May09 - Christmas is on it's way and Grumpycaaa is comin' to town!!

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Hope that works!

Cocktail anyone?!

Hello everyone!
Thanks for all your kind words and thoughts - it helps to know that even though she was "just a dog" it is right to feel a loss.
Starting to come to terms with it but it's poor Lucy (other dog) that now realises that Jessie's not coming back. When DH got back from the vet yesterday she got all excited as she could smell Jessie on him. When Jessie didn't appear, I think she realised and has been a bit quiet ever since.

Anyway....

Belgina - Happy Birthday!! Hope you have a lovely evening and celebrate with a drink (or two!)

Febes - great news about CM course!

Jael - glad you had a good Christmas but that is rubbish about the damp still not being sorted.

Momi - yay for H pulling herself up!
O hasn't done that yet but he keeps doing headstands in an attempt to stand.

Tummum - yes, cut yourself some slack woman!!

LadyH - Nooooo! Not more snow!!
How did DS's friend coming round go?
Hope you have a better night tonight.

Flippin - hope you've managed to find a solution or reconcile to taking A

Happy Birthday Belgina!

Thanks all for your thoughts. I will find a way...actually, I might have already found a way! I had lunch with my lovely friend today and she knows what's going on right now and is a great help as she's been through something similar. Anyway, she has said that she would be able to have A if the CM has DD1, or even better, if her DH is around (he works odd shifts) they'd be able to have both girls for me. It'd work really well as the girls are really comfortable with her, her DH and her daughters, and they only live round the corner from my drs so it wouldn't be hours I'd have to leave the girls. It's not all sorted yet, but I am feeling a lot more positive.

And even better, I had a message on the answer machine from DH this morning (time differences have made it difficult to talk) and there's a very good chance he'll be home Sunday instead of Tuesday!

Bugger...A just woken. Back later.

flippin- glad to hear you look like you have someone to have A so you can have your counselling .

jael- is there anything you can do about your rubbish landlord? could you push for a rent rebate as you have one bedroom which has been uninhabitable for weeks? might be worth a visit to CAB?

tummum - hope you are feeling a bit more positive. I have been horrible shouty mum lately and a bit worried about it and my relationship with the DCs. I think it was due to not having any time to myself for the 2 weeks over Christmas, and then on Tuesday when DH/DD/DS1 should have been back at work/school/nursery they all came home. I felt so much better after my "free day" on Wednesday and would recommend it to anyone who can manage it . Also i feel better after a decent sleep- i had a solid 6 hours from 11.30 to 5.30 last night which was amazing.

S is on the brink of crawling (not sure i'm really ready for it) but is getting very frustrated when he goes backwards or can't support his body weight. He is also very clingy too, and bursts into tears very easily and for no obvious reason. Not ideal when he is starting nursery 3 days a week in a week or so .

flippin So glad to see that there's a solution on the way. I hope you get to see the counsellor v. soon (weather permitting of course)

pula clinginess going on here too. I only need to walk towards the door and she bursts out in tears. I end up carrying her around everywhere and prepared dinner tonight with her on my back, lol. Fingers crossed she'll be a little past the clingy stage by March

pula, glad you and belgina posted about clinginess. H was a nightmare this afternoon. I couldn't put her down without her bursting into tears, ended up screaming. but I HAD to get supper together and couldn't do so without putting her down. the crying really got to me and to the other dD's. think it exacerbated their tantrums which exacerbated my grumpiness. i shouted a lot tonight .

think she's teething as well. she didn't eat much tonight, just screamed. had a good BF before sleeping and dropped off happily. Crying is so stressful though, isn't it?

off to bed, good night!

Talking about crying. Do you also find that DH's can seem to easily ignore crying, while I get all stressed by it the second it starts.

Righ, bed time now. Will attempt another bottle dreamfeed, just to get into the habit now as the thing that we had to go to tomorrow has been cancelled due to the weather anyway. Only the 1st one was successful so far all the others she didn't take

Morning everyone,

C was up early for her doing: 6am! Normally she goes back to sleep and she's clearly tired, but she's clearly more interested in playing and babbling, so I've given up and have taken her downstairs.

DH came home at 6 after working a night and said the snow was quite deep at the back. I was like, yeah yeah, I know. But then when I got up I was It looks like it's almost doubled overnight and there is almost no trace where ds and I got snow for yesterday's snowman.

flippin Forgot to say yesterday: fingers crossed that you DH can be home tomorrow

Morning!!
Bitterly cold today. I'm getting cabin fever but R is still poorly and there is so much ice on our footpaths I don't want to go out and slip.

We had a successful night last night. We put DD into her big girls bed for the first time and they shared a room. DD fell asleep while I was feeding R on the bedroom floor and she slept until just before 7am!! R woke at 9.30pm and fed and was back in the cot at 10and then woke at 5am!!!! He fed and then went back in the cot and woke at 7. Of course I was awake from 3 until 4am .

morning

sorry not made it on for a few days.. with ds being off pre school due to snow and G crawling around it's been hard to get on in the day.. then as dh has been feeling better i've actually had some company in the evenings!

i have been lurking though

so.. flippin if you were close to me i'd have had them both for you.. but glad you might have a solution

started writing this at 8.30am! sainsburys have just delivered! yay maybe I can finish it now and actually hit post!

belgina is it still snowing? more heavy stuff is forecast for you over weekend isn't it?

sorry about not name checking everyone & hiya grumpy i was thinking of you earlier .. just wondering how you're enjoying being back at home

Hi grumpy I was also thinking of you earlier How are you feeling now you're back in the UK and with DH?

fi Still snowing here. The forecast for our area is snow all day. At the moment it's coming down heavily. We had about 2" overnight on top of what we already had. I wonder how much we'll have by the end of the weekend. I'm going to cancel dd1's b'day party tomorrow because I haven't been able to get supplies in all week and tomorrow is supposed to be just as bad. The ball DH and I were supposed to go to tonight is cancelled too, just as well, because I haven't cracked the sleeping thing with C yet at all. Maybe all this snow is the answer to my worries about going. You know, god sending all this white stuff so we can't go

C just didn't want to go to down for a nap earlier and DH is asleep in the bedroom, so I took her for a walk on my back in the snow. It worked a treat and now she's fast asleep in bed with DH. Ds finally had the snowball fight with me he'd been asking for all week and I took loads more pics of the snow. I've got a little project going: I'm taking pics of the same thing every day to compare the amount of snow that's on there

belgina I don't want to go out tonight. I want to stay home and have cosy evening. DH demurred, "I've already paid for it" quoth he.

Hurrumph hurrumph

DD1 had a friend over last night, so many females in my house! So much eating being done.

Mum phoned (apparently she phoned yesterday, but DH hadn't passed on message) and 5 min into the call I can her banging from upstairs. So I ignore, more banging, ignore then DH Shouting 'Belgina, didn't you hear me!!!!' Errrmmm no I don't answer to banging I thought it was the neighbours TBH. Apparently C had woken from her nap and he wanted me to come and fetch her. Grrr men.... I know he's tired and worked all night, but really, banging??

grumpy What's the snow like there? Shall I send some over to make it too dangerous to go out? Shall I pretend to be the place you're going to and phone your DH to say they're closed due to the weather

ooo ooo ooo & we had a call from the estate agents yesterday & our viewer last monday LOVES our flat!!! he's going through a divorce atm.. the divorce split money will be sorted next friday and then he's planning on putting in an offer so keep your fingers crossed as this sounds very hopeful! just got to hope that his offer is acceptable to us..

grumpy it may be a pita getting ready but i'm sure you be ok when you get there and may even enjoy it after all?

grumpy, I'm actually stalking you.

grumpy, I think Fi would be right: you'll be happy you went out once you are out.

Fi, fingers crosed about your flat.

Belgina, at the banging. what does he think you are, a servant?

Febes, well done on the sleeping front and great news about DD in a Big Bed!

gotta go. mini break over and time to clear up lunch dishes. at least inlaws are here looking after dd1&2 so they don't drive me further to insanity.

i've been getting minor, occasional chest pains for the last month, been to the GP who isn't concerned. now I'm wondering, is the pain stemming from stress, ie. being worked up to screaming point by the crying/whingeing/mmuuuummmmmeeeeeeeeeeeeee?? that is constantly the background soundtrack to my current life. does this sound familiar to anyone? (i bet it does)

momino I know exactly where you're coming from.. on the crying screaming whinge.. ds can also do endless 'whyee mummee?' 'but whyee?!' ds asks again & so it goes on and on and on and on

sorry to hear about chest pains I suppose they could be stress.. or trapped wind? glad the doc wasn't concerned though or you'd have us all worried! what about wearing a pulse monitor on your wrist and see what's happening to your heart rate when stressed?

Hi everyone

I've kind of caught up...

Happy birthday for yesterday, Belgina Ses I am so, so sorry to hear about Jessie. Lots of unMNy hugs.

Fi great news about your viewer. Fingers crossed...

It's been a fairly sh1t start to the New Year in the Bee household. I returned to work on Monday and was put at risk of redundancy on the same day.

Not sure whether they can do it as it's against company policy plus could be seen to be unlawful. Have got another 3 interviews lined up in the company now so not as bad as it seemed on Monday when I had dropped F off at nursery (braving the -9 temperatures) and spent 6 hours trying to log in, only to be told that the role they'd earmarked for me hadn't been approved for funding.... I was in pieces; it was bad enough leaving poor F but for nothing??!!! Bastards!

Plus our bathroom loo waste pipe seems to have frozen and the toilet is blocked and unusable. Thank god for having a downstairs bathroom. No point in getting a plumber until the thaw.

Plus the farm dog across the road attacked our lurcher this morning - fortunately only bit him on the leg but still involved an emergency vet's appt.

And F's sleeping and eating are both wildly variable, sigh. 70% of the time great, 30% shocking.

And we've only been able to get our car out 3 days since 20th Dec due to snow and ice. We've been relying on my M&D and their 4WD. It's driving (geddit?!) me mad...

me me me rant over!

Nice to see you all by the way, I've missed you!

and Momi, sorry to hear about your chest pain. no advice though.

I'm so stressed that my face hurts. really aches.

wine ahoy...

Reebee Stressful time. Glad you are having wine. I'll have one for you .

Well my babies are both asleep in the same room again. I put them to bed on my own too as DH was tiling our conservatory. DD was awake still and R was half crying when I left the room but they were both quiet within 3 mins so hope we have anothet good night.

We went out for a drive today in Surrey to see all the lovely snow. It was good to get out. We called in to Tescos on the way home and it was so crowded and hectic I regretted it but at least we are stocked up for the week.

I got a breadmaker for my birthday in december and I have really been enjoying making (and eating ) bread everyday. I just made Bara brinth the welsh bread and it smells amazing so might have to tuck in soon.

Momi I have been a shouty mum lately too . DD keeps spitting out food and/or throwing food on the ground and it is doing my head in. I hope your chest pain is nothing sinister.

Belgina at your DH and his knocking.

reebee What a stressfull week you've had. Hopefully work will come up with something better for you. It really is the last thing you want when you've already got the stress of leaving a baby behind with you.

snow We've got tuns now and it's still coming down. I went for a walk on my own earlier in the snow. I really really enjoyed it. It was so beautiful, cold, but beautiful. I think I was probably the only adult outside with a big grin on her face being out in the snow just for fun

We're properly snowed in now, so DH can't go out to work today. So the plan is to watch a film or something I think.

Hope you're all enjoying your evenings too. Especially you grumpy

hmmmm wonder if Grumpy is out on the town?

Reebee Your experience with work sounds awful- I hope that is gets sorted out quickly

Febes is Bara Brinth fruity? If it's the bread I'm thinking of then YUM!

Momi teething here too- you can see 'em under his gums. He is very fond of cold cucumber sticks at the mo

Belgina glad C enjoyed the dippers and lol at DH's banging

J is crawling forwards he seem very happy to be out of reverse gear and is enjoying causing mayhem, we went into town this afternoon just so we could strap him in the pushchair for a bit- needed a break from removing him from various hazards around the room, we need to babyproof and fast

Hi!

Grumpy - hope you're having a lovely evening and feel pleased to have made the effort.

Belgina - was looking at your piccies on FB and realised I know your village! My grandparents used to live in Bethersden which is near you I think?
Your piccies are lovely btw

ReeBee - that is awful about work! What a welcome back (not!)

Febes - well done on the sleeping babes. Long may it last!

Momi - sorry to hear about your chest pain. If it persists, I'd go back to GP as even if it is down to stress, you shouldn't have to suffer with it.

Fi - great news from the estate agent!! Fingers crossed!