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December 2009: for the sake of Auld Lang Sine

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LaDiDaDi · 29/12/2009 15:24

Just thought that I would get this started before the ante-natal thread gets filled up, not that I've had much time to post since I had DS but others might be able to multi-task better than I can!

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GoldenSnitch · 24/02/2010 15:43

Managed it last night To be honest though, after getting up once with DS and once with DD and then early with DS this morning, I'm now thinking it was a waste of good sleeping time!

Like LaDiDaDi though, I had a ELCS so no stitches where it counts to worry about. I get what you mean about sore though - definitely.

At the moment, the dark is my friend when it comes to feeling sexy. Still got a huge tum and my stretch marks are disgusting

sparklycheerymummy · 24/02/2010 20:31

i have a wobbly flappy belly and awful stretch marks both on my tummy and thighs. ;-(

Claire236 · 24/02/2010 20:51

We've done it a few times & it didn't hurt but I didn't have any stitches. Finding both the inclination & the opportunity are difficult for me. With ds2 not going to sleep until midnight I just want to go to sleep myself as my days are quite long enough & saying awake long enough to have sex seems less important than getting some much needed sleep. dh disagrees which is causing some friction between us.

anniebigpants · 24/02/2010 21:24

Claire-We use citric acid to descale our steam steriliser-available from the chemist.

Re doing the deed,im to say that we havent even attempted it since DS2 was born 13 weeks ago. I think ive lost my mojo and dont know when it will return, thankfully DH is very understanding.
I hate my body, i look like a melted wax work, my boobs are sagging towards my knees and i have a real apron hanging on my stomach I dont even recognise myself anymore.My lovely DH , bless him, says'You may not like your body anymore, but i think it is perfect as it has grew both our lovely boys'.

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AmazingBouncingFerret · 25/02/2010 07:45

I havent done it yet either! DH is starting to pant now though, bless him. Might arm myself with some wine and sexy new undies to try and get in the mood.

Tillyscoutsmum · 25/02/2010 09:18

We haven't done the full deed (10lb 5oz baby and loads of stitches have made me a bit wary ) but we have ...errrmmmm....... done some stuff which allows DH to ...errrmmmmm... well ... you know

Its definitely the tiredness and boob thing with me (and the fact that my tummy looks like its smuggling a Shar-pei puppy ).

BexJ78 · 25/02/2010 10:23

None here either, although actually, it is more from DH's lack of interest than mine. We've not since i was about 6 months pg...

I think he finds it hard to disassociate me with being a mum now, rather than his mrs. we have had a very frank discussion about it, but has not resulted in any progress
plus he sleeps in spare room during week so he can get a decent night's kip. hopefully will be better when she goes into the nursery in a couple of weeks...
everything is great apart from that, but it's starting to get me down a bit.

sparklycheerymummy · 25/02/2010 10:32

Ha ha till thats funny..... i have only done it once and didnt dare let him ermmmm do the nice bits to me or my boobs for fear of it being weird down there or squirting him in the eye. i just got on with the dead itself which was ok but not the same. he had started to get frustrated and i found he had been watching stuff and sorting himself out while he slept downstairs and i was upstairs with our baby..... he snores badly..... we had massive rows about the porn thing..... not opposed to it but it is a subject which carries a lot of baggage in our family (another long story) but i realised he had needs and i thought i fancied it but after i realised i was only doing it to please him and stop him looking elsewhere..... my ex started with porn then went onto having an affair while dd was under a year old! i had a 10lb 11ozs baby tilly so i was nervous too!! NOt many stitches but nervous due to a superficial tear from front to back..... only saved by the piles i had from going right through!!!

scared if i dont perform he will look for a less fat frumpy wobbly model who doesnt cry, get ratty, who puts on make up every day and takes time to look in the mirror.

sparklycheerymummy · 25/02/2010 10:34

ds went in his own room 2 nights ago due to out growing the moses basket and cot not fitting in our room! dp is now back in bed but the whole snoring thing will start up now unless he wears his cpap mask which blows air through his nostrils and SOUNDS LIKE A BLOODY HOOVER!!!

GoldenSnitch · 25/02/2010 12:32

Must show DH these last few posts. He seems to think he's hard done to because I've only given in to requests 3 times in the last 9 weeks!

Going on what you lot are saying, I'm almost a sex fiend by comparison

Finally got a picture of Catherine smiling but can't upload it to Mumsnet

Might put it on the facebook page instead...

Claire236 · 25/02/2010 13:43

Think I might show dh these posts too as he feels deprived having only done it 3 times in 12 weeks.

So much for the reflux issues being over. 3 days on the trot ds2 has thrown up what looks like gallons of milk. He's also fussing & crying with his bottles again. I really don't think I can go through all that again. I'm pinning my sanity on this just being a dodgy couple of days.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 25/02/2010 16:04

I think Ive finally become a proper mumsnetter now. Ive had a post deleted. Trouble I have no idea why because my email inbox was too full to receive the notification!

sparklycheerymummy · 25/02/2010 16:27

oh dear ABF!!!

on the subject of facebook..... did we ever get a group..... i thought i had joined something but never found it..... have we got a group on there or did we decide against it???

AmazingBouncingFerret · 25/02/2010 17:07

yeah there is a group not gto busy on there yet gthough.

excuse typing, tis one handed

GoldenSnitch · 25/02/2010 17:16

It's here sparkly

Ooh naughty ABF. Which thread were you on?

GoldenSnitch · 25/02/2010 17:18

Oops, you're there already

Tillyscoutsmum · 25/02/2010 18:39

I have just sent a request to join fb group (initials are JC was T)

Sparkly - I would find the porn thing hurtful as well but I also know DH needs to errrm relieve the pressure somehow so I would much rather be "helping" rather than him doing it secretively

I'm sure you don't need to worry about him finding someone else though. Frankly, any man that doesn't expect the mother of his children to be lacking in libido for a good few months post birth is a bit of an arse. Any man that strays because of it isn't worth having imho

AmazingBouncingFerret · 25/02/2010 19:01

Snitch it was the thread about that Dad off One Born Every Minute. I think I said something about if I ever saw him in the street I'd want to punch him in the face, Ive seen far worse comments left on threads on here but hey ho, someone mustnt of liked it!

Kingsroadie · 25/02/2010 19:47

Hi girls

Hope everyone is well! To jon in the sex discussion a little late - we have done it a few times (three maybe?) - mostly because I had a month lon period when I started the pill again - boring. And now on the last week of my next packet and it's back - hope my body will settle down next month.

It was a bit sore but not too bad - I had a small internal tear rather than perineal tearing. So I was worried it would hurt a lot. However, I can't let my husband do any "foreplay", as it seems to hurt (nails maybe?!) ...so it's okay once, it's, er, in but some of the stuff before is just skipped out which does make it seem a bit more impersonal which is a bit sad! But obv there are other things that can also be done but I quite want it to go back to normal now. He is so patient and isn't bothered at all, which is really nice, as we do other stuff quite a bit. Sorry for TMI!

Claire - sorry to hear about the reflux - Persephone is (despite being on non dairy formula and omeprazole for the acid) still puking all the time - she wears bibs constantly and is usually soaked by the end of the day - she sicks up what looks like completely undigested milk even three hours after a feed - how?! Not sure what to suggest re the sick - she still does it - apparently weaning helps which we can start at 17 1/2 weeks (according to my paediatric dietician friend). Re the pulling away and screaming - perhaps go to GP and ask about ranitadine? Didn't work for us but works for lots of people...

HollyHo · 25/02/2010 21:02

Hi
Sparkly mentioned her DS going to his own room - How many other babies have done the same yet? Not sure when I should be thinking of it? Had DD weighed today and at 11 weeks is amazingly 11 pounds 15 ounces - after being born at 5 pounds 10 ounces. She's looking fine for size in her moses basket still but her room is ready for her, she hasn't even been napping in there at all either - I feel the need to introduce her to it gradually? it's probably better for daytime naps in there anyway as I installed a blackout blind and it gets quite bright in our room. Maybe I will start her napping in there, IN her moses basket within her cot? to get used to it?

As for the sex thing... we've done it about 3 times too... (once before going back on contraception at the 6 weeks' check, silly, I know!, had to admit it to the GP, we both sat there going scarlet and feeling about 16 again! Haven't been on the pill though for years though, but seem to be doing ok on it so far fingers crossed.) Boobs do feel weird being heavier than ever before and leaking. With nipples and 'down there' being so linked and all...

Thanks for the FB link GS -have requested to join too.

DD slept for the longest stretch ever last night 7.45-1.45am. She woke ravenous! Made my eyes water with her suction! She of course needed changing, and she fed for a good half hour as opposed to a short dream feed... put her back down at 2.30am but then woke back up in her regular 2-2.30 hour gaps. Do feel like we're getting somewhere though. There's a lot to be said for her staying in with us for the forseeable at night - so much easier.

GoldenSnitch · 25/02/2010 21:19

I saw that one ABF - the one about not wanting to break your nails but he was worth punching. Didn't think that was bad. Most people seem to be saying the same!

I need to start putting Catherine up to nap in her room during the day I think. Unless we're out, she gets woken up by DS while sleeping in the lounge.

Intend to keep her in our room at night for as much of the first 6 months as possible though. Would be great if she was sleeping through before I move her. Her room is next to DS's so the faster I can hear her and feed her, the less likely she is to wake him up.

Kingsroadie · 25/02/2010 21:20

Hi - me again - can you tll I am bored? Husband out at a work dinner so am home alone (well, with the babe obv!)

Holly - I put mine in her own room at 8 weeks, well the night before she was 9 weeks actually. I put her in her moses basket in her cot but I had been putting her in there for naps in the day for a few days. I think introducing it gradually is the key. I moved her into her cot without moses basket a few days ago (at 12 weeks). She still fits in it easily but I thought I may as well! I also put her into the cot without basket for a few days worth of daytime naps.

Hope that helps...

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LaDiDaDi · 25/02/2010 23:29

I've not even tried or thought of trying to put ds down for a nap upstairs. Even in the day he feeds to sleep on me and then if he seems truly asleep rather than just milk drunk iyswim, I lie him on a beanbag.

In the evenings dd seems less upset at bedtime now that I make sure that she sees me change ds into a sleepsuit at the same time as she is getting into bed, lie on her bed to tell her bedtime stories whilst feeding ds then get her to give him a goodnight kiss saying "It's ds's bedtime now dd". I then actually nip downstairs with him as he generally takes another half hour or so of feeding before he'll go to sleep. Intend to keep him in our bedroom until he grows out of his moses basket.

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