May 09 - The Sleepless Babies Club, All Dubious Fashions Welcome

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Ladies.

Morning.

Hey hey dandy good to see you back my love!Please get your work done, you bad girl. My suit was from Warehouse ( I remember it very well). I have no idea though whether it would still fit me. My shape has changed so much since the DCs though, I doubt it. I've always been about the same size (12) but being at my pre preg weight again , I am def not the same shape and have pockets of fat that I did not have before.

jael I was worried about your FB posting and figured you would prob come and tell us more on here. I'm also guessing that this is the tip of the iceberg too. However, as others have said, with all the history, maybe this isn#t such a bad thing. Just to get some distance so you can concentrate on your children. You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family.

belgina hope things ok with your DH, or at least better anyway. Dressing up . It doesn't need me to say that you should only ever do what you are comfortable with. I'm probably a bit of a prude when it comes to sex. Don't get me wrong, I quite like it but I'm not particularly adventurous and part of that is down to a reluctance to really talk about it with DH. We simply do it.

Its our wedding anniversary this weekend (11 years). No doubt there will be some action expected! We are having a night in a hotel. Without DCs.

Good to 'see' you Dandy!

Jael - Honestly I can relate, I have a very fraught relationship with my Mother and my kids see her so rarely that it takes them a while to come out of their shell when she's around. Your kids don't need ANYONE other than you and their Daddy - anyone who wants to be a part of your family needs to earn that right. Stay strong!

Belgina Dressing up?!! Making an effort for me means shaving my legs and maybe a bit of ladygarden topiary, there's no way in hell I'd be dressing up for hubby!

Actually we've been ok in that department really, although trying to find time with 4 DCs is a challenge in itself.

How is everyone? Sorry I haven't been around, you know how it is. Did we ever get a meetup organised? xx

Thankyou everyone. I am going to stay strong. I have done before and I will again. I feel kind of different for telling you guys some thing's...only DP knows EVERYTHING and 2 close friends of mine. I couldn't possibly spil my life story, as I really would scare you all off, but I now feel sort of "frightened" to come on here, I know I'm "talking" over a computer, but I'm suddenly feeling very shy...

Please don't treat me any differently, I'm still me

Back to "normal" talk, I'm taking baby J to the docs in a few mins, I've found this little thing on his back, and it's never been there before. It sorta looks like scar tissue from a burn, and is slightly raised if it were darker, I would think it were a mole, but it's got me worried. I'm hoping it's nothing. And I've got my stress head on...

All the talk about fashion disasters makes me a little that I'm the baby of the group. I was though in my teens a goth like Spangle and wore nothing but total black. I listened to music where I couldn't really understand the lyrics, some of anyway. Alot of my music taste was very heavy rock/metal...and people were frightened of me by the clothes I wore, I will not be showing DD ANY of those pics from those days hehe

Jael X

Morning!

Jael - please don't feel scared off coming on here. I bet most people have some sort of history that isn't easy of some sort. I'm another who's childhood was affected by a parent with alcohol problems.
However, it does sound like you've had a really tough time of it and that your parents have made an absolute mess of their lives and you've done well to be so strong to forge a fantastic life for yourself, DP and your DC.
Hope your trip to the doctors with J is straightforward. Let us know!

Dandy & Blotted - good to "see" you on here

My morning routine normally involves me putting O in his playpen whilst I go and get myself washed and dressed. (I hate using it but he doesn't seem to mind and at least I know he's safe!) Well this morning I came back in to get him for breakfast and he was out of the playpen having fun crawling all round the lounge. His normal favourite toys when left to his own devices are the fire place & tongs and the laptop cable He had the laptop cable in his hand but fortunately hadn't been anywhere near the fireplace. I mustn't have clicked the door to the playpen properly

He's obviously feeling energetic this morning though as he's also managed to move from a crawling position to a sitting position for the first time this morning.

This afternoon, I'm meeting my boss to discuss going back to work again. I'm going to agree to do my old role 4 days a week (reluctantly). DH has said that if it doesn't work out for either me or O, that we can look at me stepping down to a lesser role on fewer days. He's also said that we can get a cleaner so I need to start looking into that...

Belgina - I also wonder what Lucy will make of another puppy as she is a little "eternal puppy" herself even though she's 4yo now. It's obvious she craves some company though so it's the right thing to do.

LadyH - Happy wedding anniversary for this wkend! Enjoy your DC free time!

Dandy - I should probably retort with something like that to DH but I can never think of anything suitable at the time...

Hi Ladies,
Just grabbing 5 mins while A asleep.

Jael so sorry to hear about your family woes. Sounds like you are best of out of it tbh.

Dandy hey, nice to see you. Have reminded me I owe you an email - will do that after I post this.

Hi blotted ladyh have a good weekend and happy anniversary

ses at O's escape tactics

llare glad your course was good. Your plan to start working sounds like a good one.

aaargh A awake - she's not slept well in the day for the last 2 days now. Think its the teeth - she has 4 along the bottom now and the top front two are just under the surface.

ses have O and R been swapping notes? R's current toy of choice is the laptop cable. He makes a bee line for it so I've invested in a Leap Frog learn and groove thing/static bouncer do daa. Its arrived this very morning and its fabarooni. He has taken to bouncing up and down on my knee which is hard going on my biceps so this contraption allows him to bounce away to his hearts content, have a play with the gadgets on the surround and most importantly, stay in one place!!

llare glad your course was worthwhile. I did chuckle at your little error on Monday.

blotted good to see you back on here too. We've missed you too!!

I've just emailed work with my return proposals. I think they will be accepted but will wait and see. I've asked to start at 2 days per week, going up to 3 as and when the work comes in. I'll be going back on the on call rota which is the only thing that fills me with dread. Its suddenly coming up quickly. R has a short settling in day on Wednesday at the new nursery. It really hit me how close it all is when they phoned to arrange it.

ses and headless - Ss favourite "toy" is the laptop cable too- probably a sign that my laptop is always out on the lounge floor .

Jael- I really don't like it when families fall out but I think in your case, you/your DCs are probably better out of it, given the abuse that you/your mum/siblings have endured, and as dandy says, you don't want to put your DCs at risk either. And if your auntie etc have decided to believe your mother without talking to you and have cut you off, then they are being a bit petty and silly, so again, not worth worrying about. Keep strong. I can't believe how mature you are for your age and what a great role model you are for your 2 young children. From what you say about your DD, she is an extremely intelligent, articulate and caring child, and a real credit to you and your DP .

Well M officially loves In the Night Garden just plonked her down on the floor to watch it while I had a tidy up and she hasn't budged - was funny watching her having a boogie to the music in it

might have to get a dvd of it

jael sorry to hear about all the strife with your family

dandy great to see you again - Happy New Year!

Evening all, takeaway ordered and sitting and relaxing after a very busy week. Just need some wine but we have nothing in the house so will have to wait till tomorrow when we are going to our neighbours to celebrate his birthday.

jael i'm so sorry you're having to go through all the upset and stress your relatives are causing. At the end of the day you're right they are the ones that'll miss out. upsetting none the less though. your dc's are lucky to have such caring and good parents.. and you are

hiya dandy i was thinking of you the other day as today was D day in our finding out which primary school ds was going to get into for sept. luckily we got our 2nd choice that i dithered about putting 1st. We dodged the grotty local school.. a good friend of mine was not so lucky.. they didn't get their 1st, 2nd or 3rd choice and got landed with afore mentioned grotty school that they didn't even choose.. they're devastated and will be appealing.

blotted are you feeling any better? i do read your blog even though i don't leave a comment v often..

escape tactics as running put it.. G keeps making a break for it and crawling out of our lounge and off down the hall lol.. she's getting quite fast and it makes ds laugh as she's often 'chasing' him when he left the room in search of something from his bedroom.

headless happy anniversary for this weekend!

HI all.
blotted and dandy, good to see you on here again. wondered about you... (in a good way )

sorry to not name-check any further, just a vent needed.

wwwwhheeeeewwwwwwwww.
there, feels better.

it's not a good sign but DH has also given up on his Jan detox and he's religious about it each year. he's working long days and staying nights in Grimsby (woohoo! ) to avoid the commute, so I've been much of a solo mum this week. not unusual on this thread, I know but I'm feeling knackered.

all 3DDs have bad colds and dd1&2 are tantrumming, crying, waking up about 10x a night yelling. dd2 fell asleep at playgroup today, she's also teething, not eating much, not sleeping well, and had a fit a suppertime that scared the sht out of me. she screamed and said something hurt but couldn't describe and held her head. then was quiet, then screamed again and when I asked what hurt, she said her head. her eyes were closed like th elight hurt. all 3dds and I were huddled on the kitchen floor, they were all crying and I didn't have enough arms. I nearly called 999 i was scared it was an aneurism. and dh was a 90 min drive away. then she calmed down so I dressed her immediately for bed and she sprung back to normal . what was that about?

so, H is ok though took an hour to settle. dd1&2 have already been up about 5 times because they set each other off. dd1 has a slight temp, I've given them another dose of calpol and hoping they sleep.

lots of bugs going round, anyone else's dc's poorly?

sorry for the me-post but needed to off load.

there. feel better, thanks.
hope everyone else is ok. going to catch up now.

oh, about dd2 and her fit/dislike of lights... wondered if she could have had a migraine? I keep thinking it's teething that's bothering her most (her top molars are coming in) but will watch her in the next few days. I might take her to the GP if her appetite doesn't return.

aww momino ds would have frightened me senseless if he'd been like dd2! I hope they all have a better night for you.. sounds a really tough evening so far. DS & G asleep here but G just let out a whimper so i'm waiting to see if she settles. Really hoping DS sleeps better tonight... he was up at 4am last night and i'd put him back to bed 6 times by 5am... then a few more by 6am... then just as G woke up (6.45am) he actually fell asleep and didn't wake up till 8am (then mad rush to get ready for pre school) shame i didn't get any extra kip like him! Heading off to bed in a min... all sick ones more or less better at last here

Hope you get good sleep Fi.

just when i think.. yay G's sleeping through without a dream feed.. ds decides I don't want to sleep at night mummy i want to plaaaaye.. arrrgh! i thought toddlers were supposed to be better than babies? he used to sleep 12+ a night and nap during the day until he was 2 & at 3.5 we're vv lucky if he does 11hrs at night and rarely naps in the day. xoxox night night

morning

of course i had both boobs.. but it was supposed to be G had both boobs!!

Fi Awww thanks! I'm still really sick to be honest, I felt better this morning but then my parents and Bob's parents arrived for a visit this afternoon and two hours of excited children just wiped me out. I can't believe I've been floored like this, I'm so tired.

Anyone else have a gumsy slug baby? Greer has no teeth, isn't even crawling never mind pulling herself up and absolutely no signs of it anytime soon either. She isn't even sitting independantly!

blotted, hope you feel better soon.
Fi, hope you woke up from your grogginess.

we had a most rubbish night but tbh I knew it would be so wasn't too distressed about it. dd2 was ok today, Ithink she's a day ahead of dd1 and me on whatever bug we have. i've just got a headache, burning eyes, slightly achy (no temp) but poor dd1 is really runny nosed, groggy, lack of appetite, and exhausted.

I think they'll sleep well tonight since no-one had any sleep last night.

anyway, it was a lazy, dull day: miserably grey and rainy but I was grateful for the excuse of staying inside.

blotted, at your at Greer (love that name) with no teeth, no moving,etc. she must be content to move in her own time. I say, the later they move the better on us.

doing nothing tonight but sitting by th fire and watching 'best in show' on dvd. hope everyone is having a good night.

ladyH, happy belated anniversary!