May 09 - The Sleepless Babies Club, All Dubious Fashions Welcome

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Ladies.

oh and daisy DS has only been dry in the day since 3rd jan and he'll be 3.5yrs mid feb. we had tried on and off for aaaages with no success.. then all of a sudden it just clicked..

well DS did go back to sleep at 1ish last night but was up at 5.45am dh already left for work so no chance of more sleep.. even though i tried tucking him back in until he threw up 20mins ago.. so no pre school run today.. hoping it's a one vomit day & me and G don't get it..

Morning!

Daisy - my nephew was 3.5 when he stopped wearing nappies during the day, he's 4 and 2 months now and my sister says he's still not dry at night.

fi - hope your day is ok and there's no more vomit.

dandy - good luck with the book thing, your posts made me laugh too.

shy/shame shitter - PMSL, sorry.

After a couple of absolutely dreadful nights (Sunday with DD! and sick, Monday with A and something...moon in the wrong phase?!) we actually had a normal okish kind of night. A was only up twice, first time I got her back to sleep in her cot after a feed, and the second time she had a little feed and then stayed in bed with us. DD1 slept until 6:45! I wish I could get A to take both boobs at a feed, maybe she'd sleep longer?

I managed to clean my kitchen yesterday. The water after I'd mopped the floor was grim. Do any of you have one of those steam mops? Wondering if that would encourage me to clean the floor a bit more often? Always seems like such a faff getting the mop and bucket out, but if steaming it is just like hoovering maybe I'd do it more often. Can you tell I'm clutching at straws?

fogot to say running - at your date! Glad A seemed settled with the CM, it's so reassuring isn't it? DD1 loves her CM, although I have to admit that I'm a bit that sometimes she seems to like the CM better than me!!

morning flippin glad last night was a bit better. I have a flash ultra mop.. flash as in cleaning not as in snazzy you put a disposable cloth on the bottom, it has a spray trigger and bottle of cleaning fluid plugged into it.. so you spray the floor and clean as you go. not very eco friendly but very easy and quick

we got ours in wilkinsons.. just checked & it's a power mop not ultra.. this is it

Quick hello whilst S throws porridge around

Must catch up proper-like, managed to concuss myself on Saturday on the grill door

Hope evryone is ok

fi That supermop was a life saver in my pregnancy. With the PGP I couldn't lift a teapot, let alone a bucket of water, so I did all the mopping whti the power mop. It's great for quick going overs, but not for deep cleaning IMO. I've stopped using it now, because of the eco issues, but it's still lying around somewhere.

potty training DD1 was also just 3 when she was finally dry, she did do day and night in one go. Ds was much younger for daytime dryness (about 20m ), convenient though because I was already preg with dd1. Anyway, at 8 he's still wet every night. We were refered to the bedwetting team ages ago and are finally going to see them on Friday. We have been trying to encourage him to drink more in the day (that's one of the bits of advice we got), but it's hard work. In May his class is going away for a weekend, he really wants to go and he's finally got a goal which is encouraging to put some effort in his attempts to stay dry. AFter only a week his nappies are already less wet, but still not dry by any means. We're all looking forward to seeing what they've got to tell us.

fi spangle Hope the vomitting bug leaves your family soon.

running Sounds like you've had a nice day shopping + good news about the cm and the peace of mind it's brought you.

younger You're making me go all shy and blushing with your lovely complements. I think I'm just an average mw really. One who's a tad scared of going back to work too. about your last time at the big scream. I think you were really providing a good educational activity for H too. Cinema and film are important contributors to art

I'm going to the dentist today. Finally getting my money's worth out of my maternity exemption certificate

I am so bad and can't anme check everyone. So good morning everyone. Have been so busy and haven't had a chance to post or have a proper catch up. We have had DH's father staying. We had bombshell at Christmas that he has been having an affair in Holland and is leaving Dh's mother after 40 years of marriage. They even renewed their vows last year in celebration of 40 years. HAs been a complete shock for everyone and MIL is neurotic at the best of times so has completely lost the plot. All a bit of a nightmare and poor DH finding it very hard. So things quite tricky when he comes to stay.
Re. redundancies, both DH and I were made redundant a year ago, and DH still only freelancing, things been a struggle, but it has been nice having him around so much. He has just signed a 6 month contract though which is great. As I don't have an option of a job to go back to (wasn't working as a teacher but as an Educational Advisor), not sure what I am going to do. I could start up my own company giving advice on schools etc. BUt not sure if working from home with a baby is constructive, not sure how much I would get done, and would have to go out and visit schools lots and not sure we could afford childcare.

Any way enough about me, hope all illnesses are improving, we are still snotty here. That mop looks amazing, think I might have to get one! My experience of potty training is some children are just late developers (especially boys) and if you leave it later they actually get it very quickly and so much easier than struggling for weeks when they are just not ready.

singing is your head better now?
belgina you've just reminded me i was going to design & crochet a cleaning pad for the mop.. that way i'll have washable ones. if i remember to keep this next bottle of cleaning solution i also planned to wash and refill it with ecover stuff.
HtheH OMG bombshell for sure! what a dreadful shock for all is he wanting to separate from mil or hoping to try and work it out?

Yes he is moving to Holland, but wants to cohabit with MIL when he is in UK visiting!!! Very odd, and phrase 'having your cake and eat it' comes to mind. He doesn't want a divorce yet, so it is all a bit weird. He has just left, which is a relief to be honest, things are very awkward.

sounds like he's just thinking of himself HtheH he's obviously not thought how that would/is make your mil feel having him flit in and out when it suits him. she'd be on an emotional rollercoaster never able to get off. how awful

oops my mum came up to our flat for a natter.. 10mins ago she went back to their flat downstairs.. with DS who was determined to go see grandpa and seems totally back to normal since the one vomit early this am. anyway the doorbell goes while i'm just bf G and she's about to drift off to sleep for a well overdue nap so i say 'come in door on the latch' thinking nanny is with him.. but door doesn't open.. so i'm thinking nanny sent him up the stairs while she watches from the bottom (he's v good on the stairs) and rather than dislodge G from boob as she's nearly asleep i head to the front door with her still bf and top hoicked up and boob out.. i open the door with only free hand.. and.. it's.. not.. DS.. but.. the.. POSTMAN! what was worse is that he had a parcel needing signed for.. err 'back in a min' says i and hastily deposit G in her cotbed

and did hastily put boob back and straighten top out before opening door to sign for parcel

doorbell just went.. this time it was DS

fi Thanks for making me laugh! Poor postman, bet he was far more embarrassed than you!
dandy that party you organised makes me realise I haven't had a good old night out for so long. I think I have forgotten how to let my hair down (literally, M seems to think my hair is the best toy ever, and as it is falling out since I stopped BF I keep it well tied back!)

Singin poor you. Who are you? Have you had a name change since I rejoined the thread? Hope your head is ok. I find I am so clumsy now and have had the most bizarre accidents. Hope you are all better.

Belgina hope the dentist was ok. And I do have to say you were amazing to us all when we were on the ante natal thread. It was so great having a midwife on the thread and you were always so happy to share your knowledge. I think we all would have loved having you as our own private midwife! Compared to some of the sour, old grumps I encountered you are incredible. Maybe you should hire yourself out to all of us for our next babies.

Am off out to lunch with a neighbour and need to clean up M as he is covered in spinach and salmon from his lunch.

dandy rofl what an utter fantastic night.. haven't had one like that in years

dentist... No actually My trip to the dentist became an example of the utmost embarrassing disorganisation of my part and I never set foot in the place. I'd printed out the map, put the phone number ready. Left without either. Got to the town, had no idea where it was, nor of the exact name of the place. Phoned directory enquiries, who texted me all the dentists in the village, none of them were the one where I had my app't, so ended up driving back home to get the correct number, apologise and get a new app't. The thing is, the way I got the no was via the HV. I phoned local dentists and they also mentioned that there was an NHS dentist in said village. Somehow I'd got to the conclusion there was only 1 dentist and that the local health centre would be a doddle to find. Sadly neither was true and so now my teeth are still not looked at. But monday I'll do it right I can get a bit disorganised like that sometimes . I often leave without actually knowing where I'm going and then get a little lost .

dandy That night out sounded great. I haven't had one of those in years either.

fi

singing Hope your head is better by now. Come back soon

Thanks HTH you're so kind with your lovely comments. I really don't feel worthy of them

The flyers are in. Should be in the book bags tonight and then we'll see how many turn up. Slightly nervous. I'll ask the bar we're going to install a pole for us. .

HtheH wow what a bombshell from your FIL. Quite how any wife gets over something like that after 40 years , I've no idea so much sympathy to your MIL. No wonder she is in bits. And your DH too.

singing looking forward to hearing how you managed to concuss yourself on the grill door. But obviously hope you are ok. Them grill doors. Nasty buggers.

fi PMSL but obviously for you.

R had session at nursery today. Without me. All good. I can't believe he starts proper like on Monday next week.

actually i have to confess i must be getting very blasé about bf in public as i was more embarrassed about the exposing my spare tyres than huge nork!!

belgina i've done stuff like that too.. well at least you got to know your area a bit better lol..

Hello all. I'm writing this with a very dizzy head from sleep deprivation. Sadly it isn't child-related but DH related because his snoring is really bad at the moment. It is driving me absolutely crazy and I nearly pushed him out of bed last night.

HtheH my father did a very similar thing but not with a woman from Holland but with a younger woman. We're nearly 5 years on now and he has re-married and despite the odd blip they seem very happy. My mother has her ups and downs and is mostly very hard work but was anyway if you see what I mean. Very generally though, now that the dust has settled I think they are both happier than they were before.

Dandy I am roffling indeed at your pole-dancing exploits. I was thinking about your book last night. I think the books I read as a teenager were some of the most memorable. I think there is something about the combination of exciting plots and the hormonal teen that makes young teen books some of the most exciting books around. Maybe they hit a bit harder? I don't know. I remember crying buckets over books I read as a teenager.

belgina yep, top midwife!

HTH I also meant to say last time that your FIL's news must have been a huge bombshell. It's the last thing one would expect of their parents. I must say I also think your FIL not wanting a divorce is very I can imagine your MIL being very upset. It must have turned her whole world upside down.

Oh, everyone stop it... I really don't see myself like you guys are seeing me

llare My dh can snore terribly too. I understand how you feel. He always gets angry when my attempts to make him stop wake him.

Talking about DH's. I'm going to have to have another little rant. When he gets home in a bit he'll hear about it too. Why o why does he have to open the fridge with dirty hands, put a glass of juice uncovered in the fridge door, of course making it spill all over the place when I open the fridge door, put left over pork from last night in the fridge uncovered and not on a plate, etc... I've told him all of this before and it's just not going in GRRRRR

Afternoon all,
Finally got A to sleep. Why oh why oh why will she not nap in her cot in the day? She is sleeping so well in there at night but no matter what I do she will not sleep in there in the day. We have progressed from rocking a pushchair to a stationary one but in the cot no! Grrr! Any tips you lovely ladies?

belg I did at your dentist trip, My DH is a bit like you will try to get somewhere without quite knowing where it is. I am completely the opposite and have to have printed out maps and things to hand

Fi at postman. A friend of mine was a postie and he had some hilarious stories of trying to deliver parcels to people in various states of undress.

HtheH I do feel for you and your family going through the aftermath of an affair. My Dad was found out having an affair with a younger woman while I was doing my finals at university and it devastated my Mum. It is only now, in the last year or so that she seems to have completely 'got over it' and the intervening period has been a bit of a rollercoaster. What I would say though is that my Mum has come out of it much stronger, healthier and happier than my Dad appears to be - he is still with the same woman and doesn't seem to be the happy man my brothers and I knew growing up at all. I hope whatever happens you and your family are ok.

Dandy I love the sound of that night out. Was also thinking about your book and the raunch factor - have just finished the twilight saga and the last book contains quite a lot of it (I was surprised), its not graphic but inferred. If you've not read them, it might be worth a look if you can manage them - I felt obliged to finish the series once I started, IMHO they are no works of literary genius, unlike your forthcoming publication of course

muddled have a hug/comradely pat on the shoulder. I know exactly how you feel re moving to a new area as well. I am quite shy in rl and find the whole meeting new people thing a bit difficult but have really tried to get out to mum and baby things to meet other mums. A friend of mine likened it to freshers week at uni or a first day of school where you have to meet as many people as possible before you find your new friends. I think thats v true.

llare has your DH tried those nasal strip thingies, I know they can work wonders for some people.

singinghin ouch! Although I am very intrigued as to how you did it!

Hi to everyone else!