August 2008 - Whistle No. More Here It Is!

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Just scanning through the clearance pages on Littlewoods (thanks Sazz) and there's loads of halfprice maternity tops on there Oops.

Would love to stop and chat but am getting a bloody migraine luckily I get the weird non-skull-splitting ones that are mainly sparkly vision disturbance with a bit of nausea thrown in but typing is tricky so better off going to bed.

Night all and I hope everyone has a good night and wakes up happy

Hi again ladies.
S in bed by 7.45 despite a visit to MIL's which took longer than expected as DP and I got a little competetive at Wii Tennis Was fun though, and nice to get back in time to give DS dinner, bath, story and bed. Although he was stropping again. It looks like he really is showing a properly stroppy streak now. (MIL says she reckons he gets it from his daddy )
Anyway, just forgot all the catching up I've just done. Lovely having the evening with DP
Ooh, still trying to decide whether I can make it on 28th. Also have invite to go see next Twilight film in a big group with SIL and others that day.

Get well soon Hotter

Right, think I've sent out all the secret santa PMs on FB, fingers crossed I haven't **ed anything up.

Night all. (Did I say I had a much better night with Kurt's yodelling, simply by ignoring it as much as possible? DH goes to the spare bed because he can't handle it but I seem to be able to sleep through it)

O M F G !
My dd1 drains me some days....today being one of those days.

No1, it was mine with all the biting issues as a smaller child. I've worn teeth marks a numerous times. She would turn the biting on herself for lack of a better way to show her fury on occasion too.

I've had her tested and she's "fine" by all standards BUT she has a seriously high anxiety level and her "go to" emotion is ANGER/AGGRESSION.

She's rough with R but not as rough as I know she would have been if they'd been closer in age. At almost 6, she's gained some control over herself, really a lot of control by comparision. It's been a very long and tiring road with her.

One of the worst parts of it all was/is that she "acts" like she just doesn't get it. She completely ignores authority/law/punishment.

She fights like she's "owed" everything in the world then cries like she's been destroyed if things don't go her way. It's so very high drama.

Using a nonemotional tone and allowing 20 to 30 minutes for "the process" once things start up with her are my key devices. I try to find my inner Buddha when it escalates. Sometimes I do. Sometimes I fail miserably.

As for the biting in general....it lasted well into her 4th year then she went through an intelligence growth spurt where the lightbulb went off in her. She "realized" biting isn't the way to get what you want or to express what you want.

This came after YEARS of me yelling/begging/pleading/screaming "USE YOUR WORDS!"

She's highly developed verbally, always has been, EXCEPT UNDER STRESS. She has what I would consider the worst case of stage fright on the planet. Any negative emotion to arise causes a complete shut down of her verbal abilities this in turn causes her to be physical instead.

I've spent years going over situations with her. Giving her examples or telling her stories to detail how she should best communicate in any and all situations.

GEEZ...Just typing the above drains me.

I love her so much. She's such an incredible child when relaxed and in a situation that is "relaxing" to HER. Change that ever so slightly and you might as well have turned the world upside down and I'M the one working the defense getting the world right side up again.

My hope: This means we'll be over the crazies before the teen years arrive. That all the discussions and communcation lessons will be so deeply ingrained that she will be a Buddha in her own right before she's 12.

now let's see if this baby posts or will yet another post be lost

TS it worked. I'm sure that all the work and effort you have put in with DD1 will pay huge dividends later in life. I cannot imagine how you have so much patience. I find myself getting irritated with DS now and he's only 15 months.

No1 & Poppy you have no reason to be feeling bad about your parenting abilities from what you demonstrate on here either. Poppy am with you on the homesickness front but am well aware I can get dragged into the grass is always greener picture too so remind myself why I am here and all the good points and it does pass eventually.

Ann great news on sleeping front again.

Oops glad DD feeling better and good luck this morning with the scan.

morning...

no1 & poppy.. you are both great mums echoing what everyone else says hugs..

good luck today oops and so glad dd is feeling better..

hope your migrane is better hots..

hope u are on the mend dizzy ad soon back to your fighting self..

good luck master vg on your 1st day of new school...

nothing much to report here.. dds seem to be on the mend and sleeping better thank god...

weather is horrific this am... duvet day anyone???

Morning ladies.
Sadly I can't offer up any brekkie. S just had the last weetabix and I've had the last dregs of muesli. Our toaster has died a death, so can't offer toast. It's held up pretty well for a tesco value toaster bought close on four years ago though.
Best of luck to master gardenia at his new school today and to oopsy at the scan. I'm sure your little bean will be just fine
Another sleep through night here But why oh why didn't I go to bed earlier?
willy situation is much improved too.

oops I am thinking of you NOW

no1 I can only reiterate what everyone else has said. I have seen you with M and it's clear as day that you are the most loving mummy those kids could ask for. You put me to shame with your patience. If the autism question is enough on your mind to keep you worrying about it all week, I'd agree with PB that an assessment might be the best thing. FWIW, M seemed no different to my DS or any other cheeky little boy when I met him

poppy sorry to hear you've been under it too. There is something in the air, I think; I've been struggling with my anxiety for the last few weeks and getting very stressed. Please be kind to yourself, you always come across to me as strong and intelligent and loving.

Taking DS to the quacks this morning for his hacking cough. Had another eventful night He woke up at 2.30 with a temperature so I brought him in with us because I was worried. An hour later I was putting him back in his cot with a firm 'It's sleep time now ffs' and getting back in bed to the accompaniment of Exorcist-style rage.

for oops and of course Mr Oops (and HEctor)

best of luck to Master VG - hope it all goes well, and to you too VG, be brave

TS I cannot believe you've your Christmas decorations up I have left it later and later now that we've got kids because I couldn't stand the consistant whinging about when santa was coming this year they'll be going up on the 7th Dec though as PIL arrive on the 8th and wanted to sleep in the living room - I told them the couldn't because the tree would be taking up too much room

am apparently not allowed to purchase the tree on my own this year after last years 7ft fiasco

am feeling a touch more human again today (yipee) well at least I've worken up without the red hot poken thats been in my throat for a few days. I can't seem to sleep though I'm tired when I go up to bed and I would call what I was doing dozing but nothing great and I really feel I need some decent sleep to get past this properly - DH back to work tomorrow so it had better happen soon

can I ask a question - does anyone else's baby wake up angry EVERY SINGLE DAY?!?!? I have no idea what goes on in her little mind but bloody hell she's fecking annoyed in the morning. Now, as I recall they're all stroppy when they waken up from naps due to low blood sugar - do you think that could factor into it?

hots hope you're migrane has shuffled off

QofD glad to hear of another good night and some fun with DP

have you all seen the quote of the day - its BRILLIANT

Good Morning everyone

hotter I hope the Migraine didn't get too bad. Much symathy.I hate talking about them as I jinx myself.
dizzy glad your sore throat as gone, hope you are feeling a littl more human/normal.
at the xmas tree taking up the room. Love that one.

pmsl at quote of the week.

DS has an ear infection, and is wheezy. So anti-bs and an inhaler for him. Good luck to me getting a spacer mask on his face, I can't even wipe his nose properly

I read the autism checklist btw, should I be concerned that DS neither waves nor points?

cyteen Dylan on points and waves when she deems us worthy of it no need to panic

and as for the spacer mask - what instructions did they give you for how many times per day? I used to have to give DD2 one and could only manage to do it when she was either sleeping or screaming - I know that sounds terrible but I'd wait until pinnacle moment of upset/screech and then when she inhaled for the next one used it then

possibly not the kindest thing in the world however I was chanting cruel to be kind and needs must over and over

It says two puffs, three times a day. The doctor was totally uninterested brief and just sort of muttered, so I didn't get much in the way of detail.

Was a bit grim actually, someone in the waiting room had a fit while we were there. She had another while the staff were helping her off to a side room

I am supposed to be conducting a phone interview for work while DS is napping, but he's moaning in his cot and the phone has run out of battery, aargh!

oh ffs, silly arse of a GP and what an ordeal for you and J at the Drs. I'd be tempted to try him, some kids take it fine, if not the sleep/hissy fit moments might work as a backup

Well I did it again. Forgot the 18 steps to post without loosing it and LOST THE POST!

Oops I am think about you!

Dizzy DD1 has woken most every morning in a bad mood since birth. Sorry no remedy to suggest.

Cyteen sorry you're dealing with illness now too. You'd think we all lived next door to each other and our kids shared toys daily.

As for the Christmas decor, no time no time no time. If I don't do this now, our guests will start arriving amid dusty boxes and other crap. It's less than 40 days now till Christmas, right?

TS have you tried a different browser? It must be vvv frustrating to keep losing posts, well done for keeping on trying but still at your Christmas tree up already

Cyteen sorry to hear DS so poorly . No advice re the inhaler tube, DD had one but she refused to breathe it in. Like Dizzy we waited until she was asleep and just put it over her face then.

No1 I don't know how you keep going

Feck, can't even chat now, it's time to take DD to nursery. Thankfully it has stopped raining as I then have to go in to town and attempt to get something for DD's birthday in a town where the best toy shop is in TKMaxx

to everyone

Quick tip for anyone having communication issues with small children is to use a pictorial back up, known as PECS. You can make your own cards (need an excuse to get a laminator?) and there's a free software download here. You're not using them instead of words, it's just sometimes a picture has more meaning to a child who's no good at listening.

Cyteen Don't get too specific, read the rest of the page, not just the checklist! It's not a list of milestones to tick off with relief when your child achieves something, it's more something to look back at retrospectively when you're already worried. Kurt doesn't walk, talk, point or wave but I'm 99% sure he's not on the spectrum. The 99% is because I feel like he loves me which I didn't get with DS1 for 2yrs or so. The 1% is simply because he may yet show some signs and because they are all different so comparing him to DS1 is pointless in many ways.

No1 Glad you are ok about it, didn't want to frighten you. I know many people are anti-labelling but a label can really help the kids get the support they need, plus it can help parents emotionally which is just as important. Can't remember, was it you who had suspicions about your DH too? If so, it might help him in some ways too.

My kitchen is coming along slowly although today there is now an old live wire touching some wet plaster and making loud flashy crack sounds. This means the 9m old laminate floor in DD's room above will have to come up so my dad can cap it off. The room that is chockfull of kitchen contents.

Hi Everyone

Thanks for your positive thoughts - they worked . We have one very happy healthy munchkin who is already being awkward! It took alot of pushing and prodding to get him/her to move into the right position for the nuchal but eventually and not without a bruised left hip bone they finally got hte measurements they needed and all is well

VG - Sorry I missed the chance to wish DS1 a good day at his new school, I hope it went well and he comes home a happy lad.

No1 ((HUGS))

Off to catch up somemore back in a bit

oops thats lovely news about wee Hector

sazz the 147ft christmas tree drama is still all a bit too fresh in dh's mind so am no longer allowed to tree shop alone

have been to Tesco for half hour - first time out of house since Thurs - was a touch optimistic and now completely wiped

Dylan trying to plug the charger for the other laptop into this one bless her wee heart, too much time online for mummy

ooooh ooh ohh I also had a skype chat with TS and the wonderfully chirpy Reese