August 2008 - Whistle No. More Here It Is!

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x post poppy I am you feel like this too.
Why do we feel so guilty about things?
You are not crap, I take my hat off and admire all working mums. You have alot on your plate atm with everything that has been going on.
I bet you are also physicaly and emotionally exhausted.
It does sound like you are trying to carry too much and be strong for everyone else.
Hope I am making sense.
I do hope Your mum is a great help for you all when she arrives, and that it does not stress you out thinking about how dh will feel too.

miamla thankyou.
I feel I could do with this London trip tbh.

Oh Poppy, I wish I could have bottled all the positivity you had about your home town when we met and i would post it back to you . You must be utterly shattered after all your late nights working and the DD's being ill. Hopefully your mum being there will give you the space to regroup and everything WILL be brighter, even if it doesn't seem it now . Would be lovely to see you on the 28th, but no worries if you can't fit it all in.

No1 I think just having time for you to ride and enjoy it will be great. Tromping round in mud in the depths of winter is best avoided IMO . Oh, and a break from Aug08MN, not good either

oh poppy, just seen your mesage re 28th. it'll be such a shame if you can't make it but understand if you don't

no1.... go on go on go on....ooh you will!!!!

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Poppy so sorry to hear that you're feeling . I am quite, quite sure from what you say on here and from our brief (!) meeting that you are a fantastic mother (/wife/home-maker/employee) but I know how it feels when you are doing too many things and therefore giving none of them quite as much time as you would like. Hope your mum's visit is wholly helpful. Will you and DH be able to get out one evening?

No1 sorry you are having a hard time too. Your DD sounds lovely, others will have more experience and better advice than me but like Poppy said, it is clear what good care you take of them both and I'm sure that will help them both get through this rough patch unscathed.

Cyteen sorry your weekend wasn't what you'd hoped... loved the account of J playing peekaboo by the way, he sounds gorgeous!

Hullo Dizzy, and Sazzles, and LWFH, and Miamla (I'm not in for the 28th, sorry, can't remember whether I said that before or after your last list of participants ), and Hots, and TS, and Sambo (hey, hi!) and Oops (hope P is much better?) and sorry if I missed anyone... hullo you all

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lol sazz I only took the break so I didn't blab on and on about everything,but I have done anyway.

I don't mind the mud.Just a bit unfair subjecting kids to it all I think.I think if marcus didnt have to be strapped into the pushchair or carseat for most of the time when we are up at the farm things wouldnt be so bad. Its heartbreaking to see him wailing.
Luckily a park is bang next door to farm. I always take them to that after, So they get some fun too.

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poppy if I wasn't such a sweaty miserable minger I'd be right round to give you a big matronly hug

your girls are an absolute delight and a credit to you both - nobody was wondering about your parenting skills at all, more marvelling at Em's skills and fearlessness - I have to get Dylan off the table countless times each day - the trip traps for the girls provide her with the perfect platform for climbing up and we all know that L only has half a front tooth due to launching herself off a chair

I would urge you not to write off the 28th just yet, you've been dealing with a lot and a wee break might just be what you need

am aiming to be fit and well soon so shall be round to feedyoucake whip you into shape soon

OK, i give up it's not working, but the code does

Millions of x-posts! Hullo VG, good luck for DS tomorrow - hope he has a great first day and everything proceeds swimmingly from there on.

rofl, I love you VG, even your typos are genius

Folks I am poping on to say DD much better and sleeping in her own bed [yay]

I am off to bed early as we have to be in Bristol at 9 tomorrow morning for a scan with my thyroid consultant and they are also doing a nuchal scan. I am crapping myself and have already prepared myself for making the 'I just wanted to tell you sad news......' speach. Which I know is horribly pessemistic but I just can't get my head around the fact that this is all going just too well.

Night all and HUGS to those who need them.

oops glad DD is on the mend and will be sending positive thoughts to at precisely 9am tomorrow - if all the other mothers at the school think I look like I'm about to wet myself I'll blame it on you

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Hope you have a lovely day at your new school and that your classmates are as fab as you are

Hugs No1, sounds like you've been battling away for so long. I would say it was worth going for assessment just for your own mental health - makes a big difference having a professional person tell you yes, your job is understandably hard. Plus just getting rid of the 'is she/isn't she' thing once and for all is a huge weight off your shoulders. Skip the HV, take the checklist to the GP and show him/her. Ask for a referral, don't let the GP try and handle it/fob you off.

Have pre-school said anything? If they haven't got the local Educational Psychologist involved you could ask them to put her on the list. An Ed Psych won't assess but will help them plan a smooth transition to infant school and confirm/advise them on their teaching methods etc.

Re the nastiness, my DS1 now does verbal tirades instead of tantrums, v angry little boy at times. I treat the same way, as long as he's not hurting himself, other people or damaging stuff, I try to ignore it as he will come out of it after 30mins or so. Main tip is not to take it personally, they are just stressed and don't know how to deal with it.

Have a lurk on the SN kids forum here too. Even if your DD were to fail the autism entrance exam (it's a v exclusive club you know) the parenting tips can be incredibly useful.

no1 and poppy how sad for you both to be feeling this way. I haven't met either of you but from what you write here it just seems like you both love and care for your DC so much.

When I am feeling rubbish about being a mum I try to remember that DS is loved, fed, I do my best to keep him safe (as much as it is possible with a 15 month old with a danger homing instinct) - not sure if this helps, but for me it is important to remember this and that the rest is less important.

Lots of thoughts for you both, I am sure that someone will write something better soon, and DS needs to go to bed again now .

Good luck Oops Poppy Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and accept that your best will just have to be good enough. It may not be as good as you'd like it to be right now but, you know what? Whaddayagonnado? Fuhgeddabaadit. And when you do get the odd moment of things coming together / closeness with DH / unprompted good feedback from kids etc, celebrate and do something silly to remember it by. You'll get through this soon I promise.

God Dr Who was disappointing, not scary at all, just all ethics-based. Roll on Emo-Who I say, if DT's not going to be funny anymore.