May 09 - The Sleepless Babies Club, All Dubious Fashions Welcome

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Ladies.

Just got to let you all know: Woohoo!!! I've found an au pair. She's very experienced with children, even babies and she seems lovely. So glad this searching business is over. It's sooo stressful.

Agh, knew I would forget to say something important! warning, mush coming up...

THANK YOU ALL for your lovely comments about my cm and your encouragement about feeling blue. You lot are truly fab and I really don't know what I could have done without you guys over the last year and a bit

xposts, well done belg great news

HtheH (I think it was) - I was Grumpyoldcaaaaaaaa but decided I was too cheerful to have that nn anymore!

Re concussion - I'm such a doof. I forgot that the oven was in a different place and bent down to chuck something in the bin. Cue me staggering around, seeing stars. And this was 5 minutes before taking DD2 to a nice, loud, brightly-lit partaaaaay. God, I felt rough for a day or 2. I'm ok now and no noticable brain damage

We have DD2's friend coming over after school - she's a tiny doll in comparison to beefy DD2. She's so sweet. I've made them a batch of cupcakes and they're going to ice them and cover them in the pink and silver cake decorations we have by the bucket-load. Should be fun.

I also made brownies and have eaten 3 already .

Right, off to school to collect over-excited girls

H The whole situation with your FIL must be a nightmare. It does sound like he wants his cake and eat it!

Belgina Congrats on the au pair!

Dandy thanks for talking sense to me! I realise its all prob normal but without anyone to sound off to in rl it all blows out of proportion!

Running I'm also quite shy in rl and struggle with the mother & toddler groups. I'm only just beginning to settle in after 18 months!!

Fi lol at the postie!! When at uni my friend and I went out door to door selling poppies. We got to this one house and the guy opened the door in the nude!! I don't know who he was expecting, but it wasn't us - don't know who was more mortified!!

Sorry for not name checking anymore - I'm shattered. I just couldn't get to sleep last night and when I eventually was just about to fall off to sleep one of the dc woke up!

Oh I hoped it was you Grumpy. You used to make me laugh so much with your posts in the ante natal threads. What happened to Chocolate Bunnies? Who else is mising?

Thanks everyone for your kind words re. Dh's M & D. I do think like llare's in the long run they will both be happier. It is just horrid at the moment. It was just so out of the blue and really shaken my dh. You would think that as an adult it would be easier to deal with your parents' break up, but I think it is still awful. He is so sad about it.

M won't drink his milk today. Is it normal for them to go off their milk when they have a cold and are teething? He had a nice big lunch of salmon and spinach, but won't let his 3pm bottle anywhere near him. Seems perfectly happy and energetic. I get paranoid since the allergy problems when we struggled to feed him anything. He had 7oz this morning at breakfast and no milk since then. How mcuh should he be drinking at 8 months?

belgina glad you found a good au pair. When are you back at work? I knwo this might sound crazy but I have been thinking about training as a midwife, am I mad and is it even possible to do it part time with a baby? Will it take me about 10 years?!

running Sorry, xposted earlier and didn't notice. We also have a non-cot napper during the day. We've managed to move from only napping in sling to C dropping off while being cuddled by me on our bed. She'll do 1 sleep cycle without a problem, but halfway through her nap she tends to wake up and I have to go back. As soon as she sees me she goes back off to sleep, but if I don't go back when she murmurs she starts screaming. She doesn't crawl or roll though, so I'm not too worried about her falling off. I'll have to tackle the next step, i.e. transfering to cot soon though. So you're not alone with daytime sleep trouble As you know I've also recently moved. I've met quite a few people so far, but haven't made any real friends. I'm also quite shy, but also quite happy without a big circle of friends IYKWIM. Back in B'ham I never really made friends at all. I've already met more people here than I ever did up there, so hopefully some of them will turn into proper friends

singing Ouch at your head meeting the oven. I'm clumsy, I could easily see myself doing that sort of thing. We've got the same here. DS's best friend is a head shorter than him, despite there only being 2 weeks between them in age.

not good.. i'm now feeling queezy
i'm fb friends with chocolatebunnies she always seems mega busy.. but atm is poorly and waiting on a chest xray.. but don't know details..
sausage says hi to all btw.. again mega busy.. in lot of pain with her hip and needs an op. also her mum is waiting on results of a breast biopsy today which i hope was ok... keeping fingers crossed.

congratulations on finding a fabby ap belgina what a relief!

running- babies are funny creatures . S will generally only go in his cot once he is asleep or very nearly asleep but will fight it if he's not ready for his nap. I didn't struggle with DD and DS1 who would go down wide awake and take themselves off to sleep . So with S I take him to his room, put his sleeping bag on, sit with him for a few minutes on my shoulder, then if he's restless/crying i stand up and rock him a little til he's calm and drifting off. I then put him down, patting him/shushing him, pick him up and say "its sleepy time" and put him straight back down and repeat til he's settled. It usually only takes about 10 mins from entering his room.

potty training- DS1 is 2.7 and says he wants to go on the potty, but when it comes to it, he doesn't like it! I am therefore not pushing it, but am getting fed up of the pooey nappies. DD was doing all her poos on the potty at age 11mo, so i'm not used to it! Just shows how they are all different, although we did have more time to devote to potty training with DD.

daizy- sorry to hear you are feeling blue. I am feeling much more organised now i am back at work, and couldn't manage without a cleaner. I know tummum says getting a cleaner saved her marriage, and it really is wonderful if you can afford it.

belgina- so that you have found an ap. That must be a load off your mind.

HtheH - I am at your FIL. What makes me is that he renewed his vows last year- was he already having the affair then? My DH keeps saying he wants to get me an eternity ring- we've been together for 11 years, married for nearly 6. I do like the gesture (and the thought of more jewels ) but does it make him more likely to stay with me - i think not, judging by your FIL.

Also S doesn't now tend to drink ANY milk between 7am and 5pm as he refuses at nursery and i tend to only offer a feed if it fits in or if he seems to want one. But saying that, he feeds through the night so i'm sure he's getting enough- I assume they need a pint of milk a day roughly, which is around 20oz?

Well I finished work early today as i felt sick. No vomiting yet, but don't feel good .

daizy- I also should add that my life is much happier now i'm working, although i am very tired. I work 4 days, so on my day off I now spend more quality time with DS1/DS2 ie less time on the sofa watching telly. My DD is settling in well to 3 days of after school club, and DH said S had a big smile for the nursery staff today when he arrived, so was pleased to be there . But like flippin I hope i will still be favourite . I remember a phase with DD we would go to pick her up from nursery, and she wanted to stay .

Did I kill the thread?

Poor S had a nice day at nursery until he started doing loose nappies again . No vomiting yet. So no nursery tomorrow and not sure yet who will be caring for him, as I am meant to be in Derby if i feel well enough.

belg, great news on the ap. so relieved for you.

pula and fi and anyone else feeling ill, hope you feel better soon and hope you rest tomorrow.

grumpy, oh, your aching head! cupcakes, brownies... aren't you due a visit to York again soon? I need brownies.

HtheH, at your FIL and agree with pula her point about renewing the vow last year. and redundancy - hope all works out for you both somehow.

llare, I had the dizzy head yesterday from no sleep. it's a weird feeling, almost like jet-lag.

hello to everyone else .

we had a lovely day. dd2 was at nursery, dd1 was at preschool then with MIL and I went to see Toystory2 3D at the Big Scream with Harper. H was an angel the entire film: she watched about 20 min of it, i fed her lunch, she played on the floor in the aisle for the rest of the film, then fell asleep as we left the cinema so I was able to do some shopping. I needn't have been worried that she was too 'old' to sit for a couple of hours; i think she could have fun in a shoebox .

got the SF jab letter in the post today and casually mentioned it to dd1 which was probably a mistake as she panicked. before SF, she had her preschool jabs and was not in a good way. i assured her (stupidly) that she didn't need new jabs for a long, long time. should I just take dd2 and H?

It is very quiet here tonight!!

Pula Poor S. Hope you and he are on the mend soon. R is full of cold and diaherea again but he slept through again last night so thats twice in a week. We are on the right track!

Pula - O only had BF on waking and going to bed today. I did offer at about 4.30pm and he fed but didn't seem overly bothered. I was also wondering whether this was ok (and also thinking surely my periods will return soon?!)

Belgina - ap sounds great
I can so relate to your dentist story. My sense of direction is appalling.
As for DHs, I also seem to endlessly be cleaning the fridge door of sticky hand prints!

HtheH - at your FIL
The fact that he thinks he can cohabit with MIL when he's over here is just ... words fail me!
On a happier note, my M&S vests arrived today. I have yet to try them on but they look great!

Fi - and at flashing norks
And tell chocolatebunnies we miss her and wish her all the best from us

SinginHinny - ouch!

Sorry for all the illness. Hope everyone feels better quickly.

O had his first settling in session at nursery today. It was only for an hour and I was there the whole time (filling in paperwork). I was quite pleased we survived ok as 2 of my NCT friends said they'd cried after their first session.
This afternoon however, DH has come home (at 9pm ) and told me he has to go on a training course in Spain for a week. Just happens to be my first full week back at work. I know he can't help it but I'm angry and upset all at once

Younger I took DD and R for their SF jabs on tuesday and they were really quick and didn't upset them too much. I know DD1 is older and knows whats going on more. Maybe offer her a treat for after?? Its not worth terrising her though I don't think.

Brownies My friend bought me The Hummingbird Bakery cookbook today and it is full of amazing recipes for cupcakes, cheesecakes, muffins, pies, brownies,slices and other yumminess. The best bit though is the photos they are fabulous .

Ooh! x-posted!

Febes - yay for R sleeping through again, especially whilst feeling poorly.
How are you feeling now?

Momino - Glad H was(obviously!) an angel at the cinema.
I know it may cause a lot of difficulty but if you're getting DDs2&3 vaccinated, I think DD1 should get hers too. May give her the impression that if she kicks up a stink, she'll get separate "rules" to DD2&3.
However, who am I to know?!!

xposted: ses, glad O had a good settling in session. for dd1 and dd2, didn't cry at their settling in but did cry after dropping them off on their 1st official day. I imagine I'll do the same for H in April. and for you about your DH. boo.

febes ,hope you're ok and hope R is better soon, bless.

I agree with you, ses, about not having different rules for dd1. but she really gets hysterical over things like this. dh and I have just read the leaflet about it and he is nonplussed. he thinks we should just forgo it. I'm not so sure...

Momino - not easy... O is having his on Friday.

Right I'm off to bed. Here's to a good night for us all!

Ses I'm feeling a bit better each day. Still have a sore throat but I'm alright. Its all just falling into place with R. Finally!!! I woke at 3 to go to the loo but apart from that I slept until 7!!! DD and him are great at sharing and DD loves her big girls bed. How is O at night at the moment??

O is generally just waking once at some point between 1 and 3 and feeding back to sleep. Generally takes about half an hour and then he sleeps til about 6.
A couple of times a week, he'll wake twice a night and two nights ago he ended up in our bed from 3am but he had teeth coming through (6 now!)

Right bed it is!

febes- good news on the sleeping through. S was just having a feed around now and then around 3am but in the last few nights, he's been poorly and unsettled, and has ended up cosleeping since midnight with me latching him on i don't know how many times. Sometimes he doesn't want milk so i just cuddle him back to sleep. I am hoping once he feels better we'll be able to put him back in his cot- sometimes i'm sure i could have but i was so tired/sleepy i fell back asleep .Better go- he's calling me!

Just a quick hello, no name checking, sorry.

I've got my first counselling session tomorrow, I'm a bit nervous about it all tbh. No idea what to expect.

SF jabs - the girls have got an appointment for theirs week after next, I had to phone to ask for it though, we haven't had any letters inviting us. The surgery are (allegedly) phoning round all parents to invite them.

Evening (well, morning really). Gonna post and run (to bed) hope it goes OK tomoz Flippin. Don't worry too much as it will be the counsellors job to make you feel at ease. I hope you find the session helpful, especially to not have to worry about DC for a bit too