December 2009: for the sake of Auld Lang Sine

[LaDiDaDi]

Just thought that I would get this started before the ante-natal thread gets filled up, not that I've had much time to post since I had DS but others might be able to multi-task better than I can!

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Holly - yes, our babies were born on the same day, thanks for confirming how old DS will be on Wednesday, I'm beginning to lose track now!!

Claire - I also don't know anyone else in rl still ebf, it does feel a little lonely! The judgemental woman did make me angry as this parenting lark is not easy and nobody deserves to be looked down upon for their parenting choices, particularly feeding method, as that's often not strictly a 'choice' anyway! Anyway, I don't have to see her again, as she was travelling to the centre just to do the baby massage and it was the last session today

Lee - I'm with you on the laziness, that's another reason why I'm interested in doing BLW

I hope all the little ones having jabs today are ok. DS had his second lot last week and they weren't anywhere near as bad as the first lot (i.e. I didn't cry this time ), and he didn't even get much of a temperature

Hendo - sorry, I didn't mean to make anyone feel bad if they don't feel entirely comfortable bfing in public, if using a bf cover is what makes it possible for you to feed in public, then it's definitely a good thing to use FWIW, I don't mind bfing in front of complete strangers, but the one person I'm still uncomfortable in front of is my dad! Bless him, he is so desperate for it all to be normal though and he is obviously really supportive, but I just get so embarrassed! Luckily I've only seen him twice since the birth, will be interesting to see if I feel better when we go and visit in 3 weeks time!

Still EBF here. Luckily, am happy doing so as Catherine won't take a bottle at all!! Still trying her with one occasionally but she just refuses to suck on one. Getting her to sleep earlier in the evening is the only hope for my socail life now!!

Mother's Day sucked. At 5.30 DH got DS to bring me 3 (ouut of a pack of 4) cheap nasty cupcakes upon which he'd writen "Love you Mummy" in writing icing. No card, nothing by the kids - rubbish.

I would have forgiven him, only he'd gone out on Saturday especially to buy presents and came back with much better stuff for his Mum. She at least got posh cakes and jams from the Farm shop in the garden center. I got the cheapest rubbish Tesco's sell!!

When I asked him about it, he even had the nerve to say "Well you're not my Mum" and "You forgot Valentines day" - I had a tiny baby, a once-again-incontinent toddler and was so tired I lost track of the date! And i made him a card after he refused to let me go and buy a card and present when we went shopping that weekend together.

Haven't even made any dinner tonight cause I'm still so mad at him.

My dad used to leave the room when I bf ds1. Used to try & avoid feeding in front of any of my family as none of them bf & think it's weird. It's a miracle I even attempted it really.

ds2 got quite alarmingly excited about a teething sachet today. He was chomping away like it was a gourmet meal. Bought him all sorts of weaning paraphernalia the other day
so I'm ready when he is

LifeofKate, you didn't make me feel bad I promise - sorry if I made you think you had!!! I love my cover and have had lots of lovely comments about it, especially from the seniors which has made it a very positive experience.

Lee, I reckon the cushion would last quite a long time, they are quite big and definitely think it will last me until I stop feeding in public which I hope will be only once I go back to work and she is weaned!

Although am now worrying that I don't even know anything about weaning and think I should probably start reading up on it - any suggestions of good books/places for info anyone?

Hello everyone, im feeling like a stranger on here now its been so long since I posted!
Elizabeth is still pretty much straightforward, eats/sleeps/poos and wees.

Another complaint about mothers day here.
I had 2 vampire books thrown at me on friday when he got back from london.
He bought his mother a £20 debenhams vouchers and himself a fucking playstation 3!!!!!!!

Jabs were ok. I didn't cry but of course DD screamed as I expected but I nursed her in the waiting room afterward to settle her and she fell asleep. A couple of hours later she started to get a temperature and could not be settled so gave her some medicine, nursed her and she was out cold and has been since. Not sure what time I will expect her to wake in the night now - I will see how it goes. She was only in bed about 45 minutes before her usual time... so much better to have the appointments in the afternoon I think. Tillyscoutsmum - I hope yours went ok?

I need to get reading up on weaning too so along with hendo I'll take any advice.

Hi everyone

I think it's great to EBF if you can and it suits you and the babe - well done! I had to stop and it really suits me now to formula feed (for selfish reasons quite a lot , plus her mlk allergy obv), but it made me sad at the time! I just think you have to do what is best for you and the baby but I think it is such an achievement for those who manage to keep going as it is bloody hard!

Well, it's her operation tmrw evening so am feeling a bit apprehensive (esp about the no food from midday thing!) - have had so long to think about it and just want it over with now so we can get on with dealing with the waist to toe cast for 12 weeks...Sadly my husband can't have weds off as he has too much work and too many client meetings, which is sod's law and I feel fairly nervous but I think my father is coming over to help and "work from home" at our place!

Have bought some weaning stuff now and feel a bit sad - like she has grown up so quickly! But I haven't yet decided when to start - I was thinking 17.5 weeks but will just see how it goes with the cast etc and how she is generally...She has been sleeping well. I have been waking her at 10:30 for her last feed and she then goes until 8am. Perhaps she is getting ready to drop it!

kingsroadie - good luck for tomorrow. When ds1 had his op it wasn't anywhere near as bad as I was expecting.

I think the most important thing when weaning is to follow your babys reactions. ds1 loved every different taste I gave him so was dead easy. Going to start ds2 with fruit or veg puree mixed with baby rice & formula so it's not much thicker than milk. If he's happy with that will try a slightly thicker consistency. If he doesn't like it will give him a few weeks then try again. Going to start with his 11am bottle as that's when he's happiest & most alert. Have started putting him in his highchair for a bit so he's used to that rather than putting him in for first time then trying to shove a spoon in his mouth. I'll give him a bit of his bottle then try a few spoonfuls to see how he feels & finish with the rest of his bottle.

kingsroadie - good luck for tomorrow - what time is it? We will be thinking of you.

I have yet to buy a highchair - our house is so small we will have to start in the kitchen which is long and thin so the highchair will either block the door or the fridge... but it's the only room with a non-carpet floor just in case of spillage!

Time really has flown - I can't believe DD is 3 months old and weighing 12 pounds two weeks ago at 12 weeks - from 5 pounds 10 ozs at birth and now I am thinking of reading up on weaning.

Good luck for tomorrow Kingsroadie.

You're right BTW, I know plenty of women who have made themselves miserable by BF cause they think they ought to but hate it. I'm just lucky that I love BFing - for now. By the time DS was 6 months old I was desperate to have my body back and gratefully wapped him to FF.

You could try a mat Holly. Get a large plastic tablecloth and put it under the hughchair to catch the drips and protect the carpet?

Sorry, my typing is appauling today!

Kingsroadie_Hope all goes well for your DD op tomorrow.

HollyHo-If your kitchen is too small, just feed DD in the living room, they only start making mess when they try to feed themselves at around 9 months then you just put a large plastic mat underneath the high chair to catch any spills.
I found the Annabel Karmel book great for ideas for baby friendly recipes.

Thanks. You're right ... even our lounge is tiny but we do have a little table in there for the both of us. I think it's important that we eat with her - she will see us eating and she'll mimic etc. I'll get a cheapy shower curtain or something maybe!

Good luck for Persephone's op tomorrow, Kingsroadie.

I had a mixed Mother's Day. Initially very cross/upset because dp didn't get dd to give me my cards and wish me a happy day etc. Made me feel really sad and uncared for. I cried and told him how I just wanted to be made to feel special . He took dd out to buy some wine glasses as we were having both sets of parents for lunch and returned with a very generous gift card for Next. He is now forgiven but why can't they just think about how they would like to be treated?? Why do I have to get upset for him to make an effort?

On a different note, I went to a meet up today! Not quite sure who I met as I was rubbish at remembering posting names and rl names but still had a nice time.

I got very fed up bf dd, stopped entirely when she was just over 5 months iirc and like GS was grateful to get my body back. This time it's been going really well and I can't imagine stopping but I will stop for going back to work in Sept.

Holly - have you got a Dunelm near you at all ?? They do great plastic fabric which you can get for your table/the floor etc. It gets cut to size and is pretty cheap and there are lots of fabric choices so they can be kept on the table all the time without looking too hideous.

Jabs were ok. Ferg has the saddest sad face in the world - a real proper downturned mouth. Bless him

Will be thinking of you today Kingsroadie

I'm thinking of doing Baby Led Weaning this time round. I've just ordered a book off Amazon. Anyone else ?

Ladida - glad the meet up went well. I've been on a couple. Whereabouts are we all on here ?? There have been meet ups on my dd's birth board and people have come from Africa and France for them

Kingsroadie - hope the op goes well, I found the jabs hard enough, so can't imagine how you feel

Tillyscoutsmum - I'm also going to be doing BLW so a little longer to wait til I have to think about weaning just yet, but will probably order a book nearer the time

I've got lots more to say, but just needed to log in and vent about what a rubbish night I've had! DS normally fusses from about 4am. Last night, I put him down at 7 which was great (he's normally up with us until about 9.30pm) but that meant he shifted his fussiness to 1am!! So I managed to sleep from 10.30-1 and then 5.30-6.30 so am bloody miserable today!

Thank you so much everyone! Will let you know how it goes tmrw hopefully. Just waiting for time to pass until 4 when we go into hospital...

Sorry - all my posts are just me banging on about this sodding operation - DULL!

It's not dull! It's a massive thing to happen to such a small baby!

Will be thinking of you tomorrow

Kingsroadie - An op on a tiny baby is a big deal, definitely not dull.

Tillyscoutsmum - I'm in Germany

Spent most of today making a sodding St Patricks Day hat for ds1 for school tomorrow. I'm so rubbish at stuff like that. Can't believe how long it took.

Tillyscoutsmum - Thanks for the Dunelm suggestion - I checked out their website - there's one not too far away I might make a trip whilst I am borrowing my Dad's car. I am in Cambridge by the way.

Claire236 - I can't imagine having to make arty things... I am not very artistic, maybe will have to start practice sooner rather than later. Are you going to post a photo of your masterpiece?

A photo. Gulp. Not sure I'm brave enough. Google is great is you're artistically challenged like me. There's always someone out there who's had a good idea & explained exactly how to do it.

Hope everything's gone ok with Persephones op.

Kingsroadie..... thinking of you both!!! xxx

Lee 36.... Rugby hold when out is not easy but i get sat on a bench rather than a chair and put my changing bag under his bum then the cushion on my knee and we manage..... if there is a table in front we can sort of rest his head on the cushion on the table..... sounds hideous but is ok!!! I struggle with cradle hold as i suffocate him with my boobs!!

I have discovered a new hobby!
Suctioning the snot out of Elizabeths snotty little nose, it is bloody amazing how much of the stuff comes out.

Elizabeth goes to my childminder for the first proper time on Friday. From 11:30 till 6pm Will be a long time without her!! Trying to figure out if I should go out and actually do something or stay in, clean and wait nervously by the phone just incase!!

Hope little Persephone is doing ok.

As for weaning I think im going to go for BLW When talking to my sister about it last week she reminded me that I pretty much did BLW with Jake. I never made a concious desision to do it infact id never heard of it until I came on here! I just thought everybody gave their baby chunks of food to chew whilst they ate. He loved nothing more than strips of cheese with pasta!

Im in Nuneaton, which is a lovely [eyeroll] little place nestled inbetween Leicester and Birmingham!