May 2007 Is foundation really the cure for everything?

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Awwww Pebble - so glad you are sorted. House sounds fab (bedrooms are bigger than ours - poor Ferg will be sleeping in a 6ft square box !). Exciting times

Hope everyone is ok ???

Ferg seems to be getting a bit better. He's still not going to win any contented baby prizes but he's sleeping for longer periods and is less grumpy in the day time. He's finally started to take a dummy the last few days which has made it easier to get him off to sleep in the day (although he always wakes after 45 mins ). He is expanding rapidly and is 19lb+ at 12 weeks. Just into 6-9 month clothes

DH is taking over the title of grumpiest bastard in the world. He is stressed at work - big unpaid tax bill which I had thought he was setting money aside for but apparently not His fuse is ridiculously short and I (stupidly) look forward to him getting home from work so he can lend a hand with the dc's during arsenic hour and within 5 minutes he's shouting at them and/or me I feel like walking out and leaving them all to it atm

Great news pebble.

Oh Tilly its bloody hard work. Unfortunatley men are a pain in the arse. I also used to look forward to DH coming home to help with bath and bed time (we call it suicide hour) but it would never work out how I imagined. I used to feel jealous that he got to leave the house and go to work. I saw it as him getting a break from the slog of children, house, cooking..... But of course it isnt really as he has to shlep to London and back plus do a days work. It does get easier I promise. You will both learn to help each other out. In terms of the tax bill am sure we will be in the same position DH always tells me he has put money aside for tax VAT etc but he never does and we have to have some lean times to pay for it. You will come out the other side of it soon. Did you get your afternoon off how were the lo's with your mum?

Jam - I do know he works hard and is under a lot of pressure but, yes, I do sometimes feel resentful that he's able to go for a wee without company or have a cup of coffee whilst its still hot . He doesn't handle stress well at all - this is the man who can have a 10 minute rant about Weetabix leaving crumbs on the sideboard or spreadable butter being (and I quote) "Not f*cking spreadable" .

It just drives me mad that I spend all day every day with, frankly, two very trying children and try very hard not to lose my temper with them (sometimes I do of course) but he barely can manage 5 mins without screaming at them . He's a grown bloody man and just needs to show a bit more restraint. Arse

Anyway - I feel better for getting that out of my system !

How are you doing ? How's married life ? How's your mum ??

I didn't get the afternoon off in the end - Ferg was acting up so I couldn't really leave him. I even took my wash bag with me so I could have a nice relaxing shower but didn't even manage that in the end. I have got a massage and facial booked for next Wednesday though from my xmas pressie voucher. Can't bloody wait

Bless you love. Am hand in hand with you and the trying children. Well actually I only have 1 trying one who is currently mid tantrum as I told him to stop swinging on the stairgate.

They are knobs sometimes but I did have to chuckle at the weetabix crumbs thing sort of rant I would have. Sorry you are having a crappola time. Keep the it will get better chant going in your head. or take to the vodka thats what I do.

Married life is good feels weird but its definitely different to living in sin. not least cause my Gran can now feel comfortable addressing us a letter.

The mum thing is slowly getting better. We invited her and Dad over for the arvo see the boys have tea together thing. And it was ok she asked to look at the pictures and I had had some printed off which she took away with her. We also left all our cards up that people had sent us as I knew she wouldnt bring one. So a bit mean but sod it Only 2 members of my entire family have bothered sending a card neither of them are immediate family so wanted to rub her nose in it a bit. Bitchy I know but tough.

Would love a massage afternoon off very Enjoy it!

Tills I think most men are the same, they think we have it easy but cant handle more than 5 mins with the kids when they are tired or irritable.

Ive got a miserable dh today. His mum has been phoning up to offer us ideas on how we can get what we want from the new house and while out and about she found us a great deal on a bedroom carpet. Dh of course had to get his lazy arse out of bed where he was watching tv so we could go see it and since then he has been in a foul mood. Not long after we got home his mum phoned again to ask him a question and he was just not interested. I am so angry at him, everyone is happy for us and all his mum is doing is trying to make sure the move goes smoothly and we dont struggle on our own yet he is acting a brat. Its as if he doesnt want to move now but i am not going to let him spoil things for us. We have a meeting to discuss the tenancy agreement tomorrow at 11.30 and as far as im concerned i will sign it on my own if need be. His mum has already managed to get us a bed for J and has been looking around for other things we might need and i am so grateful for her help as I dont get a lot of time to shop around with the kids, its just a shame her own son cant be

Jam - that your family haven't sent cards. They'll come round though eventually

Pebble - sorry your dh is being miserable. Must be something in the air

Now, tell me honestly - drinking a hot choc with a slug of Baileys in at 4 pm isn't that bad is it ??

They can be an arse sometimes. It is so frustrating. Exp was very much hands off with the dc and worked long hours. The resentment grew and grew. Get it out of your systen=m with a rant. Tis the only way.

Pebble ace news on the house. YOur dh sounds like a knob tbh. Poor you. Making the most of it is the way to go. You seem to cope fine on your own anyhoo

I am tetchy atm, no idea why. Am prickly. Hormone related probably

Have had CAFCASS today for a full report visit. Deep joy...

God i'm fed up. Tea time calls. Beavers tonight. Fecking clubs.

Oh and Jammy i cannot BELIEVE you didn't get any cards from them all! How bloody rude. I don't blame you for leaving them on display! I would have too, with giant arrows pointing to them, probably have walked past them and picked them up gazing at them too You showed RESTRAINT girl.

Oh god the dreaded D&V minus the V has struck. Poor old shmoks has pooed himself inside out and just 5 mins ago all over me as it came running out his trousers as I was carrying him upstairs. I hope A doesnt get it he has only just mastered potty training this will send him over the edge.

Oh no poor L Jam. I was thinking the same for C when L had it 2 weeks ago and luckily he does seem to have missed it. Not sure what we would have done!

My mindee still hasn't appeared. D&V had her hospitalised over the weekend and she still had D as of this morning. If it clears up today she may come Friday, if not then Monday.

Oh no poor you Jam, hopefully its just something he has eaten and not the dreaded virus

Poor D isnt at all well, hes very snotty, sounds like he has a sore throat when he cries (well its more of a squeak than a cry) and is hardly eating. Hes dribbling a lot and keeps gulping when he swallows too. He has got a tooth coming through but dont think its that. I also think he may be suffering from night terrors. For the past three nights he has been waking up after about 2hrs and screaming uncontroll , bably, shaking, kicking, throwing his head back and lashing out with his arms. This goes on for about 20mins before I am able to calm him down. He then sleeps for a couple of more hours and then we go through it all again. The funny thing is the other boy on our green who is a couple of months older has also started doing it during the past couple of days. I reckon they have been planning it together lol

We signed our tenancy agreement today!!! We pick up the keys on the 19th and have until the 29th before we have to be out of where we are now. We waived the decorating grant and chose to have 10 days rent free instead so that we can do everything that we have to before moving in.

I think im in for a long night, i started typing this message at 8.30, then D decided to wake up and cry non stop for over an hour and a half. He has finally gone to sleep so im off to bed to try to get a bit of sleep before round 2

They both have it now, and the V has kicked in. Shmoks all over my naked form and my bed at 6am then Archie came through said my turn and vommed all over the floor.

Jam Hope they're over it quickly

So far this week, Tilly has fallen top to bottom down the stairs and Ferg has rolled off the bed.

Oh Jam Hope they are soon on the mend and you dont go down with it.

I am feeling really sorry for myself. I pinched one of Dh's hot wings on Wednesday which turned out to be bloody spicey and since then I have developed burning ulcers on the tip of my tongue which have got so painful that i cant eat anything, even drinking anything other than water is a no-no, I cant talk for too long unless i avoid moving my tongue and nothing I do or take is helping Even swallowing is becoming more and more painful. I am eating special lozenges, coating my tongue with anbesol, taking painkillers and rinsing with salt water but to no avail. I guess its a good way to diet lol, I just wish it wasnt so painful. Its even worse if i fall asleep and my mouth goes dry, I think I prefer labour.

I hope they are gone by Monday as we are having a visit from the council to discuss what expenses/compensation we can claim as our move has been put down as an emergency relocation due to the damp and it wont be much good if I cant talk. I doubt if we will get anything but its worth a try, even help with the cost of hiring a van would be good.

Ive been having problems with J's school. They are cracking down on uniform and anyone caught with their shirt untucked, tie tied wrong, etc is punished. J had been giving permission from matron to wear black reebok trainers due to the problems he has with his feet/legs (a letter from his physiotherapist was sent to the school regarding the matter so its all above board) but on Thursday he was put in isolation (basically sitting in the hall all day writing lines) and not allowed out at breaktime because he wasnt wearing proper shoes. I phoned his year mentor to discuss it with her and she was a right cow, she wouldnt listen to anything i said, treating me like a child. What was supposed to be a simple conversation ended up with me losing it, telling her that if J was not allowed back to class then i would be taking him home and complaining to the education authority about her. How can they justify keeping a child away from lessons just because they have the wrong shoes, and then to make them write stupid lines instead of proper work all day, surely thats going to affect their education more than shoes. I had hoped it was sorted but then found out it had happened again so this time i sent dh in to see her. She spoke to him like a piece of dirt too until he said he was going to take J home there and then. She then said its ok for him to wear trainers, we will see on Monday if she changes her mind again.

Happy Mother's Day to all you lovely ladies. I hope you all got spoilt by your gorgeous bundles xx

My gorgeous babies got me a pair off chocolate brown uggs and a lovely card each - Jack wrote the entire card himself and Ella drew in hers . Also got a call from Dh, the 2nd in 2 days, although i think todays call was just to check that i had got a card for his mother

Happy Mothers Day, hope you have all had a great day.

We are still in D&V hell.

DH now has it.

Poor Archie got so distressed yesterday at pooing in his pants he has been whinging and crying all day today about needing to go but wont go on the potty and if we put a nappy on him wont do it as he doesnt like that either. So put him in the bath tonight and the poor wee man did it there.

Phoned NHS direct today as it has been going on since the begining of last week. They say just keep giving fluids. Aaaarrrggghhhh

Jam How awful. At what rubbish timing with Archie's toilet training. Til took weeks to poo on the potty (without any D&V hell).

Hope everyone had a good day/weekend. I had breakfast in bed, a bit of a lie in, 3 completely child free hours, a pair of converse, 3 cards (one from DSD as well) and the biggest box of chocs I think I've ever seen. Oh and a bunch of tulips from my MIL for being "a great mum to her grandchildren"

Oh Jam, poor you. What a nightmare. Plain boiled salted rice along with the fluids often helps. I hope you have got your mummy special fluids on hand

I got the card, thank you, it so classy.

Hello all

Jam thanks for the beautiful card, what a lovely idea!

Had a really fantastic ski trip, weather was great but COLD -15 some days up the top!! Madison was amazing, took to it like a duck to water, was jumped up a group after the first hour in ski school as she was too good!! haha must have her Mummy's genes when it comes to skis. H enjoyed himself and bombed around with 5 others in the 2star class. J had a little go with me one afternoon as she was desparate to do it. She was brill but didn't have the stamina to make it the 3.5km down the mountain so ended up on my back, which of course she thought was fab, my calves and quads did not!!

It was so nice to spend time with A's family, we had a few lovely tearful chats about Amelia, it was nice to feel a little closer to her through them IYKWIM? We are so far away here, even though we know there would be nothing we could do if we were there but it's hard not just being round the corner sometimes. Anyway all home in one piece, with a little bit of bronzing!!

The beautiful Boxer joined us today, she is such fun!

Jam the boiled rice is really worth ago, don't wash it before cooking though, it's the starch that helps!! Hope the littlies are better soon.

I'm sorry I haven't read too far down, but I hope the rest of you are ok and that you all had the Mothers day you deserve. xx

Jam how are the LO's

I had a very quiet mothers day, i told dh that i didnt want the kids spending lots on me and my mouth was so sore that I couldnt eat chocolates so J went out and brought a lovely teddy for me instead. It was perfect. E made me a lovely card which had a drawing of me on one side and the great fire of london on the other lol (for someone who didnt want to learn about a stupid fire he has been coming out with lots of facts about it ) Dh bought me a glass of milk in bed, it was the only thing i could drink and he got away with not having to cook me breakfast because i couldnt eat, but at least he did the best he could.

I have spent all day at hospital with Deacon. Since Friday he has been very grizzly and clingy, not wanting to do anything but cuddle up to me and sleep. Sunday he crawled around for a bit but was mainly in my arms. It wasnt until yesterday afternoon when i took him out front to play that I realised he wouldnt walk, he was happy to crawl but when i stood him up he held his left leg in the air and wouldnt put any weight on it, when he did he collapsed and cried out in pain. I took him to the dr and she told me to dose him up on calpol and iboprufen all night and then take him back today which i did. There had been no change so she sent me to the Paediatric Assessment Unit at the local 'Superhospital' (what a joke) We got there at 10, was examined by a dr at 11.30 and told he needed a blood test and then an xray. At 1.30 after a lot of chasing up by me I was told he was next in line for the blood test. By this time he was getting hungry, hadnt expected to be there all day and so I hadnt taken anything with me. They finally gave him a stale cheese sandwich and black banana at 2pm, at 2.15pm he finally had his blood taken followed 10mins later by the xray. The xray came back fine but they only focused on his hips yet i think that they should have taken xrays of his lower leg. He is crawling ok and moving his foot so im sure if there is a problem its somewhere below the knee but im just a mum what do i know In the end we were there a total of 5hrs (4hrs before anything was done) and I couldnt wait any longer for his blood test results as i had the other kids to get back for. At 6.15pm I phoned and wastold the dr would call me back to discuss the results in a few minutes. AT 9pm I phoned back again, it took 4 attempts to get through to someone (they kept hanging up) and then it was a bloody foreigner who couldnt understand what i was saying. After 10mins of trying to spell out Deacons name and telling him that the 4 in my phone number wasnt a 1 (they dont even sound alike he said he would call back in an hour. I am still waiting and its now 11pm. Over 12hrs since i went to the hospital and i have got nowhere. Deacon is still crying a lot and not able to put any weight on his leg. I am really disgusted at how today went. It would have been better if we had taken him to A&E instead, we would have been out of there within 3 hrs.

Glad the skii trip was good MrsJB Well done Maddie! Must have been lovely to catch up.

Jam how are they all now?

Pebble hope Deacon is ok. I have had a few looong waits at the em paed bit too. It seems a nightmare.

AM back today!! You must be excited

Tills how are you?

woo hoo dh is back today!!!! Picking up at 13.08

Am hope Chris is back where he belongs, bet it feels like he hasnt been away lol

LG&T we are going to have to take him back there tomorrow. Dh said he will get up early and take him to try to avoid a long wait but i doubt it will make any difference. It took right up until 11.30am today before I finally got his blood test results. They came back fine but the consultant on the phone said he wants to check him out again in case there is a bone injury in his lower leg Why didnt they check that out while we were there on Tuesday, we were there long enough. He also said i could go back to my GP but she referred him because she didnt know what was up so why would i waste both hers and my time only for her to send me back to Q.A anyway. We tried taking him to the walk in centre at St Mary's but they wouldnt see him, they said we have no choice but to go back to the Paed unit.

He is still very grizzly, wont be put down and is getting very frustrated. You can see he wants to be on the go but everytime he tries to stand he collapses. Tonight I have noticed that the inside of his left ankle is enlarged and he has a bit of bruising near his big toe, whether this is anything to do with the pain he is in or not I dont know. It could just be a coincidence. Ive also noticed that on the rare occassion he does crawl for a few seconds his left foot isnt making contact with the floor at all. Dh is going to insist that they do a thorough examination tomorrow. I did want to go with them but it makes more sense for me to stay here, get E off to school and then try to pack. I had hoped to get almost everything packed by Friday when we get the keys so Im not rushing next week but so far this week Ive not had two minutes peace. Did manage to do a bit in the boys room earlier but thats all.

E currently has a red cut between his nostrils, a fat lip and a bump on his head. The prat tried scooting down some steps and ended up headbutting the floor. My kids are nightmares lol

AM is very quiet...

Gin - how's B ? Hope the dreaded lurg doesn't spread elsewhere

Pebble - your poor boy. Really hope it gets sorted soon

MrsJB - glad you enjoyed your ski trip and noticed you're back on the dance floor

Jam - are yours all over the dreaded bug ?

Sky - have you had your mindee yet ?

Mine are both asleep at the moment (at the same time - that rarely happens ). We're getting on ok. There are still some trying moments and Ferg is a rubbish sleeper but he is generally a bit more chilled. Tils is waking earlier and earlier. I think its because she needs a wee and doesn't like going in her nappy but once she's up to the loo and realises its light, she won't go back to bed.

I'm off to the docs tomorrow to get a dodgy mole looked at. Hoping its nothing but its been looking and feeling a bit weird for a while now so I thought it was best to get it looked at.

LOL, I've been busy trying to plan Lucy's Christening for tomorrow!! Trying to work out how much food & drink i will need to feed 76 people.

Dh is back from his 'secret' mission and is pretty knackered (was to be expected) after working 14/16 hour days for 8 days straight. Great to have him back though

Took J to Legoland yesterday as we had an inset day and is rained , stuck it out for 2.5hrs and then headed home.

Lucy was 6 months old yesterday I cant believe how fast that time has gone! She is tucking into baby rice for lunch everyday and has tried banana for the last 2 mornings. Have now stocked up my fridge with the delights of sweet potato, carrot, apple & pear so that we can start the fun properly on Monday.

Soooo, who's going to be having the next baby....? Surely its time that someone found out that their numbers were growing....