate with daily. Then she's also friends with several other members of my family that I only communicate with occasionally. I haven't noticed her being friends with any of our family friends.

I've done my best NOT to let her comments on family statuses and pictures deter me from commenting as well. I don't want there to be a rift. However, none of our comments have anything other than separatist remarks. If that makes sense.

Steaky I will forever wonder what her motives for anything are. I've lost the trust. I'm a person with HUGE trust issues so I would take a miracle of mass size to change that.

The thing is I don't want to be afraid to put myself out there.

Plus if I put myself out there she could either be mean in a way that's documented or she could soften allowing bygones to be bygones.

I really haven't made up my mind what I want to do. Opinions from all are welcome no matter the remarks.

in that case TS leave well alone, she hasn't asked you to add her so don't bother putting yourself out there by sending her the request.

Steaky - will need more hairy trucker details please tis our right to vet you know!!

and re the material - see above post about demolishing preserving some of the girls clothes to make a blanket/quilt out of - do you think its a good idea or am I grasping at broody straws here?!?! and if so how much material should I keep - a square or a strip?!

not that I'm prone to overthinking things at all

Dizzy I would say keep the whole garment if you want to use it for a blanket.
Take one plastic bag for each girl and then fill with whatever garments you want to be used. That way you can just pass the bags on to me whoever to make the quilts for you.
That way you save your time and effort on cutting up and the person making the quilt can work out the best use of the fabric.
Otherwise you could spend all day cutting up sleepsuits and only have enough fabric to make a cushion cover.

TS I would leave things be and try not to worry about it. [easier said than done emoticon]

Hairy Trucker is a chap I've been talking to on Soulmates and on the phone over the last couple of weeks. 41, gainfully employed, seperated with a 6 year old daughter, own house, teeth and hair. He lives near Bristol and we are going out to dinner in Exeter tomorrow night.

I shall be wearing this in black with white opague tights and white heeled brogues. [shoes are nicer than they sound]

When I bought the dress I asked the shop girls if I was too old for it - they all said "noooooooooooooooo!" but were obviously only 18, I got it home and realised that it was actually a tunic. But I am trying to chanel Mary Quant with the opaque tights and hope that the fact that there is no cleavage on display stops it from looking slutty.

perhaps that should read...

"....the fact that I have no cleavage to display...."

Yes v Mary Quant and lack of cleavage is exactly why you that outfit will work on you, think Twiggy. I prescribe lashings of mascara too.

crips - whole thing? will do

loving the sound of the outfit btw and am right with Buckets on the mascara

tea then another two meetings tonight bored now

GB I've decided that 2010 is all about the legs!
How was your afternoon?

Dizzy I know it may seem like more stuff to keep when you are trying to clear out but it really is much easier for you to just sling them in a bag rather than spend hours boring yourself to tears cutting them up.

Dizzy my mom held on to a bunch of tshirts from mine and my brother's youth to do the very quilt thing for which you speak. Last year I separated the contents of the bag and gave most to charity. I had the same idea for the DCs but I don't have a sewing machine. I do know there is an American company that will do it all for you. You send them tshirts (and other clothing items) and they return a quilt, fully backed, for a fee. I'll see if I can find the number/website.

Steaky YOU GO GIRL! Oh and I like the dress/tunic. Glad to have someone else admit to worrying over age appropriate clothing. I'm having the hardest time finding things that a 39 year old should wear versus a 19 year old. That's why the only clothing I've purchased lately is GYM ATTIRE!

Taking in all the comments.

BTW I have just spent a few hours sitting in the sunshine in my front yard.

I so want a TAN!!!! Is tanning in a tanning bed so 1990 or is it still okay? I'm really wanting some color.

Thanks TS for encouragement and for giving me another sewing idea.

Found it! HERE is the quilt link.

Sazz just reading that has made me feel tired...thank goodness I'm already on the sofa with my feet up

steak you will totally rock that look. Great to hear you're having an evening out, hope you have a fantastic time in whatever way seems most appropriate You deserve it.

TS Pilates coaching just seems so you. Go for it, you are always so positive and motivating to all of us. Re. FB I tend to agree with Sazzles; intentions aside (and yours are clearly honourable), FB is never a good medium for dealing with difficult personal shit. That said, I do hope you find a way back through to your bro eventually because I know family is important to you.

Love the quilting idea. I still have tonnes of stuff I know I won't be able to part with, including DS's first three babygros that are the length of my forearm

You'll have to forgive me feeling weepy and vulnerable tonight - just found out that someone I know via another online community has passed away Not sure what happened yet, but it's such a tragedy. He was a lovely, loving, kind, funny, interesting man who was passionate about all sorts of things from sport and music to writing. He had a little boy who was absolutely the centre of his world. Just gutted for them all

Hi remember me?

Finally got a laptop back into my hands so thought I would pop in and catch up.

Miamla - congratulations!!! (I guess it is really old news, but belated congratulations).

TS - I have a SIL that I don't like or trust. No FB friending with people that you wouldn't necessarily want to see all your posts is my rule.

cyteen hope you are ok.