Jan 2010 babies and mothers....come here to hibernate!

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New thread for us Jan 2010 mums. Will hopefully get busier as more of our little ones arrive!

Arrivals List
1st Dec - Missmarjoribanks - boy Thomas William Francis (33+4)
10th Dec - ClaireDB - girl Mira - 5lb 11.5oz (36+5)
11th Dec - Alibobins - boy Jacob, 6lbs 1oz (37weeks)
14th Dec - londonlottie - twin girls Juliet 6lb 1 and Eve 5lb 6 (35+5)
15 Dec - Whensmydayoff - girl Olivia - 6lb (36+6)
22 Dec - Liskey - girl Ellie - 5.5lbs
24 Dec - timmette/shinybaubles - boy Oliver - 7lb
25 Dec - Fakeplastictrees - boy Luke Edward
29 Dec - CantThinkofFunnyName - girl Olivia Iris - 6lbs 2 1/2oz
30 Dec - Liny - Nottinghamsire - girl Elise
1 Jan - TheMinnieBauble - boy Freddie - Weight TBC
2 Jan - nomorebboze - girl Megan - 5lbs 12oz
5 Jan - Fraochsmum - girl, name TBC - 6LBS 2oz
5 Jan - FlightofFancy - boy Edward - 6lb 14oz (37+3)
6 Jan - salvadory - girl Imogen
7 Jan - MistletoeKisses - boy Nicolas - 6lb 8oz
10 Jan- crumpette- boy 'babycrumpette'- 8lb 15 oz

Really behind at catching up. Glad your BP ok CTOFN, mine was ok-ish too at six week check this week.

I need to join fat club too please, I was 9st 3, size 10 when fell pregnant with DS, but was always trying to get back to 8 st 7, as I'm under 5ft, gained 4 stone in pregnancy but got back to 9stone 10ish and fit most but not all of my size 10 stuff.
Went up to same max weight with DD, 13 stone 2! Currently 11 stone 7, not sure what size, think 14-16, want to get down to 9 stone 7, and size 10 again so can fit my clothes, and need to fit size 12 bridesmaid dress by August. I'm doing Slimming World plan, not going to classes but did after DS so have all the books. You get to eat loads extra when exclusively breastfeeding on this diet Going to get latest mag for recipe ideas today.
Off to try and catch up if DD stays asleep for a bit longer.

Morning ladies - here's new list with Maygirl:

Monday 22/3
WMDO - 10st
CTFN - 10st 6lb (lost 2 lb last week)
Crumpette - 10st
Alibobbins - 13st 12lb
Newbeginnings - 13st 12lb
Fraochsmum - 9st 12lb
AlbiesVerySkinnyMummy - 8st
MissMarjorieBanks - WAITING FOR SCALES
Sockmonkey - 10st 12lb
Jardins - 13st 3lb
Mama2Moo - 15st 8lb
Somewhathorrified - 11st 6lb
Maygirl - 11st 7lb

Hello everyone!

Heaps of posts to catch up on. But one jumped out, Ali - Hope little Jacob and you are doing ok.

Have been manic for a few weeks; helping mum prepare to move house plus getting on with lots of spring cleaning, indoors and out (when the weather allows). Return to lots of talk about sex and weight loss!!

No action here post bub yet..DH and I have barely seen one another. He is flat out until the end of tax year and has been for the last 2 months. If we are lucky we see one another for 30 mins in the morning, but one of the boys is also nearly always up. Post Easter we need to plan some 'cosy time'.

Re. the diets, I am not actively going to start watching what I eat until I stop bfeeding. I know from DS1, that whatever I did - running etc did not help to shift any weight until I stopped bfeeding. Then it melted off. In comparison to this stage with DS1, I have an extra 8lbs to lose, which isnt much, so not remotely stressing about it. Last time, it was 9 months pretty much to the day when I hit my pre pregnancy weight. I will start really watching what I eat in another 3 months... . So will happily give my stats but will fall behind the rest of you methinks.

Current weight - 10st 7lbs...pre pregnancy weight was 9st...so have lost half the weight I gained, another 21 lbs to go! Goodness seems so much when typed out. But am 5ft 9, so even if I only lose another stone, will be happy with that!

Well done to all those with bubs sleeping through! Nico has dropped the 1am feed and sometimes sleeps to 4 or 5, sometimes wakes earlier. Is still fairly unpredictable. But he has started to suck his thumb so has started to resettle himself sometimes when he wakes. He is absolutely adorable and wouldnt rule out DC3, but not yet!

I'm still here

I took Jacob to the doctors and he said he could hear the murmer but he said its not very clear because of his wheezing and was more worried about that.

He seemed quite confident that it was due to the chest infection (which we now have stronger antibiotics for) and hopes that on monday it will be gone x x

I didn't really tell him how I feel as I'm rubbish talking about things like that in real life. I don't want anyone to think I can't cope
Thats the thing on the outside I manage to hide it and everyone says how great I look but on the inside I'm dying

Finding myself left hungry on weightwatchers but going to stick to it as I've signed up to the monthly pass x

Jacob is a really good baby (considering) at night he feeds about 7 then has a play till 8 then I take him up and he coo's himself to sleep then feeds again at 2/3 then up at 6 but doesn't feed till 7.30.
He won't take a dummy but sucks on his fist I tried to help him fing his thumb but he gags x x

wmdo glad the diary free helps

somewhat hope you and Tobin feel better soon

londonlottie hope the twins didn't keep you awake too much x

ctofn I knew you'd keep the list in order

I've expressed a bit for freezer back-up yangymac but not tried a bottle yet, like you not got the energy yet with looking after 2 DC. I have a breastflow bottle ready, which is the only one DS could manage. Must try soon.

I hope you're ok ali

Good the dairy-free diet working WMDO, my friend's DD had the same, different baby once she cut out dairy.

somewhat in pregnancy yoga we adopted different positions to access the different 'regions'! On all fours for front- wee bit, and all fours, resting on forearms with arse in the air for back passage and 'lover area' I think!!!

Well my DD had a better night last night, but I changed too many variables to know why! Was it the different night nappy, the swaddle, the fennel tea, awake more at 11pm so had a really good feed or the fact she melted down in the afternoon after being awake for too long so was shattered??!!!

X-posts ali, I'm sorry you're feeling so awful. I hope coming on here helps, and that you take the plunge and chat to a sympathetic doctor soon.
I'm the same, like everyone to think I'm fine, but then always feel better once I do let it all out.
My midwife must have guessed I'd be like that, she took it on herself to book me an appointment with her for this Monday to see how I am post birth. I feel loads better after seeing her, she had been to the hospital to read my notes so could answer any questions, she even gave me a kiss and a cuddle! Going to send her a gift and card as she has gone way beyond the call of duty.

I hope Jacob's chest clears up with the new meds, and that you feel better. Can you get out for a walk by yourself for a few minutes, somewhere away from anyone? I often do this after a bad day, and feels like a weight is lifted to be child free and in the fresh air for 20mins. I go to a big field nearby so if shed some tears it doesn't matter.

Hello All!!
Well, poor little DD was distraught at having injections screamed and cried on and off for the rest of the day. Gave her calpol which made her cry again, but she eventually settled. Hoping she will feel better today. Plenty of cuddles. She did wake extra in the night, as predicted, but I'll forgive her
ali - I think I know what you mean. Outwardly looking like the wonder-mum but inwardly thinking it's all a front and wishing you could scream that all is not well. If you are afraid to talk to doctor, how about HV? Maybe they will be able to help, even if it's just to talk. You have had an awful lot to deal with.

maygirl your midwife sounds wonderful think I would cry if someone was that nice too me x x

ALI your post merits a one-hand typed post.

I also like to put on a cheerful front and people come and tell me how happy and dynamic I am considering I've had a baby whereas I am thinking 'if you knew how much physical discomfort I am in/ how worried I am about such-and-such'.

Please go and chat to somebody; ANYBODY I am tempted to say. Everybody is allowed to be fragile and I am sure you'd want to listen to somebody else if they were going through a hard time. Things will get better Ali but in the meantime try and let the pressure off.

I really hope that didn't sound too 'know-it-all' .

I did cry loads ali, that's why I got kissed and cuddled! Feel loads better for venting though. I was really lucky with my midwife this time. She spent 4hrs with me at home while I laboured so wouldn't have to go to hospital too soon. I wish she could have come into hospital with me.
Please find someone to listen, it really does help so much xx

ali make life easier on yourself and dont ask why. dont be too hard...im sure you really are doing a fantastic job. as long as your little one feels loved things will get better in time. xx

ali Im not surprised you feel how you do.

I can only imagine that having a baby who arrives ill dents your confidence totally. Every infection since then will have dented it even more.

It sounds like your Doc is happy enough but you will be scared of whats going to happen next no matter what people tell you.

Im really not trying to say I know how you feel because I don't.

The only thing im liking it too is with my DS. I had very high risk PG, big bleeds where we thought we had lost him due to placenta previa. scanned fortnightly for lack of blood flow to the womb. There was countless things wrong and I convinced myself there would be something wrong with the baby when or if it arrived.

He then wouldn't wake up properly after c-section or feed for 6 days and then they announced I carried group B and to keep an eye on him for signs of infection. He then stopped breathing at 2 weeks and I was in hospital overnight and given a course on how to resusitate a baby (like a one hour thing).

I know it's not the same as all the actual infections and scares you've had, no where near it but I was so miserable and scared and trying to enjoy him.

I was nervous if anyone held him. I was so anxious I ground my back teeth very badly with nerves. He was 10 months old before I calmed down. There was a point I wouldn't go out either.

Don't put a face on. Tell friends and family how you feel or have a good chat on hear about it. A good cry wouldn't be a bad thing especially if there's someone near by for a cuddle.

Im looking forward to the day you can relax because I do know what the anxiety feels like but I also know it will come to an end and you will trust in his health. x

God - this thread can make you cry sometimes can't it? All you ladies are so lovely with words of comfort where it is needed - and all of us going through some similar and some altogether different experiences.

Let's hear it for the Jan 10 post natal group - hip hip hooray!

Ali everyone is thinking of you and there's some good advice here for you. I can't add any more - some others put it so much more eloquently.

ali - if i was a betting woman i would say that if you speak to someone nobody will think you can't cope. I'm sure in fact, like the rest of us do, that everyone will have so much respect and admiration for you with what you and Jacob are going through. You're still getting up in the mornings, looking after your children and giving them all the love you can so as a Mum you're absolutely doing your job over and above IMO.

If you find it difficult to talk to people face to face about things, why not write a letter to your DH or HV, someone that you trust. I would really recommend it and put in it everything you're feeling. You may not feel strong enough right now to give it to someone but the fact you've written it down might help and it's a 1st step.

Sorry for the extremely long ramble ali. I do just want you to know that if my DS was ever in the same position as Jacob i hope that I would find the same inner strength that you have because i think you're remarkable xx

Sob Sob Sob you guy's are too good
I feel better just writing it down on here thanks

Well on the plus side, if times get really tough for any of us we could always write cards for Hallmark.

wmdo I never knew you went through so much it must of been really scary especially the stopping breathing

Hi all, I bought some new scales for our Monday weigh ins - They made me 2lbs heavier in the space of 10 mins then my parents!! May have to take them back

londonlottie I too am wondering about stopping breast feeding. I lost over a stone in the first 2 weeks after having dd and now I cant budge from what I am now. I have given up the crap.

I do love breast feeding though but long to loose weight

I took babymoo to a Cranial Osteopath (sp!) today to try to sort out her flat head. It was very interesting and she even picked on things that happened during the labour that I forgot to tell her!! Hopefully it work and take the stress out of dds neck.

ali My sister has a heart murmur. It wasnt picked up until she was 15 years old because she kept fainting, they thought it was epilepsy to start with. She has a yearly check up now to make sure it is ok. I hope your ok, it sounds like Jacob is a fab little boy

Glad you're feeling better ali. Jacob sounds so sweet cooing himself to sleep. Despite all he's been through he obviously feels safe and secure in the world, and thats down to you

Free online diet thing I just found this and it looks really good. You log all of your details and what you eat etc.

Im not telling you what it said about my BMI

mama2moo and lottie, the slimming world diet works really well when breastfeeding, as you don't cut back too much and go into starvation-holding onto fat mode. I usually struggle to shift weight but was able to lose weight on this plan after DS, and actually felt better than when I wasn't dieting as eating so well. Can go classes, do online or just buy the magazine for a diet plan, I can tell you the extra portions required for BF if you like. Hope it works for me this time. Tesco has just delivered my new magazine and loads of food, timed for when DCs in bed

maygirl I will have a look now, thanks. I need something that isnt expensive and doesnt require leaving the house!!

wmdo...thank you he is a little corker! and it was one of the few days where i havent got a shroom head but thank you...made me feel a bit better about myself this morning!

Oh my! I have just decided to trudge from London to Nottinghamshire to go and look at a labradoodle puppy for my 11yr old son! TODAY! Am I completely mad? With M1 traffic will probably make it back by 10pm tonight. Oh well, DH now officially in charge of Olivia ...