Nov 09 and we're feeling fine, feeding, burping, not enough sleeping - that's us!

[BeckyBendyLegs]

Just thought I'd better create a new thread.

Raggie how about a trip to Burford?

intersting discussion, let me join the rant.
I feel like it wouldn't be much of a difference to be on my own, at least during the week. If I am lucky my husband prepares breakfast and tidys up the kitchen, then he is off to work. When he comes home, Paula is already going to bed (or already in there). So he sometimes helps me with soothing her every 5 min. And he does the nappy change at 5 or 6 as she mostly poos at the early morning feed. And as yours, scarlotti, I have to tell him how I feel, what would be nice,... And he is always very understanding... and doesn't really change anything.
As Paula still doesn't like the bottle with EBM (we haven't tried since a while), I have to do all the feeding but I couldn't let him alone with her anyway (and sleep in the spare room to get some rest) as he would just not hear her. After her jabs, I woke up several times and checked her, while he slept happily, then he asked me in the morning if she had got any fever! And last night, he asked me how the night was, I told him the times when we had been awake (quite a few), and he said: And what have I been doing? [hmmm] I guess I can't blame him for sleeping well. And he always tells me to wake him up for nappy changes,... so I guess it is not too bad

I will catch up later on the posts. TOK I've been using dentinox for Ds's cradle cap. Started when I first spotted early signs of it and it's working a treat. Have been using olive oil on the eyebrows and peeling off the cradle cap when it gets soft. DS1 had it as well. I used olive oil to remove it, but at the time I had no idea there was shampoo available. It would have saved me a lot of time if I knew!

enjoy the babies as much as u can because i don't want to scare you but they turn into little horrors...ok prob just mine but after a whole door indoors with both..never again..didn't think winter baby would be suck a nightmare...with a tantruming 2 nearly 3 year old i am ready to ring the adoption agency...laugs its a very big sign of relief, the days when its just me and baby i love, i didn't realise how easy babies were until i had a toddler!!

also realise why can't get DD2 to have bottles...and its starting to scare me as I have a party friday week and i really want to go enjoy have a few drinks etc..but anyway she can't suck!! experienced dummy friend tried with dummy but no joy then put her finger in and said of course all babies take fingers but no its like she doesn't know how to suck...how can i teach her?!?

does your DH sometimes asked the stupidest questions?? one random example.. can you get DD her dinner...his reply "which DD?"..let me think the 3 year old or the baby with no teeth...

sigh friday nite..used be wine now..now its what time before midnight will DD2 go to sleep...ok enough self pity have a good w/e..

Ex p made my life hell with ds1. Makes me realise how good I have it now with DP.

scarlotti I'll be a bit more quick thinking next time, promise. We have a few friends in Brighton, so go there a bit. Enjoy your evening!

scarlotti you have summed it up exactly for me. I have tried to word it in my head what upsets me so much about asking for help, asking for something to be done to alleviate the pressure ie in the middle of the night, or that one thoughtful word. You have hit the nail on the head. I really hope your DH gets his head of out his arse and starts supporting you a bit.

It's so reassuring to have you all at the end of my keyboard so nice to know I'm not alone with the way I feel and that my Dh is just as crap misunderstood as everyone else's!!
Friend couldn't come over tonight as ... wait for it ... her exP asked her DS (2) if he wanted to go to Daddy's, her DS said no (his favourite word these days) so he didn't take him! These men.
So we've had a virtual evening instead, on the phone. Feel a lot better as she's very good at giving me perspective on the situation and getting me to see things more realistically. I have a tendency to think in extremes (i.e. I'm feeling blue, so my marriage must be on the rocks )

pav I inherited that way of thinking from my Mum. Think I will tell DH the dilemma tomorrow and see what he does with the information. I shall report back

sleepless yes please to the pump. You need to let me know how much you want for it and how to get the money to you - are you in the fb group? Might be easier to email via that maybe?

Well, am heading off to bed now. Had half a glass of wine and am quite tiddly - what a lightweight!!

weston nursery was closed for 3 days the week of the snow. I was ready to sell DS1(4).

Have you tried tommee tippee closer to nature bottles? the teat is the most natural nipple shaped one I've seen - we use them and DS2 has no problem switching between the two. I can send you a bottle to try if you like as I have plenty?

Sorry to hear about the unsupportive DPs! I don't know what I'd do without mine...

I'm currently mourning the loss of my pregnancy hair. It was really quite fabulous for a few months. Now it's returned to its usual greasy, straw-like texture. Good-bye, new mum glow.

Scarlotti Glad to hear your feel a lot better about DH. Hope you manage to have a talk about things and clear the air.

long I was going to ask the question about hair loss. Mine (touch wood!)doesn't seem so bad this time around - well not just yet. I'm wondering if bf is helping me keep more hair - anyone?

Also, I picked up my mini pill contraceptive from the chemist yesterday. I did the worst thing and googled it and read some terrible reviews. I'm now worried about going on it. Generally I feel well and hormonally balanced, the only time I feel rubbish is when I haven't slept. So, I'm staying clear of the pill until I have finished bf and will use other forms of protection. Just out of interest, anybody on the pill yet?

Fruit thanks, am sure we'll be fine.

We are using condoms (on the rare occasions I've got the energy!) and will carry on until I go for my tubes bring tied.
I didn't want any hormonal form of contraception as I had problems when using the mirena coil previously as am quite sensitive to hormonal changes.
I'm really pleased that this time (after being pg) I feel really good most of the time and really don't want anything messing with that. The synthetic progesterone in the coil really did me no favours at all.

It's obviously different for everyone but that's my choice above and I'm quite happy with it. Dh doesn't want the snip and I'm quite happy to have the op instead. I certainly don't wany any more children - 3 is enough for me!!

thanks a mil scarlotti but have some- in fact have some of every kind but none work!

i know nursery better be open next week!

weston do you try dh/p giving the bottle so lo can't smell your milk? Hope you manage to crack it.

Hi all,

Funny how some of you mentioned hair loss, just this morning as I was washing my hair, loads of it fell out! I remember this happening last time after having ds and my hair line getting thinner for a while, it was not a good look! Oh joy that it is happening again!

Going out tonight for the first time since having Millie, yippee! Am hoping she takes the bottle of ebm, haven't tried her on a bottle yet so hopefully the grandparents won't have any trouble! I'm working on the basis that if she is hungry enough she'll take it and if not I won't be far away and can always come home early to feed her.

Me and dh still haven't had sex! Millie is nearly 11 weeks so I really feel like we should have done it by now. I'm a bit nervous though and to be honest, not sure when we'd find the time! Mmm maybe a few glasses of wine tonight will put me in the mood! would it be bad to have sex with Millie in our room?

Better go, screaming baby to deal with! Hope you all have a lovely weekend...

Hi Guys

Haven't been on for a few days. Been a ROUGH few days to say the least. Basically, HV and doctor think I have mild PND / anxiety and I've been sorting out my head with the help of my lovely mum who came for a week this week and fantastic DH. Sleep in the main issue at the moment but sorthing that out slowly (been forced to take sleeping pills by HV but going alternative methods to help with help of hypnotherapy from mum). Basically I think this has happened to me because they think I might have had it really mildly with DS1 and 2 and also because after DS2 was born I was desperate for a third and it took 2 years plus one MC to get him and then he finally arrived and WHAM shock. I'm not taking ADs and everyone is happy for me to go the non-AD route. It wont be easy but just not happy with how they made me feel.

Anyway, thought I'd give you an update. Toby is now 9 weeks and lovely and smiley. Had his jabs last week. Sleeps through the night (ie no feeds) but does niggle a bit in early hours. Bloody hell, I hear you all cry, lucky you and you can't sleep???? Irony is a funny thing!

Better go anyway, I do read all your posts every day and hope you are all well xxx and your little ones xxx.

Good to hear from you BBL It's great to know you have lots of support from mum and DH, and a strategy going forward. Keep enjoying that lovely little boy!

hope you feel better soon BBL x

yes tried all that scarlotti, never believed people when they said baby wouldn't take bottles but have a real one here!

Weston i had the issue with DD1 ..the only way she sucked was when I wasn't in the house..wierd i know but try it..

Scarlotti Hope issues with DH are ironed out..they can be a nightmare I know..
Have a question re the coil..I've been on the pill since my 20s but would like to try the coil..whats the advice?? Also am happy to send you the pump? Am happy to sell it to you for the ongoing ebay rate..lets chat on FB.

BBL so pleased that you are feeling better and on the road to sleep..Toby is a real star for his mummy.

sleepless great, have a look on ebay and let me know via fb how much you want. I can send to you via paypal if that's easy for you.

BBL glad to hear you're getting the support you need. Good that you've made the decision that's right for you re the AD's, and well done to Toby for being a good boy for his mummy when she needs it the most.

Dh slept in until 11:30 today and only got up then as I kicked him out of bed. He's no use for anything as is hungover so I've sent him to the supermarket anyway as am buggered if I'm doing everything solo so he can nurse a self inflicted sore head/body.

Sigh. Am I being naive to think that as a father of 3, one of whom is 10 wks old, he should pace himself a bit on a night out so that he's able to get up at a reasonable hour and be fit to help out?
I have no problem with him going out, and if he wants to get ratted that's his call but I do expect him to be fit for family life the next day. This is his 3rd boozy night out since Ioan's been born and he's not even 3 months old yet.

Cheesed off would be an understatement

Helips Have a lovely time tonight! I think I'm in need of a good night out. But with these 4am wake ups I won't be able to keep my eyes open.. Hope all goes well with the bottle tonight Also, no bedroom action here either. Must try and make a move on DH. I think he's too scared to make any advances whilst I'm feeling sleep deprived.

BBL I'm glad you have a bit more support around you. Good boy Toby!!

scarlotti I agree with you, he should realise that he needs to be able to be up with you to help the kids. therefore not having as much to drink if it means he knows he wont be able to. its not fair on you otherwise.

Trikken thanks.

sleepless have fb'd you. Also re the coil, there is the copper one and the mirena one. The mirena has progesterone in it so works by hormone and also by being in your uterus so a double safety net. Your periods can also stop with this one so another bonus. Some people find they get affected by the release of the hormone but it affects individuals differently.

Weston Hedy wouldn't take a bottle until I was out of the house and nowhere near. Killed two birds with one stone by having quality time with ds for a couple of hours out of the house, leaving H to wake up from her morning nap with only daddy and a bottle of ebm for comfort. She resisted until she was too hungry to say no anymore. Felt horrid at the time but both things had to be done: ds was being a nightmare and H was needing to take a bottle as I was scared I would never be able to leave her side!

Scarlotti drives me potty if dh drinks too much on a night out. He very rarely does though, but it's just the feeling of being left to fend alone should anything happen in the night, and the hangover the next day too. Grr!

Helips and Fruit you are not the only ones Main problem here is time, plus me being in a permanent state of mild irritation with everything, but especially dh! At least he's moved back into the bedroom and is no longer in exile on the futon

Recommend Big Scream style showings at the pictures if you have them near you- seen Nowhere Boy and Nine over the past two weeks and it's been such a treat. Nine was packed but the babies were all really quiet- seduced by the dim lighting I think.

I lost 3lb last week, hurrah! (That's three down, 28lb to go ) I am allowed 28 points on Weightwatchers, it's very luxurious but I think that in the run up to xmas I must have been packing in about 60 points a day- mince pies, vol au vents, cheese straws and mountains of Quality Street!

My head is in a muddle about the future- stay in teaching or do something else? Apply for jobs now or later? Full time or part time?? It's daunting. Need two decent wages just to stay afloat and (meagre) savings are being eaten away daily. But it's soooooo frustrating as I want to be here just for Hedy and enjoy this precious time, yet I can't stop thinking about what next..

bbl Good to hear from you and great to know that you've a plan to feel better!

wook well done on the 3lb i've been quite good of late and i've only got about 6llb to my prepregnancy weight but as my lovely dp points out i had a good few points to loose then. I must find time to work out the points in what i eat and restart the WW program.

Today went to town to get ID photos of dc. What a faff! Fell out with dp on te way so was feeling wound up and when the woman in the photo shop said "we don't do babies they're too difficult" i just snapped at her. I never snap at people ( as i'm ultra shy) but was really fed up and guess what suddenly she said "well we could try" and as LO is as good as gold i got the stupid photo!!Yeah! I'll have to try snapping at people more often

Oh and on the pill front my gyne gave me a prescription when I was still pregnant!! Maybe he thinks i couldn't cope with Find it as i've not taken the pill for about 10yearsbut no side effects!

maman2tom how charming of dp!!

Forgot to say, like you Laugs I was wondering waht happened to antenatal posters, eg Kyte, Broodzilla...