December 2009: for the sake of Auld Lang Sine

[LaDiDaDi]

Just thought that I would get this started before the ante-natal thread gets filled up, not that I've had much time to post since I had DS but others might be able to multi-task better than I can!

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Forgot to say, whenever I feel like it's stressful I think of the mum at dd's nursery who has a girl in Yr 1, a 3 year old, a 2 year old and twins just a few weeks older than ds! Her mornings must be worse than mine!

Up since 4am - tired out & no hope of a rest.

I managed a bit more sleep last night and so managed to day three of our "normal" week and took DS to toddler group.

Was massively proud of myself for getting all three of us up, washed, dressed and fed in time to pop past the cash machine and get to toddler group on time!! DD slept and I got to play with DS and even spotted him before he could have an accident and so saved us from an upset.

He's a lot happier today as a result and so I am happier too

Will try to remember LaDiDaDi's lady at nursery too.. 5 kids! I'm sticking with 2!!

Pleased that you are having a better day GS. I managed not to suggest Mary Poppins but I had to role play being a small child for 2 hours!!! Thankfully dd is now watching TV whilst I mumsnet cook tea!

Ds slep until 5am before wanting a feed last night but I woke up with his snuffles at 3.30am and then had really sore boobs from then until 5.

When can you have a lie down Mybox??

Have take kids to schools & then pick them up - will try & rest during the day. dd was awake from 1.30 to 3 & then needed a quick bath at 4.00 then asleep at 5.15 & I had a lie in until 7.00 when it was get ready super quick.

Still struggling with DS here and still feeling like i've messed everything up.

Hope everyone else is feeling better.

Isnt this motherhood thing hard..... this is my second time and although i am loving baby i cant cope with anything else.... like dp being a pig..... cant see that we are gong to be together for the long haul sadly but really am trying hard!!!

Ds has been really snotty and snuffly for the past two nights so very little sleep here. Yesterday I managed to catch up with a nap when dd was at nursery but no such luck today and going out tonight!

GS, I'm struggling a bit with dd, it's not her behaviour that's the issue but my reaction to it. I'm finding that I'm completely overreacting and overchastising for very little. It's worst if ds is crying or if I'm feeling stressed. Yesterday we made scones together as she loves cooking but I spoilt it by getting cross with her when really it was just because I was stressing that ds would wake up and start crying before we had finished. Scones are nice though !

Had ds weighed today and he is 8lb 3.5oz so he has gained 2lb since birth, made me feel happy that bf is going well this time but guilty for how badly it went with dd.

Going to try some retail therapy this pm whilst dd is at pil's.

I hated dp by the last couple of weeks of pregnancy but things have been much better since ds was born, I think that he had been feeling much more anxious about it all than I had given him credit for. Does your dp know how you feel? The first year after a baby is meant to be the hardest time for relationships. I can see that our next issues will be holidays ie I want a holiday and dp hates them!

Just got back from taking DS to the doctors. It occurred to me last night (either a brainwave or wishful thinking!) that DS's wetting could also be a urine infection!

He's been going a lot more often than usual and hiding when he goes which makes me think it might be hurting. Plus, he's not mentioning anything so I wonder if he just doesn't get much notice and it smells really strong!

But it could smell strong cause I've been too tired/busy to remember to give him as many drinks as I usually do and he may be hiding cause he knows I'll get upset. DS says it hurts when I asked him but then he's not 3 yet - he'd say yes to martians being in his bedroom if I asked him!

Part of me is almost hoping that its an infection so I can cross weeing off my list of ways that he's reacted to Catherine. If the test comes back positive, he can have some antibiotics and the wetting should stop. Will have to wait and see...

I know what you mean about over-reacting LaDiDaDi, sometimes I think half od the problem is me. DS does one or two things in the morning and by then I am so would up and on edge that I snap at the tinyest thing or sulk with him which maes him worse! It's hard to be rational when you're tired.

Glad we're making you feel better Lee. It's awful but it does help to know others are struggling too

Got some of the things that I wanted at the shops; new jeggings (they're nice, honest), tights, foundation, mascara and a Yankee candle to soothe my stress away!

Was really cheered up by dp coming in at lunchtime with the perfume that I'd wanted for xmas and that he'd claimed nowhere stocked; he'd ordered it from Harrods for me and it's as lovely as I remembered. Had been v. disappointed not to have it on xmas day but really happy now .

Oh dear sounds like everyone having tough time.
Brodie is star baby still feeds every 3 hours though taking 4-5oz of formula
DD1 started big school and been relieved to get out of house even if its a school run!

I'm coping much better this time and thankfully don't feel depressed I'm really happy not posted on ages as I feel bad about it

I'm sorry that some of you have problem partners must make things so hard

On another subject what contraception is everyone using/started?

la di da - i'm loving jeggings!

madmissy - lost mojo is the contraception were using at the moment . We used condoms before but DH is tentatively talking about snip snip option...

ladida - also ventured down town and Boots No.7 doing 3 for 2 so stocked up on some 'protect and perfect' wonder cream for my haggared face .

Struggling here still too but reassured to know you are all out there in the trenches too. Benjamin was up either feeding/crying or just plain awake betwen 2 and 5am last night - just exhausting. He's taking both boobs at each feed, think he's going to be a big boy. Thankfully DH took DS1 to nursery as I couldn't physically get out of bed to have my shower. Didn't have one until my Mum came round to take us into town at 3pm .

Anyone elses lo's suffering from sticky eye? Ben has had it since birth but its not going away. Still wiping with cooled boiled water but wondered if there is anything else I could try? Had left message with HV and Boots Pharmacist just advised me to take him to docs...

Hi everyone,
Hope people having bad times are better and the good times contiue for those who are having them! Have been havng a tough time with her feeding the past few days. Reflux makes her scream when feeding and pull off the bottle and arch and cry and then take ages afterwards crying and wimpering. Have tried loads of formulas and have finally sort of settled on a combination of two mixed together...hmmm. Bit of a nightmare tbh - I just wish she would feed like a normal baby. I then feel bad as it's not her fault but I get annoyed with her eventually whe she is like this at every feed...We are going to go to a private paediatrician on our BUPA so we'll see what comes of it.

On the plus side she is generally very good at night - takes a couple of hours to settle in the evening - 6:30-8:30ish - on and off crying. She slept 20:45 - 00:45 last night, took 5oz and slept untl 06:15 which I was rather pleased with. And have been trying a bit of a routine and she has managed to keep to it really well today which was good. I think she needs a bit of a routine - just her character really.

Husbad working v long hours so I feel that he doesn't see her much (or me!) as he sometimes doesn't get back late and then has to work from home too. It makes me sad as I want him to see her but I still end up doing the main bulk of care at the weekend as in his words I am "better at it". Of course I am better at settling her - I am with her all the time, but I think sometimes he just needs to be left too it or she will get too attached to me and he won't get better at it. His paternity leave and xmas hls were 6 weeks so he was really good at it then but since he's been back at work he just hasn't seen her much! Nevermind, he will.

Have good weekends everyone and chin up. . Ladidadi - shopping is a fab idea cures all manner of ailments...!

Argh! Excuse typos... and I mean sometimes my husband doesn't get back UNTIL late.

kingsroadie - sorry you're still having such a tough time. Luckily the Gaviscon has worked wonders with ds2. Fingers crossed paed can help you.

I'm back on the mini pill until dh has the snip.

ds1 had birthday party after school today, another one tomorrow & going bowling Sunday so he should be totally exhausted for school Monday.

Had a rotten day following a good night and wondered if anyone could help. Ds really doesnt like being passed around..... he is a 'mummys' boy but i want to know is this a good thing or sign of something being wrong.

Also now he is sleeping longer at night can he be super hungry in day..... he wanted to feed continuosly today and cried even when latched on...... he then did a horrendous poo.... green ish..... first one like this and havent eaten anything bad so cant work him out!!! someone said theis could be due to stressing when feeding and taking in too much air.....????? HELP I FEEL FED UP XX

Lots of you seem to be having success in getting your babies to sleep at night - can you tell me what you are doing to achieve this? DS only sleeps for 90 minutes max at night; he can do longer during the day if he is being held or in the sling, but his night time sleeps are getting shorter, not longer (he could go 2 and a half hours in the first weeks, but it all deteriorated after the first growth spurt).

For the naps he's had this afternoon and early evening we have been keeping him sleeping in his Moses basket by rocking it when he makes noises, but we obviously can't do that at night. This week DS and I have mostly co-slept with him latched on to me, as it's the only way I have been able to sleep at all. I only get 20-30 minute bursts though, as he falls off the nipple and then grumbles, waking me up. I need to get a teeny bit of sleep - two hours uninterrupted would be bliss. So please, what do you do to get your babies sleeping at night?

Sparkly has he been constipated? i would imagine he will feed more in day if less in night.
green poo has been explained to be so much by so many different people

Covy perhaps star putting him for naps in his room or quiet? do you swaddle him? sounds like he is a baby that has comfort from sucking dd2 was... perhaps try a dummy? BF will be well established by now so no reason not to try?

I am a bit mean and he has a dummy....... if he is crying with eye open i feed him but if grumbling i plug him in and snuggle him back up. evening feed is upstairs and a bit more relaxed. He is 13l 6ozs now so because of his weight there is no reason for him to be fed so much apparently!! I didnt get this with dd for much longer so i think it is just luck of the draw.... he sleeps a lot less in the day though!!

not sure how much bf babies get consipated and what can i do if he is..... gripe water shut him up though!!

My make-up was No 7 too, I get the Stay Perfect? Foundation. Also got one of their mascaras but a bit annoyed as I picked up brown/black instead of black and it doesn't look right on me.

Went out last night for friend's birthday. Between 7pm and 11pm ds managed to drink all of the 220mls that I had expressed for him and was ravenous for more as soon as I came through the door! I was happy to oblige as my boobs were enormous and v. sore. Overnight I leaked loads of milk, all sheets etc are now in the wash, I've been in the shower and I reckon that the mattress topper will need throwing out unless I can work out how to wash and dry it in this weather .

i love my mac foundation its a life saver

tell you what No7 protect and perfect is super too i ran out of my tester and just brought some. i use the serum and night cream does wonders for someone with no sleep!