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January 2009 - New year, new buns in various ovens and time for our not so little ones to turn one!

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SherryMerryLennipillar · 01/01/2010 00:56

Happy 2010 everyone! Cast your mind back to this time last year... [soppy]

Too much wine - excuse for thread title should it be shite rubbish when I read it tomorrow. Thought it was time to wave goodbye to the festive one, although perhaps we should have waited for epiphany?

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moosemama · 16/01/2010 22:39

Pat, sorry to hear about your bad back. Its incredible how many times a day you bend down and pick things up off the floor without thinking about it when you are a busy mum.

moosemama · 16/01/2010 22:40

Sorry for the triple post, but in the spirit of the 1 year olds celebration thread, here is my mammoth birth story as posted around this time last year:

By moosemama Thu 29-Jan-09 18:50:44
Ok right, my birth story. Short labour, but bet its the longest story!

As most of you know, I went in on Wednesday 14th (at 40 +12) for monitoring prior to being induced on the 15th.

Arrived lay down, was put on ctg and examined only to find the little darling had turned breech - again! We were also having trouble getting a reactive trace so was left on the machine for an hour. Was just being told I would have to have a section on Friday 16th, when the doctor popped out to speak to the consultant who happened to be on the postnatal ward next door and luckily he was experienced in ecv and willing to try and turn her there and then. DH and I went into panic mode as they said they would probably want to induce as soon as she turned if the ecv was successful, neither of us had our mobile phones, we had no cash between us and we hadn't arranged anyone to collect the boys from school!

Anyway, was taken to labour ward and injected with butyl(something) to relax my uterus, this was weird and made me quite shaky and a bit spacey. Then 15 minutes later the consultant came in and did the ecv. It hurt (a lot) but took less than 2 minutes and worked first time. Had an hours monitoring afterwards to make sure no foetal distress, and after drinking a jug of ice water baby finally woke up and gave them a suitable trace!

Fortunately they were too busy to induce me there and then and the consultant was happy for me to go home and come back in the morning. Cue a very uncomfortable night trying to stay as upright as possible to stop her from turning again before the morning.

Called the labour ward at 7.30 am and was told to make my way in. DH took boys to school first and we arrived at about 9.30am.

Again problems getting a reactive trace so left on the ctg for over an hour and a half until they were happy with her. First dose of prostin given at 11.45, cervix was still posterior and 2cm as it had been the previous Sunday.

MW (had two, as one was on her first day - both were lovely ladies) suggested going for a walk and getting some lunch and to come back at about 2.00.

DH and I went to hospital cafe and had a coffee and pannini then decided to walk into town (about a 10 minute walk) to pay in some cheques and buy something to read.

Started having the odd twinge on the walk back from town but nothing major.

Got back to the labour ward at 2.00 just before shift change and was put back onto the monitor. Again, not happy with the trace, but ate some chocolate and after half an hour she woke up (apparently just a sleepy baby - still is actually). Realised we'd left tens machine at home and DH raced off to get it as he reckoned he could be back in half an hour (he was thank god).

At about 3.45 started to have contractions which were very painful right away, then to cap it all a new shift started and I ended up with a mw who was constantly elsewhere! Was staying upright, leaning on wall or over bed, rocking, swaying etc etc (all the things that worked with DS2s labour) but nothing was working. Decided to put on tens but couldn't understand why none of the first setting levels were touching the pain, had to go straight to setting 2. Called MW who eventually came and offered me 2 codryamol, then disappeared again for what felt like ages! By now contractions were less than a minute apart, a minute long and really painful. At 4 MW came back gave me the pills and decided to examine me only to say no change and I would be given a second dose at 6.00. I nearly burst out crying on the spot - I was in agony and she was telling me the contractions were 'just prostin pain' and 'non-productive'. I couldn't believe it, having been through this twice before, I'd never experienced pain like it and normally have a very high pain threshold. Anyway, so she stuck me back on the ctg (which was great as it meant I was now stuck on my back on the bed) off she went again and that was the last I saw of her!

By this time I was starting to get out of my head with the pain, the tens machine was on the top level of second setting, still not touching the contractions and DH was telling me not to go to setting 3 as that was for the final stage and I wouldn't have any relief for when I got there. So I gave up on the tens figuring it wasn't working properly. (As it turns out, it was working - I should have been on setting 3.) From then on I coped by squeezing poor old DH's hand and a couple of times nearly biting his thumb but just managing to stop myself. blush My whole body was shaking violently (like you see when people are in shock) and I was hanging onto the metal headboard rungs of the bed and pulling myself up backwards with every contraction, as a result of this I pulled all the muscles in both upper arms which made it a bit difficult to hold Elizabeth at first.

A registrar turned up and told me that I was having too many contractions too close together and they needed to slow them down. She insisted I should have pethidine, but my Mum and Sister both reacted really badly to it so I tried to argue with her (during back to back agonising contractions!) and she walked off saying - "you need it I am going to draw it up".

At about 5.10 I felt really strong pressure in the rear and knew the baby was ready to come, told DH, tried calling MW (no response) so desperately tried not to push. Then at 5.25 the MW who was dealing with the lady in the other bed behind the curtain in the assessment room (poor poor lady, what she had to listen to from my side of the room) came in with a syringe, saying they'd got some butyl(something) (the stuff they used for the ecv to relax my uterus) to slow things down. My response - "Oh god you have to help me, they keep saying its just prostin pain but the baby's here I need to push" at which point she dropped the syringe and said "I better just check, you could well have progressed" then "yep, you're fully - push!".

Then all hell broke loose, the women in the next bed was scooted out of the room, 2 more MWs came in along with loads of equipment (resucitaire sp? etc).

Being off my head with pain I was insisting I shouldn't push because my waters hadn't gone and they were trying to tell me it didn't matter and I should just push and the waters would go. So a couple of good long pushes later I was told the waters were bulging ahead of her head then on the third push she shot out like a torpedo - amniotic sac intact, landed with a thud on the bed and the bag broke like a water bomb balloon!

The relief when she came out was huge and I felt instantly better and started chatting with the MW asking if I needed stitching etc and apologising for the mess I'd made of the bed (the bed resembled a massacre at the swimming baths!).

We were moved from the assessment room to a labour room and Elizabeth was put under a heat lamp as she had a v low temp (34 degrees). Her apgars were both 9 though so they weren't too worried about her.

Then it went crazy on the labour ward with wailing delivering women in every room and so we were left for 3 hours before I was stitched and could have a bath and Elizabeth was cleaned up and dressed.

Have to say the MW that delivered Elizabeth and stitched me up (took an hour to do the stitching and she kept saying she couldn't believe I didn't want G&A for the stitching just the local anaesthetic - well I did say I have a high pain threshold) was absolutely lovely. The MW I was supposed to be being looked after never came back and we didn't hear from her again.

Elizabeth was born at 5.35 pm and we were eventually taken up to the postnatal ward at 11.30 pm!

So there you have it:

4.00 pm cervix posterior and 2 cm
5.10 pm urge to push unbearable
next 15 minutes spent trying desperately not to push and to call for help
5.25 pm fully dilated
5.35 pm Elizabeth burst into the world in spectacular fashion!

Tens maching next to useless, contractions back to back and over a minute long almost from the word go and no pain relief such as G&A available as I wasn't in a labour room!

It was all quite shocking at the time, but at least it was over quickly.

Looking back the only bit that annoyed me (other than noone taking me seriously and obviously thinking I was just a wimp with pain) was the flipping disappearing MW who was sooo patronising as she told me I was just having prostin pains and had a long way to go etc etc. She implied I was just making a big fuss about nothing and as it happens - she was very wrong!

When we were in the labour room afterwards I was listening to all the yelling (and some swearing) coming from the other rooms and kept asking DH if I sounded that bad. He reckons I was nowhere near as bad as most of them. I was extremely relieved to hear this as all I can remember is yelling 'help me' at the end and moaning loudly through the contractions whilst worrying what everyone would think of me (I didn't make any noise in my other two labours).

By moosemama Thu 29-Jan-09 18:51:32
So do I win the prize for the longest birth story post then?! wink

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tinkluvssnow · 17/01/2010 09:01

morning

coming on here before i start getting hoover out and decs etc for party parents here from 11am
dh and dd1 @ her swimming lesson
dh chose a sofa yesterday finally getting a leather stone colourd one

mm - glad party went well - shame plans didnt go quite to plan!! - men!!

dog - hope u r feeling better

120cms · 17/01/2010 11:20

yay dog and lovely story moose

have a lovely party tink

H is one today!!!!! (party not til next week though. Can't believe it. A whole year.

I've been trying to work out why people in America keep dumping their shopping basket at the till on my website. Only to check today and it wasn't set up for US and Canada. What an idiot. Have just spent all morning fixing it. Grrr.

120 · 17/01/2010 11:32

I am not a number...

In the interests of paring all names down to the bare essentials, I have jumped on the bandwagon. Couldn't have four, so I thought I'd stick with the metric.

120 · 17/01/2010 11:32

Just a thought.. should I get pregnant again, I'd have to up the numbers!

120 · 17/01/2010 11:32

broody? me? noooooo

moosemama · 17/01/2010 11:59

HAPPY BIRTHDAY H!!!!

D0g, sorry you are so sick. Hope it passes quickly. Maybe its not a bug .......... maybe its twins .......... or triplets!

Did I read that right? Were you up at 3am. I could've kept you company if I'd known. Don't expect anyone else to be up in the middle of the night these days. I just couldn't sleep, had a terribly acid stomach and was just too hyped up after all the chaos and excitement, so got out of bed in the middle of the night and went back to bed at 8.00, then got up about an hour ago. Not that it was easy to catch some zeds with my crew careering around downstairs.

Hope party goes well Tink.

120 · 17/01/2010 14:01

lol at moose.

treedelivery · 17/01/2010 15:19

Party sounded brilliant Moose, although busy and hectic as they always are.

Hope you feel better soon DOG.

Happy Birthday H!!!!

Can't really read or type as my H has a cold and is throwing herself about my arms and hitting her head with phone. She is not amused today.

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treedelivery · 17/01/2010 16:16

OOO missed that, hope party was great Tink.

Get well soon Dog. Poor you!

Congratulations on the new baby Moose. Shame the people came and camped on your sofa, not what you need! I bet it all looked and was brilliant you know. I have decided to judge my parties on how much the guests enjoyed, not how I think it should have been.
I have had to, my wedding table flowers turned up as grecian bowls overflowing with slightly discoloured apples and orange carnations - instead of Georgian inspired plumptious fruits and white/green roses.

It takes a whole lotta self control to process that at your wedding reception!! Took me fecking year to decide on those table decorations as well, and the mock up I made was 1000 times better.

But I digress. I have the week coming to blitz house, do cake and generally fluff about with things to make it all go nicely.
Am attempting marshmallow icing to make the cake dairy free for H, I think it's only fair. I think it's going to look a blob though. A number 1 is a very tough shape to ice!

DH is back from the foerestry with dd1. Still heaps of snow up there. Have thrown passed dd2 to him and run upstairs to you see you all.

Ooo - mum is making mint gingham party bags and is actually cutting out and sewing on big blu or pink initials for each child. Gotta love my mum!

What are you doing to mark the day 120?

Was odd and lovely reading your birth story Moose. It feels like we were different people then. I read the thread a bit too, we sound different. I read the post where I came back after weeks away. It was desperate. It got no better either

treedelivery · 17/01/2010 16:19

I know it isn't my day, but good grief remember this?

By treedelivery Tue 10-Feb-09 12:47:40

Am crying so cant chat long or even apologise enough for my complete no show for 2 weeks.

Nothing actually the matter, but we have a colic baby and a baby that can't open her bowels, and a baby who will not be laid down or held flat, and a baby who only sleeps over your shoulder, a baby that screams so hard when handled for changing etc she is sick. Nipples have bled, boobs have nearly exploded several times, have had every midiwfe in area to visit, have every alternative therapy booked and all treatments ordered. Have spent about £200 on this madam's digestive system!! We get 4 hours sleep on average and never together.

So am exhausted, guilty, worried and miserable - at same time happy, delighted, in love. So, crazy loon then.

Just can't even talk about it, it's just too painfull and hard at the mo, but I promise to be back if you'll have me . Thinking about you all lots [hard when you dunno what some look like ] and wondering how the preggy ones are and hoping the mamas doing better than me!!

Was also remembering how baby Elk had to go back into hospital. What an unreal time it is when there is a new baby in the house.

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treedelivery · 17/01/2010 18:05

I had my head so far up my bottom I posted and never even realised you were in labout at the time!

Read your labour posts last night too.

moosemama · 17/01/2010 18:14

Ah, Tree I remember that. It was such a tough time, my heart went out to you.

I made buttercream using Pure non-dairy sunflower spread for my sister who is dairy intolerant. If you add enough icing you can still pipe it if you want to. Alternatively, use slightly less icing sugar and trowel it on with a palette knife.

at your wedding decorations. I would have been a blubbering wreck if that had happened to me.

Party plans sound gorgeous - I want to come

Unfortunately, I don't think the adults at our party did have a very good time (kids had a blast mind-you). Well at least not until they had fully fuelled themselved up with retro sweets, sugar and e numbers. We just weren't anywhere near ready when they arrived. I was frantically cooking/baking/cake decorating/making salad, dh was dressing dd (took him half an hour to put on a pinafore, top and tights fgs) and I was left on my own with a houseful of people, some of whom I barely know and running around so fast I couldn't stop to offer drinks to anyone as the baked potatoes still hadn't gone in when everyone arrived.

Dh and I have had stern words today, as he failed to offer anyone a drink even when he did come down. In the end I had to ask one of his friends if they would do the honours, as it was almost an hour and still noone had a drink. His excuse? "I was holding dd" wtf! Apparently that precluded him doing absolutely anything to help. His sole contribution to the party was chopping up the lasagne and putting it on plates and sticking some frozen garlic bread in the oven. Suffice it to say he has A LOT of making up to do. Cheeky so and so has gone and agreed I will arrange a joint 40th Zombie party with one of his mates in Feb next year as well!

Next party is ds1's on 10 April, but he keeps coming up with increasingly wild and fanciful ideas. Ds2 is 18 April and he wants a pirate party which is easy enough to do - thank goodness.

Dog, hope the bug is just a 24hr thing and you are feeling better asap.

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treedelivery · 17/01/2010 18:22

I have never even held a piping bag, so yay to splodging it on. I might try both and see how we go. A 1 is a very complicated shape though, so am thinking the buttercream is going to be more succesful. Did it taste ok Moose? Am worried about not using lovely lush butter you know?

Will be my first dairy free cake. I'm thinking of basically doing a huge muffin mix. Muffins usually use oil so that might work.

Party sounds stressy, I can well imagine. So hard to pretend to be the gracious host when you just want to cook the spuds. This is why being a party planner would be great, no pressure to actually be at the party. Could just hide in the back where the important stuff is - the food!

You did full on catering mrs! Hot food and everything. I'm doing a few blinis for the parents You are very welcome to come though

Any better dog?

moosemama · 17/01/2010 18:29

It tasted fine Tree. I always put a capful of vanilla essence in mine to jooj it up a bit, but it mainly tastes of icing sugar to be honest.

I use pure spread for baking generally, its so easy to mix as its nice a soft before you start. It always seems to produce lovely moist light cakes. I generally use a victoria sponge mix for birthday cakes and cupcakes.

Cooked the lasagnes last weekend and froze them though Tree, so should have been a peace of you-know-what! What held me up on the food front was the rainbow cake mix. Didn't factor in separating the cake mix into seven separate bowls, colouring it and putting it in the tin in the right order. Same for the rainbow birthday cake icing - seven bowls and seven piping bags. Still the cakes went down well, baked 60 cupcakes and there's only 6 gluten free ones left!

moosemama · 17/01/2010 18:30

Am just stuffing left over roasted veg lasagne and jacket spuds, yum!

treedelivery · 17/01/2010 18:48

WE DEMAND PICS!! Do you hear? DEMAND!

Am greatly encouraged on the cake front.

I don't own 7 bowls!

moosemama · 17/01/2010 19:02

Pics should be forthcoming on Monday when my sister comes round to do my niece's washing. She has the SD card that I need to download the pictures off. Would you believe our camera decided to start working again today, right after we finished disassembling the cake!

Fortunately I own 5 large white pasta bowls and 5 small white cereal bowls. Otherwise I would have had to use the dc's set of ikea plastic bowls, but I was worried they would get stained by the food colouring.

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